Did Your Parents Give You The Talk About "The Birds And Bees"?

[+ Avalon]

Mine didn't. The only thing I remember them telling me as a boy was to sleep with my arms and hands outside the bed covers. I had no idea why. I do now! ;-)))

[+ bashful]

Not yet.

 

(and they have both since passed away)

[rvwnsd]

We had sex ed in school. This was a Catholic school, so my folks wanted to review the materials to make sure they were not BS and they weren't. They did have a conversation with me about sex, but I do not recall mention of birds and bees.

[marylander1940]

Mine didn't. The only thing I remember them telling me as a boy was to sleep with my arms and hands outside the bed covers. I had no idea why. I do now! ;-)))

 

He sure did and it was instructive.

[+ Avalon]

My senior year year in high school there was a class I think called "Senior Problems". My parents had to sign a permission slip. When it came to sex I learned that married people have sex three times per week.

[harlen]

nope...thanks for the internet!

[+ Keith30309]

I was given a booklet and asked if I had any questions. That’s it.

Naturally I had to augment the curriculum with audio-visual materials.

[+ poolboy48220]

I went to a program for 7th-graders at our school, at night, boys & girls programs were separate, and we saw a film (or maybe even a filmstrip?) and there might have been someone speaking or a Q&A afterwards. On the drive home, my dad, obviously uncomfortable, asked "Do you have any questions?". I said no, and that was the end of it. We did purchase "The Life Cycle Library", four slim volumes of sex ed aimed at young adults. Years and years later, my younger sister sent me a journal made from the cover of that book, with a few pages from the book scattered throughout the blank journal pages.

[bigvalboy]

NO...I was way ahead of my parents.

[Stormy]

I walked in my parents room one night that I couldn't sleep. I still have trouble with my eyes after I witnessed what I found out was intercourse. That was the so called talk for me

[BaronArtz]

Yes, my dad did. It was a disaster.

[Pepper Young]

My dad tried to bring up the subject once, but I waved him off. "I got it", I said. Relieved, he went back watching TV.

[MikeyGMin]

My mother had to explain unwanted pregnancies to me. Being the little homo that I was, I could not understand why couples were doing such things to one another if they didn't want children. She said it was like kissing. That it just felt good. Since I already knew that I wanted to kiss my best friend very badly, I could finally wrap my head around it!

[LaffingBear]

Nope

[Epigonos]

My dad and I weren't terribly close but god bless him he tried. It wasn't the most successful conversation we ever had and he ended it by say "be sure to wear something". I was 22 at the time and found the entire conversation more amusing than informative. I simply smiled and thanked him -- he seemed much relieved.

Edited October 13, 2017 by Epigonos

[+ deej]

In grade school the boys were gathered into a room with the boys' PE teacher (and the girls in another room with theirs). They had all these biological charts and we learned about fallopian tubes and vaginas and penises and a very surgical synopsis of procreation (of course with no idea what those words meant).

 

I didn't hear much of it anyway. The PE teacher was hot in his snug white tennis shorts. He disappeared at the end of that school year and it wasn't until many years later I learned he was fired for being one of those homersexuals.

[+ ursalex]

I'm still waiting for that conversation. Considering I'm 66, my father has been dead for 15 years and my mother for over 40, I don't think it's going to happen. And I grew up long before the Internet. No wonder I was such a late bloomer, although I think I've made up for lost time!

[+ sync]

No. I learned it from neighborhood boys the "hard" way.

[+ poolboy48220]

No. I learned it from neighborhood boys the "hard" way.

That's a story waiting to be told.

[liubit]

I remember my mother explaining it to me and my siblings when I was about 10-11, using a big book with plenty of pictures, published by TIME magazine, I think. It was all very illustrative but quite distressing, because my friends had told me all about it in school, and I couldn’t believe that all those surprising and disgusting things I had heard were actually true. My mother seemed somehow embarrassed by the whole thing, and my father, well.....my father was not there (as usual)

[Kevin Slater]

We had the chat when I was 15. I think it was very informative for them.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ FreshFluff]

No. I knew about sex. But until I was about 8, I thought that women's bodies periodically generated pregnancies after a certain age. Then, at age 11, I picked up a book at a bookstore. That was where I learned just about everything I knew about sex. This is the part that stuck with me.

I'm linking to it because it's a little graphic:

https://s5.postimg.org/k48j53nif/image1_3.jpg

Edited October 13, 2017 by FreshFluff

[TruHart1]

After having my first orgasm in the bathtub at the age of 10, I became obsessed with jacking off whenever and wherever I was alone. Developing sexually so early was most likely the reason I was such a social cripple in my interactions with so many of my peers through school. The fact that I realized at about 13 that I was generally attracted to hot men, (having had rare instances of finding certain women sexually attractive back when my hard-on would spring forth for almost no reason at all!) I became rather socially crippled, always fearful of being discovered a pervert, or caught looking at men's crotches and asses.

 

I was a very nosy young man, though, and my father had a rather large collection of not only heterosexual graphic porn magazines which left no doubt how hot men with big dicks entered willing women's dripping vaginas or mouths, but he also owned Havelock Ellis' exhaustive study of sex and inversion, (what Ellis called homosexuality, bestiality, etc. back in the 1930's when he wrote it) "Psychology of Sex", which explicitly and graphically explained (diagrams included) all the various permutations of sexual acts, including detailed clinical case studies of various human subjects!

 

Add to that my dad's collection of pornographic novels with "blow-by-blow" descriptions of all sorts of sexual acts and, after first being dizzy and light-headed at the understanding and realization of the actual mechanics of male to female sexual interaction, I was probably more educated than any of my peers at that early age. I remember earlier, back in sixth grade, being separated from the girls and seeing a slide-show which explained the basic workings of the penis and vagina and how babies were conceived, but my understanding of sex remained quite muddled and foggy until I discovered my father's graphic collection of porn and sexology studies!

 

I don't actually remember if my parents ever tried to give me the "birds and bees" talk, but by the time I was 13, I was WAY beyond that sort of talk having any educational value for my horny psyche!!! Though I never asked my dad, who has been gone for over 30 years now, I will always wonder if he was sloppy-on-purpose in hiding his porn materials, hoping I would likely self-educate myself sexually, Or maybe I was just the nosiest son around! LOL!

 

TruHart1

[Gvtire]

My mom tried to. Everything was going great, until I asked her what's the difference between making love and fucking. She got completely embarrassed and kept saying why you have to be so vulgar why do you have to be so crude. My dad on the other hand when we got older handed me The Joy of Sex and told us if we had any questions ask your mother.

[oldhat]

My siblings and I grew up in a very rural frontier county. Electricity and running water were not connected until I was practically an adult so I didn’t see porn until I was in my late teens. Add to this that I grew up in a multi-generational household where allegory and parables were the method to teach life lessons. From those I learned about the sex act well before school taught sex ed.

 

The notable difference was my parents talk about STI’s.