Do you ever contact RM reviewers for more info on reviews?

[thruster]

I do. But only after I have first searched Company of Men for details on a provider. If I don't find enough detail,  I send two or three recent RM reviewers RM messages asking about the guy they have reviewed and whom I'm thinking of hiring.
 

I keep my requests simple, saying something like "I see you enjoyed your time with ____ last month and I'm thinking of meeting him. I'd be grateful for any details you're willing to share."

I never ask reviewers about rates.  I only ask providers directly about rates.

And I find that typically 1 out of 3 RM reviewers respond to me, and I think that's a great response rate. Their responses vary in detail, and some are much more helpful to making my hiring decision than others, but nevertheless I always thank responders for taking the time to help me.

About 1 out of 8 RM reviewers open a more expansive discussion with me.

 

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

Funny you should ask

I just got such a request this evening.  My username is similar on RM.  So I’m instantly suspicious of someone who contacts me there rather than here.  In this case, the client profile had 61 reviews (all on 1/15/26), 61,000+ profile reviews over 10+ yrs, and a profile age of 28   So, I’m suspicious and I contacted the provider to let him know before I respond.

Like you, I’d never discuss rates but I’d also not discuss other details either since different chemistries lead to different experiences  

I did have someone contact me a couple months ago   Asked for info on a provider I’d reviewed in Chicago.  Was way too forthcoming with personal info and even shared his cell #…I looked him up on MrNumber and saw a number of red flags and then warned all the providers he’d asked about  

 

[+ Just Chuck]

I’ve found RM reviewers who are here and happily contact them here.

I’ve contacted reviewers who appear on expired ads and asked if they happen to have any contact information for the provider with the expired ad. I’ve had pretty good luck with that. I tell the provider that I had saved their contact information from when the ad was current.

[mtaabq]

I regularly contact RM members directly for info on providers and like @PhileasFogg about 1 in 3 will respond to me. That is, of course, after I research a provider here first. I also receive about 1 inquiry a month asking me about providers whom I have reviewed. I try to keep it light and middle of the road whether it be a positive review or less so. 

[BigK]

I’ve been contacted many times about reviews I’ve written.  I always respond as I would hope somebody else would respond to my inquiries..

[ErnieJBurton]

Yes, with limited success. It only occurred to me to try after someone contacted me about a provider I’d reviewed.

 

[Decatur Guy]

Yes, particularly if the person isn't reviewed or discussed on here. And I'm finding fewer and fewer reviews/discussions on the providers that I want additional info on. In that regard, this site unfortunately is becoming less relevant to me. 

[Mark_fl]

The review situation on RM is less than worthless. Anyone who contacts a provider through the site and sees them should be able to post a permanent review. And the provider should be allowed to respond. If a reviewer turns out to be illegitimate,  block them from reviewing.

That's it. And there should not be shade throws for a less-than 5 star review. Every provider isn't for everyone. Because all they seem to allow are 5 star reviews by paying members, they all mean zippo. And you can't even read the details. Idiotic.

Probably providers reviewing their friends or themselves through other IDs. Better off eliminating the rating system completely then leaving it as it now stands.