Communication frustration

[Massageguy99]

This is a question for you guys. 

Have you noticed an uptick in people just not communicating. 

It very well could just be my area but I reached out to several providers today. Almost none text back. 

Then went onto RM and messaged them there. Some responded back but then just never follow up. 

I have noticed it seems more and more difficult to book same day now. 

I sadly can't book in advance due to my work schedule so I generally wait until my day off and once I know I'm not getting called in. 

 

[+ DynamicUno]

A question as old as time itself... Yes, there are providers who are slow to respond or who never do.  Whether it's because they're busy with other clients, or have other outside obligations, or just are not wanting to chase inquiries that day, you just don't know why they might be not answering quickly.  Also, just because you text doesn't mean they can respond quickly.  People complain about providers who won't put their phones down, yet expect they will answer texts within minutes.

Here's a question though, how are you approaching these guys?   Are you starting by sending a message that's just asking questions or are you making it clear you are looking for an appointment that day?  Starting out with a reasonably detailed message that makes it clear you're serious is more likely to get a response than a generic "Hi, I like your ad" type message.

Also, if you're waiting until late in the afternoon, a lot of providers may already be getting regulars booking for appointments during the after work commute, or taking time for gym time or other personal needs.

If your work schedule doesn't allow planning even a day in advance, then you probably need to find a regular provider (or two) who advertises that they are ok with same day appointments.  Once you're established as a repeat and reliable client they'll have you in their contacts and be more likely to prioritize responding to you when you're looking.

Edited September 22, 2024 by DynamicUno

[marylander1940]

33 minutes ago, Massageguy99 said:

This is a question for you guys. 

Have you noticed an uptick in people just not communicating. 

It very well could just be my area but I reached out to several providers today. Almost none text back. 

Then went onto RM and messaged them there. Some responded back but then just never follow up. 

I have noticed it seems more and more difficult to book same day now. 

I sadly can't book in advance due to my work schedule so I generally wait until my day off and once I know I'm not getting called in. 

 

Move on! Plenty of fish! Maybe they don't want your business or they're lazy to reply. Possibly in the saving you from a bad time

[Ali Gator]

I have noticed this mostly with the up and coming generation ("Zoomers") not only in this profession, but in everyday life. Sad to say, the tech generation really has trouble communicating in every situation in life (believe me, I've worked with them for the past dozen years or so, and it's getting worse - not better). 

[+ DrownedBoy]

2 hours ago, Massageguy99 said:

I sadly can't book in advance due to my work schedule so I generally wait until my day off and once I know I'm not getting called in. 

Text providers who are marked "Available Now" on RentMen. When you send the initial text, wait 15 minutes, then text another guy marked available.

When an escort is marked "Available Now" and they miss a text, it's on them. Just start sending the texts out as early as possible, and I'm sure you'll find someone.

[Massageguy99]

22 hours ago, DynamicUno said:

A question as old as time itself... Yes, there are providers who are slow to respond or who never do.  Whether it's because they're busy with other clients, or have other outside obligations, or just are not wanting to chase inquiries that day, you just don't know why they might be not answering quickly.  Also, just because you text doesn't mean they can respond quickly.  People complain about providers who won't put their phones down, yet expect they will answer texts within minutes.

Here's a question though, how are you approaching these guys?   Are you starting by sending a message that's just asking questions or are you making it clear you are looking for an appointment that day?  Starting out with a reasonably detailed message that makes it clear you're serious is more likely to get a response than a generic "Hi, I like your ad" type message.

Also, if you're waiting until late in the afternoon, a lot of providers may already be getting regulars booking for appointments during the after work commute, or taking time for gym time or other personal needs.

If your work schedule doesn't allow planning even a day in advance, then you probably need to find a regular provider (or two) who advertises that they are ok with same day appointments.  Once you're established as a repeat and reliable client they'll have you in their contacts and be more likely to prioritize responding to you when you're looking.

I send a very direct message of exactly what I'm looking for. 

I send early on during the day. 

[dbar123]

I’ve noticed a greater tendency of providers giving non-actionable responses. It’s especially annoying when they don’t provide a price in the initial  answer despite being asked. 

[BuffaloKyle]

I get so many one word responses or responses that don't answer the questions I'm asking. Very frustrating indeed.

[TallMuscl37]

3 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I get so many one word responses or responses that don't answer the questions I'm asking. Very frustrating indeed.

In the past 3 months I’ve been shopping around for a place to relocate to. And by shopping, I mean hardcore scouring Zillow, Trulia, apartments.com, Facebook market. I’m not necessarily looking for apartment complexes with a leasing office and agent on site, but something more private and stand alone. Which most are run by realtors and property management.

 

Its showed me a lot that: many places are getting contacted by multiple “clients” looking for a place, and I’m finding more often that a lot of “showings” are automated from start to finish without even talking to anyone. When I have tried to contact and reach people directly, I don’t hear nothing back or it takes DAYS to get a response, only to get an automated message that the place is off the market. 

And there’s also a similarity in realty and escorting…as far as working leads and having to weed thru a lot of riff. However, it is annoying not being able to reach anyone when it’s about finding a residence within a short period of time: versus just a passing sex desire. It’s almost like many real estate companies don’t take anyone serious until they pass background, show income proof, and actually do all the hoops that: many of OUR clients can’t dream of doing.

I think I had someone cancel on me yesterday over a $50 deposit. But we had been in contact all weekend and even on a prior visit. Yet where he lives is 45 miles outside of the city, in a rural suburban town. If someone can’t do a simple request, they’re probably going to piece of work to work with. 
 

My solution for escorts and clients: Limit the access. I’m no longer posting my phone number for “non logged” clients because it’s too much spam and too much guys expecting a meet right away. I had someone call me today from a hotel, no idea my rates, didn’t read my website, no clue on anything. Add another reason why I don’t normal answer phone calls…those are THE WORST. I used to only want phone calls, now I never want phone calls.

Edited September 24, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Medin]

On 9/24/2024 at 12:00 AM, BuffaloKyle said:

I get so many one word responses or responses that don't answer the questions I'm asking. Very frustrating indeed.

That's my experience as well.  I contact the provider as soon as their ad is posted but still only get about 50% of them to respond.  When they do respond, they usually don't actually answer the question(s) I asked so starts the back/forth.  Definitely very frustrating.  

[Thelatin]

Are you texting them with your phone?  Or through the ap? 

[+ DrownedBoy]

I've also seen an uptick in providers who don't take this side gig seriously and don't work with schedules.

Once, I met a guy on FB and he agreed to come by at 7 one night. Then, he suddenly texts me right before and said he was hanging with his friends. I thumbs-upped him, and immediately removed him from my list.

Then he texted me back offering to see me when he was done watching TV with his friends, and I turned him down, told him why, and blocked him. I have no use for someone who cancels/delays a scheduled appointment for something like that.

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said:

I've also seen an uptick in providers who don't take this side gig seriously and don't work with schedules.

Once, I met a guy on FB and he agreed to come by at 7 one night. Then, he suddenly texts me right before and said he was hanging with his friends. I thumbs-upped him, and immediately removed him from my list.

Then he texted me back offering to see me when he was done watching TV with his friends, and I turned him down, told him why, and blocked him. I have no use for someone who cancels/delays a scheduled appointment for something like that.

You taught him a lesson, hopefully....

 

[TonyDown]

I cross poor communicators off my list.

I really appreciate the therapists that communicate in a professional manner.  

[misterhumphries]

3 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

You taught him a lesson, hopefully....

 

I doubt it. If he was that casual about meeting in the first place, he probably shrugged and went back to his Gameboy or whatever electronic gadget obsesses people nowadays.

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, misterhumphries said:

I doubt it. If he was that casual about meeting in the first place, he probably shrugged and went back to his Gameboy or whatever electronic gadget obsesses people nowadays.

Attention span issues!

[SirBillybob]

Of the 3 main explanatory possibilities, scamming, stupidity, or self-sabotaging, I have found experientially so far that the latter two cover the bases. I’ll give more leeway to an ESL fellow but, otherwise, cute deteriorates really rapidly and the net result is a free onanistic hand job.

BTW, where in the world do you find a simple translation of ‘ASK’ since it’s omitted from XE? On what planet is that info not light years away? 

Edited September 29, 2024 by SirBillybob

[marylander1940]

On 9/28/2024 at 3:53 PM, DrownedBoy said:

I've also seen an uptick in providers who don't take this side gig seriously and don't work with schedules.

Once, I met a guy on FB and he agreed to come by at 7 one night. Then, he suddenly texts me right before and said he was hanging with his friends. I thumbs-upped him, and immediately removed him from my list.

Then he texted me back offering to see me when he was done watching TV with his friends, and I turned him down, told him why, and blocked him. I have no use for someone who cancels/delays a scheduled appointment for something like that.

It's also a generational thing, unfortunately 

I posted this in Friday Funnies, I'm not sure if it's a parody but it's certainly inspired by the interactions of @Ali Gator and others who work with young people.. 

On 9/28/2024 at 8:48 PM, misterhumphries said:

I doubt it. If he was that casual about meeting in the first place, he probably shrugged and went back to his Gameboy or whatever electronic gadget obsesses people nowadays.

Not only gadgets but seeing themselves as the center of the universe:

 

[ICTJOCK]

I can't really speak to other providers.   I know I try and respond back in a timely manner.   Sometimes it cannot be the same day,  but I generally try.

If you are going to be a serious provider,  diligence is key.    If you can't provide service  "same day",   good communication certainly helps I would think.