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When I first started hiring back in the dark ages, one of my first hires, actually my second hire, had a photo of a 20 something, muscular man with a full head of hair and no tattoos. I was waiting in a motel room and saw him exit his vehicle. He was older, had multiple visible tattoos, bald abd bit as defubed, though still very muscular. Now, I know many would send him away or not answer the door. I took a deep breath and went through with the appointment. I am glad I did. I had a great time with him. He was kind, and funny and very talented in bed. His body was terrific and the tattoos did not seem to be a distraction that they initially appeared they might. He became a regular and a friend and I was even asked to be the best man at his wedding. The wedding did not come off and unfortunately, soon soon. after, he became ill related to renal failure and he died related to that soon after. I would suggest, that it may be worth going through with an appointment if the person you hired shows up, even if there is not an immediate spark. If you are going to pay him anyway, you might as well see if there is something to salvage from the meeting. Sometimes salvage operations yield hidden treasures. And after all, having sex with someone to whom you are not amazingly attracted is something excorts and drunk guys at 2AM do all the time. We all probably have done it. The worst that can happen is that the encounter will be bad, but my philosophy is, even bad sex is better than no sex.

Just to inform people. Canyone Clubs seems to have been sold and is being converted into a upscale non clothing optional resort. So if you are planning on staying there, you might check on if it is going to be open in April or not.

I did like Robert Conrad in Wild Wild West and the stop frame pictures which then were made into a cartoon were always a favorite when he was shirtless. He must have had a shirtless scene guarantee in his contract as in just about each episode he was shirtless for less than obvious reasons and in interviews he came off as a bit of an narcissist and exhibitionist. This carrier over to his follow up series BaaBaaBlackSheep. The sexiest gig he had was not shirtless and that was in the EVeryReady Battery commercials in which he just stared into the camera and said something to the effect of: Go ahead, knock it off my shoulder.

Salome and the dance of the seven veils then Sal and me and the lance of the seven inches now. In a similar vein, I usually ask an escort to leave on his clothing. I enjoy unwrapping the package. If he is wearing expensive clothes, I will fold them as we go. Fabric rubbed across his body as I take his clothes off. A nice whiff of his aroma on his clothes. It all adds to the entire erotic experience. Of course, sometimes I just push him up against a wall tell him to take his fucking clothes off.

Oral Wegovy is now on the market and costs about 170 per month according to an article I saw. Though I definitely have the physique for it, I have not tried any of these drugs. I feel good now. I am exercising frequently. Going to the gym with a trainer. I would rather not deal with the potential side effects and be thinner and feel worse. It is also supposed to be a lifetime medication and people do yoyo back up if they stop it without making the necessary changes to their diet. Still, the idea of spending some of my "golden" years as a relatively thin person does have its appeal and so I may consider the oral medication worth the risk.

First of all. Mikey Marinara when his real name is Macarrone. Why not just change that to Macaroni. Second, he is just about an average 20 something Italo American from Long Island. My cousins and I looked way hotter than he when we were in our twenties. And his body is a bit on the skinny side considering the popularity of weight lifting on Long Island. I hope his pizza is better than that. As to how to ask if he does more in private, i would go with the standard: "I would really like some hot Italian sausage and by the way can you put some on on pizza as well." If he is inclined to give you a slice, he will pick up on that.

Pay in advance, regret at leisure.

They are the tallest people in the world and this long drink of water looks as though length and height are proportional. Too bad he is not traveling to the US at this time.

So, no apps, no blind dates, no fix ups, no first time business meetings? Seems as though some opportunities may be lost and I think it is true that you need to kiss a lot of frogs to find a Prince. I am interested if he just says "ribbit", we can try lunch or coffee.

It is all a matter or expectation and the fantasy portion of hiring. If one has to pay for dinner and for a dinner companion and for sex before or after (or in the bathroom during) it is a lot of hits to some clients' ego. Also paying for that meal and the companion to be there, confirms that this is a fantasy and not by any stretch of the imagination, a date or a friend. On some level clients know that, but on the level of buying a lottery ticket and imagining on what one would spend the money, some clients suspend belief and like to think the provider actually wants to be there so why should he pay. For the provider, I think, it is a matter of getting paid for overtime, as some think of themselves as an hourly employee. If the boss brings in donuts, in lieu of overtime, the employing may be enjoying eating a particulrly loaded Bavarian Cream, but he would likely be doing something more enjoyable unlesse he is being paid. One also has to recall, that some clients have no difficulty paying for time in bed, in the restaurant, on the ride back and forth, in the bar before, in the club afterwards. and some just do not have that kind of cash. So those of us who are not as financially well settled, may have escorts who have many clients who do not think twice about it. I did have an escort who I saw regularly for years. One day he calls to let me know he needed to talk about something and could we have lunch. Without full details which are complex, the question of who was going to pay for this came up. The escort said, the escort never pays unless he wants to do so. We did not have lunch and we have not seen each other since. There are details which might make this statement less entitled, but ultimately, at the time, a rift was formed by this along with some other minor things and it built up to be basically an irreparable situation.

I usually hire travelers and usually early in the evening. After the initial festivities have been completed, I sometimes will ask the provider to join me off the clock. I offer the invitation very specifically as off the clock. If the provider says yes, it is likely that he does not have another client in the near future and he has to eat anyway and he knows he is going to get a nice meal at a good restaurant. I consider it as a tip and I do not expect anything in return. If he does not wish to have a meal with me or if other plans supercede, that is fine too. I do not mind eating alone or to making a meal for myself.

Thank you for pointing out that there was something written there. I did not see it at first and once I did, I could not read it anyway.

There is no truth in opinion. You may certainly speak what is true for your taste. Assuming yours is the quintessential standard for taste is...well...in bad taste in my opinion.

My comrade in Forum, please start getting some. It does not get easier to get laid as you get older unless you hit the lottery or have major plastic surgery. So start using what you got. Perhaps expand your search radius and be more outgoing about seeking out partners. Perhaps you think, sex is not that important to me. I do not have that strong a libido. I can assure you, once you start getting it regularly you will look back and think: why the fuck was I waiting. Don't fear rejection. Everyone gets turned down, some of us get turned down again and again and again and again. Just as in baseball, you are an all star if you hit 300 and 250 is not bad.

I arrived in Palm Springs in February. I had two regulars in NJ I saw before I left for a total for 4 visits. So in Palm Springs I have seen only visitors to the area. No local regular. This has been replaced by Scruff hook up which have totaled 7. Two were coffee dates that did not go any further. The other 5 were all encounters at my home totalling 8 encounters. Scruff guys seem to be one and done type guys but two of them I have seen more than once but it takes a lot of effort to get them to come over. As far as hires go Two hot Columbians in their late 20s early thirties. Great fun. Total of 8 2 hour encounters which stretched out to more like 4 as they are not clock watchers. Usually have a meal afterwards which stretches the entire encounter to 6 hours or so. One was at my home for 5 visits including three days in a row and the other I meet at his hotel. for three visits. One muscle guy from San Diego who was okay but would not see again. Similar to the others, 2 hours planned stretching out further. Porn actor from LA. Saw him twice. Very hot muscle guy. Vers. He was two hours on the dot both times. Porn Actor Landon Conrad. Great first encounter. Tried to repeat but he cancelled trips to PS Would definitely hire again but only once he was actually in town. Traveller in from the east coast. Only saw once. His hotel. Usual 2 hours. Pictures were more favorable than real life but the sex was fun. Date with escort from the Pool Party went well. Too bad he went back to UK but I am hoping to have him for a longer visit if he returns. This was a good experience with someone I met in DC at a forum event but did not get to see. So it was unfinished business. We both finished. And the ever popular Tristan Baldwin spent a few days in my guest room, as did I. So in 10 months. 8 men hired for a total of 16 encounters. 8 men from Scruff 2 of those no goes and 2 of them multiple times to total 8. One pick up at the grocery story. 4 NJ visits. Averaging out to one encounter every 10 days but in reality there were weeks with 8 encounters and two months when I had friends and family visiting where there was nothing. Considering my senior status, think this is not bad but I definitely could have used more.

I kind of like it when a bottom is hard to pin down.

That is unfortunate. Take home lessons to be learned from this but it does not make you feel any better about it happening at all. Sort of like when people tell you you are lucky to have survived an accident. Lucky is when you do not have the accident at all.

Were you cheated or were the requirements of the meeting poorly realized or not made clear. If you were cheated, there would have been intent to give an unsatisfactory encounter. Miscommunication from provider to client or vice versa is not cheating. Not to say that kind of experience is acceptable, but if there is no intent, then both parties ought to examine how they are interacting. Now if you were mislead about the providers capabilities to satisfactorily relay the desired service or he did not do what he promised with intent, then indeed you were cheated. Feeling cheated and being cheated are not always equivalent.

Another thought about this, should you not wish to actually tell your partner directly. For the next significant occasion you have together, hire a bodybuilder stripper for his and your entertainment. If things go well, you can discuss that stripper specifically and then broaden the conversation. If it goes really well, you both will be enjoying a strip steak.

To paraphrase Lauren Bacall: You know how to get a hard on don't you, you just get your partner to put together his lips and blow.

Truth is I had never learned the term Villanelle nor knew of its strange rhythm and rhyme scheme. I gave myself an hour to write one and while it does not come near the power of Dylan Thomas and "The Dying of the Light" which was written to encourage his ailing father to fight on to live, it is not bad for a Forum populated by aging men looking to hold onto a shred of the sexuality they had in their youth and by the younger men who help them to do that. If you care to try to write a Villanelle, post your efforts.

Villanelle said in the Company of Men Life's greatest gift from shave to grave Unabiding zestful carnality Never to be lost to an indifferent wave. Imprisoned desire as a lustful knave Wastefully misunderstanding life's cruel reality Life's greatest gift from shave to grave Believing to be granted all he may crave Suffusing the present with indiscriminate banality Never to be lost to an indifferent wave. With maturity one may opt to behave Or bestow a unique open mentality Life's greatest gift from shave to grave Senescence demands each to be brave To live fully and appreciate inevitable mortality Never to be lost to an indifferent wave. Visit me buried and read the engraved Words said just before my finality Life's greatest gift from shave to grave Never to be lost to an indifferent wave.

I would like to add a positive note to the sturm and drang and reminiscences of glory days. This year has been a great year for sex for me, both bought and paid for and offered as a mutual benefit. I have relaxed and taken an active role in pursuing and that has worked surprisingly well. I have been active in working out and in losing some weight but most importantly, I have been more confident in my approach to sex and in my willingness to face inevitable rejections. Just the other day in the gym a very well built, late 30s year old man walked in to the steam room and basically scouted out the area and turned and left. Rather than looking upon this as a nice distraction and basically a fantasy, I walked out and in the locker room, struck up a conversation with him. We spoke for a few minutes and so ended that encounter. Several days later, our paths at the gym crossed again and as he was leaving the locker room he stopped to speak with me. When I finished dressing, I found him hanging around in the lounge area. We talked again and I invited him for dinner and so we are to have dinner next week. Now this dinner may or may not happen and it may or may not go further, but there is a much better chance of something happening then there would have been if I was just another old man sitting and recalling what used to be. As I have aged, my libido and my imagination are just as active as they have ever been. In this year, and for 2026 and beyond, I intend to allow my actions to be just as active. I do not expect to have young studs falling at my feet or to be having all night sessions with a variety of dashing gentlemen, but I have decided not to go quietly into that gentle good night. I intend to rage against the dying of light, hopefully with the occasional raging hard on to satisfy, both my partner's and my own.

If you cannot speak honestly with your partner about your desires and needs, then perhaps you need to either find a new partner or have more faith in the one you have. You might open the conversation by saying you have certain turn ons that you would like to discuss and ask him if he is willing to speak to yours and tell you his. If either of these answers are no, you have bigger problems than his acceptance of your bodybuilding desire. If he says yes, then you have taken a giant step into coming to a place where you have a more open and trusting relationship and perhaps closer to rubbing your body against a hard muscular body/.

It is a nice idea to hire someone for an hour just to meet. For me though, I would hire for an hour, talk for 30 minutes and if there is no connection, call it a day and if there was a connection, I would pin him up against a wall and ravage him for 30 minutes.