Safe Only escorts?

[sky]

On 6/16/2025 at 8:04 AM, Venite said:

On 6/15/2025 at 10:44 PM, sky said:

Honestly I doubt there is an escort that is 100% safe.

On what bases do you make these conjectures/conclusions?

1)Money talks, even if an escort uses condoms most of the time either in their private life or with a client there most likely will be a time they forgo the condom.

2)As I mentioned clients will try to get away with things trying to go bare on the escort.  We can't control what a client might try to pull on an escort.

3)While a condom might provide a certain level of protection they do break or tear.

The only 100% safe escort is one who abstains from sex.

[BrickBuilder]

28 minutes ago, sky said:

2)As I mentioned clients will try to get away with things trying to go bare on the escort.  We can't control what a client might try to pull on an escort.
 

And to the demonization of all parties continues.  By the way...who is "We"?  

Clients are bad...escorts are bad...everyone is trying to defraud and blame everyone else.

It amazes me that any of you ever hire....oh wait...a number of you dont.

[SirBillybob]

On 6/15/2025 at 7:58 PM, dcman said:

So, some escorts advertising on RM indicate Safe Only but then when you contact them they are BB or Condom....One is left with no choice but  to assume everyone has and STI......which is unfair to those escorts who actually care about their health and the health of the client and the spread of STI and insist on condoms.  I know lots of my fellow RM clients prefer "Raw" "Bare" and that is their choice but would be great if there was a way that escorts could advertise that they are absolutely "100 %  condom required only."

As somebody already indicated, they can. I think you are wondering about a contradiction between stated boundaries and apparently demonstrating greater flexibility in harm reduction at the booking or meeting stage. The practice guidance emphasizes having methods for negotiating out of condomless sex if the context warrants it. Some sex workers understandably frame this dynamic upfront from a point of being uncompromising so that there are no surprises regarding the prohibition yet may be open to relaxing it. While some may upsell the greater risk as a way to earn more, others may do so in order to discourage unprotected sex, neither strategy necessarily taking precedence overall. As a condom is the only truly inanimate thing that I have fetishized to some extent, unwrapping, on me, on him, what have you, the sex worker need not insist on it. 

Edited June 17 by SirBillybob

[mike carey]

19 minutes ago, AtlTopGuy said:

By the way...who is "We"?

I would assume that the 'we' is escorts in general, and he's saying that any time 'we' (any escort) are hired, 'we' (the one who was hired) can't control everything a client might try to do.

[SirBillybob]

On 6/16/2025 at 4:20 AM, Jamie21 said:

I do a ‘safe only’ option. It’s a kind of work from home service. You stay at home and wank to my porn. It’s really safe. No one has ever caught anything from it 100% guaranteed. Contact me to book (24-7 service) details below. Service delivered via OnlyFans or JustforFans. Terms and conditions apply. Must be 18+. 

This reinforces the long held idea that the best thing about porn is choice. 

[sky]

5 hours ago, mike carey said:

I would assume that the 'we' is escorts in general, and he's saying that any time 'we' (any escort) are hired, 'we' (the one who was hired) can't control everything a client might try to do.

By "We" I mean clients, we can't control what each other do.  When I hire an escort they trust that I'm not going to do anything to harm them.  Other clients can't control what I may or may not do.  

[pubic_assistance]

On 6/16/2025 at 8:12 AM, mike carey said:

At the most basic level, it would be that no sex where there is physical contact can be 100% safe.

Back when I was a young pup, I used to participate in a "frottage" group, as an alternative for people who were afraid of catching HIV. Physical sexual activity that was about as low risk as you're gonna get, by avoiding actual penetration. That said...over the years ive been pretty sexually active and attended dozens of sex parties (safe sex) and am fortunate to say I have never had an STI. (Although I DO test positive for hepatitis B without ever having had a reaction).

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

17 hours ago, AtlTopGuy said:

who is "We"?  

The non-binary transvestite cousin of They 😆 

Edited June 18 by Vegas_Millennial

[dbar123]

A few years ago I saw a provider who advertised as safe only. When I saw him I was surprised that he wanted to BB me. In his mind, he was on prep so he felt that he was safe. When I asked him to use a condom he went ballistic. Now I’m more careful when I ask about what “safe” means to any provider I hire

[Nightowl]

Pubic lice (aka “crabs”) don’t care if you’re wearing a condom and can easily pass between sexual partners, regardless of how protected Mr. Happy may be.  Getting rid of them is no picnic.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, dbar123 said:

In his mind, he was on prep so he felt that he was safe.

I'm glad he was educated about Prep.  So many people, especially older men, use neither prep nor condoms.  Their rational is "his profile said he was negative".  😣 

Edited June 27 by Vegas_Millennial

[Rod Hagen]

On 6/17/2025 at 3:51 PM, sky said:

1)Money talks, even if an escort uses condoms most of the time either in their private life or with a client there most likely will be a time they forgo the condom.
 

My first instinct was to push against you, arguing that for 2 decades of work I was condoms only.  But that was before contemporary medicine to avoid HIV while not using a condom, and I'm guessing the temptation, fuck the money it just feels better, would be too great.  You are right.

[Whippoorwill]

On 6/16/2025 at 5:38 AM, Quincy_7 said:

 . “I don't understand how you can do a complete 180 like that in 15 minutes.”

Penis erectus conscientium non habit. 

[Luv2play]

On 6/30/2025 at 5:03 PM, Whippoorwill said:

Penis erectus conscientium non habit. 

Or for those who didn’t study Latin, “ A stiff dick has no conscience “.