Kissing

[+ glennnn]

Growing up gay and deeply closeted in the 50's and 60's presented few opportunities for sex with any one other than equally scared, shy and inexperienced kids like me. There was no video or printed gay porn available so we didn't know what was possible or how to do it. Mostly we gave each other hand jobs (no real training needed there) or blow jobs which were awkward and never involved cum. Both of these somehow weren't "queer" to me; I could justify them because they were about me getting off with a little help. Anal wasn't even on the radar; we had no desire nor any idea how to do it.

 

The one activity I desperately wanted, but never could have, was kissing the guy. Kissing was too intimate, too involved with love, too basic. I knew that if I ever kissed another male, I was done for, irretrievably homosexual and beyond the pale of "normal" society. Kissing wasn't just sex; it was affection.

 

Looking back I can see that my first love was my friend John. He was everything- smart, handsome, funny, athletic, sexy and, ultimately, apparently straight. We tried lots of parallel, then mutual masturbation, a few blow jobs, some massage and frottage. He became everything to me. One night during a sleep over when we were about 14, the frottage became intense and I kissed him. He responded briefly and then freaked out. He wiped his mouth, pushed me away, pulled up his boxers and turned away to go to sleep. We never discussed it, but the friendship of 6 or 7 years died that night. we drifted apart, he got his girlfriend pregnant and married soon after high school.

 

My point in all of this is that now, kissing is so important to me, so erotic, so intimate, because it's the ultimate statement that m/m love exists. I love watching men kiss passionately and it is a huge part of my enjoyment of any time with an escort or other male lover. Did anyone else go through a similar experience with kissing?

[MikeyGMin]

I fell in love with my best friend when I was 13 years old. I finally confessed my feelings when we were 16 and he said we could "give it a try." He freaked out before much of anything could happen and bolted from the room. Over the course of the next year we probably fooled around a dozen times, but he never wanted to kiss.

 

The summer between our Junior and Senior year, we met a full-blown homo that wanted a full-blown relationship with me. Let's just say it was a wake up call for my guy. He waited until the three of us were alone and then staked his claim with a huge kiss. He was my first love. My first boyfriend. And man did we have a good Senior year.

[rvwnsd]

I fell for a co-worker when I was in college. Not sure whether it occurred to me at the time that I fell in love. Nonetheless, it was unrequited. Often wonder what became of him. Guess I could find out, but in a way not sure I want to.

 

In regards to kissing - there has to be a connection. Sometimes that connection occurs instantaneously and other times it takes a while to build. Other times, I don't feel that connection and we don't kiss as part of sexual play, and that's fine with me.

[+ azdr0710]

sorry, folks, have to say kissing does nothing for me.....no fireworks or lightning at all.....

 

kissing is a very intimate, passionate, symbolic thing.....if the right person comes along that I want to be these things with, maybe my view will change

 

for now, spooning, hugging, cuddling, holding, and rolling around are, among other things, really good for me

[Rudynate]

I really love it. Sometimes, though, it doesn't happen. Those times it doesn't happen, I don't miss it that much.

[big-n-tall]

I LOVE KISSING!!!!!!

 

Always have... always will. It's my trigger. I never had an experience like the one you described @glennnn. I'm not going to go into full on story mode, but I did very sexual things at a very young age with both guys and gals. I never practiced kissing, but watching tv i guess taught me enough that I became good at it very quickly. I kissed mainly girls and didn't have my first real male to male on mouth kiss until my late teens. One of my favorite teen era kisses came from my cousin's girlfriend. She was beautiful and looked a little bit like Janet Jackson. For some reason my cousin dared her to kiss me. She did. I turned beet red. I was giddy... even more so that she told me I was an amazing kisser. I think my cousin was a bit jealous because he never brought her back over to the house after that night.

 

The working guys I see recurrently, are some of the best kissers. Each individual has a specific quality about their kiss... I just can't get a enough of.

[liubit]

Kissing is perhaps the most important act to me. To me, sex without kissing is no sex at all. No kissing, no hiring. Fortunately, I have found that most Czech boys are absolutely passionate kissers.

[BasketBaller]

I have loved kissing since I first kissed a girl at 14. She had been a long time friend, we more or less decided we'd be boyfriend and girlfriend. She was cool and funny and we "practiced" kissing and gave each other tips and feedback. We also made out, I felt her breasts and she'd feel my cock through my pants. But somehow we never went further.

 

Kissing remained a huge part of sex to me once I lost my virginity. I miss my wife's kissing as much as anything.

 

The first time I kissed a man I was startled by his scratchy face, even though he had shaved! I had never thought about that. I love it now, though.

[down_to_business]

Very few hires where kissing wasn't present have been memorable for me. It definitely increases my enjoyment of an encounter and allows me to make that connection I am looking for in order to really enjoy myself. I can play without kissing, but the whole thing is usually rather mechanical and devoid of any passion or excitement. It just seems to make everything else better too.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I love kissing but at this point I am tired of the dictatorship of the mouth eaters advocating for their wet practice as a superior, more intimate, more iconic way to express deeper feelings than any other intercourse practice.

 

No more. Basta.

 

I will continue slapping my tongue into any other lips that want to be licked, eaten, sucked, and chewed. But I will not pretend that because I am eating somebody's face I am in some way involved in and fostering a deeper experience. Hell no.

 

Do you want to know about love? What about scuba diving in your lover's rear end, blinded by the voracious need to eat him, to taste the delicious flavor of his darkest part? What about sinking and sailing and navigating his hole with your tongue, feeling his body trembling in extasis? Do you want me to show you my love? Do not kiss me, let me eat your ass.

 

Do you want to know about love? What about opening the deepest part of you? What about relaxing and letting it go, what about trusting one of the most sensitive and critical parts of your body, which is yourself, what about exposing your darkest secret to your lover? What about just giving yourself to be licked, eaten, perhaps hurt? Do you want me to show you my love? Do not kiss me, eat my ass.

 

And I could write similarly about fucking, sucking dick, role playing, and many more practices.

 

HAPPY 2017 TO EVERYONE.

[MikeyGMin]

It's quite a leap from "I love kissing" to:

the dictatorship of the mouth eaters advocating for their wet practice as a superior

 

Did someone get up on the wrong side of the New Year today?

[N13]

I was kissing boys literally in the closet when I was 8 years old. Kissing girls too. Loved kissing and still do. I think I could go without sex below the waist as long as the kissing is there. However, kissing has never been without some kind of affection - simulated or real. I have turned away from kissing when I didn't feel a connection. Blow jobs in the bushes, fucking in a dark sex room was often without kissing. On the other hand a quick kiss has been a turn on when least expected.

[+ José Soplanucas]

It's quite a leap from "I love kissing" to:

 

 

Did someone get up on the wrong side of the New Year today?

Mike, the whole post is a joke. I'm making a point though.

[+ Charlie]

My first sexual experience with another man, when I was 17, involved all the basic positions (innocent as I was, I didn't even realize till that day that anal sex was a possibility!), but the most thrilling part of it all was when he kissed me on the lips--long, tender kissing. I have often enjoyed sex without kissing, without even wanting to kiss, but I can't imagine romance without kissing.

[Rudynate]

My first sexual experience with another man, when I was 17, involved all the basic positions (innocent as I was, I didn't even realize till that day that anal sex was a possibility!), but the most thrilling part of it all was when he kissed me on the lips--long, tender kissing. I have often enjoyed sex without kissing, without even wanting to kiss, but I can't imagine romance without kissing.

 

 

I still remember vividly the first time a man french-kissed me. I was 18 and he was a very studly guy about ten years older than I. I was totally surprised to have his tongue exploring the inside of my mouth and I've never forgotten it, nor would I ever want to forget it.

[+ glennnn]

Mike, the whole post is a joke. I'm making a point though.

 

Should I feel put down that"the whole post is a joke"? It wasn't a joke to me. I've never known you to be so judgemental. Or did you mean that your response post was a joke? Hope so, and I do get your point. Rimming a guy was a big a deal, too. "Yep! I'm gay!" Duh!!!!!!

[+ José Soplanucas]

My post was a joke when I talk about dictatorship and in general the language. The point I make is that kissing is overrated, even when I am very much into kissing.

I guess my mastery of English is not enough to make this kind of jokes, I am astonished at least two readers took it literally.

[+ glennnn]

My post was a joke when I talk about dictatorship and in general the language. The point I make is that kissing is overrated, even when I am very much into kissing.

I guess my mastery of English is not enough to make this kind of jokes, I am astonished at least two readers took it literally.

 

I should have known better! Sorry! Your command of English is perfect and you are a perfect gentleman. I will never doubt you again.

[MikeyGMin]

My post was a joke when I talk about dictatorship and in general the language. The point I make is that kissing is overrated, even when I am very much into kissing.

I guess my mastery of English is not enough to make this kind of jokes, I am astonished at least two readers took it literally.

Your English is fine! Sarcasm it's just very difficult to pull off without a ton of emoticons and disclaimers.

[kewtex]

I have had my fair share of sex with men, and I have had no problem putting my lips and tongue on almost any part of a man's body (disclosure: not into feet). However, with most of those guys, it was just a f**k, nothing more. We got off, then got on with our lives.

 

I reserve kissing for those men who mean something special to me, those men with whom physical contact is more than just a f**k. Kissing gets me hotter than any other form of stimulation. I hope I never get so old that making out on the couch loses its ability to make me weak in the knees.

[+ Axiom2001]

 

My point in all of this is that now, kissing is so important to me, so erotic, so intimate, because it's the ultimate statement that m/m love exists. I love watching men kiss passionately and it is a huge part of my enjoyment of any time with an escort or other male lover. Did anyone else go through a similar experience with kissing?

 

Glennnn-- I appreciated and enjoyed reading about this special experience and truly concur! I love kissing: very deep and wet and highly passionate action! The act enhances my sexual engagements; it enables me to "get fully engaged" in the man with whom I've connected!

[Racketjock]

For me, kissing lights the spark directly to my dick, gets it hard, and with someone that is a really good tonsil hockey player can get me off without touching anything else. I also like kissing a man with just the slightest bit of stubble. Grrrr.

[Muscle Lover 2]

I'm with what appears to be the majority. If there ain't kissing, what happens otherwise is limited. I don't think I could get turned on enough to bottom without kissing. Always a delight to find another good kisser.

[MartyB]

As I got older kissing became more erotic and made all other aspects of my sexual encounter that more gratifying. A great kisser will make my experience even hotter. Could I do without it sure but I'd like to think I'm a good kisser as well so let's lock lips and have some fun.

[+ Eric Hassan]

On some level, I'm still at that stage where you explore the world with your mouth so you stuff everything you can in your mouth. If I'm not kissing it, I'm rubbing my lips against, licking it, sucking it ... I'll stop here before @mike carey has a heart attack.

 

One tip that I always share with everyone when it comes to being a better kisser is to floss daily. When your mouth is clean, it's healthy and feels good and doesn't stink - kissing is so much more enjoyable!