Request you haven't made to a provider or client

[Simon Suraci]

I want you all here to know you can ask ME for anything. I won’t judge you.

I can 99% of the time spot the difference between a guy wanting to sext for free and a client simply asking respectfully for his specific needs and interests. Most of you here are in the latter camp.

This is part of the fun and benefit to hiring:

1) get exactly what you want, no fuss

2) explore things without judgement

3) discover new and exciting interests

4) feel safe, honest, open, and free

For those of you who don’t know what you want (or are too uncomfortable to ask), maybe ask the provider to try things and feel it out, go with the flow. But don’t have any expectations for your provider to be ready to bottom. That’s one of my pet peeves: a client that won’t tell me he wants to top until after the fact and I have to say no because I am not ready for it. But had he asked ahead, I could have accommodated him.

Likewise, who knows if he is ready to top when you’re only hiring massage but then requesting full service in the moment (for his appropriate fee) only to discover he just had multiple clients paying him to cum and he is not in a position to offer you optimal top service. Consider things like that. You may luck out, but asking for things ahead helps us make sure we can do what you want us to do. We can’t read minds, and we don’t want to disappoint you.

Similar commentary regarding other practical matters for requests taking more time, materials, preparation, gear, or setup to fulfill. Think about what your provider needs to know to fulfill your desires and ask for it ahead.

On 11/16/2025 at 12:45 AM, Jamie21 said:

Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! 

A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client. 
 

@Jamie21 this is so hot. I take a similar approach with some of my clients I sense want to go to these kinds of places with me. A positive reaction to a light spank, for instance, may be all I need to proceed.

[jackcali]

I have a suggestion for the OP or for others who don't "know what they want".  I think that really think means more that you haven't come into the session with a planned scenario to direct or stage-manage and you're not sure how to get started.  My suggestion is to start with kissing (if you're into kissing, of course).  That's how most (of my, anyway) unpaid encounters have begun.  Better from my perspective to start kissing before the clothes come off, as undressing while kissing is exciting for me.  Then, once you're past the "how do we start" speed bump, if the kissing revs your engine), your desires for what happens next will make themselves apparent to you.  THEN you can direct where things go, even if that's to tell the escort to take charge from there. 

[Nikba]

On 11/14/2025 at 3:29 AM, MscleLovr said:

I enjoy giving a light spanking before topping, especially if it’s to a muscleboy with a bubble-butt.

I love getting my cock worshipped fully but initially I had a provider who didn’t like the taste of cum. So I had to concentrate on pulling out before climax. It was very frustrating for me.

So on later hirings, I decided to speak about it in advance. I simply related how I wanted to get oral to completion, and not have to worry about pulling out. I offered some flexibility by saying I didn’t care if a guy swallowed my load or not. 

Luckily I met a couple of muscleboys who were skilled oralists. Each of them told me they enjoyed pleasing a top by swallowing loads. 

It is so endearing when the guy showing a mouthful of cum before swallowing it.  

[Nightowl]

12 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

I want you all here to know you can ask ME for anything. I won’t judge you.

I’m going to remember this if I get a chance to see you when you’re in my area!

[Wings246]

On 11/18/2025 at 7:00 PM, purplekow said:

It is unfair to expect the escort to guess what is going to work for you as he has lots of clients with lots of different preferences.

 

On 11/18/2025 at 7:02 PM, Simon Suraci said:

asking for things ahead helps us make sure we can do what you want us to do. We can’t read minds, and we don’t want to disappoint you.

I am fully aware that my I-don’t-know response is childish, unproductive, and toxic.  Thank you to @purplekow, @Simon Suraci, and @jackcali for your suggestions.  I will keep them in mind and be a more responsible person in the future.

Ironically though, it seems like all of the providers that I have met understand me way better than I understand myself.  They can deliver & perform miraculously without any explicit directions from me.  Regardless, I do see why I need to be more vocal.  Some of the ideas in this thread, albeit wild, are rather tantalizing.