He Deleted Everything — Do I Still Book Him or Let It Go?

[Dingdi]

Today, I received a WhatsApp message from my regular provider. I hired him as escort in the past six months more or less every two or three weeks.

His message was obviously intended to send to another client, to say he couldn’t come today and explained the reason.

It happens we may select contact by mistake from the list to send message. I just reminded him he sent it to the wrong person.

Surprisingly he didn’t recognize who I am. He replied “ You are not xxx?” (A girl name. He said he never serves female clients)

We had a lot of conversations during the past six months through WhatsApp. The latest one was even just 6 days ago to schedule the next session.

It seems that he had never saved my number in his contact. And he cleared out all previous messages records between us. Even my profile photo (not my portrait) also didn’t recall who I am. 

I was really surprised, disappointed, upset and finally a little bit angry.

I had some feelings for him since the first met and he knows that. We agreed just to keep a relationship between a client and a friend.

I actually don’t think of him just as a service provider. During sex, I do something that I’m not very into just for him as I know he enjoys.

I know he is not into me. However he made me feel that I’m a little bit special from other clients.

In February he had a break. He said he was too tired. All his ads got off-line but he still received me. We met three times in two weeks. He shared his family album. He even hung out with me off clock. 

I understand his appreciation for me was supposed to be acting. He is just doing a job. While, It’s really painful to realize how little I matter to him.

I don’t know if it’s a little bit overacting to stop seeing him. He still doesn’t realize that number is mine. So if I don’t say anything, there will be no any connection anymore.

Or should ask him directly what happened and get an excuse to book him as before.

[+ purplekow]

These visits are for you not for him.  So if you want to see him, you do not need an excuse to make the appointment.  What you do need to do is reevaluate what you are expecting in return for your fee. If you are expecting a sensual or sexual experience with someone who has the skills to bring you pleasure, then by all means continue.  If you are expecting to feel special other than during your appointments, you need to look elsewhere. 

 

[+ nycman]

[Nightowl]

Is it possible that he doesn’t keep clients in his contact list for your personal privacy so when your number came up it didn’t identify you?  Possibly a stretch I know…

[+ DrownedBoy]

The moment you have feelings for a provider, it's time to stop seeing him. Especially if you get worried about stuff like this. Very unhealthy.

[pubic_assistance]

On 5/11/2025 at 5:24 PM, Dingdi said:

I know he is not into me. However he made me feel that I’m a little bit special from other clients.

Any good escort will work to make you feel that way.

Unfortunately - REALITY CHECK - you are likely one of MANY clients who he makes feel "special". You're not.

When you start having feelings for an escort it's best to move on. That always ends badly. Ive heard more than one sad, obsessed client here on C.o.M. who has bought into the magic, and felt betrayed when he got a peek behind the curtain.

 

Edited May 12 by pubic_assistance
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[Spikeguy]

Did the curtain match the rug?

[DunwoodyGuy]

"I had some feelings for him"--I've seen this movie, and I know how it ends. You are in a toxic relationship, and the toxicity is yours. There is no way out of this. You will crash and burn and embarrass and humiliate yourself and nothing we can say will dissuade you from that path.

You are NOT dating this man. You are in a transactional relationship and he is a professional. It is his job to make you feel good, but that doesn't mean he "has feelings for you"--whatever that exactly means to you. Enjoy the romance for the time you are with him--but never, ever, EVER confuse that with "the real thing." You are paying for a fantasy--NOT for a fantasy to turn into reality.

The only way out is to find another practitioner, and hopefully this time you will enjoy him for he is actually able to give you--not for your "Pretty Woman" fantasy of falling in love with the man you are paying for sex. He is not Richard Gere and you are certainly not Julia Roberts.

[whatdoidowiththisagain]

You seem to be a very loyal client and I can understand why him not remembering who you are might hurt, but he probably removed all history and identifying information to protect his privacy and yours. Maybe he has nosy room mates or a significant other and he didn't want them finding out what he does or who he does it with. You can just be honest with your feelings with him and say you are surprised that he didn't know who you were since you are such a loyal client and you'ved messaged so many times. I'm sure the reason is simple.

You should continue booking with him only if you are sure your feelings for him are platonic. It's good to see him as a friend if he is easy to get along with, but bless your heart.. just be careful you are not  confusing his attentiveness toward you as genuine affection.

Edited May 14 by whatdoidowiththisagain

[starman05]

Dingdi, I've been in your shoes many times. Mostly with massage therapists and personal trainers.

They make me feel like I'm the only guy in the world. The minute I fall it's time to move on. Most often, I don't. It's like a drug that hits me. I have to have some poor schlub in my life no matter what. 

Mistake. 

I've got a trainer now and while he checks every box, I haven't fallen for him 'in that way,' and, as it's been a while, I don't think it'll happen. A) he's straight B) He's considerably younger. 

Thank God because I've finally been able to make some strides. 

If you can enjoy the time you're with him, great. Keep it going. But when I can't compartmentalize it, I need to leave.