Escorts that sleep

[OceanTraveller]

This is the second time that I've had an escort that was really tired from being out all night . I picked him up at the airport and he nodded off in my vehicle and could not hold a conversation . We got home and he went to bed so now I am on this forum . This is a multi-day hire .. it is evening and my dinner will be ready soon, I guess if he sleeps until tonight I should have a talk with him after all I'm not paying to look after someone this weekend . Would it be proper to end the appointment and take him back to the airport with his 24 hour fee ?

Ocean:confused:

[instudiocity]

You didn't say if he flew in from the same time zone or across the country, and you didn't say what your expectations were for the first day ...

 

But you should feel free to end the appointment anytime you want to end it. But as to airfare, can you get him out tonight for no additional costs?

[+ azdr0710]

a multi-day hire?....gee, I'd just let him catch up on his sleep for now and then tell him you'd like to get back on schedule asap....

 

have you met him before?....if so, maybe you have enough rapport to tell him honestly your opinion....see how he replies....if he's a bit sheepish about it all, maybe the 24-hour thing should be suggested....if he is apologetic and sincere, keep him for the whole time.....good luck

[maxwellissmart]

Would it be proper to end the appointment and take him back to the airport with his 24 hour fee ?

Ocean:confused:

 

To be blunt, you're a customer paying for a service—and I assume that doesn't include being a doormat. I would take him back to the airport immediately, post a negative review and see if you can't salvage the rest of the weekend with someone else.

[+ purplekow]

I would wake him and ask him to shower and get ready for dinner. He should not have any excuse for being tired during the evening and night. I would also mention that you were disappointed in his arriving so tired as you had made some plans for the day. If he is contrite, give him a second chance. If he becomes defensive, I would kick him to the curb with the 24 hour fee.

[raulgmanzo]

Sounds like you are in the habit of hiring guys who are just a little too busy.

 

This is the second time that I've had an escort that was really tired from being out all night . I picked him up at the airport and he nodded off in my vehicle and could not hold a conversation . We got home and he went to bed so now I am on this forum . This is a multi-day hire .. it is evening and my dinner will be ready soon, I guess if he sleeps until tonight I should have a talk with him after all I'm not paying to look after someone this weekend . Would it be proper to end the appointment and take him back to the airport with his 24 hour fee ?

Ocean:confused:

[jimboivyo]

I see it two ways. He was a fool for knowing he had a date the next day and staying out so late. That's his issue.

 

If this is multiple days, I'd let him get some sleep now and get on to your schedule tonight. Make the best of this. Turn it around. It seems like a simple fix. There's no need to jump to a conclusion, send him home early and end up posting on the message center all weekend about how bitter you are about it.

[OceanTraveller]

The flight was a 2 1/2 hour flight ..I will just handle it the best that I can and I will have a talk with him ...will let him sleep for now ..Thanks for the replies !

[Steven_Draker]

Sorry to hear about this, Ocean. I understand this is a multiple-day or weekend hire. Have you met this escort before or it's the first time? How well do you know him? Why an escort would show up tired/being out all night and this for a second time with you? Have you agreed on anything with him beforehand?

 

There are many questions and without more information it would be hard for you to get a sound advice. I'm not jumping on the bandwagon of slamming the "competition" before we have more details about the situation.

 

I think PurpleKow and Jimboivyo have a point there. You need to talk to him.

[Decatur Guy]

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, I present Exhibit T on why Decatur Guy does not do fly-ins or overnights.

[Dave]

perhaps this is time to ask yourself, at this point in time, do you want to be with him? i mean, how are you really feeling about this appointment right now?

 

sometimes the feeling of wanting to be with someone gets lost. the person you're with does something that has "killed the magic". if that's how you feel - perhaps a little grossed out with his inability to be professional, or perhaps feeling a little neglected or just not feeling like youre one of his priorities - then one course of action is appropriate.

 

but if you still do feel like being with him, then another course of action would be right. in that case, the suggestions that azdr0710, purplekow, and jimboivyo gave seem smart to me.

 

personally, i would give him the benefit of the doubt - at least to hear what his explanation is once he's awake and able to have a proper conversation. i might even let him get up and see if he mentions it first - see how he handles it (that could be rather telling in itself!)

 

oy gevalt - good luck, OceanTraveller. sorry you have to deal with this in the first place.

[OceanTraveller]

I have seen him before . The experience was o.k. and I thought another time would break the ice a little more so to speak . He bought me a meal last time which was a first . This is through an agency and I did email his agent .I will let him sleep for now and the dinner that I got up at 7:00am to make is almost ready so I will just eat alone and put it away . I will see his agent .This guy has not had any sleep for days according to him .

[Dave]

Sounds like you are in the habit of hiring guys who are just a little too busy.

 

wait, so you hired him before and it wasnt that great then, too?

in that case, i think Raul makes a good point.

 

and say, DecaturGuy, aren't you lumping all fly-ins or overnights into one big "they dont work" category? gee

[Steven_Draker]

This guy has not had any sleep for days according to him.

 

because of ...?

[+ dupontversDC]

There's really only one reason he wouldn't have slept for DAYS. And that alone is a reason to kick him to the curb with a review and call to the agency.

[raulgmanzo]

There's really only one reason he wouldn't have slept for DAYS...

 

Well as someone who used to suffer bouts of insomnia I disagree. There seem to be a lot of reasons a person would not get sleep. Or at least not very good or not very much sleep. Which is what people often mean when they say they haven't slept. One of my grandmothers was an extreme insomniac who actually remembered each and every one of the few times she had a sound sleep in her life.

 

Luckily I've finally out grown most of my insomnia and learned a few tricks that help me get a good sound sleep most nights.

[PATRICK12]

"The guy has not slept for days" - then he should sleep in his own time - he is in a "service" industry - even if we take it that his company is for companship only then he hardly performs to that spec. either.

[Steven_Draker]

Well as someone who used to suffer bouts of insomnia I disagree. There seem to be a lot of reasons a person would not get sleep.

 

Members of the jury, don't make speculations without accountability.

 

Let the Plaintiff speak up for.

[gcursor]

It's been a hard day's night

 

First, I know from experience that multi-day hires are very costly. Saying that, the person may have had a pretty bad patch of life lately to be so terribly tired. If this were the second time that I had hired this person and this is how they are acting then I would probably think that it's not meant to be. I wouldn't post a negative review per se though because it doesn't rise to the level of doing that for me.

 

As I said once before, once you are in this "level" of the game then certain things are probably expected. When I go to see a concert then I expect that the singer won't perform with a hoarse voice. I know when I used to teach computer classes, sometimes I would be so nervous the night before and have a terrible time sleeping. But the show must go on and the next day the students would all leave feeling entertained and a bit more knowledgeable.

 

Multi-days and overnights and 24 hours are something that personally I have to save a while for to do the way I expect them to be done. I hope that people show me the respect and courtesy of understanding that to make these things work, it is definitely a 2-way street and both parties have to work at it and not just "phone it in".

 

gcursor

 

This is the second time that I've had an escort that was really tired from being out all night . I picked him up at the airport and he nodded off in my vehicle and could not hold a conversation . We got home and he went to bed so now I am on this forum . This is a multi-day hire .. it is evening and my dinner will be ready soon, I guess if he sleeps until tonight I should have a talk with him after all I'm not paying to look after someone this weekend . Would it be proper to end the appointment and take him back to the airport with his 24 hour fee ?

Ocean:confused:

[Dave]

this is ridiculous. i just spoke with Ocean via phone - he called me to talk. the poor guy is so upset and mixed up. i wish i could do something to help him.

 

but i think i'm writing "this is ridiculous" because honestly, if it were me, i wouldve made sure i didnt need to sleep upon the start of my appointment - period. if some weird thing happened to me - like i was up all night because my house caught fire, my sister had a crisis and i was helping her deal with it, or i ended up taking my neighbor to the emergency room in the middle of the night - i wouldve called my client to explain what was going on at some point before seeing him.

 

and if for some reason i couldnt let him know beforehand that he would be seeing me in a compromised state (and simultaneously apologize for it!), then i would CERTAINLY tell him as soon as i greeted him in the airport.

 

i mean, come on, on some level - even with the best excuse in the world for needing sleep - the guy is not acting professionally. so i know i wrote "give him the benefit of the doubt / let him explain" earlier, and although i still would do that - i would assert that he fukked up with his poor communication from the onset.

[RexAll]

First, I know from experience that multi-day hires are very costly. Saying that, the person may have had a pretty bad patch of life lately to be so terribly tired. If this were the second time that I had hired this person and this is how they are acting then I would probably think that it's not meant to be. I wouldn't post a negative review per se though because it doesn't rise to the level of doing that.

gcursor

 

Sigh- I know this comment isn't going to help, but I just can't stop. GC, you admit you have to save up a lot for an overnight or multiday appointment, and yet if the escort blatantly takes advantage of you by sleeping most of the time away, and the actions don't rise to the level of writing a bad review-- ay yi yi!!

 

GC,I might not have mentioned this, but I was just stood up for a late night appointment by a guy on Daddy's with a few good reviews. He kept me waiting for 3 hours with the last text being that he was shortly to depart for my place. He apologized the next day. And we tried to do it again. My last text to him of where we going to meet a hotel went unanswered. And be never showed up--again. I'm this close to writing up the no-sho's. But he's cute I thought he had a good reputation - and I want to see him. So you see GC, I'm mad at both of us. And wish we would both grow a pair along with a backbone at the same time.

 

 

As for the escort in question, I hope Ocean reveals who it is before I end up hiring him.

I can say I had a similar experience with the Irish guy who used to be on Maximum's site. Stephen talked him up like he was the next best thing to sliced bread- and unfortunately the escort fulfilled a typical Irish stereotype-wanted to go out drinking- then when we got back to the hotel ( it was an away trip for my birthday)- he was too tired for sex.

 

One of my most expensive hires ever- a Multiday from Maximum- and it stank big time. To be only slightly fair to the escort- he hadn't been escorting long at that point. I think the Multiday away from NYC freaked him out a bit. But on the other hand, I think he was an Irish guy who liked and did drink a lot anyway. I really blame Stephen for over- hyping the guy.

 

I like overnights and weekends although with the economy I haven't done any in a year. But the experience with Maximum was so disappointing, and they are so expensive, that

even though I routinely drool over the pictures of their guys, I'm too shell shocked to try them again.

 

Rex

[adriano46]

WOW does the original posting from Ocean Traveler bring back some (awful) memories for me.

 

About a decade ago, I often flew guys in or took them to a nice resort for a couple of days. I was still in my late 40's, had a lot of ready cash, and costs for overnights and weekends were much more reasonable. But, I learned the hard way that I had to really vet a guy more carefully before commiting myself to so much time (and such a lay out of cash). A very small handful of guys I met at that time (Europeans) were 100% terrific, but I did not want to fly them to the US where I had just returned ater years overseas. Only Joey Ciccone ft the bill as an American escort at the time who I could spend 2, 3 or more days with, and really have a good time. Joey may have been tired from traveling or from so many other things he was always juggling in his life, but once he kocked on my door, the charm was turned ON and we always had a great time.

 

Once, he had had a particularly difficult time with his ex-wife and son (year he was bi but man was he every sexual with other men!!!), and was both physically and emotionally exhausted when he arrived. Right up front he told me what happened. Since I knew the background a bit, I agreed to let him sleep a few hours (he suggested 4 or 5), while I went out to do some errands and eat. I got back to the room at the agreed time for his nap to end, discovered him just finishing a lengthy bath and ready (really READY) to go. I appreciated his telling me right away what happened; for the rest of the 3-day weekend, he was amazing. (And on a separate note, really miss not seeing him anymore).

 

Sadly 3 or 4 others who I flew in for 3- or 4-day trips were not as enjoyable, and one was a complete rip-off. These days I only do overngihts with an excort I have seen more than once, and often for up to 3 or 4 hours at a time, including social time outside of the bed, to assure we have something to do when not in bed.

 

Ocean T, if I was in the situation you have - and this was a guy from an agency - I would call the agency immediately and demand a reduction in the price. Then have the agency call the guy and wake him up pronto or else. That the agency knowingly sent him out when he was "exhausted" is a disgrace and bad businessmanship. And having once had a bad encounter with one escort from MAXIMUM, I know they can sometimes hide the truth.

 

If the guy snaps out of it (meaning, you give him a second chance) fine. But if not, I would rop him at the airport with the fee for 24 hours and let him figure out what to do until his flight takes off. Sorry, but rude behaviour such as that shown by the escort (according o what we know so far) is inexcusable. The agency should have he balls to recall him, offer you a major discount and let you get on with your life.

[rocky]

I agree with maxwellissmart; you have made arrangements for pay, not to let the young man have some

r&r time. I've had the same thing recently with my escort friend. He'll sleep all morning and I had to

get going then I feel bad when I say,well guess no fun times I have to get going. I think there are some

common curtisy issues here.

[+ Axiom2001]

I see it two ways. He was a fool for knowing he had a date the next day and staying out so late. That's his issue.

 

If this is multiple days, I'd let him get some sleep now and get on to your schedule tonight. Make the best of this. Turn it around. It seems like a simple fix. There's no need to jump to a conclusion, send him home early and end up posting on the message center all weekend about how bitter you are about it.

 

I like jimboivyo's response. It's more in the way in which I'd deal with this particular escort and situation!! - -

[Lookin]

Why not call 911 and tell them you're having trouble rousing your houseguest? http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif Maybe a refreshing night's sleep in the ER would encourage him to re-evaluate his career choices.

 

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