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I hadn't caught him mentioning he's straight. And I realize now I simply projected that his clientele is primarily gay men. Now some of the ambiguity, and his emphasis on building a relationship, makes more sense.

I've been following him on TikTok as well. He seems to be working to develop a business coaching other "male companions." I'm a little surprised there isn't more discussion of him here. One of his videos seemed to be too revealing, showing the exterior of a country club or similar venue where he was attending a function with a client, and then some footage of the event. I probably was not the only one to point out that this cam very close to outing his client and himself. He took it down pretty quickly. The points he makes about developing a relationship with a client are really good, whether one is an escort (um, "companion") or not.

When I first explored bottoming, while in college, it seemed more painful than pleasurable physically, but so emotionally powerful. I've always been more of a side, but when I have bottomed, I'm almost always soft. One time I came from my boyfriend fucking me (an experience that solidified my sense that I am gay), although it's since been explained to me that was probably from prostate stimulation. I got raped when I was in my early 20s and didn't bottom for over 20 years. When I started again, it was so emotionally/spiritually powerful, even if I didn't cum while being topped. Point is, someone can not get hard and still LOVE being topped.

It is very much a generational thing, as others have said. I'm 64. Group showers and being naked in the locker room were normalized from the time I would go swimming at the Y in grade school. At the college where I teach, when I arrived in the late 1980s students shared a locker room with staff and faculty, including a sauna in which we'd all sit naked, and open showers with posts with several shower heads on each. Students often showered and changed after P.E. classes or working out in the evening. It was normal to see students from a class I was teaching in the showers, sauna and locker room--something that would be almost unthinkable now, except for guys from the swim team walking from their locker room through the main locker room to the pool. By the time of the covid shutdown, the sauna had died of old age and was not replaced. Someone donated a lot of money to create a new showplace of a fitness center. New student locker rooms were built with individual curtained showers, and my sense is few students change or shower unless they are using the pool. Faculty and staff use the old locker room as there is no private-shower option, everyone uses the open showers. There us much less use than before covid. It seems to me that the it's a combination of increased awareness that being forced to be naked in front of others is traumatizing for some kids, an awareness that there are indeed gay or lesbian people in the locker room, some of us being inappropriate with staring, the ubiquity of cell phone cameras and spy cams and photos that have been leaked/spread (imagine being in middle or high school and someone shares a photo of you naked in the locker room or shower), and the highly publicized cases of sexually predatory coaches (like Jerry Sandusky) that has led to the demise of mandatory group showers in middle and high school. And then people never get comfortable with being naked around others in a locker room the way most of us did.

MasterCard is going to cut OF off unless they make these changes, and other payment processors are likely to follow. I’m not at all surprised if some of the content creators are not-quite-legal, or even if 18+ have underage collaborators. And unfortunately voluntary, freely chosen sex workers are having their careers diminished as collateral damage in the effort to end involuntary sex work and trafficking of both minors and adults. Looking at OF, and also the male online findom scene, I’m amazed at how much money young men are able to make. Never occurred to me when I was 19 or 20 that I could make more than both my parents combined by jerking off for a living. Or just making videos where I tell guys they are worthless and they owe me money because I’m an “alpha.”

At a hotel in Chicago and meetings ended way early. Any suggestions for muscle worship guys here?

Following on this one.

Celebs I’ve had the amazing fortune to spend a little time with socially: Leonard Bernstein, who called me “sweetie” and kissed me on the cheek but hit on my boyfriend. Yo-Yo Ma, who (jokingly) offered to autograph my penis since I didn’t have a CD (we have had a friendly professional relationship for 25 years) Mstislav Rostropovich, who was the most famous cellist before the Yo-Yo era, who pulled me into a dressing room to tell a dirty joke Alan Alda—had wine and cheese with him and a great conversation about the music in his films and improvisation. Werner Erhard, the personal development workshop designer/leader, with whom I had a brief conversation about models of reality Becoming a celebrity: the young actor Charlie Plummer, who has started in a couple of indie films, had parts in some big films, and is starring in a new Hulu series

I follow a couple of guys on onlyfans, each of whom occupy a niche that does have anyone IRL in my area. Plus I can get off quite a bit for a lot less money than an escort. If one of those guys did escort work, and we were in the same city at the same time, I’d make an investment! I know a guy who’d like to do porn and may start with onlyfans. He’s not into escorting, though. Separate of sometimes overlapping skill sets.

I found a lot of onlyfans guys through teasers on YouTube and Instagram. Like anything else, it’s a lot of work, and marketing is as important as the content itself. I’d think that one could develop a social media following, onlyfans, and then studio porn and everything would support everything else. For sure, though, escorting and open work (whether onlyfans or studio) are different forms of sex work. Do what is authentic for you. And remember that whatever you put online in the form of video will be there forever and if you go into another line of work your videos will very possibly get recognized. I’m thinking of the college wrestlers on Fratmem, a couple of high school teachers, the policeman who had done a kink video, etc.

Haven’t met many guys through Instagram but sure have enjoyed the feeds of many fitness models, bodybuilders, etc. That’s on one account I have specifically for that purpose. On my personal one, I see lots of pics of friend and relarive’s kids, excerpts from concerts, great inspirational quotes and videos, funny stuff. etc. All depends on who you follow and what the algorithm figured out you like.

That’s so beautiful, Eric. Ot made my night and inspired me to be a more open and connected teacher tomorrow.

This looks great!

I assume (for what that’s worth) that there is much less law enforcement interest in male escorts and their clients. Less concern about human trafficking, etc. And perhaps an assumption that guys are more likely to be escorting by choice. I do see how it would be easy to put a decoy ad on rentmen along with fake reviews. Less easy (much!) on Daddy’s for sure.

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/09/opinion/ai-joins-the-campaign-against-sex-trafficking.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share Another reason to use a well-reviewed escort. And a burner phone!