Question about escort standards/norms

[bloopdebloop]

Hi all I’ve hired a few times and wonder if my experiences are the standard or exceptions.

Provider cumming: I don’t think this is something that’s really negotiated beforehand. Do providers usually come during a session with you? This hasn’t often been the case for me. A few have said they’re coming while inside and end the session early shortly thereafter. 

Session length: I’ve hired usually for an hour, however sometimes for reasons brought on by the provider (like having come inside) the session ends early. In your experience do you typically get the full time you agree upon?

 

 

[56harrisond]

 

[Muscleking]

54 minutes ago, bloopdebloop said:

Hi all I’ve hired a few times and wonder if my experiences are the standard or exceptions.

Provider cumming: I don’t think this is something that’s really negotiated beforehand. Do providers usually come during a session with you? This hasn’t often been the case for me. A few have said they’re coming while inside and end the session early shortly thereafter. 

Session length: I’ve hired usually for an hour, however sometimes for reasons brought on by the provider (like having come inside) the session ends early. In your experience do you typically get the full time you agree upon?

 

 

Usually with escort appts once someone cums the party is over.. which is understandable cause if u think about it most guys once they cum sex isn’t as interesting anymore in that moment. Unless they are on some party favors. 
 

I’ve had some providers say they cum multiple loads but rarely have actually seen someone cum a lot and usually they will say it’s because they came earlier, but I also have had escorts say they don’t cum with clients because they have to stay hard for other clients unless I plan on booking them for over night or something, Which I get so I never really push for them to cum if I’ve only booked for the hour, I just let it happen naturally if they cum great if they don’t it’s fine as long as I cum . 

[jmichaeliii]

2 hours ago, bloopdebloop said:

Hi all I’ve hired a few times and wonder if my experiences are the standard or exceptions.

Provider cumming: I don’t think this is something that’s really negotiated beforehand. Do providers usually come during a session with you? This hasn’t often been the case for me. A few have said they’re coming while inside and end the session early shortly thereafter. 

Session length: I’ve hired usually for an hour, however sometimes for reasons brought on by the provider (like having come inside) the session ends early. In your experience do you typically get the full time you agree upon?

 

 

What I have found is if you see someone more than once, more things happen including cumming. 

I have 3 regulars and none of them came the first time we met, now all 3 do everytime we meet.

I also never get cut short on session time with my regulars, in fact they often go past.  I also don't screw them around and I tip well.  I always get a great time with all 3.  Treat them right and you get it back tenfold I have found.

Someone you only see once, yea I have been cut short on things.

 

 

 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

If you really want something specific, I'd always suggest asking for it ahead of time.

This goes for a cumshot on an hourly gig.  It's not always a given.

As for staying the whole agreed time, yes.  There's no wiggle room on that.

If he came too soon, he can either reload or spend the next 30 minutes giving you a massage.

Edited April 27 by BenjaminNicholas

[Muscleking]

41 minutes ago, jmichaeliii said:

What I have found is if you see someone more than once, more things happen including cumming. 

I have 3 regulars and none of them came the first time we met, now all 3 do everytime we meet.

I also never get cut short on session time with my regulars, in fact they often go past.  I also don't screw them around and I tip well.  I always get a great time with all 3.  Treat them right and you get it back tenfold I have found.

Someone you only see once, yea I have been cut short on things.

 

 

 

Totally agree with everything you said I’ve had same experience, I treat my guys good and they treat me even better.. 

[BuffaloKyle]

I'm a top but when I hire other tops for oral only sessions I always will state I want to provide them oral to a happy ending completion. As others mentioned some providers will only cum during a multi hour session so make sure to ask.

As far as providers staying the whole hour just a little bit of live and learn on how long for instance to spend on each thing you wanna do if you want to make sure you're not cut off early. I will keep a little bit of an eye on the clock as well during a one hour session and not get into really intense fucking or sucking until it gets down to around 15 min to go.

[caramelsub]

I have noticed a growing number of escorts do not cum in sessions. Many have told me if they cum they cannot work for the rest of the day, and aren’t able to perform or get hard for other clients. 

[marylander1940]

8 minutes ago, caramelsub said:

I have noticed a growing number of escorts do not cum in sessions. Many have told me if they cum they cannot work for the rest of the day, and aren’t able to perform or get hard for other clients. 

Exactly!

Especially considering most clients aren't their type. 

On 4/27/2024 at 7:14 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

I'm a top but when I hire other tops for oral only sessions I always will state I want to provide them oral to a happy ending completion. As others mentioned some providers will only cum during a multi hour session so make sure to ask.

As far as providers staying the whole hour just a little bit of live and learn on how long for instance to spend on each thing you wanna do if you want to make sure you're not cut off early. I will keep a little bit of an eye on the clock as well during a one hour session and not get into really intense fucking or sucking until it gets down to around 15 min to go.

Do you tip them?

On 4/27/2024 at 11:36 AM, Muscleking said:

Usually with escort appts once someone cums the party is over.. which is understandable cause if u think about it most guys once they cum sex isn’t as interesting anymore in that moment. Unless they are on some party favors. 
 

I’ve had some providers say they cum multiple loads but rarely have actually seen someone cum a lot and usually they will say it’s because they came earlier, but I also have had escorts say they don’t cum with clients because they have to stay hard for other clients unless I plan on booking them for over night or something, Which I get so I never really push for them to cum if I’ve only booked for the hour, I just let it happen naturally if they cum great if they don’t it’s fine as long as I cum . 

usually when the client cums it's over, well time for little chat, cuddle, etc. 

Gentlemen: it's a business, let's put ourselves in their place. How much Viagra can someone take daily.... providers also have personal lives.

[buckguy]

The usual objective is for the provider to get you off.  If him getting off is essential, then you need to negotiate that ahead of time, although I doubt that anyone can guarantee that outcome.

[SouthOfTheBorder]

I always tell providers that my experience is not dependent on whether I cum or not.  I let them know what I enjoy and to focus on that.  I’ve found that as I’ve gotten older, I can reach a point of overstimulation where cumming isn’t likely to happen - although I’m very much enjoying the sex. It seems to take the pressure off both parties & I have better overall outcomes.

I don’t expect a provider to cum ever.  If they want to, then fine. 

As for the time - I’m the clock watcher & will remind him I’m aware of the time at the 50 minute mark.  about 50% of the time, I’ll ask to extend & pay. For the rest, an hour is sufficient.  If we’re both having fun & he just wants to stay, that’s ok too.  I can only remember one guy shorting me on time, although a few times where I left early.  I think it’s reasonable to confirm you will get a full hour before you schedule.

I keep my expectations low & reasonable, while treating the provider as I would any other guest. 
Drinks are always offered before & after if in my home/hotel.  Shower offered after, of course.  

[DWnyc]

I don’t need or want providers to climax - they can save it for another client or someone they actually want to be with. I often tell them this and it often provides some relief (of a different kind). I also want to avoid a situation where they’re done and they hate every remaining minute where they can’t trick themselves into feeling it’s enjoyable for them.

On a couple of occasions though they’ve actually wanted to climax during a session themselves - which surprised me. nothing  to do with me - more I guess moving from one situation to the next, not building up tension, if not seeing others that day trying to switch attention to other areas of their life perhaps … once I was surprised as given only a few seconds warning and asked where I wanted it, and on another was requested to stay a few mins to help the situation in what I thought was an attempt at upsell but apparently wasnt.

 

[pubic_assistance]

On 4/27/2024 at 10:35 AM, bloopdebloop said:

Do providers usually come during a session with you?

I will second the opinion of @jmichaeliii. If you're a regular customer and a good tipper, your chances of sharing an orgasm is exponentially higher that with someone you just met.

In your experience do you typically get the full time you agree upon?

In most cases the provider assumes that once the client cums, he's outta there. So if I shoot my load in the first five minutes he's lookin at that door by minute number 10. SO the same applies as above. Finding someone who turns you on and you enjoy their company enough to keep as a regular means you're going to get more attention and better service than a random stranger is gonna get.
I know THIS particular issue is often a problem for me. I'm a multiple cummer which is good and bad. It's great that I can extend a session by cumming multiple times, but bad because a new provider will always assume I'm done in the first round. So that needs to be discussed ahead of time. I do my best to explain up front that an hour means an hour.

 

 

 

 

[Simon Suraci]

I don’t always cum, but my reasons have less to do with saving it up for the next client and more to do with client satisfaction. My focus is the client. If he wants me to cum, perhaps in a specific way, I make it happen for him. If he is ambivalent, I see no point in wasting my sexual energy trying to put the spotlight on my climax. And yes, saving up my spunk is very much a real concern, particularly when I have more than one client in a day.

Frankly, I am often not ready to cum when the client asks/demands it of me and I have to catch up. If I can satisfy the client without having to force myself in such a way, it’s a big relief. I would rather not cum at all than push myself into a rushed, less than stellar orgasm. That thinking applies whether or not I have other clients that day.

Recently in a session I came a bit early, about halfway through the session, pulling out and shooting all over the client. We were having quite a hot time together. It was one of those jizzy but not quite complete orgasms. I told him not to worry, that we weren’t done. We played around doing other activities for a while (which he very much enjoyed) until I was ready to go again. I lasted much better the second time, and made him cum as I pounded him. Then shortly afterwards, at his request - much more intentionally and pleasurably this time - I came inside of him. It was hot!

Sometimes all the client wants is for one of us to fuck the other (or flip) until the client cums in whatever way he wants. Sometimes it’s fast, sometimes it’s drawn out. I’m not rushing the client. I respond to his body language and verbal cues. The time is his. If either or both of us cum well before the time is up, I offer several things like cuddling, massage time, or a shower together, or sometimes all three when the client is eager to reach the finish line way early. 

It’s less frequent, but some clients don’t feel the need to cum at all. Fine by me. As long as the client is happy, because that’s what really counts.

Some of my clients end their sessions early. It’s never me saying it’s over and then rushing them out the door. When they are done early, I ask if they are satisfied, and if there is anything I can do to make the rest of our time together enjoyable. Sometimes they say they are truly satisfied and ready to wrap up. With me at least, the approach to all these issues is client centric.

Tip for any client for whom provider cum is an important part of his satisfaction: request this when you book. When your provider knows your expectations, he can meet them.

Even better: book him regularly so you don’t even have to say what you need the next time. He knows what you like, what’s important to you, and if he’s any good, he will note it and deliver it again and again.

[Archangel]

I hire for extended time. So sex isn’t all that it’s about. We often fuck then go do something else. I enjoy when the Provider cums…in me 😈 If I don’t cum during every fuck session, that’s fine; we will have more opportunity when we get back to the room or to my place. The benefits of overnights and weekends over a one-hour session…

[nopelo]

On 4/27/2024 at 4:35 PM, bloopdebloop said:

Hi all I’ve hired a few times and wonder if my experiences are the standard or exceptions.

Provider cumming: I don’t think this is something that’s really negotiated beforehand. Do providers usually come during a session with you? This hasn’t often been the case for me. A few have said they’re coming while inside and end the session early shortly thereafter. 

Session length: I’ve hired usually for an hour, however sometimes for reasons brought on by the provider (like having come inside) the session ends early. In your experience do you typically get the full time you agree upon?

 

 

My experience is limited to Brazil. I usually specified that I wanted their cum inside me (also to make it clear that I want it raw). So that's what the price they quoted included. A couple of guys said that it would cost extra if they would come, or extra if they would bareback. (And some guys turned me down, of course). Cheapest price including raw cum was 200 rais, around 40 usd, and most expensive was 500 reais, around 100 usd. 

I think it also varies from one scene to another. In the saunas for rent boys in Rio de janeiro, guys can charge as little as 20-30 usd for 30 minutes. I doubt that that would include cumming as the guys could have the next client only minutes later. On the other hand a top class guy receiving you in a nice and central apartment would charge 80-100 usd for one hour and my impression was that typically that would include cumming. 

[DWnyc]

10 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

Even better: book him regularly so you don’t even have to say what you need the next time. He knows what you like, what’s important to you, and if he’s any good, he will note it and deliver it again and again.

For some the thrill of being with new providers and experiencing variety (if available in their market) is part of why they engage in the hobby vs seek out fwbs or partners if they have them. 

[DWnyc]

 

Re time allocated - check beforehand if a provider is including shower time, get to know you  chat time in the session calculation etc. Misunderstandings can occur. You can’t force someone to spend time with you in this business if they don’t want to, and it would hardly be pleasant if they felt forced, but the providers who have tried that stuff with me will never get rebooked so the long term loss is greater for them.