Is no oral a deal killer?

[nomad]

He's fine with you servicing him.  If a provider doesn't care to suck you, is it boner or deal killer?  Even if he checks all the other boxes for what you're looking for.  

[DMonDude]

Not for me. There's almost no one unchecked box that is a deal breaker for me personally if all or even just most other boxes are checked. I'd just find another guy who's known for great oral when I'm really itching for that.

In my experience, I've never found one guy that checks more than 3/4ths of my boxes, let alone all but one. So I've mostly just accepted I'll always need at least a couple main guys to collectively cover all my boxes.

Edited 16 hours ago by DMonDude

[Heart It Deep]

I actually don't enjoy getting sucked, so I don't care.  I do loved being rimmed/eaten out.  But unfortunately it seems very few providers do that.  (Or rather, quite  few inquiries I've made, it's one of their few limitations.)

[viewing ownly]

If it's an escort session, and it's not expected to be of the muscle worship of him variety, not getting sucked is unacceptable. It took me a long time to figure out that the list of what they're into on rent men is primarily what they're into having done to them, and not what they're willing to do mutually. 

If you're referring to no oral in a massage session, that's expecting much. I just don't appreciate a sudden avoidance of a happy ending when the massage was sensual throughout. I've demanded a release with a couple of hires when they tried to leave me with blue balls. I can jerk myself off at home. Finish me off! If the massage is therapeutic, then obviously getting head is not to be done.

[liubit]

Not getting sucked is an almost-dealbreaker for me. Almost. What is really unacceptable is no kissing. If I don’t get kissed, I don’t get hard: I am just wired that way. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[big-n-tall]

3 hours ago, liubit said:

Not getting sucked is an almost-dealbreaker for me. Almost. What is really unacceptable is no kissing. If I don’t get kissed, I don’t get hard: I am just wired that way. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Oral… I’m ok without it in a session. Although I do love it, especially if the guy is good at it.

However, kissing is my trigger. So much so that if I continue to kiss during/shortly after orgasm I’ll stay erect or get hard again fairly quickly. Deep passionate kisses at the right time could keep me going for hours if the provider is so inclined.

Nothing is absolute and I have been in sessions without kissing and still enjoyed my time. With kissing though I’m usually over the moon.

[Mark_fl]

It kind of is for me. Yes, I can enjoy a session without it, but always feels like a letdown. I  wouldn't rebook unless it was clearly something he's comfortable with.

[Rayphactor]

For me, it is a showstopper unless I've already established a provider/client relationship.

[DunwoodyGuy]

Yes--and it must be mutual.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

6 hours ago, big-n-tall said:

Oral… I’m ok without it in a session. Although I do love it, especially if the guy is good at it.

I agree.  If the guy is smart 🤓, I like to start with a good oral conversation because I find that adds to the attractiveness of a guy.  But if the guy is not a good orator, then I stop the conversation and move on to activities that doesn't involve his mouth.