Messaging an escort rather than calling

[Ali Gator]

In the past 6 months, I've had an interest in two different escorts who are newly located in my area. Unfortunately, their only way of contact is messaging via RentMen, no phone contact to text (or call).  I don't want to waste time messaging / checking my emails for responses when our exchanges could be quicker and more immediate with texting (in 2025!).  

Does anyone know any reasons why a provider would not provide phone contact these days ?  I doubt it's cost prohibitive, as every cell phone provider have affordable plans for a 'second phone' or 'second line' - so an additional phone / line could be dedicated to 'business'.  I'm not understanding why these guys prefer RM communications and email.

(On the opposite side, there are the providers who say to text them - don't use the RM messaging because they never check their messages). 

[DznNYC]

Clearly we providers, as a population, have a wide array of communication platform preferences with a wide array of motivations for them.  For instance, I don't want SMS texting or iMessages, while I prefer WhatsApp or Telegram.  For me it's compartmentalization.  Escorting isn't my entire life.  I have other jobs, and I have a personal life.  Being able to separate messages into different inboxes is a godsend.  Mixing day job related texts with escorting texts is too confusing for my limited juggling abilities.  Also I want to manage where and when I'm opening text threads that may or may not have explicit photos of me.   Phone calls are challenging for me, not because I have an issue speaking on the phone with a new client, but because it can be difficult to find the private time for a delicate conversation.  All that said, I'm happy to give out my information to potential clients, if they're looking to chat.  Not an area of discretion that has me super concerned. 

What you're describing sounds like extreme discretion.  He's not looking to share his actual information with any potential clients.  This strikes me as excessive if you're actually looking to meet clients, but if it works for him, that's his prerogative.  Though certainly sounds limiting.  I'm sure many would look at my preferences and have trouble making sense of it.  We all come to this from a wide variety of life situations, all just trying to make it work!

[+ Just Chuck]

Google voice is a FREE voice over internet service and app that goes along with a Gmail account (also free).  
I like that when I don’t want to be bothered by calls coming on that number, I simply log out of that account. It keeps my r-rated conversations on a separate number and application from my real phone and keeps my real phone safe for work.

I’ve assumed that most of the message-only ads are from newcomers in the industry who aren’t really established or set up a good communications path for booking.  Dealing with new guys is always hit-and-miss.

[Nightowl]

I understand why he might want initial contact to be via RentMen but once you’ve had an exchange or two, sharing his number makes more sense, especially if one of you is running late and needs to notify the other.

[SkyBliss]

Also, RM is full of people who are neither escorts nor clients, but pure scammers who don’t even disguise themselves as providers.

 

Leaving your phone number available can make you more susceptible to them.

[Cretus]

Some providers tell me they hate having to respond to an unplanned call.
 

Aside from the fact that many providers don’t like being accessible to random, unplanned phone calls, the call may be from a time waster trying to masturbate to the sound of the providers voice and not really book/pay for anything.

 

KeptSecret removed his phone number exactly because of this, according to his ad text lol.

Edited June 13 by Cretus

[viewing ownly]

An arrangement is able to be made to keep clients from having their phone number as a privacy barrier. The very first time I saw Killamanv, our meet-up was planned exclusively through private rent men chat. It was not only unusual, but I was very sceptic that it would materialize, however it did.

Subsequent meet-ups with him have involved text contact. That is the way nearly all providers want to communicate. I'm not a fan of auto-reply responses I get when reaching out - nearly all the time that's the only communication that I receive. 

[Rod Hagen]

On 6/13/2025 at 5:12 AM, DznNYC said:

I have an issue speaking on the phone with a new client, but because it can be difficult to find the private time for a delicate conversation. 

That's a really good point.  Long ago when everyone switched to messaging, I still preferred phone for that first contact.  But finding a time that worked for both of us to talk, in the often times short window before meeting, was a challenge.

[pubic_assistance]

On 6/13/2025 at 10:44 AM, Cretus said:

Some providers tell me they hate having to respond to an unplanned call.

Exactly my thought.

I always reach out on the R.M.platform first. If they prefer to discuss via IM on their phone #, they will say so. 

[Boaxxx]

There is a provider that I have seen several times and we communicate almost exclusively through RM messenger. At first I found it a bit odd but now it is just common practice. I know I've text him before but I could not even tell you what his number is. RM messenger it is for him.

Edited June 15 by Boaxxx

[Obsidian]

My preferance is to start with RM messenger, once it looks likely to be a go we can move to text. I check for new messages every couple hours, so theres never really a long delay.

It's a way to avoid someone who just wants to talk, with no real intention on meeting. Also, stalkers do exist.  Volunteering info to someone with no official plans isn't necessary and could lead to someone having too much information. You're seeing it from a client perspective, understandably. From the other perspective, most of us post pictures from every angle,write bios and put effort into reviews. While about 80% client profiles are blank, and many have no reviews posted. We still communicate but blank profiles on apps get ignored, while we dont judge that.

I think that this is another question posted here that can be answered by putting yourself in the other persons position. 

Edited June 17 by Obsidian
Typo

[+ Jamie21]

Regardless of how I prefer to be contacted clients use all sorts of different ways. It can be challenging remembering how they contacted me. I had a few situations where on the day of the meeting I have in my calendar a name, time etc but no idea how to contact him if he doesn’t show or if I need to inform him of something. Especially if it was booked weeks or months ago (which happens). All I’ve got to go on is ‘John’ at 3pm …and no idea how he contracted me, or when! So now I record what channel he used to book 🙂. ‘John, 3pm, booked via phone call, wants to xxx’. Here’s the variety of methods I’ve had clients use:

WhatsApp 

Rentmasseur message

Text

Phone call

Email 

Twitter DM 

Telegram messenger 

Instagram message

OnlyFans message (though these get a very obtuse response)

JustforFans message (no issues talking about sex work there)

Bluesky message 

Asked in person whilst out (that’s only friends or friends of friends…I don’t walk around with a sign 😂).

It can be quite difficult to keep across all that so I encourage booking via WhatsApp. If guys are anxious or find it difficult to write down what they want then a phone call is fine but it can’t be random. Has to be pre arranged so I can be somewhere discreet. 

Edited June 17 by Jamie21

[56harrisond]

17 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Here’s the variety of methods I’ve had clients use:

The only method missing is Homing Pigeon