Affection for Older Client

[Chuckball]

One of the first escorts I hired was a young good looking guy who told me that his oldest client had just died. I thought he was talking about a regular but no, he was referring to a client in his eighties. As he told the story, the escort's eyes welled up with tears. I realized he had genuine affection for this older man. So I ask escorts: is there any age limit on the clients you accept and have you ever developed real emotion for any of them?

[big-n-tall]

Not an escort and not elderly (yet)...

 

I don't think most escorts, especially the well regarded/established working guys, set an age limit for their clientele. In fact, most I met prefer older guys to younger. Guys like @Mikegaite are a prime example.

 

For example, I have truly befriended a number of escorts whom I'm certain if I got hurt/died or needed help would be there for me, shed a tear, or celebrate an accomplishment. And I'd do the same in kind. In fact, this June I'm flying to Kentucky to go to an escort friend's graduation. He actually told me he wants me to come over his own mother. LOL!!!

 

So whether someone was older, the same age or younger than the escort they hired, if there is a real connection... real emotion can develop between hirer and hiree.

Edited April 13, 2019 by big-n-tall

[Gadfly22]

One of the first escorts I hired was a young good looking guy who told me that his oldest client had just died. I thought he was talking about a regular but no, he was referring to a client in his eighties. As he told the story, the escort's eyes welled up with tears. I realized he had genuine affection for this older man. So I ask escorts: is there any age limit on the clients you accept and have you ever developed real emotion for any of them?

Does he still escort?

[hypothetically]

One of the first escorts I hired was a young good looking guy who told me that his oldest client had just died. I thought he was talking about a regular but no, he was referring to a client in his eighties. As he told the story, the escort's eyes welled up with tears. I realized he had genuine affection for this older man. So I ask escorts: is there any age limit on the clients you accept and have you ever developed real emotion for any of them?

 

No age limit.

The dynamic with much older men is very unique. Their demeanor is almost therapeutic sometimes. They mean every word and they sincerely value your time and company. Not sure what you mean by “real emotion,” but I feel strongly towards anyone with whom I’ve spent generous time and have an organic connection with.

 

Romantic feelings? No, but I wouldn’t weigh it out. Historically, most of my partners are 20+ years older than me anyway.

Edited April 3, 2019 by hypothetically

[Chuckball]

Does he still escort?

Absolutely

[marylander1940]

Not an escort and not elderly (yet)...

 

I don't think most escorts, especially the well regarded/established working guys, set an age limit for their clientele. In fact, most I met prefer older guys to younger. Guys like @Mikegaite are a prime example.

 

For example, I have truly befriended a number escorts whom I'm certain if I got hurt/died or needed help would be there for me, shed a tear, or celebrate an accomplishment. And I'd do the same in kind. In fact, this June I'm flying to Kentucky to go to an escort friend's graduation. He actually told me he wants me to come over his own mother. LOL!!!

 

So whether someone was older, the same age or younger than the escort they hired, if there is a real connection... real emotion can develop between hirer and hiree.

 

I don't know if they prefer older clients to younger clients but in this competitive market they appreciate guys who become regulars and try to get to know them as friends. I guess older men are more likely to seek that unlike younger clients who have more going on in their lives.

 

No age limit for me, I have seen a regular who is in his 70's for a couples year now, he cares for me and I for him, he always checks up on me and wants to know if Im doing good and wants me to succeed. Ive always liked older men, maybe its because my dad wasnt in my life, so I yearned it from someone else. Speaking of first encounters, one of my first clients I've ever met he topped me and since i was so unexperienced then i literally kicked him out of me bc of the pain lol, he didnt get mad not once and we spent hours talking afterwards, he wanted to know about me, wanted to hear my opinions on stuff, asked me questions, he then took me to dinner, and brought me all the way home, it was one of the most magical days I've ever had with someone he also let me stay with him for months when i was homeless, we ended up dating for 2 years.

 

I'm glad thing worked out well for the 2 of you.

[+ VictorPowers]

Age truly is just a number. Connections happen at any age. I’m a true believer of that! 18+ ?

Edited April 4, 2019 by VictorPowers

[mike carey]

Age truly is just a number. Connections happen at any age. I’m a true belieber if that! 18+ ?

Some escorts do that so well!

[+ ArVaGuy]

Age truly is just a number. Connections happen at any age. I’m a true believer of that! 18+ ?

Some escorts do that so well!

 

Yes, very well indeed.

[Mocha]

I’m going thru the exact same thing...

 

...just wish he didn’t allow his sister and overprotective husband to have their hands in his affairs after he left.

Edited April 6, 2019 by Mocha

[FrancisCA]

I personally don't even look at age if they are an older client! My last 2 partners we've much older than me and we we're very very happy. I couldn't even recall their ages because I honestly never thought about our age difference.

 

Some regulars that I have that are older I do care for and its a genuine friendship that we develop

[+ WilliamM]

I don't know if they prefer older clients to younger clients but in this competitive market they appreciate guys who become regulars and try to get to know them as friends. I guess older men are more likely to seek that unlike younger clients who have more going on in their lives.

 

 

 

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People who have enough money to hire guys are hardly leading lonely, sad lives. Granted some do, but still a strange conclusion.

[marylander1940]

People who have enough money to hire guys are hardly leading lonely, sad lives. Granted some do, but still a strange conclusion.

 

I didn't say that in my post. I meant that younger clients also get lucky on Grindr and therefore don't hire as much as older men who can afford hiring considering some can't or just do it a few times per year.

[Ryan Roman]

One of the first escorts I hired was a young good looking guy who told me that his oldest client had just died. I thought he was talking about a regular but no, he was referring to a client in his eighties. As he told the story, the escort's eyes welled up with tears. I realized he had genuine affection for this older man. So I ask escorts: is there any age limit on the clients you accept and have you ever developed real emotion for any of them?

 

I have a couple of clients in their 70s who are still sexually active and aren't done with that part of their lives yet. I don't have any age limits. I have noticed, though, the PNP culture has moved into that age group as well, as I've noticed tell-tale signs that occured prior to my scheduled arrival.

[Rudynate]

I have noticed, though, the PNP culture has moved into that age group as well,

 

 

There was something about exactly that topic on NPR the other day - older guys doing meth. The explanation they gave is that a lot of guys who came of age in the early days of AIDS had lived relatively ascetic lives and felt like they had missed out on a lot and so they were experimenting with PnP.

 

People seem to think that PnP is a relatively new thing, but in the 70s, when I was in my mid-twenties, PnP was extremely common. The big party drug then was MDA. I remember, even at that robust age, I felt like hell for days after a night of MDA.

 

Now and again, the opportunity to PnP comes up and I'm always tempted, but I remind myself how shitty I felt the morning after and that it would probably be 5 times as bad now in my 60s.

[Ryan Roman]

There was something about exactly that topic on NPR the other day - older guys doing meth. The explanation they gave is that a lot of guys who came of age in the early days of AIDS had lived relatively ascetic lives and felt like they had missed out on a lot and so they were experimenting with PnP.

 

People seem to think that PnP is a relatively new thing, but in the 70s, when I was in my mid-twenties, PnP was extremely common. The big party drug then was MDA. I remember, even at that robust age, I felt like hell for days after a night of MDA.

 

That makes a lot of sense to me, as well as the types of client requests they're making as men in their 60s and 70s.

[+ nycman]

Bonds develop, wether we want them to or not.

 

Obviously, the guys I have good chemistry with are the guys I see repeatedly,

so it’s a natural development as time goes on. I never let it go beyond that,

and if I feel I can’t keep it on that level, I explain that to the escort and end the

relationship.

 

Nonetheless, I cherish the one I am close with and genuinely care about them.

I hope that on some level they feel the same way and that they would be sad

about my passing.

 

There’s a balance that can be achieved but it takes work and vigilance.

[myophile]

There was something about exactly that topic on NPR the other day - older guys doing meth. The explanation they gave is that a lot of guys who came of age in the early days of AIDS had lived relatively ascetic lives and felt like they had missed out on a lot and so they were experimenting with PnP.

 

People seem to think that PnP is a relatively new thing, but in the 70s, when I was in my mid-twenties, PnP was extremely common. The big party drug then was MDA. I remember, even at that robust age, I felt like hell for days after a night of MDA.

 

Now and again, the opportunity to PnP comes up and I'm always tempted, but I remind myself how shitty I felt the morning after and that it would probably be 5 times as bad now in my 60s.

Resonates with me, except that bodybuilders are my crystal meth.

[Rudynate]

Resonates with me, except that bodybuilders are my crystal meth.

 

musclemen are the drug of drugs. My coach introduced me not long ago to a locally-famous competitor - great-looking latin, thick powerful muscles, competes in the 212 class. He complimented my physique and told me to keep working hard. I was distracted for days afterwards.

Edited April 14, 2019 by Rudynate

[myophile]

musclemen are the drug of drugs. My coach introduced me not long ago to a locally-famous competitor - great-looking latin, thick powerful muscles, competes in the 212 class. He complimented my physique and told me to keep working hard. I was distracted for days afterwards.

 

Yeah, my regular guy is pretty big, and the other day he complimented me on some recent hard-won shoulder gains, which made me blush like a schoolgirl.

Edited April 14, 2019 by myophile

[Rudynate]

Yeah, my regular guy is pretty big, and the other day he complimented me on some recent hard-won shoulder gains, which made me blush like a schoolgirl.

 

 

Nice - congratulations. Mine hardly ever pays compliments. I've stopped expecting them. I just look in the mirror and see what I've accomplished since I've been working with him and that's compliment enough.

[myophile]

Nice - congratulations. Mine hardly ever pays compliments. I've stopped expecting them. I just look in the mirror and see what I've accomplished since I've been working with him and that's compliment enough.

 

My trainer NEVER compliments me, he just kicks my butt. My regular hire, though, is a sweetheart. Of course, I pay him to be nice to me (lol), but he trains me occasionally as well, and he’s pretty honest with me in the gym.

[Rudynate]

My trainer NEVER compliments me, he just kicks my butt. My regular hire, though, is a sweetheart. Of course, I pay him to be nice to me (lol), but he trains me occasionally as well, and he’s pretty honest with me in the gym.

 

 

I have a coach, but I also train with him once a week. He designs my workouts and my meal plan. He's just an amazing guy.

[+ Eric Hassan]

i don't have an upper age limits that i'll see. i'm working. you want to hire me? sure. i don't care what your age is. i care who you are. i care about your experience with me. that leaves me no room to worry myself about your age.

 

i do find that i develop feeligs for clients. i try to find something to love about everyone that hires me, and i haven't failed at that yet. i feel like there's a lot of "rules" about who you can love, and "how much," and all of that, and i just don't buy it. i belive we are all fundamentally of one consciousness, and that consciousness is love. i believe we are deluded by our other feelings, which are not the real us, and i believe actively seeking out love is one way we can return ourselves to sanity.

[+ IronMaus]

i don't have an upper age limits that i'll see. i'm working. you want to hire me? sure. i don't care what your age is. i care who you are. i care about your experience with me. that leaves me no room to worry myself about your age.

i do find that i develop feeligs for clients. i try to find something to love about everyone that hires me, and i haven't failed at that yet.

(What he said)

Age matters very little to me because I believe we are made up of our interactions with others. The only time that matters is the time you have with them. I'm a people person in that I find it easy to relate to most people and can find affection for anyone with good intentions. Being vulnerable/receptive to so many can result in feeling the weight of other's problems, but it's worth it in the end...which could be interpreted in a variety of ways.