Heart It Deep Posted November 30 Posted November 30 9 hours ago, sniper said: If you're not significantly overweight you may never have experienced this, but a lot of escorts are fitness buffs. Many (not all, but probably most) fitness buffs are actually turned off if not outright repulsed by fat and for too many, their professionalism is not sufficient to overcome their visible aversion. For the gentleman of size this makes hiring a somewhat riskier proposition. So if you can find someone who's actively into it it greatly increases your odds of a good time. Especially because most providers don't ask for pics beforehand, they literally don't know what to expect. Also depending on one's exact build even 20% bodyfat can look VERY different on two people who have different muscle mass. This video demonstrates that and it's very eye opening. + Alabastrine 1
Heart It Deep Posted November 30 Posted November 30 2 hours ago, mrkileen said: So instead of complaining, consider your options. 1. Lose weight 2. Be happy if a provider agrees to meet you at all 3. Don't hire 4. Do nothing and complain about it. This is YOUR problem, why does it have to burden others. #1 here is a bit harsh. We all have different challenges, and some of us may be struggling in our fat loss/body recomp journeys. Getting enough sleep is paramount, and with my work schedule it's a big reason I struggle to loose. Also- there are a myriad of reasons people may be overfat, including genetic conditions. + Alabastrine and Danny-Darko 1 1
marylander1940 Posted November 30 Posted November 30 (edited) Many escorts know overweight clients of all sizes and ages are a big part of the market and therefore they're accustomed to see them, whether in their private life they are truly attracted to having hookups, dating or having a LTR with men like that is a different thing. Acting/playing along is a big part of their interactions with all clients. Edited November 30 by marylander1940 mrkileen, Peter Eater, pubic_assistance and 1 other 4
SidewaysDM Posted November 30 Posted November 30 I love this spirited conversation! I have struggled with my weight, my whole life. Everyone in my family is either overweight or obese. But, it still doesn’t completely eliminate my responsibility in my failure to maintain a healthy weight. Frankly, one of the reasons I turn to food for comfort is the fact that I have been shamed by family members and friends for being bisexual. But at the end of the day, I have to channel that negativity into the something positive, including eating healthier and getting more exercise.
SidewaysDM Posted November 30 Posted November 30 Also, I do respect and am grateful for the providers that will accommodate older chubs like me. The great majority of men on RM are in great physical shape. So I understand that many may not be attracted to a guy like me. Ideally, I am hoping to find a provider that is kind, considerate and compassionate with my physical shape and age. Thank you, guys for this forum. Kauaipres, marylander1940, + Alabastrine and 1 other 3 1
jmichaeliii Posted December 1 Posted December 1 1 hour ago, SidewaysDM said: Also, I do respect and am grateful for the providers that will accommodate older chubs like me. The great majority of men on RM are in great physical shape. So I understand that many may not be attracted to a guy like me. Ideally, I am hoping to find a provider that is kind, considerate and compassionate with my physical shape and age. Thank you, guys for this forum. Being an older chub, thats really only one factor. If you are a clean, respectful and kind older chub, there are plenty of hot guys that are happy to meet with you and show you a great time. I speak from my own experiences. Kauaipres, SidewaysDM and Danny-Darko 1 2
SidewaysDM Posted December 1 Posted December 1 My rule of life is to treat everyone with respect and courtesy. Also, being clean is essential for the client and provider. Your comment really makes me more confident and positive about finding a provider that will show me a good time. Thanks so much! marylander1940, mrkileen, jmichaeliii and 1 other 2 2
Bargara Leatherboy Posted December 1 Posted December 1 I am a large chub /bear. I always ask the question when speaking with a potential escort, I describe my height and weight and ask if they are good with it. Some have said - no we are not a fit and that cool. Others have been fine - and they are the men who get my $. I have to say honesty works and I rarely have a session where I don't enjoy myself. However that poster who gave such amazing advice like, loose weight, stop hiring is just an ass. Providers if they can manage us earn a lot from us, as we are unlikely to get picked up in a bar or at a bathhouse. So we choose to hire ...... + Alabastrine, Reggyreg56, ketut and 5 others 4 1 3
+ sync Posted December 1 Posted December 1 21 hours ago, mrkileen said: So instead of complaining, consider your options. 1. Lose weight 2. Be happy if a provider agrees to meet you at all 3. Don't hire 4. Do nothing and complain about it. This is YOUR problem, why does it have to burden others. "Who hurt you?" SeanPlayTime, Pd1_jap, Hen and 3 others 1 5
Cooper Posted December 1 Posted December 1 Administrator’s Message Gentlemen, Perhaps this would be a good time to remind you of Rule #1 of our Guidelines. It’s called Civility. Please! Stop with the body shaming. 🙏 1. Civility: Conduct yourself in a way that respects this site and all who come here. Hate speech/hateful speech, name-calling/labelling, inciting or engaging in arguments, publicly shaming, and attacking other members, groups of members, or people who are the topic of discussion is prohibited. Remember: you may criticize a person's opinion but don't attack the person. + poolboy48220, Danny-Darko, Pd1_jap and 7 others 3 7
Walt Posted December 2 Posted December 2 On 11/30/2025 at 8:06 PM, jmichaeliii said: Being an older chub, thats really only one factor. If you are a clean, respectful and kind older chub, there are plenty of hot guys that are happy to meet with you and show you a great time. I speak from my own experiences. So share your experience--and name names! 🙂 marylander1940, Hen, Reggyreg56 and 1 other 2 1 1
SecretProvider Posted December 2 Posted December 2 On 11/28/2025 at 4:21 PM, Reggyreg56 said: In my experience some providers give less effort if there is no attraction to the client. Any feedback would be appreciated. It sucks that you feel this way dude. A good worker would not make you feel like that. I would hope that you go with a provider that has been around a while, and has good feedback. Another option that may help if you go with a provider who is also in the category of 'bear' or 'chub' themselves.
Reggyreg56 Posted December 2 Author Posted December 2 7 minutes ago, SecretProvider said: It sucks that you feel this way dude. A good worker would not make you feel like that. I would hope that you go with a provider that has been around a while, and has good feedback. Another option that may help if you go with a provider who is also in the category of 'bear' or 'chub' themselves. Thank you for your kind words! You guys have really been great with your advice and recommendations. I will be using the filter feature and looking for guys that have bears in their profile from now on. Thank you!
jmichaeliii Posted December 2 Posted December 2 50 minutes ago, Walt said: So share your experience--and name names! 🙂 I have 5 guys in Philly I have had great times with. I've also met with 3 porn stars in Vegas. DM me if you want more detail. Jay_lucas 1
jmichaeliii Posted December 2 Posted December 2 18 minutes ago, SecretProvider said: It sucks that you feel this way dude. A good worker would not make you feel like that. I would hope that you go with a provider that has been around a while, and has good feedback. Another option that may help if you go with a provider who is also in the category of 'bear' or 'chub' themselves. In fairness some do. When I first started hiring I had a few, but I have learned over time to read profiles more carefully as the providers that come off full of themselves have been less than stellar experiences. And when you find one you click with, stick with them as the sessions tend to get better as you get comfortable with each other. Jay_lucas, Whatsupandstuff, SidewaysDM and 1 other 2 2
Gilfson Posted December 2 Posted December 2 On 11/28/2025 at 1:21 PM, Reggyreg56 said: Does anyone know of any providers who are actually attracted to chubs? In my experience some providers give less effort if there is no attraction to the client. Any feedback would be appreciated. Messaged you! FunInTheSun, Jay_lucas, Peter Eater and 3 others 4 2
pubic_assistance Posted December 2 Posted December 2 On 11/30/2025 at 10:46 PM, marylander1940 said: Acting/playing along is a big part of their interactions with all clients. Exactly correct. If it weren't for escorts, unattractive people would never get laid. Most skilled providers are accustomed to overweight customers. As far as those with an actual fat-fetish, it may be a good idea to look for providers who are also out of shape. They will find obesity to be more of a normal state and will focus more on your personality. + BOZO T CLOWN, Danny-Darko, SecretProvider and 3 others 4 1 1
Reggyreg56 Posted December 2 Author Posted December 2 3 hours ago, Gilfson said: Messaged you! Thank you! I will take a look!
mike carey Posted December 3 Posted December 3 16 hours ago, Reggyreg56 said: Thank you! I will take a look! Do that! Peter Eater and Reggyreg56 1 1
ElleWoods Posted December 3 Posted December 3 On 11/28/2025 at 4:21 PM, Reggyreg56 said: Does anyone know of any providers who are actually attracted to chubs? In my experience some providers give less effort if there is no attraction to the client. Any feedback would be appreciated. What state(s) are you considering to meet a provider? Here in NYC, I can honestly say that only two providers have made me feel that my weight didn’t matter. My weight fluctuates but they always treated me the same way. DM me if you want their info. Danny-Darko, pubic_assistance and TomKTwoZero 2 1
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted December 3 Posted December 3 20 hours ago, pubic_assistance said: As far as those with an actual fat-fetish, it may be a good idea to look for providers who are also out of shape. On the contrary, my experience both in hiring and hookups have been that the guys with a fat fetish are themselves fit bodybuilders. I've ran across a few Rent Men profiles of fit body builders that said "Into Bears/Big/Chubby Men". I've hooked up with several fit bodybuilders, but alas they won't leave their husbands who are all bigger, fatter, and older than me. (And I'm self-described morbidly obese). There's a couple in Vegas who goes to the local Bear bar to pick up big men (I was one of their pick-ups). They use the fit jock bodybuilder as bait, but the truth is both of the husbands are into big men. mike carey, Pd1_jap, Hen and 2 others 3 2
Jay_lucas Posted December 3 Posted December 3 Hey everyone , my name is Jay and I live in Philadelphia. I welcome everyone in my book that i see. I always think it’s about connection and how you vibe with the client. not the persons looks itself. One of my best clients that I see for days out of the month is a bigger man he has one biggest hearts only one of my favorite clients to see. rentmen.com/jay_lucas + Gar1eth, + Vegas_Millennial, DenverDad and 1 other 2 1 1
mike carey Posted December 3 Posted December 3 JAY_LUCAS - Male Escort, Gay massage - Philadelphia | Rent.Men RENT.MEN JAY_LUCAS Gay Escort in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, available for Modeling,Available for videos,Boyfriend Experience. |... Danny-Darko and Jay_lucas 1 1
Walt Posted December 4 Posted December 4 21 hours ago, ElleWoods said: Here in NYC, I can honestly say that only two providers have made me feel that my weight didn’t matter. My weight fluctuates but they always treated me the same way. DM me if you want their info. This site is about sharing info about providers, and people recommend providers all the time in posts-- so I assume you think they would be embarrassed to be identified publicly as great guys who are equal opportunity providers??? pubic_assistance 1
Peter Eater Posted December 4 Posted December 4 (edited) The OP asked COM for recommendations of providers. In 49 reply posts, exactly 2 recommendations were made. (Plus a couple by providers.) Both recommendations were in the first reply. ”Older chubs” seems to be a trigger. Maybe this topic thread should be moved into Questions About Hiring, or closed. Edited December 4 by Peter Eater Jay_lucas and Walt 1 1
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