Is there such a thing as a "3rd visit curse"?

[loverboy95]

As in your first hire was great, the second time you saw him was great as well, but your third time with him was horrible. Anybody here had that experience?

[big-n-tall]

I did, once... First time was great. Second was ok, but i suffered a slight injury (he was very apologetic though). The 3rd time he was cracked out (literally), suffered an episode, and I had to make sure he didn't die.

 

Any other guy I've seen multiple times... well, I still seem them.

[Zman]

Yes I've had this happen. The first visit was erotically charged. The second visit: awkwardness was slipping into the mix but still we got busy. Third visit we went through the motions but both knew we'd never meet again. Sometimes there's a little chemistry to keep the first few visits exciting....but not enough to fuel a long term thing....

[+ purplekow]

I have had this happen. The first happens and then we have lunch, The second time happens and then we have dinner. After the third time, I just want to sleep so I send him home.

[+ Italiano]

I had an AMAZING first time and a HORRIBLE second time with a sort of famous escort from Montreal named Pierre.

[jawjateck]

I've experienced.....blah...and...so-so, but never "horrible". Some guys are hot and fun on a first meeting, but when I meet them a second or third time and get to know them better on a social level, my lust wanes.

[Kenny]

Sometimes it's the anonymity of the sex that heightens the excitement. As the anonymity diminishes, so does the excitement.

[Rudynate]

I had it happen just the other day. First visit great, second visit stellar. On the third visit, scheduled for early afternoon, the escort had been up until the wee hours of the morning and couldn't perform. I was disappointed but not upset. We cuddled and chatted for an hour and he promised me a make-good. We'll see.

[Brian Kevin]

I feel blessed, I've had 2 horror sessions in my life.

 

I sent them both packing without paying (Minneapolis, MN)

 

I've had one other bad experience, when I was in school for LMT I was dating a boy, and always practiced on his (never-gave him 100% as I worried he would steal my job on Craiglist [i'm 18 at this point]) but when I was in school I was charging 80-120$ depending on the "special requests" two moths later me and my BF break up and low and be-hold he is posting ads on CL for massage(mother fucker!!) so one of my regulars informs me he found someone who did hours for 45$. I accepted the loss and wished him the best of luck, he responded with SUCH a hateful message that I did not respond and blocked him. It was a low blow to me, I could accept he found someone else, but the way he responded was that since that guy charged 45$ I should too.

 

The customer is always right, yes! But you get more B(ee)'s with honey(melt) then you do with vinegar.

 

I feel like I have a slight advantage. All my session (unless they are very persistant) start off with a facial, then an actual massage, each time I can change up the session, then our choices of happy endings are vast. Never to repeat the same session twice. It becomes difficult when you have a weekly client, however, you just need to be super creative.

 

IF someone has booked you more than once YOU need to be creative and knock down walls between you and that client(to "explore" his sexuality), if you DO NOT you will lose that regular, THE MORE REGULARS YOU HAVE THE MORE INCOME YOU HAVE.

[+ Truereview]

I feel blessed, I've had 2 horror sessions in my life.

 

I sent them both packing without paying (Minneapolis, MN)

 

I've had one other bad experience, when I was in school for LMT I was dating a boy, and always practiced on his (never-gave him 100% as I worried he would steal my job on Craiglist [i'm 18 at this point]) but when I was in school I was charging 80-120$ depending on the "special requests" two moths later me and my BF break up and low and be-hold he is posting ads on CL for massage(mother fucker!!) so one of my regulars informs me he found someone who did hours for 45$. I accepted the loss and wished him the best of luck, he responded with SUCH a hateful message that I did not respond and blocked him. It was a low blow to me, I could accept he found someone else, but the way he responded was that since that guy charged 45$ I should too.

 

The customer is always right, yes! But you get more B(ee)'s with honey(melt) then you do with vinegar.

 

I feel like I have a slight advantage. All my session (unless they are very persistant) start off with a facial, then an actual massage, each time I can change up the session, then our choices of happy endings are vast. Never to repeat the same session twice. It becomes difficult when you have a weekly client, however, you just need to be super creative.

 

IF someone has booked you more than once YOU need to be creative and knock down walls between you and that client(to "explore" his sexuality), if you DO NOT you will lose that regular, THE MORE REGULARS YOU HAVE THE MORE INCOME YOU HAVE.

BK, your enthusiasm is so refreshing and your client appreciation is heart-warming. At the same time, I think it is not just up to you as the "service" provider to knock down walls, being creative, and exploring. Yes, you are a beautiful, knowledgeable instrument to do that, but your clients also have an accountability to do that as well. From my client perspective, I have to be open and accountable to explore with you. I rather meet with you as my equal . Well, except you are a foot taller than me Anyways, balance and equity are a big turn on for me.

 

As far as the OP - my interest does diminish, and yes, typically around mtg #3. I realize and own the fact that I'm picky, fickle, and have the attention span of a fly when it comes to providers. I'm loyal...to many. That's my curse. To mitigate this, I spread my meetings across the year...time does make the heart (dick?) grow fonder. This is not to say there aren't exceptions...I just haven't found one yet nor am I in a hurry.

 

Deeply flawed but happy, - TR

[+ poolboy48220]

I experienced this with a former porn star / escort. First one or two sessions were breathtaking, the two after that were unmemorable. I'd write this off to his inner conflicts over porn & escorting, though.

 

There've been a few guys that I've seen over and over and would keep doing so, but the shelf life of escorts in Detroit seems to be limited, they all retire. Oh lord, what if it's not Detroit, it's me, and multiple sessions with me convinces them that this is not the business for them...

[MikeyGMin]

As far as the OP - my interest does diminish, and yes, typically around mtg #3. I realize and own the fact that I'm picky, fickle, and have the attention span of a fly when it comes to providers

 

The fact that you own this and don't shift the blame to the escort is very impressive.

 

I'm the exact opposite. When I find someone I like, the sessions get better for me because I get more comfortable with him. However, I am so vanilla, and quite content to repeat the things that I enjoy, that I worry I'm boring the shit out of the poor escort! I always have to remind myself that he isn't there to pursue his own interests and doesn't care if these activities would bore him in his personal life.

[Brian Kevin]

BK, your enthusiasm is so refreshing and your client appreciation is heart-warming. At the same time, I think it is not just up to you as the "service" provider to knock down walls, being creative, and exploring. Yes, you are a beautiful, knowledgeable instrument to do that, but your clients also have an accountability to do that as well. From my client perspective, I have to be open and accountable to explore with you. I rather meet with you as my equal . Well, except you are a foot taller than me Anyways, balance and equity are a big turn on for me.

 

As far as the OP - my interest does diminish, and yes, typically around mtg #3. I realize and own the fact that I'm picky, fickle, and have the attention span of a fly when it comes to providers. I'm loyal...to many. That's my curse. To mitigate this, I spread my meetings across the year...time does make the heart (dick?) grow fonder. This is not to say there aren't exceptions...I just haven't found one yet nor am I in a hurry.

 

Deeply flawed but happy, - TR

 

 

With your response I can say you should give your self much more credit. With you willing to put a foot-forward (if there's ever a 3 legged race, we're partners) in regards to experimenting then you are a warm, open minded soul. You understand what it takes to build, maintain and by the sounds of it re-construct and repair a relationship

 

How about we change the closing of your sentence to something more to match your stunning response and personality.

 

"Highly Respected and Very Happy " (they're all nouns in this case )

 

P:S: Sorry for the like and then the delayed response, I really needed to let that sink in and reread it before responding !

[Guest countryboywny]

The customer is always right, yes! But you get more B(ee)'s with honey(melt) then you do with vinegar.

 

I agree that you catch more bee's with honey than you do with vinegar, but the customer is NOT always right.

[Brian Kevin]

but the customer is NOT always right.

 

I agree and that's why my analogy involved food.

[bigvalboy]

I agree that you catch more bee's with honey than you do with vinegar, but the customer is NOT always right.

 

Amen!!!

[curiousnomore]

I've had it happen twice. First guy: first 2 times great. Third time? Disaster. Neither one of us was really at fault, just bad timing for both of us. Second guy: first time fun. Second time fun. Third time? The formulaic session combined with the generic conversation was a total turn-off.

[MikeyGMin]

Third time? The formulaic session combined with the generic conversation was a total turn-off.

 

That's probably a key factor right there. For me, if I'm going to repeat I need more than the generic conversation. I don't need a bunch of personal information but I can't make a connection with a stage persona. I wouldn't even make it to three sessions if all he was comfortable talking about is the weather.

 

I'm sure this goes both ways. If a client has absolutely no interest in the person behind the stage name, I imagine it would get pretty dull pretty quick.

[Decatur Guy]

I can't really think of any times like that. There aren't that many escorts I've only met three times. I've met some only once or twice because they don't come here much or retired, and there are a few I've met more than three times.

[loverboy95]

I guess this is just a lesson that perhaps some effort is needed to keep the spark going for both the client and the escort. If that spark dies out, I guess it's just not meant to continue.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I don't remember my old regulars, I've seen them many times. I do have a new one I've seen only four times. Our first time was great. Our second one, excellent. In our third one the sex was very good but little problems started to come out, like rushing or looking at the clock. After this we exchanged a few messages where I expressed my disappointment. Our fourth (just 2 days ago) was make up sex, so darn hot! For our next time we are discussing role playing. I want him to be a jehovas witness or a Christian missionary that knocks on my door to spread the Word.

[BabyBoomer]

For our next time we are discussing role playing. I want him to be a jehovas witness or a Christian missionary that knocks on my door to spread the Word.

 

And then you spread his cheeks.

 

~ Boomer ~

[+ Keith30309]

Fortunately I've not experienced this. If I've no chemistry with someone I pretty much know it after the first visit.

 

However, if there is chemistry, things get better as the level of knowledge of each other and trust grows visit after visit. The little barriers begin to drop and comfort and intimacy grow. For me I'm not really sure how I can really know someone well enough to have an outstanding visit after only a couple of hours but if we make it to the third encounter it's likely going to go well.

I do think that sometimes thing plateau at some point... The same script played out again and again gets boring. I think the aware and experienced guys have the skills to navigate thru that.

[geminibear]

I hope not. I am seeing one of my favorite guys soon and this will be our third visit. In summer/fall of 2014 I had met a duo couple that I enjoyed very much but after the third visit things went awry and the fourth was canceled. I will keep my fingers crossed.

[Rudynate]

I don't remember my old regulars, I've seen them many times. I do have a new one I've seen only four times. Our first time was great. Our second one, excellent. In our third one the sex was very good but little problems started to come out, like rushing or looking at the clock. After this we exchanged a few messages where I expressed my disappointment. Our fourth (just 2 days ago) was make up sex, so darn hot! For our next time we are discussing role playing. I want him to be a jehovas witness or a Christian missionary that knocks on my door to spread the Word.

 

There is a LDS church just a block down the street from me, so our neighborhood is saturated with adorable young missionaries. I really enjoy them - polite, smart, clean-cut. Occasionally, one comes to the door who is movie-star hot.

 

One time, I was out walking. I had just gotten out of the hospital after a spine surgery and I was using a walker and making my way along the sidewalk really slowly. This group of missionaries came up and asked how I was doing, did I need any help, was there anything they could do for me, etc., etc. They were so cute and concerned and caring that I was in total heaven. I stood and talked with them for five minutes or so, told them I wasn't looking for a new religion and we went our separate ways.