Escort Wants Dinner Before Anything

[RealNowhereman]

This is confusing. So, for subsequent meetings, is the consensus that a pre-playtime meal should be on or off the clock? And, if on-the-clock, should the dinner be at a rate that is lower than that which he charges for playtime?

[pubic_assistance]

This is confusing. So, for subsequent meetings, is the consensus that a pre-playtime meal should be on or off the clock? And, if on-the-clock, should the dinner be at a rate that is lower than that which he charges for playtime?

If I am hiring a masseur, and I take him to dinner, I am paying for dinner and I am paying for his time, but I am not paying for his expertise during the meal or during any chat, and pleasant company..so yes the rate is much less for time hanging out. Especially if I am picking up the check on top of things.

[+ José Soplanucas]

This is confusing. So, for subsequent meetings, is the consensus that a pre-playtime meal should be on or off the clock? And, if on-the-clock, should the dinner be at a rate that is lower than that which he charges for playtime?

 

We do not have an industry standard in our hobby. You will find many different arrangements. Work out one that is comfortable to you.

[mike carey]

I don't like to eat a meal before sex, so if an escort requested this from me ...

Dan Savage often speaks of the profound improbability of sex happening after Thanksgiving dinner. His rule of thumb for this, and other occasions where a meal is involved, is 'Fuck first!'

[+ glennnn]

I'm more experienced in the escort/client world now, but still don't know how to politely bring up this "on the clock, off the clock" issue. I, too, would enjoy a meal with my escort afterwards. Do I just say "Let's see your fee for two hours is $500. May I have another hour at a lower rate afterwards for dinner on me, or will it be off the clock?" I got nervous about this before reading posts from some escorts about being crass about bargaining.

[MikeBiDude]

I'm more experienced in the escort/client world now, but still don't know how to politely bring up this "on the clock, off the clock" issue. I, too, would enjoy a meal with my escort afterwards. Do I just say "Let's see your fee for two hours is $500. May I have another hour at a lower rate afterwards for dinner on me, or will it be off the clock?" I got nervous about this before reading posts from some escorts about being crass about bargaining.

You think too much...

[LivingnLA]

I'm more experienced in the escort/client world now, but still don't know how to politely bring up this "on the clock, off the clock" issue. I, too, would enjoy a meal with my escort afterwards. Do I just say "Let's see your fee for two hours is $500. May I have another hour at a lower rate afterwards for dinner on me, or will it be off the clock?" I got nervous about this before reading posts from some escorts about being crass about bargaining.

 

Maybe I've just been lucky, but this has never explicitly come up and the "drink/dinner" part of our time together is usually an hour or so. Whatever we agreed for "intimate time" hasn't impacted the "drink/dinner" time and I usually tip well, so it all works out. In other words, I buy the drinks and dinner but otherwise, it's two human beings meetings and getting to know each other.

[+ glennnn]

You think too much...

 

 

 

LOL! Ya think??????????

[MscleLovr]

As I see it Glennnn, you would not be "bargaining". If you wish to invite the guy for dinner and drinks after, simply ask.

 

When I hired, I used to say to a nice guy "Would you like to join me for a good dinner? I'm thinking of going to (restaurant name). Of course, I shall pick up the check but it will be off-the-clock" Most guys accepted. I never had anyone respond as if they were affronted by the "off-the-clock" comment.

 

After all, a free dinner and drinks is a nice invitation. Once I played so well with a beautiful young muscle-bottom that, before I could ask him out, he invited me to dinner

[RealNowhereman]

Please let me try this analogy...

 

For the sake of example, I am a business consultant and my fee is $300 per hour. At the end of the work day, my client and some of the his employees invite me to go out for dinner and drinks to socialize and get better acquainted. They pick up the check. We spend two hours together. Do I bill them for two hours of my time, bill them a reduced fee, or consider it 'off the clock' since my skills and expertise and not involved?

 

What do you think?

[+ nycman]

I just say..."I'm going out to grab dinner at XXXX....would you like to join me off the clock"?

 

At first I felt a little uncomfortable with saying "off the clock"...but now I realize that most

escorts appreciate it so everyone understands the terms of the offer, and they are free to

accept or decline. So far, I've only had a few decline, and even those seemed truly

apologetic that they had other plans. And each one of those sincerely requested that I ask

them again another time.

 

A few "off the clock" dinners have gone so well that we've ended up back in the hotel

room for an "on the clock" overnight...hell...one time we were having so much fun together

it turned into an entire weekend in London!

[+ glennnn]

Recently did exactly what was suggested. "Do you want to join me for an off-the-clock lunch? He said, "Yes!" And a good meal was had by all. Thank you for the guidance and @MikeBiDude is right. I think way too much!

[LADoug1]

I must say that I usually hire for overnights so that dinner and breakfast are usually part of the deal. If I hire by the hour or two, it is usually for play time only. So afterwards, if I am heading out to eat, I will invite the escort along. He may join me or not. After a two or more hour session, a shower and a meal is usually appealing but I have had a few turn me down. I do not plan on having a companion but I am always happy to have one. On one occasion, after an escort demurred my invitation to an off the clock meal, I went to a restaurant near where I had met the escort. About 10 minutes later, I saw the escort enter alone and he was seated alone. It was clear he saw me, but he did not acknowledge me. I ate alone, he ate alone. I hired him on other occasions but never invited him to dinner again.

I'm sorry that happened to you. It must of been awkward and a bit sad.

[pubic_assistance]

ehh i don't know about everyone, but if someone is spending 500 bucks on me, child the least I can do is spend some time off the clock with them for a dinner.

The ONLY way, I am spending $500 is if the guy is ON THE CLOCK for the night. So yeah...dinner is already on the clock. No way, is an HOUR worth $500, I don't care how hot you are. An ejaculation is an ejaculation.

[Irtwo]

Please let me try this analogy...

 

For the sake of example, I am a business consultant and my fee is $300 per hour. At the end of the work day, my client and some of the his employees invite me to go out for dinner and drinks to socialize and get better acquainted. They pick up the check. We spend two hours together. Do I bill them for two hours of my time, bill them a reduced fee, or consider it 'off the clock' since my skills and expertise and not involved?

 

The problem is, with an escort, the "to socialize" line is not as clear as your example. Technically (i.e., legally) you've hired the escorts to socialize with you, which could mean dinner and drinks. And some really do hire an escort only for that.