2nd chances

[down_to_business]

How crazy would it be to give a second chance to an escort who helped himself to the cash in your wallet?

 

Trust has been broken, yes, but the guy is fantastic on so many other fronts. He has a phenomenal body, model good looks, a nice endowment, and the sexual chemistry is great. He is friendly, and kind, and affectionate and he charges reasonable rates (even with the money he stole added )-- like I say, the only flaw is trustworthiness which I realize is a big one!

 

Would it be so unheard of to meet at a hotel (no at this point I wouldn't host him in my home) and simply lock my wallet in the hotel safe?

 

Yes I admit this is the little head thinking for the big head, but there is no comparable around with those looks and rates and like I mentioned above we have chemistry just not trust.

 

 

Not an option : to fly someone else in

[+ azdr0710]

does he already know you know he took your money?....if not, he may think this is a setup.....

 

hell, since this whole hobby is all just for fun, I'd go for it since he meets your preferences in all the other ways.....just make sure everything is locked down tight!....

 

by the way, your description of him got me going!.....mind PMing me with details??!!.....thanks!

[+ Funguy]

does he already know you know he took your money?....if not, he may think this is a setup.....

 

hell, since this whole hobby is all just for fun, I'd go for it since he meets your preferences in all the other ways.....just make sure everything is locked down tight!....

 

by the way, your description of him got me going!.....mind PMing me with details??!!.....thanks!

 

Let's think with the big head - rewarding theft and broken trust is not the best policy.

That being said, if he knows you know, and in keeping with "this is for fun," depending on the amount he stole, flatter him and tell him you want to see him but you want to even the score and start fresh - either a discount or off the books for the next visit. If he rocks your cock so much tell him you would like to be a regular if you can get past the indiscretion. If he says no, delete him from your memory banks.

[+ purplekow]

Ask to do an in-call at his place. Take only what you need and if you are so inclined, you might take a souvenir to settle the score in your own mind. Nothing big, just a payback. On the way out, return it to him.

[+ Cash4Trash]

The purpose of this site is to warn clients about escorts who do just this type of thing. How many others has he stolen from?

[Diverdan]

NO, NO, NO... as the old saying goes, there are many fish in the sea. I hope you got back to him with the fact that he stole from you. Nothing good can come from a repeat visit, even at his place or at a hotel. If he is capable of stealing from you in your own home (which I assume it was), what is to prevent him from doing much worse things....

[+ Gar1eth]

If I knew it was definitely him, I'd say no. But is this one of those cases where you want approval for doing something you know you shouldn't but are probably going to do anyway? I'm not judging you if it is. I've done the same things myself. And if I'm wrong I apologize. But if you do meet him, please take as much precautions as you can.

 

Gman

[Guest borger1582]

I'm the last person to hurt feelings, but NO!! I've been stolen from by employees who were personally very close to me (our mothers died of the same disease at the same time). Do NOT encourage this behavior! It hurts them as much as it hurts you - even if they don't stop behaving that way.

[jusmeinbr]

I have to wonder if the old saying about too good to be true may not apply here. If he's that hot and satisfying and fulfilling, why are his rates so low? Perhaps because he's feeding a habit costing much more than even market rates can fulfill. Hence, an act of desperation in the hope you had hundreds of dollars in your wallet. Whatever his motive, his action should tell you all you need to know, and I'm stunned you even have a desire to meet with him again, but that's just what my feeling would be, and I'm one who enjoys being subservient when having an encounter with an escort.

 

Kevin

[+ dutchmuch]

As others have stated, hiring him again is rewarding bad behavior.

And if you do, what is he going to swipe from you next time?

[RyanDean]

You asked "how crazy" would it be to offer this 2nd chance...

 

This scenario strikes me as pretty up there on the "doing the same thing & expecting different results" scale. I mean -- maybe if you said something like "last time our time together cost me [name 'price' and theft] so let's just agree on that at the outset so there are no surprises" -- you'd at least be letting him know that being ripped off is not a "turn on" or part of your "scene." Even so, it does seem that you're likely to be surprised/disappointed/harmed by him again. If that's an acceptable (to you) "cost" of being with this guy, then I guess it's up to you to just own that, yeah, this is pretty crazy but somehow worth it (at least for you).

[bigvalboy]

The answer is (D)... all of the above. A thief is a thief...period. In my opinion it is the ultimate level of disrespect. And besides, there is only so much a hotel safe can hold.

[+ azdr0710]

gee, now I feel like crap for my original post upthread!!......thinking with the "little head"??.....sorry, guys!......it's just that dtb's description of the dude got me going and dtb didn't seem too terribly upset about the robbery!!

[loverboy95]

You should be staying far away from this person! Once trust is broken with me there is no going back! He will probably do the same thing again.

[Epigonos]

The first time he stole from you -- Shame on him. If you give him a second chance and he happens to do something similar then -- Shame on you!

 

My next point is just off the top of my head. My guess it that you have already decided to hire him again and that you are looking for assurance here that it is the right thing to do. Do what you want to do and don't look for validation here or anywhere else for that matter.

[gallahadesquire]

Just to play "Devil's Advocate," or whatever it would be in this situation:

 

Are you positive he stole from you? My own style, and I am unanimous in this, for carrying money is to fold it and cram it into my pocket,

generally highest denomination innermost. It would be very easy for someone to slip out a fifty and my not notice it.

 

Of course, most of reality is a tad more organized. But I do ask: Are you sure he stole it?

 

Given the extent to which your world was rocked, I, too, might be tempted to re-hire. On the other hand, I felt raped--and dissolved a friendship

for five years--when a friend not only took a check and gave himself money for "work done around the house" but also bought me a new stove,

and didn't tell me until he assumed it was delivered and installed.

 

In other words, I'd be more taken aback by the act of having someone look into my wallet, than by stealing.

 

Again: Devil's advocate.

[jimboivyo]

How crazy would it be to give a second chance to an escort who helped himself to the cash in your wallet?

 

Trust has been broken, yes, but the guy is fantastic on so many other fronts. He has a phenomenal body, model good looks, a nice endowment, and the sexual chemistry is great. He is friendly, and kind, and affectionate and he charges reasonable rates (even with the money he stole added )-- like I say, the only flaw is trustworthiness which I realize is a big one!

 

Would it be so unheard of to meet at a hotel (no at this point I wouldn't host him in my home) and simply lock my wallet in the hotel safe?

 

Yes I admit this is the little head thinking for the big head, but there is no comparable around with those looks and rates and like I mentioned above we have chemistry just not trust.

 

 

Not an option : to fly someone else in

 

 

trust is everything. stop being foolish

[TruHart1]

I really just can't believe it...

 

...It's like your just begging for it and enjoying the fact your getting screwed (in a bad way).

 

This is sort of the same impression I got when reading the original post. If you are sexually stimulated by hiring a thief, by all means repeat it, just be careful because if he feels he got away with it before, who knows whether or not he may escalate his disrespectful behavior in a more destructive way.

 

TruHart1

[down_to_business]

Interesting perspectives, thanks.

 

Theft was approximately $80-$150, but I am sure he thought he was going to be getting more because I had won a large slot machine jackpot earlier. He just didn't know that I had repaid a casino marker with it.

 

Circumstances surrounding theft. Money in wallet for certain entering hotel room (even tried buying soda from vending machine just before entering room with cash), locked and deadbolted door behind me. Escort left early morning to catch his flight home. Deadbolt opened and relocked behind him. Get dressed in morning and wallet is empty of all cash. No other room occupants but us.

 

The reason I brought it up was he texted me out of blue and there were lots of good memories from other overnight where he didn't steal anything (but I had locked my wallet up and not stupidly left it out).

 

I actually been screwed over so much worse by escorts in the past, that the $80-$150 wasn't a big deal -- it was the act itself that was. But like I said he is smoking hot and so good in so many other ways. He didn't hurt me, blackmail me, threaten me, or other really bad things escorts have done to me in the past.

 

Again thanks for your comments, and what I will do is..... nothing for now... but I may or may not give him a second chance-- and if I do, I will simply lock my valuables up like I should have in the first place.

[Tonyko]

A thief is a THIEF. If your cleaning lady did it you'd fire her. (btw they're ALWAYS handsome and charming and good company, that's why Cary Grant and Robert Wagner played them:-)

[bigvalboy]

Interesting perspectives, thanks.

 

Theft was approximately $80-$150, but I am sure he thought he was going to be getting more because I had won a large slot machine jackpot earlier. He just didn't know that I had repaid a casino marker with it.

 

Circumstances surrounding theft. Money in wallet for certain entering hotel room (even tried buying soda from vending machine just before entering room with cash), locked and deadbolted door behind me. Escort left early morning to catch his flight home. Deadbolt opened and relocked behind him. Get dressed in morning and wallet is empty of all cash. No other room occupants but us.

 

The reason I brought it up was he texted me out of blue and there were lots of good memories from other overnight where he didn't steal anything (but I had locked my wallet up and not stupidly left it out).

 

I actually been screwed over so much worse by escorts in the past, that the $80-$150 wasn't a big deal -- it was the act itself that was. But like I said he is smoking hot and so good in so many other ways. He didn't hurt me, blackmail me, threaten me, or other really bad things escorts have done to me in the past.

 

Again thanks for your comments, and what I will do is..... nothing for now... but I may or may not give him a second chance-- and if I do, I will simply lock my valuables up like I should have in the first place.

 

Just one last comment D2B....and this is strictly my opinion. Should you decide to see him again, and it sounds like that might occur, I personally would not discuss the matter at all. It's over, you resolved it, just take the obvious precautions going forward. I think any discussion might ruin, or change for the worse, the chemistry that you have with him. I'm guessing it's the chemistry that is so important, so at least preserve that. For me, it would be hard to be intimate with someone that had disrespected me, but that's just me, and we are all different...good luck.

[Guy Fawkes]

Would it be rude of me to request that I be the one that defines the purpose of the site. Your definition is a too narrow a view for my taste. That being said, better the devil I know. I give 'em a 2nd chance most of the time.

 

The purpose of this site is to warn clients about escorts who do just this type of thing. How many others has he stolen from?

[Guy Fawkes]

Grandma said: "Burn me once shame on you; Burn me twice shame on me!"

 

That being said, I tend to give them a 2nd chance and I lock up the valuables.

 

 

How crazy would it be to give a second chance to an escort who helped himself to the cash in your wallet?

 

Trust has been broken, yes, but the guy is fantastic on so many other fronts. He has a phenomenal body, model good looks, a nice endowment, and the sexual chemistry is great. He is friendly, and kind, and affectionate and he charges reasonable rates (even with the money he stole added )-- like I say, the only flaw is trustworthiness which I realize is a big one!

 

Would it be so unheard of to meet at a hotel (no at this point I wouldn't host him in my home) and simply lock my wallet in the hotel safe?

 

Yes I admit this is the little head thinking for the big head, but there is no comparable around with those looks and rates and like I mentioned above we have chemistry just not trust.

 

 

Not an option : to fly someone else in

[+ deej]

Would it be rude of me to request that I be the one that defines the purpose of the site. Your definition is a too narrow a view for my taste.

 

Good point. I seem to recall Hooboy's original intent was celebrating the success stories.

[tom1980]

I'm apparently more tolerant of theft than a lot of people around here. I have a certain relative who visits a couple times per year and things mysteriously disappear with every visit. They are little things . . . books from my personal library, Christmas tree ornaments, DVDs, and (most strange) a tape measure. I never mention it, and my wife and I have begun treating it like a game (putting things that might be appealing to him in the guest room before his arrival (I'm thinking about a screw driver just to see) and checking the house after he leaves to figure out what's missing). Because we find it so entertaining, we've decided not to confront him.

 

The point of my story is that I'm willing to forgive a little theft in exchange for being entertained, and it sounds like this guy is very . . . ahem . . . entertaining. If you enjoy him that much, then hire him again and make sure to lock your valuable away. Of course, if you're looking for some additional entertainment value, you could leave whatever amount of money you'd consider giving as a tip on the bedside table in small bills (like 10s, 5s, and 1s) and make sure it is separate from the escort's fee (e.g., put the fee on the hotel room desk). It would be interesting to see if the "tip" is still there when the guy departs.