Clients sharing photos

[nate_sf]

I quietly retired from escorting a couple of years ago after several years in the biz. Recently I've been dipping my toe back in the water, usually during breaks from my day job. Unlike the guy in this thread, I really enjoyed my time escorting and missed it each time I took a break.

 

The question I have for other escorts is, how often these days do clients send you photos of themselves when getting in contact? Since placing an ad on rentmen I've been surprised by the number of prospective clients who send photos of themselves - both face pics and more intimate pics.

 

Back when I was in the game (not all that long ago) it was unusual, and in fact a red flag, when a client sent photos of themselves. However now, with more and more people having smart phones and becoming more accustomed to sexting, I'm wondering if this is what people are doing and is now more par for the course. If this is the case then I shouldn't automatically consider it a red flag.

 

For clients, how often do you send photos of yourself when approaching a prospective escort? Are you more inclined to do so now then you might have been a few years ago?

 

In short, I'm trying to figure out if I just need to get with the times...!

[+ Keith30309]

I think that it's understandable to want some verification of who is going to show up at your door, notably for reasons of physical security, but in many clients minds it creates a few issues:

• Is the escort going to judge and possibly reject or treat me differently based on my physical appearance ?
  
• What is going to happen to the pictures I send? That JPG-genie can't be put back into the bottle once it is out and many clients value discretion.
  
• On general principle why should a client need to pass a test that's not relavent to the core elements of the encounter, assuming matters of safety, integrity and finance are assured.
  

I've been asked once to send a pic; it was by a new companion and I politely declined; I did not hear from him again.

[+ bashful]

I've been asked once to send a pic; it was by a new companion and I politely declined

 

I too would decline.

[+ saminseattle]

I think that it's understandable to want some verification of who is going to show up at your door, notably for reasons of physical security, but in many clients minds it creates a few issues:

• Is the escort going to judge and possibly reject or treat me differently based on my physical appearance ?
  
• What is going to happen to the pictures I send? That JPG-genie can't be put back into the bottle once it is out and many clients value discretion.
  
• On general principle why should a client need to pass a test that's not relavent to the core elements of the encounter, assuming matters of safety, integrity and finance are assured.
  

I've been asked once to send a pic; it was by a new companion and I politely declined; I did not hear from him again.

 

You mean that’s not you in the tux, Keith?

 

I have never sent a picture of myself and don’t believe I ever would. Not that I’m a CFO with a famous last name or anything, but still, it’s not something with which I’d be comfortable. http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/escort-outs-conde-nasts-cfo.106197/ As Keith said, the genie can’t be put back in the bottle. At the same time, I don’t think I would be offended if someone asked. I would politely decline, perhaps give a general description instead, and then the ball would be in the other court.

[LivingnLA]

Millennials are well trained in the selfie & sexting "arts" so I doubt they would hesitate to comply with such a request, unless they were very discreet/DL for various reasons.

 

Personally, I would not send pics of myself. I'm happy to meet someplace in public for a quick chat to confirm compatibility, that neither of us are crazy, etc. but that's part of my standard procedure after that truly terrible criminal first time I had last year.

[+ Phactor]

I would never send a photo to a potential companion. It's my fantasy and I'm paying for it.

 

Just as Keith indicated, I'd be concerned the potential companion will respond differently once they see how physcially unattractive I am. I also lose control of my image. IMHO, if my potential companion is a professional, they will not really care about my appearance because their role is to please me. Their pleasure is from the compensation they receive from me (not that I limit their pleasure to the compensation aspect only).

[+ deej]

Easy answer: I won't send a selfie to myself. Just won't be sent.

 

I can't tell you how many times I've texted my sister when I meant someone else. Fortunately it hasn't been embarrassing but one of THOSE pictures ... ummm, no.

 

It's just not going out.

[mike carey]

Unlike the guy in this thread, I really enjoyed my time escorting and missed it each time I took a break.

Hope you enjoy your toe-dipping no matter how frequent or infrequent, Nate. I'm sure you'll do well at it. As for sending a photo, I'm disinclined to do so and certainly would not send one unsolicited!

[nate_sf]

Thanks all for your responses. I should clarify however that the photos I've received have been unsolicited by me. I didn't ask for them, they were just included in either the initial correspondence or the second email, more or less out of the blue without being asked or suggested. Sorry I can see from my original post that wasn't totally clear.

 

So it's the unsolicited nature of receiving the photos that's puzzled me. I'd never been inclined to ask for photos in the first place, so to receive them was surprising, especially now that it's happened several times.

[LivingnLA]

Thanks all for your responses. I should clarify however that the photos I've received have been unsolicited by me. I didn't ask for them, they were just included in either the initial correspondence or the second email, more or less out of the blue without being asked or suggested. Sorry I can see from my original post that wasn't totally clear.

 

So it's the unsolicited nature of receiving the photos that's puzzled me. I'd never been inclined to ask for photos in the first place, so to receive them was surprising, especially now that it's happened several times.

 

Out of curiosity, is it generationally consistent? In other words, are the people sending unsolicited pics generally younger, older, or a range?

[nate_sf]

Out of curiosity, is it generationally consistent? In other words, are the people sending unsolicited pics generally younger, older, or a range?

 

They're the full range. Being middle-aged myself I've become aware that the younger folks like to do things differently, but in this case it's a full range of age groups.

 

Also I don't want it to sound like I mind receiving the photos, it was more that I was just curious. Like "when did this start happening?"

[BaronArtz]

I was looking at an ad on rentmen. In the review section, I noticed that some clients post their face picture on their client profile ... That surprised me a lot. Not only that it was a fully recognizable face picture, also the fact that this client hired this specific escort. I will say, it turned me off.

[klifhangar]

I have never been asked to send a pic but I have - face only. I would NEVER even take an intimate pic of myself.

 

I have sent a pic just to show that I'm a decent-looking, normal guy. It makes me feel more connected, as well.

[TruHart1]

I would never send a photo to a potential companion. It's my fantasy and I'm paying for it.

 

... IMHO, if my potential companion is a professional, they will not really care about my appearance because their role is to please me. Their pleasure is from the compensation they receive from me (not that I limit their pleasure to the compensation aspect only).

I have been hiring since 2011 and have always described myself as an older, overweight man in any introduction I email or text to a new potential escort. If he requested a picture I would politely decline and pass on hiring him. No one ever has so far, though.

 

There are so many clients who want discretion above almost anything else and would always pass on any escort who required a face picture or even a more intimate shot! In my case, my very first escort (Ares Apollo in NYC) had an ad which did not show his face. Since then, I found my favorite escort in Dallas (Logan Brock) and my favorite in Chicago (Raul G. Manzo, not to mention Dane Scott who was my other favorite there before he relocated to Palm Springs) all through ads which did not show their faces so I have never requested a face picture before hiring them either.

 

TruHart1

[WolfRamNHard]

I have never sent pics to an escort and have never been asked to. If I were asked, I would politely decline because of privacy issues. I have been asked for my stats a couple of times and I don't mind providing that info. I see no point in hiding my stats since the escort will get to know my body anyway when we get together.

 

Related topic - on dating apps as you probably know, people often send unsolicited pics of their erections, buttholes, sexual activities etc. The first time it happened to me, I was shocked and felt a little bit violated for some reason, not sure why. But I quickly got over that. Now I just think it's funny. It's also an outlet for people to indulge their exhibitionist tendencies, and I say let them since it doesn't hurt anyone physically.

[alexslaveboy]

I have never been asked to send a pic but I have - face only. I would NEVER even take an intimate pic of myself.

 

I have sent a pic just to show that I'm a decent-looking, normal guy. It makes me feel more connected, as well.

 

I've done the same, prior to meeting in a public location, I prefer we exchange face only pictures.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I have never been asked for a picture. However, a couple of times I did send one. Sometimes I hire traveling escorts, sometimes I rehire them after a long time. When I contact them again, I attach a face selfie to help them remember who I am.

[liubit]

I have been asked for pictures very few times, and I have declined. It is not so much because of my insecurities, but more about my privacy. In this day and age of social media, photo sharing and so many invasive technological gadgets, you never know what a guy you have never met will do with the pic you provided.

[LADoug1]

I sometimes send a non-x rated pic when hiring to make sure the escort will want to see me. I think I'm naive to the possible negative consequences. This thread is an eye opener.

[Rudynate]

I quietly retired from escorting a couple of years ago after several years in the biz. Recently I've been dipping my toe back in the water, usually during breaks from my day job. Unlike the guy in this thread, I really enjoyed my time escorting and missed it each time I took a break.

 

The question I have for other escorts is, how often these days do clients send you photos of themselves when getting in contact? Since placing an ad on rentmen I've been surprised by the number of prospective clients who send photos of themselves - both face pics and more intimate pics.

 

Back when I was in the game (not all that long ago) it was unusual, and in fact a red flag, when a client sent photos of themselves. However now, with more and more people having smart phones and becoming more accustomed to sexting, I'm wondering if this is what people are doing and is now more par for the course. If this is the case then I shouldn't automatically consider it a red flag.

 

For clients, how often do you send photos of yourself when approaching a prospective escort? Are you more inclined to do so now then you might have been a few years ago?

 

In short, I'm trying to figure out if I just need to get with the times...!

 

I sometimes send a pic or two after I have made an arrangement with an escort.

[BasketBaller]

I have never been asked for a picture. However, a couple of times I did send one. Sometimes I hire traveling escorts, sometimes I rehire them after a long time. When I contact them again, I attach a face selfie to help them remember who I am.

 

I've done the same, the only circumstance in which I've sent a pic. A g-rated "remember me?" to an escort I'd met already.