Your Man in Arlington

Doesn't list anal under I Am Into. 🤔

8 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

At least you don't have to stay home like working guys had to in the 90's before widespread use of cellphones.

I would literally walk about half-an-hour to hang out on a street corner for who-knows-how-long on *weekend* evenings, and sometimes even weekdays, depending on what was in town. And, this was even while I had a pager, though I would have to find a payphone in time to call a guy back.

4 hours ago, carolus said:

but younger guys wo't typically go for an older man.

They're not going for you, they're going for the job. That isn't to say they won't enjoy activities with you, there are some guys who just love sex and/or get off on being paid. But, you shouldn't be worried about whether they're "into" you. If they're a good provider, they will be into you for as long as long as your appointment lasts.

3 hours ago, Wanderoz said:

Him.  Watching str8 porn.  That's the funniest comment I have read in this string and on the whole of this site today.

Especially given his profile claim:

Depends on whether he's hosting and how thin his walls are?

48 minutes ago, carolus said:

I'm in my late 30s, and would said escorts mind about seeing a guy who is older?

This is not an issue. In fact, you would probably one of his younger clients.

Prior thread, with links to other prior threads, here:

And why not check all of the into boxes, including PNP and Fisting?

6 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

A client might clutch his wallet at amounts from $1.5k-2k (or more) for an “overnight” lasting around 8hrs-12hrs ish, but the way I think through all the components, I believe the range I quote is a pretty reasonable ask.

From what you described, I think this was a *really* good deal for your client.

1 minute ago, KensingtonHomo said:

From what you’ve said you’re not the subject of this thread. I don’t recall you writing endless posts about how unattractive men your own age are. 

I also do not usually care for facial hair, though I make exceptions. 

But I maintain that if someone has a sexual aversion to people of their own age, they should look very closely at that. It’s not natural and likely internalize homophobia and ageism. 

Point taken, my response here was based on that fact that I don't look for or engage "older" providers. And, yes, I'm married to a guy a few years older than me who I find quite attractive.

7 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

More often than not a client expects us to offer some commentary or react to the way they look. He wants validation, but there is no good way for us to give it to him.

This is why I don't preemptively share a photo (or photos) with a provider, I don't want to put them in the position where they have to comment on my appearance.

I have sent them to a couple of providers who requested them. Both of them had very complete public profiles, and politely asked after some conversation. One didn't comment and the other told me I was handsome, which is probably accurate, and a nice way of describing a someone a couple of decades his senior.

I am generally looking for providers in their late 20's, or those that at least appear as such.

I've never thought of it as an "aversion" to older providers, though I do have an aversion to facial hair, which most providers seem to acquire once they turn "30." And, I am 100% aware that I'm reliving what was the prime of my adventurous sex life before entering my first real LTR.

It's been a form of "therapy" for me, and it certainly doesn't involve self-hate. If anything, I've become more reconciled and self-accepting of my current age and the effects of the aging since being more directly confronted with the contrast. Better yet, I'm sometimes still surprised by discovering how well things still work or even new, unexpected experiences.

Aside my preferences and perspective, the thread subject reads a loaded question with prejudged answers. Should I seek therapy because I'm not attracted to guys with beards? If I didn't shave, I would naturally grow one. Does that make me self-hating?

Anyone else here read Stars in my Pocket Like Grains of Sand?

Added a photo that includes his face, very handsome. Not sure if we'd be a match on activities, though.

On 5/17/2024 at 4:58 PM, DrownedBoy said:

I've never met a provider who asked my STD status.

I'm hoping it's because, like me, they assume that all their partners have STDs (including HIV) and take the proper measures. 

I had one young, inexperienced provider ask, and I thought it was ridiculous. Of course, I don't think I have or have been exposed to anything based on my visual and sensory experience. But that's no guarantee, especially since so many STDs can remain asymptomatic.

8 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

 🤮

Sorry, I have no experience with 😺.  I am a proud Platinum Star ⭐ Gay.  Any tips or tricks based on my experience have pertained only to the arse.

I think we can substitute "bussy" or even "mussy"? Yes? No? Maybe?

On 3/9/2024 at 8:55 PM, socurious said:

And it hurts even more trying to do doggy style!!

Maybe not with a toy, but I think spooning can be a great position for a beginner (or experienced) bottom. If the top lets you "drive," you have great control of position, depth and pace; and, most dick shapes will provide an excellent prostate massage all along the way in and out.

11 hours ago, socurious said:

Are you saying I should get a bigger dick to play with?

I'm 6" - 6 1/4" long and about 4 1/4" around. From what I've read I'm  slimmer than average, and not short, but not also not long.

I've had nothing but rave reviews as a top, and very recently had a provider request that I get him off while I was buried inside him. Afterwards he said I had the perfect size dick for topping, hit everything in the right place. Of course, everyone has their unique anatomy and preferences, and as a provider it may be more important for him not to get too much at a time.

As others mentioned, it's more important to find someone who really enjoys topping, in that they enjoy the process of going slow and feeling a bottom open up around them. I love it so much that I still sometimes find it hard not to cum during insertion and will have to go through multiple cooling off periods. 😅

PNP but no rimming? 🤔

18 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Ah... This right here.  If you're not horny, then it's not going to feel good.  You need to want that tongue/finger/penis/fist inside you with all of your being.  Then your sphincter will open up and swallow whatever it is!  Enjoy!

All of my best experiences as a bottom were after an "I need that in me" moment. Not because it was large or impressive, there's just something about certain cocks that call out to be taken in.

BrettNY AI'd into an alternate universe. For prior thread see:

So far, I've only met with 2 guys who identified as bi in their profile, and both were very into kissing as well as everything else we did. 🤷‍♂️

While it's one less transmission route, unless your using condoms for oral, aren't you still putting yourself at risk for exposure to STIs?

Over the past year I've met up 32 times, 7 of them for massage, another 8 with a local regular, and then only a few other repeats. Most of them were in bursts while traveling. This is after going 3 years without any sensual/sexual contact. I'm recently starting to feel caught up on that deficit, so I foresee the frequency dropping dramatically.

In my dozen plus meetings over the past year, I have rimmed every guy with with no issues—usually welcomed, even—whether or not it was listed in their profile. Being the giver in rimming is more important to me then getting, which I do enjoy, and pretty much a must for me whether I'm topping, bottoming, or flipping.

I have only been rimmed 3 times:

Once the guy just kept traveling south after some head.

With another, I had asked about rimming when we started the meeting, meaning me rimming him, but while he was giving me a backrub/massage at the start of the session, he dove right in.

The latest asked if he could rim me while we were in the middle playing, and to others' point in this thread, it was one of the best—if the not the best—rimming of my life because he was just into it as an activity.

I hesitate to ID any one provider, because for whatever reason, I agree with @marylander1940 think it's a more likely to be a case by case or moment by moment decision for a provider than other activities. I'm also meticulous about cleanliness, and will be sure to thoroughly shower, prep and/or finger check as close to a meeting as possible.

Down to one faceless chest pic and "Usually looking for around 1k to meet…" is now in profile text (which I didn't think was allowed).