How to know the "signs" that the masseur will provide extras

[Cdog123]

I feel like my masseur gives me signs he is willing to provide extras: he lets his elbow go between my cheeks, brushes across the tip of my dick; now, I was wondering how I could ask him for further services. I worry that it could end badly and he may refuse to massage me in the future. 

[queensboroboy]

Please DM if necessary 

[Mk27]

Grab u cock a show him u want more.   In general. Dudes will either help u out.  Or let u finish it yourself.   Be a man.  God damn

[Mk27]

Also u. Sound like a complete joke  he rub on u dick.  He’s down and u r a shy xxxx be a man 

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[mike carey]

I'm sure civility in your responses to @Cdog123 would always be appreciated, and not just by him, but also by other forum members. Note that the thread has now been moved to the Questions About Hiring forum from the Spa.

[Mk27]

Hilarious.   Omg Im not sure if if he touched my cock or not

[viewing ownly]

Best advice : See him again and see what happens. If a longer duration is offered than you saw him before, go for that. If that doesn't change things for the better to your liking, find someone else. 

[Mk27]

Shitty advise.    Find a guy who Will finish the job 

[+ StLouisOct]

3 minutes ago, Mk27 said:

Shitty advise.    Find a guy who Will finish the job 

Well done sir! Your attempts to earn the award for submitting the dumbest, inane and asinine comments of 2024 will no doubt be successful. 👍

[Mk27]

Be a man.  Omg u might have touched my  dick.     Wtf 

[+ Jamie21]

Serious advice, is this massage in a professional massage service setting? If it’s a licensed masseur working at a spa you should let him take the initiative. Perhaps open up your legs a little, get hard, see what happens. If he’s working as a licensed massage therapist then he risks his job by progressing beyond therapeutic massage so I would advise to let him make any move.

However if his advertising implies more than therapeutic massage (is he wearing a top? Is he in tight shorts? Is there a bottle of lube visible on the shelf, does he refer to release of tension, does he use minimal draping etc) then you could let your hand press against his crotch as he stands beside you and see if he’s hard. Take it from there…

 

[soloyo215]

12 hours ago, Cdog123 said:

I feel like my masseur gives me signs he is willing to provide extras: he lets his elbow go between my cheeks, brushes across the tip of my dick; now, I was wondering how I could ask him for further services. I worry that it could end badly and he may refuse to massage me in the future. 

I "reach out", but not aggressively. Never had a rejection. The thing with massages is that there really isn't any standard practice or signal. If you feel the vibes, especially if you're not expecting any, chances are it's ok to "reach out". The worst that can happen is that he might place your hand back in place and continue the massage.

 

[Cooper]

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[marylander1940]

13 hours ago, Cdog123 said:

I feel like my masseur gives me signs he is willing to provide extras: he lets his elbow go between my cheeks, brushes across the tip of my dick; now, I was wondering how I could ask him for further services. I worry that it could end badly and he may refuse to massage me in the future. 

Tell him what you want is more than a massage but a HE!

[+ KensingtonHomo]

If you've met him on Rentmasseur, he's probably been asked about extras before. My advice would be to ask him - maybe in a text if that's more comfortable - if he offers as a more sensual or erotic version of his massage. Usually, when I schedule, I emphasize consent. I say that I want to make sure we're both comfortable and don't overstep, so please let me know what his boundaries are. Is he open to mutual touch, he, oral, etc? 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

8 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Tell him what you want is more than a massage but a HE!

The dynamic is different whether the therapist is a HE vs SHE.

I've had SHE's try to give me handjobs (usually in Mexico), and I've had to stop them.  I don't want a SHE touching me there.  Now, I make it a point to only hire HE's, so if HE decides he wants to help me with a handjob, then I will consent.

[marylander1940]

7 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

The dynamic is different whether the therapist is a HE vs SHE.

I've had SHE's try to give me handjobs (usually in Mexico), and I've had to stop them.  I don't want a SHE touching me there.  Now, I make it a point to only hire HE's, so if HE decides he wants to help me with a handjob, then I will consent.

Isn't it implied that we're talking about massages by men....

by HE I meant Happy Ending... Why do you keep getting confused about things that are SO obvious? 

 

Edited December 21, 2024 by marylander1940

[marylander1940]

If this thread is about getting more from a masseur (no mention of price change) why is not in "the spa"?

[Whippoorwill]

 

Do your due diligence ahead of time. 

I only do independent masseurs, not spa employees. 

- if a guy is on Rentmasseur there is 99.9% he is gay and marketing to the gay market and frankly would probably be surprised with a client who didn't want more.

- how is he (un)dressed in his photos...is he flaunting it? Read between the lines in the services he is offering.

- how are his reviews? I try to only use massuers who advertise therapeutic, sensual and erotic, and where all or a majority of reviews are for erotic massages. 

- check our this site for others' experiences, DM them if you want. Most guys on this site will tell you. There is no point in wondering unless you like the thrill of "Will he, won't he." 

- when I make an appointment with someone new, I always say I want "an excellent therapeutic massage that is also sensual and erotic". I have never had it happen, but if they write back "I don't do that" you already have your answer and can move on. 

- get naked right away when you are talking with him before the massage and flaunt it

- My last massage, while traveling, when I was undressing I said "Gee you are really cute, and I haven't even seen you naked yet." He immediately pulled off his shorts and pressed his naked body against my naked body. 

 

 

Cdog123, since you are already seeing this guy and getting vibes, you can skip a lot of steps and just be sure you are flaunting it before you lie down on your stomach, play with your cock a little (Where are his eyes focused, on your eyes or the family jewels?), complement him on his body, etc. If your getting the vibe, you can always say, "I love your massages, your are great, and I get so horny." And as others have said, spreading your legs, grazing his cock, getting hard are all saying come and get it. 

 

 

 

[Guest]

I’d say “are you available for more than just a massage?  I enjoy our time together and fantasize about you and me________?”  
 

its 2025. Sexuality has shifted and people no longer get offended. Hell, I once propositioned a waiter and he said yes, so my advice….   Just ask. 
 

I feel like all of this other advice is very dated and subtle and confusing. Just be clear. 

Edited December 21, 2024 by Coolwave35

[mike carey]

Am I alone in thinking that @Vegas_Millennial knows exactly what he has read, understands exactly what the terms meant, and has a specific meaning in mind when he writes here? Or writes 'her'. How some others read the words he puts in his posts seems to miss his intentions in what he writes.

[+ Jamie21]

23 minutes ago, mike carey said:

Am I alone in thinking that @Vegas_Millennial knows exactly what he has read, understands exactly what the terms meant, and has a specific meaning in mind when he writes here? Or writes 'her'. How some others read the words he puts in his posts seems to miss his intentions in what he writes.

Not alone. But he’s subtle about it. 

[CuriousByNature]

On 12/20/2024 at 3:27 PM, Cdog123 said:

 I was wondering how I could ask him for further services

[Ali Gator]

When I have been in that situation, and the guy lightly brushes my dick, or 'between the cheeks', I always tell him (very politely) "That felt very nice...please continue." Sometimes they will ask for clarification (I believe to get full consent from me, make sure where on the same page) by saying, 'What felt nice ? What do you mean ?' and I will tell them 'You brushed your hand on my dick. It felt great. It' not off limits.'  They'll give a knowing chuckle, and then go for it. 

Or (the majority of the time) they know what I mean and just go for it without questions or clarification.