*Escorting in 2026: Is it too much trouble?

[JB_Studio38]

1 hour ago, SkyBliss said:

As a client in NYC, I can see the effects of the sheer number of scammers/time wasters now.

 

Every single provider I’ve inquired with in the past 2 days requests an uber ride/lyft. 
 

Much better option for me than to give a deposit. 

But it is clear that providers are sick of the flakers/ picture collectors/ scammers just as much as we are sick of deposit snatchers.

 

In my case I wouldn’t request an Uber or Lyft because I take my own commute. But I can understand NYC being a different market. I also tend to stick with cities that are easier to get around.

Despite the differing opinions on here, I generally don’t have an issue arranging deposits. Before deposits, I’ve had times where someone may have to cancel en route to them for whatever reason, so it’s too much of a risk these days especially since my commute can be anywhere from half an hour to a few hours.

[mike carey]

Ladies and Gentlemen, we need to restore some decorum to some discussion themes in the forum. So, another reminder, this time to maintain civility in this thread and to refrain from overly aggressive back and forth responses. Opinions both ways about deposits have been canvassed extensively, and while new insights are welcome, endless restating of your fervently held opinions soon descends into trolling, and that serves none of us well. Other comments on the wider theme of escorting in 2026 are also welcome.

[JB_Studio38]

On 3/4/2026 at 3:44 PM, Alabastrine said:

I read it a bit differently: more like the apps enabling people with situational horniness and no other mutual requirement- just dime-a-dozen (I think that is what the "trashy" comment may have been aimed at) to meet up relieve each other. Most people can get laid anytime they want without paying for it, it just depends on what standards they have to filter consenting partners. I would understand a provider's frustration when that makes it more difficult to find clients. 

I’m on a couple other “gay forums” that aren’t escort related, and the amount of topics that discuss “hookup culture” and how some struggle with it, is endless. 
 

Some people out there, don’t mind miscellaneous hookups. But for some people that’s all they want to bring to the table. That’s why sometimes I rather go out to a public place and meet someone where there’s at least some kind of “storyline” behind it, versus just being on apps or going to a bathhouse where there’s whole premise is just, “show me your dick”. 
 

And yes I’ll play for “without charge” every so often, but there has to be some sort of organic connection at play. It’s amazing how insulting some guys get when the topic of funds come up. What I don’t like about hookup culture is, people out here doing what escorts do for free…and just messing up the whole game.
 

Like I was about to fuck with a guy few months ago, at his hotel while he was visiting town. But then he’s like, “my partner doesn’t let me do sleepovers, and I’m going to dinner with coworkers.” I’m thinking to myself like, so I’m basically I’m going to provide free escort services, for nothing? I know married clients who don’t even treat me that shitty. 
 

I got dressed, and made my exit before it went any further 🚪 it’s not simply hooking up that’s the issue. It’s these open relationship dudes who come to town for business, expecting everyone to be okay giving them freebies. Then they get an attitude when someone has a little dignity for themselves. Like geez, even if you don’t pay me…at least show that I’m worth spending time with. 

Edited Tuesday at 08:07 AM by JB_Studio38

[+ SidewaysDM]

On 3/2/2026 at 7:39 AM, Mark_fl said:

I think one doesn't need to look much further than social media. The epidemic of 'influincers' who are completely phony and people who don't live life, but document their fake life to get views and followers is frightening. 

Maybe it's generational, but I don't have Instagram, tic toc,  or whatever else they are using, so obviously I don't follow anyone on anything except YouTube which I'm sure the new generation is long over.

But when so many think the easy path to not really working is doing these things with enough followers, instant gratification and anonymity are causing a downward spiral.

I completely agree with your assessment on the toxicity of social media on our society, Mark_fl. “ Instant gratification and anonymity are causing a downward spiral.” Perfectly stated and accurate statement!
 

The anonymity and lack of respect for others, definitely plays a huge roll in many of the struggles that providers have to deal with. 

I have befriended two of my regular providers. The stories of cyber bullying, stalking and harassment that they have shared with me are frightening. One of the provders never hosts at his own home, due to safety and security issues. These providers are well established, and have numerous positive reviews on CoM and RM.   

In closing, I just want to thank all of the awesome providers who are working hard, being kind and caring to their clients, despite the barrage of negativity and toxicity. Your service to our community is greatly appreciated and valued. 

Being an eternal optimist, I believe we can do better with each other on this awesome platform. Showing kindness and respect for each other, is crucial to the future success of our community. As the world becomes more complicated and challenging, we as a gay community need to tolerate and accept and embrace each other, despite our differences. 

With Respect to all of the providers and clients in this community. 
 

Dave M. 

[aiseeya]

Some of y'all need to touch grass. Hiring is a tertier needs at best. Completely out of touch and live in your distopian bubble. Trashing 'hookup culture' as if 'hiring culture' is any better 🤦‍♂️

[JB_Studio38]

6 hours ago, aiseeya said:

Some of y'all need to touch grass. Hiring is a tertier needs at best. Completely out of touch and live in your distopian bubble. Trashing 'hookup culture' as if 'hiring culture' is any better 🤦‍♂️

You don’t have to make it make sense to me. I already know which feels better to me, and in my opinion: I feel better after a session with a client, than a “hookup”.

I just made a thread about it the other week. One of my hookups, he promised to cook breakfast, made it seem like we had so much chemistry: but then the next morning he was more interested in going to Costco and keeping it “quiet” for his roommate. On top of that, we didn’t even exchange numbers 🤦🏽‍♂️ But he was talking about his boyfriend in Michigan, so I figured he’d give it to me if he desired to. 
 

I did disclose my escort status to him, but he wasn’t interested in paying. But his body, dick and ass had me 😵‍💫 so I kinda just allowed myself to enjoy it. But afterwards, I kinda wish I hadn’t done it. And the very next day I had a client who gave me $500. So it’s like, I spent unnecessary “energy” on someone who didn’t care to keep in touch, but then got $$$ from a client who now wants to be a regular. 

[jeezifonly]

If the question about too much trouble is posed to escorts, the answer must be no, because new escorts continue to advertise, book, and re-up their ads, and develop regulars. 

If the same is posed to clients, the answer is also no, because clients commenting here keep patronizing the providers. Once they are purely hooking up with other non-pros online, this forum goes away. It hasn't. 👏

If "is it too much trouble?" is posed by the questioner to his reflection in the mirror, well... most of his posts indicate that it absolutely is. 

[+ Alabastrine]

On 3/10/2026 at 3:50 PM, aiseeya said:

Some of y'all need to touch grass. Hiring is a tertier needs at best. Completely out of touch and live in your distopian bubble. Trashing 'hookup culture' as if 'hiring culture' is any better 🤦‍♂️

Both serve different purposes, so in that respect I wouldn't say they're equal in terms of both being worse. 

If people wanna hook up, cool, "you be you" and it's all good. 

I do have the option to hook up, but in my case my free time is very rare and precious and don't feel like casting myself out to the multitude of time-wasters and "random dick" where chances are slim they would have any idea how to please me- in my experience most people suck in bed and who has "time fo dat?"?? That's a number's game that's not fulfilling or viable to me, I don't have time or tolerance for disappointment so hiring is the better solution for me. 

Edited yesterday at 12:15 AM by Alabastrine

[BoyGeorgeandMarilyn]

8 minutes ago, Alabastrine said:

Both serve different purposes, so in that respect I wouldn't say they're equal in terms of both being worse. 

If people wanna hook up, cool, "you be you" and it's all good. 

I do have the option to hook up, but in my case my free time is very rare and precious and don't feel like casting myself out to the multitude of time-wasters and "random dick" where chances are slim they would have any idea how to please me- in my experience most people suck in bed and who has "time fo dat?"?? That's a number's game that's not fulfilling or viable to me, I don't have time or tolerance for disappointment so hiring is the better solution for me. 

If you work as an escort, you might face a lot of problems! You might meet loonies! You might get addicted to alcohols and drugs cause you are considered like a pece of meat and clients might be patronizing! Clients are often not in good shape overweight and VERY unattractive! Its a risk to take!

[+ Alabastrine]

3 hours ago, BoyGeorgeandMarilyn said:

If you work as an escort, you might face a lot of problems! You might meet loonies! You might get addicted to alcohols and drugs cause you are considered like a pece of meat and clients might be patronizing! Clients are often not in good shape overweight and VERY unattractive! Its a risk to take!

Yes those are all very real downsides of escorting, and for those reasons I try to be my provider's favorite client by being freshly showered & groomed, kind,  pay in cash and include a tip. 

Edited yesterday at 03:38 AM by Alabastrine

[BoyGeorgeandMarilyn]

8 hours ago, Alabastrine said:

Yes those are all very real downsides of escorting, and for those reasons I try to be my provider's favorite client by being freshly showered & groomed, kind,  pay in cash and include a tip. 

Being fresh is not always MANDATORY for clients! Quite sadly! The other downside is eventually spending as quickly as possible  what may be considered by some male hookers as DIRTY MONEY!

[+ Gar1eth]

On 3/5/2026 at 3:13 PM, JB_Studio38 said:

have an active thread on same day appointments, but my last response explains why it is not always productive: but it doesn’t mean I’m “upset” about it. However, some people ALWAYS expect a same day booking. Sometimes it’s the same ones as well. 
 

I am speaking from my experience as a client even though for the most part I haven't hired since 2017 ( I hired one guy in 2018), and I've had something like 4 erotic massages. But the last one was probably in 2019 or 2020. 
 

So while it's been awhile, and my memory is not perfect, I'd have to say that an awful lot of my hires were same day. If they couldn't host, back then I had a career that I could afford a hotel or motel. Now often once I met them, the escort might become a semi-regular for me.  But still they were often same day appts.
 

Of course if the escort was traveling to my city, then I'd often contact therm beforehand. And obviously if I was planning an overnight or a weekend, I'd set it up beforehand. 
 

But it sounds like because of your daily schedule, where you live or travel, and possibly your expectations of how meetings should occur, that same day doesn't often work for you. But unless things have changed I'm sure there are still reputable escorts who advertise their availability on short term notice. 

 

[marylander1940]

Life (usually) is as difficult as we would like it to be.

[marylander1940]

On 3/10/2026 at 4:50 PM, aiseeya said:

Some of y'all need to touch grass. Hiring is a tertier needs at best. Completely out of touch and live in your distopian bubble. Trashing 'hookup culture' as if 'hiring culture' is any better 🤦‍♂️

They're different, yet they complement each other.

I'm aware some folks on here come with an "I'm-holier-than-thou" approach in this site of all possible places. Beyond hypocritical! 

 

12 hours ago, BoyGeorgeandMarilyn said:

If you work as an escort, you might face a lot of problems! You might meet loonies! You might get addicted to alcohols and drugs cause you are considered like a pece of meat and clients might be patronizing! Clients are often not in good shape overweight and VERY unattractive! Its a risk to take!

yes, that's what makes it a business.

Don't you forget about socially awkward folks. 

Thank you for your honest post! 

 

[BoyGeorgeandMarilyn]

7 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

They're different, yet they complement each other.

I'm aware some folks on here come with an "I'm-holier-than-thou" approach in this site of all possible places. Beyond hypocritical! 

 

yes, that's what makes it a business.

Don't you forget about socially awkward folks. 

Thank you for your honest post! 

 

7 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

They're different, yet they complement each other.

I'm aware some folks on here come with an "I'm-holier-than-thou" approach in this site of all possible places. Beyond hypocritical! 

 

yes, that's what makes it a business.

Don't you forget about socially awkward folks. 

Thank you for your honest post! 

 

I used to work as an escort in Brussels in my youth! So I know what I am talking about!  To be honest I met more interesting people than in the gay scene! I near fell in love with one of my clients! Really! I have been to all 4 or 5 stars of the town! Conrad Hotel Where Bill Clinton and Jean-Claude Van damme stayed and also the gorgeous Amigo Hotel next to the famous Grand Place ! Catherine Deneuve was a regular client there! That was the good size of it but the other part was less glamourous.... 

[+ sync]

The old days were the best, go to a hustler bar or walk East 53rd Street between Lexington and Third in NYC after dark where the trade would be loitering .  Just meet, greet, close the deal and be off to a local by-the-hour hospitality venue.

I'm so proud of myself, I'm not half the slut I used to be.  😇

[+ Alabastrine]

6 hours ago, sync said:

The old days were the best, go to a hustler bar or walk East 53rd Street between Lexington and Third in NYC after dark where the trade would be loitering .  Just meet, greet, close the deal and be off to a local by-the-hour hospitality venue.

I'm so proud of myself, I'm not half the slut I used to be.  😇

Saint Marks Hotel in the EV also had rooms by the hour, not sure if they still do... But not that I would know anything about that 😇😈