Do you like to cuddle with an escort?

[marylander1940]

Do you like to cuddle with an escort? 

[marylander1940]

6 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

With an escort you can always cuddle after you cum and I guess most of us do. 

I'm surprised you want to have your HE at minute 35 and not at the very end of the session. I do understand trying to do something other than hanging out considering he's a masseur. 

There was an old thread about reverse HE... meaning HE at the beginning and the massage after. 

[pubic_assistance]

I hire escorts for sex. Not affection.

So cuddling after sex is NOT something I want and would turn down if offered. 

Like a lot of men, I compartmentalize my sex life. I still enjoy the company of my wife, so any needs for affection are still satisfied at home. But like a LOT of people, when youre married for nearly two decades, your sex life at home takes a nose-dive and its nice to be able to branch out and find other ways to satisfy those needs. 

I do still feel very happy curled up next to my wife (and former bestie). So cuddling with anyone else would feel wrong to me. Not just with an escort. 

 

[marylander1940]

Just now, pubic_assistance said:

I hire escorts for sex. Not affection.

So cuddling after sex is NOT something I want and would turn down if offered. 

Like a lot of men, I compartmentalize my sex life. I still enjoy the company of my wife, so any needs for affection are still satisfied at home. But like a LOT of people, when youre married for nearly two decades, your sex life at home takes a nose-dive and its nice to be able to branch out and find other ways to satisfy those needs. 

I do still feel very happy curled up next to my wife (and former bestie). So cuddling with anyone else would feel wrong to me. Not just with an escort. 

 

Some people here hire them because they can't get hot young guys on their own. 

Whoever came up with the phrase "hiring out of convenience, not need" should be paid royalties. It's like saying "no expectations" on a hookup app.

[caramelsub]

15 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Some people here hire them because they can't get hot young guys on their own. 

I get what you are saying, but I don't think being young equals being attractive, and vice versa. There are many guys I find sexy that are in their 60s. I even find myself fantasizing about my boss who’s in his 60s. He’s in shape with a handsome face. On the other end, there are some guys in their 20s and 30s that I don’t find attractive or hot at all. 

[marylander1940]

7 minutes ago, caramelsub said:

I get what you are saying, but I don't think being young equals being attractive, and vice versa. There are many guys I find sexy that are in their 60s. I even find myself fantasizing about my boss who’s in his 60s. He’s in shape with a handsome face. On the other end, there are some guys in their 20s and 30s that I don’t find attractive or hot at all. 

I never said it did. Plenty of out of shape young men nowadays something very unusual when I was young.

It's unusual for a guy he's 60s to be hot, let's acknowledge that.

Besides (one more time) we're talking about escorts... how many guys escort pass 40 or 50?  Not a huge percentage and that's for a reason.

Would you like to talk pictures of your boss in this thread 😂😆?

Do you think he looks like most of these guys?

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/82271-silver-foxes-and-dilfs/#comment-907089

Edited July 21 by marylander1940

[Nightowl]

42 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

I hire escorts for sex. Not affection.

So cuddling after sex is NOT something I want and would turn down if offered. 

Like a lot of men, I compartmentalize my sex life. I still enjoy the company of my wife, so any needs for affection are still satisfied at home. But like a LOT of people, when youre married for nearly two decades, your sex life at home takes a nose-dive and its nice to be able to branch out and find other ways to satisfy those needs. 

I do still feel very happy curled up next to my wife (and former bestie). So cuddling with anyone else would feel wrong to me. Not just with an escort. 

 

You and I have very similar situations except, in my case, there is very little touch or physical affection at home.  If I am with an escort I know well and click with, I welcome the chance to spend time after sex, chatting while continuing to hold and touch one another.  If I’m with a new provider or one with whom I have no chemistry, I’m outta there fairly quickly.

[+ Jamie21]

People hire for all sorts of reasons but in my experience a very common reason is that they’re looking for intimacy. They can get sex, the physical act but getting intimacy as well as sex is something that’s much more elusive.

By intimacy I mean things like a build up, a seduction, sex as an exploration rather than as a destination. They don’t get that at home or from hookups. They can get it from an escort (a good one) or masseur who goes that far (basically a masseur/escort). Sure some guys just want to get railed quickly but if you do that and then offer them the slower more intimate approach they tell you they enjoyed the slower session more. I guess it’s the old adage: it’s the journey not the destination. 

[Cbilly17]

If the chemistry is right I will definitely cuddle during and after sex.

Edited July 22 by Cbilly17

[+ DrownedBoy]

This may sounds weird, but a lot of providers I met initiate cuddling.

Good marketing move. Endorphins help for rehire, and it makes some clients feel special.

[+ ApexNomad]

On 7/21/2025 at 5:51 PM, Jamie21 said:

People hire for all sorts of reasons but in my experience a very common reason is that they’re looking for intimacy. They can get sex, the physical act but getting intimacy as well as sex is something that’s much more elusive.

By intimacy I mean things like a build up, a seduction, sex as an exploration rather than as a destination. They don’t get that at home or from hookups. They can get it from an escort (a good one) or masseur who goes that far (basically a masseur/escort). Sure some guys just want to get railed quickly but if you do that and then offer them the slower more intimate approach they tell you they enjoyed the slower session more. I guess it’s the old adage: it’s the journey not the destination. 

Absolutely!

It’s not always about sex. Sometimes it’s just about being held. Letting your guard down. Letting someone see you when you’re not posturing or performing. That kind of intimacy is rare.

I think a lot of men crave that, whether they admit it or not. We’re not taught to ask for affection. We’re taught to muscle through pain. To suppress. To compartmentalize. Certainly my generation was. So when someone finally offers softness without judgment, it can feel like a kind of salvation.

[+ Jamie21]

6 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

Absolutely!

It’s not always about sex. Sometimes it’s just about being held. Letting your guard down. Letting someone see you when you’re not posturing or performing. That kind of intimacy is rare.

I think a lot of men crave that, whether they admit it or not. We’re not taught to ask for affection. We’re taught to muscle through pain. To suppress. To compartmentalize. Certainly my generation was. So when someone finally offers softness without judgment, it can feel like a kind of salvation.

Yep, men always playing a role that they think they need to play, through having learned it, feeling conditioned by society / religion / family to play it. Hiring can give them an opportunity to be their real selves for a while and maybe start to learn that skill to take outside of the session.

I think of it as ‘You want to be your real self? Whatever that is? Ok let’s take our clothes off because they are masking you. Let’s drop our guards by communicating without words because they are loaded with judgment and meaning. Let’s use a primal human need like sex (and touch, and intimacy) to let go of all the labels and roles and judgments. How does that feel? 

I’d say that’s what’s going on in 75% of my sessions. Clients come first for the massage, and the sex, but they come back for the opportunity to be intimate, vulnerable and to find themselves. Same with me, I started doing the work thinking it was about massage and sex. Now I see it as something else. 

[Nightowl]

12 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Clients come first for the massage, and the sex, but they come back for the opportunity to be intimate, vulnerable and to find themselves. Same with me, I started doing the work thinking it was about massage and sex. Now I see it as something else. 

This captures my feeling exactly.  Once trust and rapport with a provider is established it becomes easy to let my guard down and be my true self.  That openness and intimacy, and the associated memories, can keeps me energized and smiling long after the session is over.  If I were younger I would have seriously considered giving other men that same feeling by becoming a provider. Unfortunately, when I was younger I didn’t even know there were men who did this kind of thing as a profession.

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Nightowl said:

 If I were younger I would have seriously considered giving other men that same feeling by becoming a provider.

No matter your age now, give that same feeling to whomever you’re with. It will be felt and appreciated long after the time shared together is over. 

[Rudynate]

I cuddled with an escort once.  I really enjoyed it - it was a unique situation, but I would cuddle again with him in a heartbeat. When I was a competitive bodybuilder, my husband would travel with me and help me shave. There was one show he didn't want to go to because it was in late 2021, the tail end of the worst of the pandemic, and he didn't want to risk air travel. I contacted a guy I had been looking at on RM, told him what I wanted, told him also that play was probably not a possibility because I would be exhausted from my contest prep. He showed up, we chatted and got acquainted, he got out his gear and went to work. It took at least two hours because he was meticulous. Having a man remove nearly every hair on your body turns out to be a pretty intimate exercise. As he shaved, we talked about this and that, and we ended up in one gyration after another. He shaved my hole, he shaved my dick and my balls, he would have shaved the hair on my head and my eyebrows if I had let him.  Then he gave me a massage and wrapped his big arms around me awhile. I was falling asleep and said it was time to wrap it up.  He said he felt like he hadn't done his job.   I told him no, you went above and beyond and I couldn't be happier.  I told him I would text him to let him know how I did. It turned out that I won both the classes that I entered and I told him I couldn't have done it without him, which was literally true.

[+ Jamie21]

10 hours ago, Nightowl said:

If I were younger I would have seriously considered giving other men that same feeling by becoming a provider.

I could hardly be described as young!(although my mind says ‘you’re 19 you can do 100 push ups straight’ and my body says ‘wtf’). Ok so it helps to be in good shape and have a big cock or cute bum to do the work - those things get the clients to your door but they don’t keep them coming back. It’s your skill and attitude towards your client as @ApexNomadsays that makes you a provider. In some ways only a more mature guy can do that. I don’t think I’d have realised it if I was doing this work at 23 when I was physically in my best shape but mentally I was a kid (and confused sexually!). And the other benefit of being an older provider is it’s amazing how many younger guys like to hire hung daddies 😂. 

[Nightowl]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I could hardly be described as young!(although my mind says ‘you’re 19 you can do 100 push ups straight’ and my body says ‘wtf’). Ok so it helps to be in good shape and have a big cock or cute bum to do the work - those things get the clients to your door but they don’t keep them coming back. It’s your skill and attitude towards your client as @ApexNomadsays that makes you a provider. In some ways only a more mature guy can do that. I don’t think I’d have realised it if I was doing this work at 23 when I was physically in my best shape but mentally I was a kid (and confused sexually!). And the other benefit of being an older provider is it’s amazing how many younger guys like to hire hung daddies 😂. 

I’ve been surprised at the number of younger guys who are into daddies too.  Maybe there’s hope for me in the profession after all.  Perhaps I can sign on as an apprentice to one of my local providers…

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 7/21/2025 at 3:04 PM, marylander1940 said:

Whoever came up with the phrase "hiring out of convenience, not need" should be paid royalties. It's like saying "no expectations" on a hookup app.

I prefer to think of it as a "hookup upgrade."