Escort Wants Dinner Before Anything

[Quincy_7]

Has anyone else encountered this before. I've been talking to an escort and everything seems to be going fine, I was trying to find a time that suited both of us to meet but then he said he'd like to have dinner first to see if we connected. Is he just trying to get a free meal out of me?

[marylander1940]

Has anyone else encountered this before. I've been talking to an escort and everything seems to be going fine, I was trying to find a time that suited both of us to meet but then he said he'd like to have dinner first to see if we connected. Is he just trying to get a free meal out of me?

 

Ask him to meet for a drink/coffee and that you may or may not hire him after.

 

Will see how he reacts.

[Epigonos]

Interesting! I never get together with an escort for a single hour. I ALWAYS expect to take him to lunch or dinner (his choice) prior to our play time. If he comes to my place I cook, if I go to his place we go out.

Now if an escort approached me with the idea of using the meal time as an audition to determine if we would continue ALL communicated would cease immediately. That behavior is absurdly ballsy to my way of thinking.

[MikeyGMin]

Is it dinner on the clock or off the clock? If it's off the clock, then I would have no issue. I'm always willing to buy a guy a meal. If it's on the clock, it would be a hard pass.

[bigvalboy]

then he said he'd like to have dinner first to see if we connected. ?

 

Do what you want, but it's bullshit. It's a hire not a date.

[corymonroe]

I remember the one time I took an escort to eat before we played. When I picked him up in my car, I could hear his stomach growling. He said it had been awhile since he last ate. I wanted to be with a guy who had energy, so I took him out to eat and fed him. When we got back to my hotel room we had so much fun. I doubt I would do dinner under the premise of connecting, though. That's a bit ballsy and low rent.

[Quincy_7]

The posts here have confirmed my suspicions. Thank you.

[+ azdr0710]

https://www.starbucks.com/menu/food/sandwiches-panini-and-wraps/egg-salad-sandwich?foodZone=9999

 

and off the clock!!

 

[MartyB]

I've never had an escort ask me to take them to dinner or lunch before our session. That's an instant rejection on my part. It's about having sex not a date. Men who became regulars and a nice bond was established sure.

[pubic_assistance]

Sounds nice to me. I like a little old-fashioned connection with a sexual partner, even if I am paying. Although I do tend to offer dinner AFTER great sex, not before....

[+ nycman]

Off the clock?....no problem.

 

I will take you to any NYC restaurant you choose at my expense.

 

But afterwards?...we BOTH can say "no thank you"....with no feelings hurt.

 

You want an audition?...it's a two way street baby...I'm confidant in my game....are you?

[Epigonos]

In many ways offering the escort lunch or dinner after the get together make excellent sense but I've just never done it that way. I have always gone out to lunch or dinner, even with first time hires, before we play around. Interestingly that in fifteen years of doing thing this way I've never encountered a problem.

[+ purplekow]

I have gone about this both ways. Usually dinner or lunch before is reserved for someone I have met before.

In addition, I mention that the meal will be off the clock if it is an short hire, 2 or 3 hours, unless I am hiring for a night out.

I have had an escort on one occasion order two full meals, one to eat and one to go. I did not object but I did not rehire either. The meal thing was not the only reason but it was part of the reason.

[LivingnLA]

I always knew I was weird but this thread confirms it. In response to my first hiring experience, which was horrific, I have always requested a drink/dinner before "fun" as a way to calm my nerves and allow us to create a bit of a connection and familiarity. While I've only had a handful of hires since the first, each escort agreed to my request. One had VERY specific dietary requirements--which was fine--another ate a large meal and the rest have been in between.

 

Maybe once I'm an "old hand" at hiring, my MO will change but for now, I like to meet first for a drink and a bite to eat.

[MscleLovr]

I always enjoyed getting to know a guy I hired. For me, that meant a drink beforehand. And if everything went well between us, I invited the guy to dinner afterwards. I paid but in advance I made sure it was agreed dinner was "off-the-clock".

 

As I'm a top only, I can perform after eating...but I much prefer to have the physical exercise first. The exercise gives me an appetite for dinner. And many guys have told me they prefer to bottom before eating as it feels much more comfortable to them.

[jawjateck]

Since he offered, an off-the-clock preview at a coffee shop/restaurant is a potential winner. Check him out. Resist his sales push to upgrade the appointment upon conclusion of the meal. Give yourself time to process the experience before deciding if you want to proceed. The cost of a meal is cheap insurance to assess compatibility.

[LADoug1]

I have gone about this both ways. Usually dinner or lunch before is reserved for someone I have met before.

In addition, I mention that the meal will be off the clock if it is an short hire, 2 or 3 hours, unless I am hiring for a night out.

I have had an escort on one occasion order two full meals, one to eat and one to go. I did not object but I did not rehire either. The meal thing was not the only reason but it was part of the reason.

I would have objected vehemently. Two dinners? That's chutzpah! You clearly are are a kind soul!

[LADoug1]

There are other ways to vet each other other than an on the clock dinner. I'd pass.

[pubic_assistance]

Some people seem to forget that the definition of an ESCORT is someone you pay for their time to keep you company. That said.... I am not paying $ 250 an hour for "company"....this is where the custom quotation is important. When I travel for a few days at a time, I do enjoy spending time with someone, to keep me company. So I inquire about a few hours, plus dinner (on me) and some "bedtime stories", and nookie & milk. I don't mind paying extra for the extra hours, but it's got to be a reasonable rate. ( $50 to $100 /per hour - depending on the location) for time spent socializing and dining. Most escorts, do NOT enjoy going from one "hook up" to another in the same evening anyway. So it's a way to make more per evening without doing sloppy seconds ( or worse yet, thirds).

[+ purplekow]

Some people seem to forget that the definition of an ESCORT is someone you pay for their time to keep you company. That said.... I am not paying $ 250 and hour for "company"....this is where the custom quotation is important. When I travel for a few days at a time, I do enjoy spending time with someone, to keep me company. So I inquire about a few hours, plus dinner (on me) and some "bedtime stories", and nookie & milk. I don't mind paying extra for the extra hours, but it's got to be a reasonable rate. ( $50 to $100 /per hour - depending on the location) for time spent socializing and dining. Most escorts, do NOT enjoy going from one "hook up" to another in the same evening anyway.

 

I must say that I usually hire for overnights so that dinner and breakfast are usually part of the deal. If I hire by the hour or two, it is usually for play time only. So afterwards, if I am heading out to eat, I will invite the escort along. He may join me or not. After a two or more hour session, a shower and a meal is usually appealing but I have had a few turn me down. I do not plan on having a companion but I am always happy to have one. On one occasion, after an escort demurred my invitation to an off the clock meal, I went to a restaurant near where I had met the escort. About 10 minutes later, I saw the escort enter alone and he was seated alone. It was clear he saw me, but he did not acknowledge me. I ate alone, he ate alone. I hired him on other occasions but never invited him to dinner again.

[caliguy]

Ask him to meet for a drink/coffee and that you may or may not hire him after.

 

Will see how he reacts.

I'd take the little princess to Mcdonalds. Here's your happy meal bitch.

[marylander1940]

I'd take the little princess to Mcdonalds. Here's your happy meal bitch.

 

it that's the case the escort might eventually lose his abs or the ability to get his cock hard and keep it.

 

May I suggest you take him to Subway, buy the $6 dollar footlong special of the day and share it with him. Would 6" be enough for you and him? LOL

 

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Lcbz4r5wcdQ/UWOE0PmakKI/AAAAAAAA3L8/J9nxoxxaisQ/s1600/subwaysuboftheday.jpg

[+ Charlie]

I don't like to eat a meal before sex, so if an escort requested this from me, I would suggest somewhere for coffee or a drink, but where he could get something to eat with it if he felt the need.

[marylander1940]

I don't like to eat a meal before sex, so if an escort requested this from me, I would suggest somewhere for coffee or a drink, but where he could get something to eat with it if he felt the need.

 

you're right, food is better after fucking, not before.

[Epigonos]

On three or four occasions I have had escorts suggest we go out to lunch or dinner AFTER we play around. They have stated they prefer to have a meal after not before a romp if I don't mind -- I don't mind and things worked out just fine.