Has anyone hired someone just to talk to?

[Erbenle]

Question:

Has anyone here ever hired someone in this space not primarily for sex — more to hang out, talk, connect, or even have conversations about sensuality or sexuality without it necessarily becoming physical?

I’m curious if that’s something people do — hiring someone for companionship, conversation, maybe some intimacy in the sense of closeness, but without expecting a sexual encounter to be the goal. If you’ve done it (on either side of the experience), how did it go and what should someone know before exploring that?

[56harrisond]

Companionship threads 

 

[maninsoma]

Prepandemic I remember reading about people for hire to just cuddle and talk.

I'd suggest that if you want to hire someone just to talk with that it would make more sense to hire a trained counselor than a sex worker, unless you want to just engage in sex talk.

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Erbenle said:

Question:

Has anyone here ever hired someone in this space not primarily for sex — more to hang out, talk, connect, or even have conversations about sensuality or sexuality without it necessarily becoming physical?

I’m curious if that’s something people do — hiring someone for companionship, conversation, maybe some intimacy in the sense of closeness, but without expecting a sexual encounter to be the goal. If you’ve done it (on either side of the experience), how did it go and what should someone know before exploring that?

I can relate. I suffer from migraines, and there have been times I had a session scheduled after a long travel/work day and was wiped out by evening. I wasn’t in the mood for sex, but I didn’t want to cancel at the last minute either, so I kept the appointment. What I ended up valuing most was the company; the chance to talk, cuddle, and just be close. Some of those non-sexual nights actually made the next session better because the comfort and connection carried over. It wasn’t the plan, but that low-pressure intimacy led to some of the best BFE experiences later on.

[Erbenle]

Thanks. 

[+ azdr0710]

Probably much more common than you think. Still, make sure you meet with someone who knows that's going to happen and not with someone who isn't prepared to listen and interact with you in that way. 

[+ azdr0710]

another similar thread......

 

[Gilfson]

6 hours ago, Erbenle said:

Question:

Has anyone here ever hired someone in this space not primarily for sex — more to hang out, talk, connect, or even have conversations about sensuality or sexuality without it necessarily becoming physical?

I’m curious if that’s something people do — hiring someone for companionship, conversation, maybe some intimacy in the sense of closeness, but without expecting a sexual encounter to be the goal. If you’ve done it (on either side of the experience), how did it go and what should someone know before exploring that?

I’ve been hired for companionship many times. It’s always been great lots of good conversation maybe a few drinks! I’ve spent weekends with guys where sex was never on the table. It’s a nice break from the sex work aspect sometimes!

[+ PhileasFogg]

I have one regular that indicates that 40% of his appointments just want to talk 

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve been hired for this kind of thing. Sex isn’t the point of the hire, nor is massage. It could happen but the purpose of the session is connection, companionship and closeness (physically and emotionally). If those things are achieved then sex sometimes happens just because you’re intimate with someone. There’s no pressure or expectation to have sex. We have done things like have a meal, bathe together, watch TV, go for a walk, visit a sauna, swim, gym session, lay in bed cuddling. The important thing is you do what the client wants, focus on them. 

[JTtorretto]

70% of my income is for chill, slow stroke sessions [with or without other substances involved, porn etc]. However, I’ve been hired to watch a Law & Order too, to be the “big spoon” in a cuddle scenario, and to bake cookies.
 

some clients specifically enjoy hiring specifically because they have a fetish for the “sex for hire” scene (tho don’t want sex themselves) but rather to live thru it vicariously by hearing about my fun encounters and activities.  
 

If a perspective client contacts me and explicitly states that they are solely looking to be “pounded out for 2hrs” I let them know that they’d be better served by someone who’s more of a sex worker [i.e. South American immigrant boy with a “third leg” & grasp of the english language isn’t of any importance etc] rather than an escort like myself.

 

With that being said it’s likely an All American dude like myself will likely receive more companionship type calls.  
 

 

Edited Monday at 09:02 AM by JTtorretto

[GentJ]

Yep! I'm getting a fair amount of that now. Love it! No Law & Order yet. That's the dream!! 😄

[Wings246]

I used to believe I'm the weird outlier who values emotional connections just as much as (if not more than) the physical aspect of sexual contacts.  However, after reading the various comments surrounding this topic, it seems like this feeling/desire is more common than I previously assumed.  To answer the OP's question directly, yes, I did hire someone just to talk to.  Although that is my primary objective, sometimes the conversations and emotional interactions naturally lead to sex afterwards.  I suppose that can be interpreted as the essence of a BFE.

[Simon Suraci]

I love these sessions. I agree with much of what others have already said. It’s much less frequent for me (almost everyone wants sex-and, or sex-only), but I enjoy the men hiring me for dinner dates, cuddling, chatting, and other forms of general companionship. So many men need safety, a no judgment zone, and to be heard and seen. 

[Erbenle]

On 9/29/2025 at 12:54 PM, GentJ said:

Yep! I'm getting a fair amount of that now. Love it! No Law & Order yet. That's the dream!! 😄

How do I meet you?  Ha. I like to hear that you’re enjoying it!  Thanks for that. 

[Muscleking]

I’ve hired lads just to hang out and have a proper chat. Sometimes it kicks off with me talking about my day or what’s been winding me up, and from there the conversation may turns to deeper desires. We might stick a bit of porn on, and occasionally we’ll have a wank together, though not every time. I really enjoy sessions like that, they feel more meaningful and connecting, but still give me that bit of satisfaction. Feels like two mates just getting together for a bit of man time.