purplekow

I left NJ and moved to Palm Springs where I knew few people and none of them really well. Most of them were known to me from this forum or the Palm Springs weekends. It has been 10 months and I am very glad I made such a drastic move at an age when most are moving into adult living facilities. I have a house I like. I left the RoUTine I was in in NJ. I started going to the gym. I bought season tickets to community theater. I have invited friends to come and spend a week with me. I have made a few acquaintances and one or two friends along with the ones I already knew. In some ways, it has been difficult, but by leaving a known life and taking up in a completely new environment, I have become less lonely. My dogs are company in the house and they force me to go out to get them food and toys and exercise. I joined a dating app and have had several sexual encounters with men I have met from there. I have been more vigorous about hiring but by the hour and not overnight so shorter meetings but more frequent. I call my friends more often and text others more regularly. If you are traveling through Palm Springs, give me a call and we can get a drink or a coffee or just a visit. I do not know that such a drastic change would have worked for everyone but it has for me.

It would have been a blunt response. You want the pants, you may pay for them they are available. You want fine dining, you will be dining alone. You won't live up to our sleeping arrangements, you will be sleeping elsewhere. You want to get back to Chicago, I would suggest you start walking. If you want all these things write a letter to Santa. I suggest that you live up to your screen name and say I am MT and so is my wallet.

I refused to eat spinach when I was child. My mother encouraged me to eat it but it just seemed gross. After my older brother convinced me to try it and then say I did not care for it, my mother would stop bothering me about it. Well, i tried it, I liked it and that was the end of it. Rimming was something I did not enjoy until I tried it. It is not in my top ten of things to do, but I have tried it and I know when I want to do it or if my partners wants me to do it, I have the ability to proceed without it being an issue. To those who have not tried it, I recommend coming over to the dark side, at least for a trial run. https://music-memes.getyarn.io/yarn-clip/2e3cf94e-5ad7-4779-aa72-8a262182083e/gif

I do a pseudo rim job (chinning) that might be more "palatable" for you. I use my stubbly chin to massage and pressure the area and use spit to lubricate. I will use a finger or three to probe while my chin is there. Long strong strokes of the chin ending at the scrotum and back over the anus. I actually enjoy doing it and most of my partners have enjoyed receiving it and there is not issue about kissing afterwards.

My philosophy is we are all responsible for insuring our own orgasm. So, if you need something to get you off in a completely satisfactory manner, you need to make sure you get it. Either through experience with an escort or good communication with the escort, before and after the encounter but most importantly during. If the escort is not giving me what I need during and encounter, I tell him what i want, or move his hand or mouth where I need it to be or just do what I need as long as he does not stay stop or indicate that it is not okay. That can be disappointing, but at least I know and go on to something else that can be fun and know that this escort may not be the one for me. Afterwards, I will tell him that I wanted X and it seems you did not want that. It is sometimes just bad timing and sometimes it is something we did not discuss which he does not do. I am also open to being a bit flexible in what I will allow but I do not hesitate to say that something is not working for me and to try this other thing I do like. With first time hires, I can give the initial impression of being a timid old man with no stamina and little gumption. As soon as things start, I quickly discharge them of that notion, often to their surprise and usually to their satisfaction and mine.

As a physician, I was frequently confronted by a. variation on this theme. "I know my body". This came up frequently in discussion of treatment plans such as prescribing unneeded antibiotics, excessive numbers or types of pain medications, ordering of unneeded or prematurely requested tests and other situations. Much of this had to do with the internet and the pill culture of Americans. Sometimes, I could in good conscious and in good practice alter my treatment plan to satisfy the patient but when I could not, I would tell them that I was not going to prescribe what they were requesting as it is simply not the medically appropriate choice by current guidelines. I would also suggest to them, that if they felt this was not satisfactory, I could recommend other doctors to them in the area. I was cursed at, threatened, physically assaulted, insulted, reported to the medical board and degraded but I held to the principle that the customer was not always right when that variation was used. Ultimately, those dissatisfied clients left or did not return. They were often told if they opted to follow my instructions, I would follow up and consider alternative treatment but that treatment may not be the one they are requesting now. I would say 98% of my patients were cooperative, listened to my explanation and walked away, if not happy, at least understanding why I was handling their issue this way. But when you see 50 patients a day, as I did in my walk in, that means, on average, there was one person who would test my patience with patients.

Anyone recall Robert Chambers? Good looking rich young white murderer? 1980'2 version of Luigi,oung man with a throng of fans drooling over him and his explanation of murder in the heat of passion was unintentional. Did a 15 years for first degree manslaughter with the sobriquet the Preppy Killer. He got out of jail and relatively shortly afterwards was caught up in a drug sting and was sentenced to 19 years. That seems fair, kills someone get 15 years, buy and sell drugs get 19 years. Anyway, he got out of jail in 2023 after serving 15 years for the drug charges. Seems he never could become more than the perpetrator of the crime. Will Luigi face the same fate. It seems in the Kardashian inspired society in which we live, he will be able to monetize premeditated murder into a life style. Perhaps his own reality show with regular updates from Andy Cohen. Andy no doubt would be a great mentor for Luigi. So there is nothing new about Luigi's crime, his popularity, his photos being splashed over media. The main difference is likely to be the ability to really enjoy the financial windfall that is likely to come his way, sooner or later. I know there are laws that prevent or at least limit the profits that a perpetrator can earn off of his crime, but OJ manages and someday, Luigi will too. This with the help of the leeches that attach themselves to his well rounded buttocks and the suckle off his muscled pecs

I had minimal male to male contact as a teen, once I received a BJ and got paid and the other a drunken frot session with a friend. Two years after my wife died, when I was 50, I found that sex with women left me feeling empty and guilty. I decided to try having sex with a man. I started hiring very selectively and for the most part part for 15 years I hired frequently but only one or two escorts in a rotation. Lately, I have hired and used dating apps much more frequently. This is especially so since my move to Palm Springs. I feel great about my choices to do so and agree with the other posters who suggested that doing more earlier seems like it would have been prudent. I do not know exactly why I was reticent. At this time, though I see women on occasion, I am more active with men. As I age, I have found that women I have met are more interested in a long term situation while men are more casual and escorts, of course, generally are not looking for a long term relationship with their clients. I am friends with many of the men I have hired over the years even though I do not see them professionally any longer. Finances are not a major issue but they do lead me to be a bit conservative about my hiring.

Indications for the vaccine are up to age 46 at the discretion of the physician and the patient. Younger people are recommended to have it up until age 26 starting at age 12 or so.

I wonder if the people you are quoting are renting. My guess is no.

I have often been told my cock is a great sucking size. While some might take that to mean it is a nice way to say it is not choke a horse big, I chose to think that anything that gets someone to want to suck my cock is a positive.

As with non provider partners, I prefer that they get off but that concern does dissipate once I have come. That being the case, I ask if they want to come and tell them though I like it as a form of validation, it is not necessary. Sometimes escorts have asked me if I want them to come as they are hold themselves back. I am always a yes on that. But my ultimate philosophy about this is. We are all responsible for insuging we have the orgasm we want.

Out of the many I have hired, I have about ten escorts that I hired for a prolonged period of time. I was, essentially, a serial monogamous escort hirer. who occasionally strayed to others for variety. I am still in contact with all ten of these men to a greater or lesser extent. I consider then acquaintance at one end and friends at the other. It is as though I dated them and it did not work out but we remained friends. In fact, one of them just spent a week at my home on a trip from one coast to the other. That being said, I have never had sex with these men off the clock and once :I stopped hiring them, when we are together, there is not an attempt to get together sexually. So, even though at the time I was seeing them, I may have fantasized about being in love, these relationships evolved, as most sexual relationships do into less desire and more routine. None of them evolved into love. And though most of them remain in great shape and very sexy, I have never considered returning to our previous arrangement. One of them did stay at my home for a few days and made a point of walking around naked and at least a bit aroused, but while he looked great I had no desire to pay for sex with him and did not try to get there for free.

I firmly believe every complement I get even the ones which are factually false. Why not? It is either true or I would like it to be true and if I believe it, it is true for me at that time. No use feeling bad about yourself or denying what other people say in a complementary way.

By the way, how many cameo Chostbusters can you name. I got 8 but there are more than that.

Who do I call? Ghostbusters?

Renters, for the most part, are paying more per month and while if you include upkeep on the house, that may be more for the owner. However, rents go up and there are still maintenance cost for renters, such as painting and minor repairs. This is especially so if your landlord is absentee, a large corporation or just interested in draining whatever money can be gotten from the rental. Also an appropriate rental for a 22 year old single is not going to be appropriate for a 32 year married with a child, so the cost is likely to go up. While a family might outgrow a house, they will have the equity to move on after a sale. The ability to put money away will likely be more difficult for the renter as their rent goes up. I might add, that I own my home free and clear and so at this point, renting would be much more expensive than owning and the reason that I own is because I chose to do so when I was younger. Once the mortgage was paid, I was able to save and invest much more money than I would have if I was renting. As a landlord, I am glad they are people renting and if you believe this is the best way for you to live, I am grateful for the monthly payment that you make on my house.

There was a lot of information in the post reagrding life in Chicago. I do not recall seeing tax deductions for interest payments in there. The government does subsidize your mortgage to some extent by allowing you to take the interest as a tax deduction. For some, that applies to the state tax as well. There is also the benefit of a property tax deduction. Also prices of houses, at least for now keep going up as do rents. So what is true in 2025 may be different in 5 years. Houses may be more expensive and rents will have certainly increased. Again, if you can afford the rather small amount of the next months principal for the first 5 years, you will actually have paid off 10 years of the mortgage. At that time, refinancing the mortgage at the appropriate time may get you extra cash and a better rate and a lower payback period. In my situation, I took an adjustable 30 year mortgage, made double payments for the first three years and was able to refinance at a much better fixed rate for 15 years. My 30 year mortgage became a 20 year mortgage and I was again able to double pay my principal to cut the length of time to repayment down further. At 8 years, I sold that house, took the equity as a downpayment for two houses, one of which was a three family house which I rented at a profit and at a tax advantage. Bottom line, a long term mortgage can be leveraged against future earnings and tax breaks. Rent for my renters was money out of their pockets into my equity and my pocket. When I eventually sold the rental house, the renters had a place to live for the years they were there and I have several hundred thousand dollars. Granted there were expenses I took on for repairs and upkeep, but all told, starting out with an affordable long term mortgage allowed me to juggle my finances into a much more secure financial future.

I took a 30 year mortgage and paid it off in 15 by paying two payments at once by adding the next months principal to the usual mortgage payment. Year 2000 dollars bought a lot more than 2025 dollars do, so paying a mortgage on a house with today's prices might seem like and likely will be a bargain in 10 years. So, use the long term mortgage as a bridge to paying the loan off is less time. This is especially true if you expect your career to pay you more in the future. Those extra principal payments do get larger as time goes by so you need to account for that.

One of my favorite escorts, and the one that is the best sex partner, has an average sized cock but an huge amount of enthusiasm, skill, energy and endurance. Granted, I do not bottom. so size it not an issue in that regard, but even if I did, he has the reputation of being energizer bunny like in this regard and there are videos to prove it. I am always stunned by big muscle guys like Vin Marco and Apollo Phoenix who have great bodies and large endowments, but while they have been great for me, there is something to be said for all types of enthusiastic men.

I am glad it worked out for you and him. Perhaps a valuable lesson has been learned in that you definitely seem to have been much more invested than he. For future encounters, the first time you do not get what you were expecting, tell him. If it happens a second time, remind him. If it happens a third time, stop hiring him and tell him good bye at that meeting.

It is considerate of you to want the escorts you are financing to have a good time, but really it is there job to make sure that you do. You need to be clear what you need and what they need should be secondary to that. Not to say that they cannot have fun, but it should only be at your willingness. So, in the threesomes I have arranged, most were with partners and they were told that my expectation was that at least one of them should be paying attention to me unless I indicate that I am all for being the odd man out for a bit. I once had a three way with a couple whom I hired several times. One was always the top for anal though he gave excellent head and the other always the bottom. I enjoyed watching them go at it as I am not into bottoming. One time, the last time actually, the top asked me to top him. He told me he did not usually bottom during paid encounters but he wanted to see how that would work out. He apparently did not inform his partner that this was going to happen and when the top suddenly threw his legs in the air and groaned for me to fuck him, I obliged, to the consternation of the the bottom who watched for a bit and then asked if he was needed in a way that was not conducive to my continuing to fuck his partner. After that encounter, which did continue with my switching to fucking the bottom, I never did hire them again. I wanted to hire the top as a single, but I did not want to cause any difficulty. The top said he would need to clear it with his partner if I was going to fuck him. So even the best laid plans can go awry.

You do not owe him an explanation. There is a thread on this forum asking what were you not prepared for as you get older. My contribution to that was: No one teaches you how to say no politely and definitively. So this is it: I have enjoyed out time together in the past but recently I have not. Therefore, I am seeking other options. Thanks for your time and efforts. If you are in town, I am up for an off clock meeting, if that is something you would like. If I have a change of heart, I will let you know but please to not question me about this further. Happy holidays to you and I wish you all the best. I was seeing an escort for 10 years and we spoke just about every day. One day we both came to the conclusion that it was not working. I told him to cancel our next appointment and that I would call if I needed his services. It was sad but necessary. Now 10 months later, I realize that this definitely needed to be done. If I encounter him again, I would be polite but not invested. Sometimes a divorce is needed and you must be prepared that they are not always amicable, but even difficult ones are, in the long run, for the best.

Gary Oldman at the least has a $3 million house in Palm Springs. An acquaintance of mine who is renovating the house next door says he is there on weekend a month. So I would not worry about him. Champagne problems. Granted the house in not spectacular but it is in the shadow of the mountains in a nice section. of town.

Often I think babe or daddy is because they forgot your name. I like for them to Call Me by MY Name. I agree, I do not have feminine parts and neither do they, so lets call an ass an ass and a penis any one of a dozen things but skip pussy. I see a guy regularly now who uses lots of emojis and pet names but he is young and I find it cute with him. Most others, would rather they skip it. I do enjoy a good flattering lie. So during passion I like things such as you are the best, oh my god it feels so good and please do not ever stop. I know they are just things that are said and at times they make me laugh to myself but in general at the time, I enjoy it.