Finding an old friend/acquaintance on rentmen

[+ Kman]

Wondering if this has happened to anyone, if you were browsing through rentmen or one of the massage sites and you found an old friend, someone you went to high school or college with?? I went to a very small HS and so the chance that they would remember me is pretty high so I don't think I'd be able to pull the trigger. In my mind hiring an old friend (childhood friend) as an escort would be a little awkward. thoughts?

[+ WmClarke]

Wondering if this has happened to anyone, if you were browsing through rentmen or one of the massage sites and you found an old friend, someone you went to high school or college with?? I went to a very small HS and so the chance that they would remember me is pretty high so I don't think I'd be able to pull the trigger. In my mind hiring an old friend (childhood friend) as an escort would be a little awkward. thoughts?

In theory, if he was hot (now), I would not care at all. He, however, might. ;-)

[+ nycman]

If I were to pursue an old friend as an escort (that's a HUGE if btw).....

 

I would disclose up front who I was and how I knew them outside of the escorting world.

 

I think it's only fair so he can make an educated decision about whether or not to meet me.

 

In truth...I'd most likely just avoid him, unless he was some severe unrequited fantasy that I NEEDED to get out of my system....grin.

[TruthBTold]

I agree that I might contact him but let him know that you knew him from HS. I would simultaneously ask myself why I hadn't ask to suck him then, probably for free.

[+ purplekow]

I have told this story in the past, but it bears repeating. I hired an escort through a service a few years ago. When the escort arrived at my house, we discovered that we knew each other through a mutual friend. We had eaten lunch together several years before and we both had attended the bachelor party and the wedding reception. The bachelor party was a destination bachelor party in Vegas. He was friends with an employee of mine and he had been to my office to go to lunch with the employee on several occasions. I recalled admiring his fit body and the tight fit of his pants which accentuated his muscular ass.

Initially there was some hesitation on my part to continue. Did I mention tight pants and muscular ass? So we proceeded and in fact I have hired him multiple times. He is basically straight but that does not stop him from giving great oral and bottoming enthusiastically.

So if you do see someone you know, do not discount the idea of hiring them. It can work out well.

[down_to_business]

I wouldn't because it pierces his anonymity without giving him any choice in the matter. It's one of those times I would just think about what might have been for 30 seconds and move right on to another option.

[+ purplekow]

I wouldn't because it pierces his anonymity without giving him any choice in the matter. It's one of those times I would just think about what might have been for 30 seconds and move right on to another option.

His anonymity was pierced as soon as his acquaintance saw the ad. Now the client has the option of piercing his own anonymity. If the poster is concerned, he could include information that they already know each other in a non-professional capacity and is this likely to be a problem. He does not have to reveal his own identity in doing this.

Some escorts may forego the meeting and others may be more inclined to meet in view of the mystery of who is this person who knows me.

[+ glennnn]

I can think of any number of past acquaintances who I would happily take to bed- Leon, Craig, Jimmy. Why not if we both want it?

[+ Gar1eth]

Years ago I read either an escort's website or his massage ad. I noted that he said he was from west Texas. Now west Texas can mean several things. There is even a city called West which is in Central Texas. And the area where I grew up is called 'west' Texas even though there are actually parts of Texas much further west than we are. So I was curious, and I texted him to start a conversation and asked him where exactly in Texas he was talking about.

 

Imagine my surprise when I found out that we grew up in the same city. I'm sure I didn't know him. And in fact he went to the high school which was our crosstown rival. But my junior high was split. A majority, I think, went to my high school. But a significant number went to his. In addition to that I was in a children's theatre group for years where many of the members went to his high school. In short, we know a lot of the same people. In fact I was perusing the Friend's List on Facebook of an acquaintance from his high school several years ago, and found tje escort as one of his friends.

 

I've only met the escort in person once. And when we met, he didn't know I was the one who had contacted him years before asking where in Texas he was from. While he gave me a massage, I asked him how much he kept up with our mutual friend. He was just a bit surprised.

 

Now I don't know whether anyone from our hometown knows about his other careers. But if they've seen his massage ad, I think he mentions doing porn movies.

 

 

Gman

[LADoug1]

When an escort presents himself he is opening the possibility that he will be seen by acquaintances both old and current.

 

If I saw an escort that I knew but wanted to see I'd let him know the situation and let him decide. A professional probably shouldn't care but it's up to them.

[jawjateck]

When an escort presents himself he is opening the possibility that he will be seen by acquaintances both old and current.

 

I've had numerous guys express shock that people in their personal lives have viewed their ads. They don't seem to understand how this utility called the internet works. Even worse are those companions who freak out in a restaurant having been spotted by one of their friends while dining with me. I'm not the most desirable or detestable being on the planet, so I usually have to calm the dismayed companion, remind him that we're just acquaintances sharing a meal, not passing state secrets to foreign agents. Relax!

 

It helps to be a real pro at all of this hanky panky.

[down_to_business]

His anonymity was pierced as soon as his acquaintance saw the ad. Now the client has the option of piercing his own anonymity. If the poster is concerned, he could include information that they already know each other in a non-professional capacity and is this likely to be a problem. He does not have to reveal his own identity in doing this.

Some escorts may forego the meeting and others may be more inclined to meet in view of the mystery of who is this person who knows me.

 

Like the philosophical debate ""If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?".. if an escort has a sense of privacy and you do not burst his perception, does he still have a feeling of privacy? We will agree to disagree. Just like a previous discussion on finding out personal information about an escort that they did not chose to reveal themselves, keeping things to yourself can sometimes be the best course of action for all parties involved. I can keep a secret, and I have no need to ever play power games with anyone else's life or well-being with the information I know or that I think I know. That is why I would choose to walk away. I understand not everyone sees things like I do. That does not make my opinion wrong, it just makes it my opinion and how I feel about it.

[+ poolboy48220]

Never quite this situation, but I've hired escorts (pre-internet and pre-pictures) that I'd met before (a friend's blind date, I saw both of them at the bar). I've also hired guys and met them later in social situations; I'd never mention anything there unless they brought it up.

[+ purplekow]

Like the philosophical debate ""If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?".. if an escort has a sense of privacy and you do not burst his perception, does he still have a feeling of privacy? We will agree to disagree. Just like a previous discussion on finding out personal information about an escort that they did not chose to reveal themselves, keeping things to yourself can sometimes be the best course of action for all parties involved. I can keep a secret, and I have no need to ever play power games with anyone else's life or well-being with the information I know or that I think I know. That is why I would choose to walk away. I understand not everyone sees things like I do. That does not make my opinion wrong, it just makes it my opinion and how I feel about it.

An opinion is never wrong, but it is not necessarily a fact either.

If a video of the tree falling is on the internet then it definitely has fallen. The tree may believe it has not fallen, but really, it is right there on the ground.

As far as your statement of privacy is concerned, feeling that you have privacy and the fact of privacy are two different things. Just as the feeling that you there is a wire "tapp" on your phone and actually having Congress investigate it is.

[nate_sf]

As an escort I had this happen with one client. I had first met him five or so years before through my day-job employment, where I was in a sales position and he was a potential client (though did not end up transacting). Years later he responded to my escort ad, and when we met up for the escort appointment I recognized him immediately as that former sales client but did not say anything. He did not say anything to acknowledge our former acquaintance either.

 

To this day I do not know if he didn't recognize me, or on the other hand did recognize me but didn't want to make the acknowledgement. My code as an escort was always to not pry into personal matters and only discuss what was presented to me, so since it was not presented to me we did not discuss it. I'm guessing if he remembered me he would have known me under my "real" identity, and maybe he was afraid of how I'd react. So one or both of us just played along, leaving the elephant in the room when we went upstairs to the bedroom.

 

We had several good escort appointments, so whereas a sale had not been closed in the first round it was happily brought to fruition the second time around.

[+ Funguy]

An opinion is never wrong, but it is not necessarily a fact either.

If a video of the tree falling is on the internet then it definitely has fallen. The tree may believe it has not fallen, but really, it is right there on the ground.

As far as your statement of privacy is concerned, feeling that you have privacy and the fact of privacy are two different things. Just as the feeling that you there is a wire "tapp" on your phone and actually having Congress investigate it is.

 

You are right, the tree fell. But did it make a sound? It seems, magically, the audio on the camera malfunctioned at just the wrong time. X-Files perhaps?

[+ purplekow]

You are right, the tree fell. But did it make a sound? It seems, magically, the audio on the camera malfunctioned at just the wrong time. X-Files perhaps?

Well if made a sound cause you can see it fall and graze the box containing Schrodinger's cat and we all know that this would cause the cat to howl, providing of course it is alive.

[+ Funguy]

But you still need to record it as proof for Bozo.

[Rudynate]

I patronize a tattoo studio and the guy who answers the phone and does the scheduling recently started advertising on RM. I'm not interested in hiring him. I decided the only reason to talk about it would be if I wanted to hire him. Otherwise, there was no point. I have seen him several times since I first saw his ad, and haven't mentioned it.

[LADoug1]

As an escort I had this happen with one client. I had first met him five or so years before through my day-job employment, where I was in a sales position and he was a potential client (though did not end up transacting). Years later he responded to my escort ad, and when we met up for the escort appointment I recognized him immediately as that former sales client but did not say anything. He did not say anything to acknowledge our former acquaintance either.

 

To this day I do not know if he didn't recognize me, or on the other hand did recognize me but didn't want to make the acknowledgement. My code as an escort was always to not pry into personal matters and only discuss what was presented to me, so since it was not presented to me we did not discuss it. I'm guessing if he remembered me he would have known me under my "real" identity, and maybe he was afraid of how I'd react. So one or both of us just played along, leaving the elephant in the room when we went upstairs to the bedroom.

 

We had several good escort appointments, so whereas a sale had not been closed in the first round it was happily brought to fruition the second time around.

 

I think you made the right decision but I always hate elephants in the room.

[+ Kman]

Very inretesting. There are a few guys from HS I wouldnt mind running into on rentmen or masseurfinder...I did find a guy that went to the same HS a's me but was four years younger on a cam site..I remember it feeling weird for me even to look but wasby attracted to him either.

[BasketBaller]

Last year I posted about recognizing a teacher at my sons' school on RM. No way would I have hired him (not complementary interests, anyway), but I have seen him occasionally at events and games. I definitely feel a bit strange knowing that about him-- and about having seen pics of him naked.

[+ Kman]

Last year I posted about recognizing a teacher at my sons' school on RM. No way would I have hired him (not complementary interests, anyway), but I have seen him occasionally at events and games. I definitely feel a bit strange knowing that about him-- and about having seen pics of him naked.

 

I wold have to agree, that would be uncomfortable. But would you go for it I'm different circumstances @BasketBaller? And also add that he was your type.

[+ Gar1eth]

This isn't about escorts -but talking about knowing things you shouldn't know. A lawyer where I grew up defended a woman and had an affair with her 14 or 15 year old daughter*. This man later became a state senator. One summer 17 years later while I was in college I worked as Senate Messenger. Every time I went by his office, I couldn't help thinking about it.

 

Gman

 

* I know this through a relative who was best friend's with the 14 year old.

[BasketBaller]

I wold have to agree, that would be uncomfortable. But would you go for it I'm different circumstances @BasketBaller? And also add that he was your type.

Well, given that he isn't really my type, and isn't a top, I doubt it. The fact that he was one of my sons' teachers makes it certain, but I wouldn't have been in the market for what he was offering anyway.