Be careful of what you tell other members

[nsguy45]

A M4M member soon to be visiting my area privately asked me to recommend RM escorts I have hired. I gave him a few names and also added a couple I was disappointed in meeting. He asked me to elaborate on one of the disappointments and I did. Big mistake. He then contacted that disappointment and relayed to him my remarks. Now, that escort is texting me to ask why I'm negatively reviewing him. I find this more than unfair. My comments to the inquiring M4M member were meant to remain just between the two of us. I did not post a review, I only made some candid observations to another member in private. I'm new on M4M, but isn't there some sort of code between members?

[sincitymix]

A M4M member soon to be visiting my area privately asked me to recommend RM escorts I have hired. I gave him a few names and also added a couple I was disappointed in meeting. He asked me to elaborate on one of the disappointments and I did. Big mistake. He then contacted that disappointment and relayed to him my remarks. Now, that escort is texting me to ask why I'm negatively reviewing him. I find this more than unfair. My comments to the inquiring M4M member were meant to remain just between the two of us. I did not post a review, I only made some candid observations to another member in private. I'm new on M4M, but isn't there some sort of code between members?

 

In my opinion, it was very bad form on the members part. He/She should have never brought you up with the escort.

[+ freecahill1965]

A M4M member soon to be visiting my area privately asked me to recommend RM escorts I have hired. I gave him a few names and also added a couple I was disappointed in meeting. He asked me to elaborate on one of the disappointments and I did. Big mistake. He then contacted that disappointment and relayed to him my remarks. Now, that escort is texting me to ask why I'm negatively reviewing him. I find this more than unfair. My comments to the inquiring M4M member were meant to remain just between the two of us. I did not post a review, I only made some candid observations to another member in private. I'm new on M4M, but isn't there some sort of code between members?

I would say that behavior is not the norm in any way. It has been my understanding what goes on in a private conversation stays in a private conversation. I am sorry for your negative experience. Please do not judge all forum members based on the poor judgement of one member. Makes me wonder if you should tell us the name of the forum member?

Edited December 24, 2017 by freecahill1965

[kaboom35]

This is most likely an isolated situation. I have told many members about bad escort experiences and not once has an escort questioned me about it.

[jawjateck]

Not the first time confidential info was shared via PM. Won't be the last time the info turns into wider gossip.

[Bearofdistinction]

Not the first time. Won't be the last time.

 

You Should Beat Him at . . .

[jawjateck]

Just one of several reasons I disabled that feature years ago.

[bigvalboy]

A M4M member soon to be visiting my area privately asked me to recommend RM escorts I have hired. I gave him a few names and also added a couple I was disappointed in meeting. He asked me to elaborate on one of the disappointments and I did. Big mistake. He then contacted that disappointment and relayed to him my remarks. Now, that escort is texting me to ask why I'm negatively reviewing him. I find this more than unfair. My comments to the inquiring M4M member were meant to remain just between the two of us. I did not post a review, I only made some candid observations to another member in private. I'm new on M4M, but isn't there some sort of code between members?

 

It happens far more often than you would think. I did it once, and the escorts friends from the forum attacked me here....Lesson learned. Information is only shared now with forum members that I am personal friends with...And there are only 5 people on the guest list for PM's.

[+ José Soplanucas]

The overwhelming majority of forum members are good, honest, and supportive people. We may like more or less each other, but we all agree in the basics of keeping it honest and discrete.

However, not only you will eventually find unreliable and gossipy members. If you become more active you will also find some fucked up wacos. One of my regular guys tells me that someone has been calling him, allegedly a forum member, asking for my phone number and private information and warning him about how evil and treacherous I am. Another of my regulars tells me some one (I do not know whether he is the same crazy or they are two) has been calling him warning about me being HIV+ and purposely spreading the infection.

 

Like in another human environment, you will find here the best and the worst. Just jump to the pool, there is no other way to know who the good swimmers are.

[Bearofdistinction]

Just one of several reasons I disabled that feature years ago.

 

Yeah - Just one of several reasons Id disable his knees!

[+ Keith30309]

A M4M member soon to be visiting my area privately asked me to recommend RM escorts I have hired. I gave him a few names and also added a couple I was disappointed in meeting. He asked me to elaborate on one of the disappointments and I did. Big mistake. He then contacted that disappointment and relayed to him my remarks. Now, that escort is texting me to ask why I'm negatively reviewing him. I find this more than unfair. My comments to the inquiring M4M member were meant to remain just between the two of us. I did not post a review, I only made some candid observations to another member in private. I'm new on M4M, but isn't there some sort of code between members?

This has happened to me as well.

A few months ago, after sharing an experience via PM with 4 members here, I received a text from a New York escort with whom I’d had a pretty unpleasant experience: “People are telling me about things you are saying about me.” Only one of these members had any prior awareness and possible future hires.

Noted.

[jawjateck]

Whenever I see a "411" thread in which someone claims to have some experiential intel on the provider, inevitably an avalanche of "PM me, please" requests begin to cascade. And I'm thinking the whole time, don't do it, man.

[big-n-tall]

I don’t know the vast majority of forum members. Of course, some I know because they are escorts and some non escort posters (although we never met) I feel I have more a connection. I have never absolutely flamed anyone in private or public even if it is warranted.

 

Occasionally, I’ll get a random pm for various posters I’ve never communicated with whatsoever. I’ll give them a basic rundown of my experience, mostly good and rarely bad. The guys I see posting often and being more interactive on the forum, if they ask a question I might go into more detail.

 

However, there were a few, after pm conversations I had to block them. Honestly, some of their responses to me were needlessly fucking rude because I didn’t agree with them or give them the info they desired.

 

No escort or forum member has come to me asking/saying what some other forum member said I said. I have no doubt it happens. After having blocked the last guy... I’ve learned if specific questions are asked and the guy is a new poster or we have never interacted anyway on the forum... I’m going to keep my response light or not respond at all.

[LADoug1]

Be careful that you aren’t sharing negative thoughts about an escort. I did and it turned out that the member was really the escort (using another name) or a friend of the escort’s (who would communicate info to the escort) who just wanted to see what I would share with members.

 

His retribution was a nightmare.

Edited December 27, 2017 by LADoug1

[LoveNDino]

Be careful that you aren’t sharing negative thoughts about an escort. I did and it turned out that the member was really the escort (using another name) who just wanted to see what I would share with members.

 

His retribution was a nightmare.

I had one person PM me, months ago, and I was pretty sure that it was the escort himself.

[+ freecahill1965]

Be careful that you aren’t sharing negative thoughts about an escort. I did and it turned out that the member was really the escort (using another name) who just wanted to see what I would share with members.

 

His retribution was a nightmare.

I have shared negative experiences about an escort, but I told them directly before I shared. The point of the forum is to share. If they do not want the truth shared then be a good provider. Interesting enough, the provider did contact me. He found out about me comments somehow. He agreed with my concerns and asked that I make another appointment so that he could make it up to me. I will consider at some point.

Edited December 24, 2017 by freecahill1965

[mike carey]

One of my regular guys tells me that someone has been calling him, allegedly a forum member, asking for my phone number and private information and warning him about how evil and treacherous I am.

This is a different thing to a client obtaining an assessment from another client and passing that opinion on. Unacceptable in my view. Of course, if you have told the escort the same thing that you later tell a potential client, the escort won't be surprised, but even then the potential client has no business telling the escort who passed judgment.

 

If you have a regular relationship with an escort, and he is told something negative about you, I see no reason for him not to push back or even tell you what had been said. You and he have the relationship, the other person is just some random.

[nsguy45]

I have shared negative experiences about an escort, but I told them directly before I shared. The point of the forum is to share. If they do not want the truth shared then be a good provider. Interesting enough, the provider did contact me. He found out about me comments somehow. He agreed with my concerns and asked that I make another appointment so that he could make it up to me. I will consider at some point.

It sounds like a trap. Don't do it!

[dcguy20]

My experiences via PM here have been positive for the most part. I generally won't respond to an inquiry if it's from a poster I'm not familiar with.

[jawjateck]

However, there were a few, after pm conversations I had to block them. Honestly, some of their responses to me were needlessly fucking rude because I didn’t agree with them or give them the info they desired.

 

Some randos get bent out of shape if your 411 reply isn't a porn-quality script with every detail of the encounter.

[ncc1701d]

That's really too bad as I find the PM a good source of information . I've never shared the info with escorts, but I also don't advertise what my forum name is. I suppose smart ones can deduce, but this is not good to hear.

[+ José Soplanucas]

This is a different thing to a client obtaining an assessment from another client and passing that opinion on. Unacceptable in my view. Of course, if you have told the escort the same thing that you later tell a potential client, the escort won't be surprised, but even then the potential client has no business telling the escort who passed judgment.

 

If you have a regular relationship with an escort, and he is told something negative about you, I see no reason for him not to push back or even tell you what had been said. You and he have the relationship, the other person is just some random.

 

I appreciated it that they told me. I am not going to share more details, but that allows me to work on identifying the wacos.

[mike carey]

I appreciated it that they told me. I am not going to share more details, but that allows me to work on identifying the wacos.

I didn't expect you would share any details, and in case it wasn't clear, I think what your escort told you is completely appropriate. If I tell some random that I didn't like escort X, he has no business telling anyone else what I said.

[Scorpio]

Some randos get bent out of shape if your 411 reply isn't a porn-quality script with every detail of the encounter.

 

The main reason I disabled the PM feature years ago.

[marylander1940]

I appreciated it that they told me. I am not going to share more details, but that allows me to work on identifying the wacos.

 

I'm glad he warned you about it.

 

I rarely identify myself as forum member when I hire someone.