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The Carter Jay he references in the Youtube video is this guy:  
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RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Midland, MI - DesnudoMassa: Carter Jay I've met him.   Wow...quite a mess.  One of my worst hires and I walked out.  
 

The Carter Jay he references in the Youtube video is this guy:  
DesnudoMassa - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Midland, MI | RentMen
RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Midland, MI - DesnudoMassa: Carter Jay I've met him.   Wow...quite a mess.  One of my worst hires and I walked out.  
 

What does 'clean-cut' mean again?

FYI: His partner is BortSampson and they do play together.
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RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Denver, CO - BortSampson: Easygoing, passionate and kind  

Sorry to hear about your experience.  It sounds like something has definitely changed with him.  I've known him for many years and used to see him quite often.  He was always a power bottom in the past but seems like he is mainly/only a top now.  As you experienced as well, the last couple of times I saw him his hygiene was was not good.  The last time was horrible and so I quite seeing him.   I understand certain things can happen but that wasn't the case here.  This was literally not cleaning at all between clients.  

Met him in NYC and he was kinda unfriendly in communication and then fell asleep during session (at 7pm)
reached out in SF for a redo.  He was again unenthusiastic in text and then quoted me $500 (when he was only $400 in nyc).  
 
Me: i appreciate your hustle but that price hike is not cool
him: That's standard price in nyc my friend
 
NEXT….

He’s right. I guess I’m one of the ‘older’ guys in the business - in the daddy category. There’s no shortage of younger guys wanting a daddy experience, and prepared to hire for it. There’s also plenty of older guys looking for things that older providers can provide that younger guys can’t or won’t do, such as intimacy, being empathetic and actually turning up on time not being hung over or high and treating their client as a person rather than just another punter (apologies to those younger guys in the business who are professional- I don’t mean to stereotype, younger reliable guys do exist but are not easy to find in the crowd!)
That’s the other thing. There’s loads of younger guys doing sex work, with a wide range of quality. There’s far fewer older guys, and those who are doing it have stuck around at it because they’re good. People hire for all sorts of reasons and age is not necessarily a factor that matters for many of those reasons. 
 

I don't operate from a decision that I'm not attracted to men my age - I could be attracted to a man my age.   In actual fact, though, I don't encounter many men my own age that I'm sexually attracted to.  I was at a party a couple of months ago, and a man my own age hit on me in a very obvious way.  I was flattered, but he didn't do anything for me - no aversion, though.  

I thought 70 was the new 50. 

Looks like his rate is back to $180, which is acceptable in my book. When he was down in FL several months ago it was $200, so I skipped as a matter of principle. Yes, I'll tip generously, but the base rate has to be sensible and anchored in the fact that I can still get professional therapeutic massage for $100-120.

I have been with gay men (providers and not) who were mechanical in bed and bi guys who were great in bed and vice versa. 

I blame them.

I don’t blame any escort who does not want to kiss. I rarely kiss people & would never agree to kiss just anyone. YUCK! 

Wait is this true?  There are adults who don't know they can get STDs when they stop using condoms? They, what, slept through every health class ever? 

People talk themselves in circles about providers who don't kiss.
They don't kiss because they'd rather not be doing what they're doing.
I have neither patience nor sympathy for providers who don't kiss and yet expect to stay in the game.
 
 

Ugh, if he’s charging extra for kissing I can imagine how passionate those kisses would be. Why do guys even offer kissing if they can’t do it as an integral part of the session for no extra fee? It’s like serving soup without a bowl. 

I like kissing as much as I like fucking.  It’s a deal-breaker for me, and it’s annoying that so many list it in their Inyo’s when they clearly are not.

I respect that some don't want to kiss. I won't hire them though. Kissing is an essential part of the experience for me.
 
 

I think you have a great point here, @ThroatCummer . To me, no kissing is the absolute deal breaker in hiring. Furthermore, when I sense that my partner (paid or not paid) is not really enjoying kissing me, when he is not being truly responsive to my kissing, I totally lose interest and my dick goes limp. 

Met him as well. He chased me on rm thru the same types of messages fayhek received. He looked like his pics but shorter than I expected. He topped. Was smaller than I expected down below. Kissed well, passionate. But ultimately not memorable and I’d pass. 

I met him once several years ago and once was enough.   His apartment was the filthiest I have ever seen.   The bathroom probably hadn't been cleaned in 10 years.   The massage was mediocre at best.   

Not as much of a risk. 
barebacking during anal has a significantly higher transmission risk of infections than condomless oral, for various reasons. 
 
 

This is an important topic and one which deserves serious consideration.Thanks for raising it! 
I guess I’m having a lot more sex with different guys than someone who doesn’t do sex work so one might assume that I’d catch things. Especially because the majority of the sex I have is condom less. Most people I see don’t want to use a condom for sex and certainly in the porn I do it’s never with a condom. I think what people see on porn is what they like or want to do in sessions so that ‘no condom’ thing transfers over. Those clients that might want to use a condom because of concerns about STD’s tend to go for action that doesn’t include penetration (oral obviously doesn’t count as penetration!).
However, in the years I’ve been doing sex work I can’t think of any occasions when I’ve caught something from a client, and two occasions when I’ve caught something from another porn performer. It’s actually quite rare and in my check ups (every 3m) I’m clear. 
I think the chances of catching something are far higher when attending sex parties or sex clubs / saunas. The reason? People who do sex work are fastidious about sexual health check ups because if they catch something then they’re unable to work for 2 weeks. Guys that go to these parties and clubs are less careful and get tested less frequently.
So whatI think is that if you see a professional then it’s probably a lot safer than if you see someone off a hookup app or at a sauna or club. 
 

One of the most disappointing sessions I've encountered. I was reminded why I don't try guys from out of town. I texted and booked a sensual-mutual touch massage yesterday.  Upon arrival, I was immediately quoted a higher price than what is online for what I booked. That's a red flag and a turn off.  The massage was ONLY therapeutic and seemed like he was rushing through it. Nothing sensual about it at all. Nothing delivered that we talked about. It ended up being one of the most expensive 45 minute therapeutic massages I have had. I could have gone to a nice spa and got the same thing for less. After I left I immediately called one of my local providers to get the full body massage experience I was hoping for. Lesson learned! Wow what an expensive day!!!

Thanks BigNoiseDallas. Very very disappointing. It seemed others had good experience with Xavier so I veered off from my own policy to avoid traveling masseurs and got burned. At least with the locals I feel they for the most part care about their craft and client retention. But now after the fact I see in a different post he has unfavorable reviews.