How do you cope with 1 word or minimal responses?

[amused1]

I've beeen hiring for many years and recently noticed a trend of 1 word or minimal responses to inquiries. 

Any tips on how to encourage providers to be a bit more informative in their responses? 

I have a long history of hiring and have left a number of reviews on RM that I like to think show my legitimate interest in meeting up rather than a time waster. 

 

[+ DynamicUno]

I haven't encountered this myself, usually the questions I ask don't lend themselves to one word answers.  If I did get such a respose I would follow up with a simple "Thanks, can you tell me a little more" type of reply.

If they still won't engage, I'd just take that as a sign and move on to the next.

 

[jmichaeliii]

This is a huge peeve of mine with some providers.  Not sure how they think this is good business sense.

I get some clients can be a pain in the ass with never ending messages.  When I am looking at someone new, my standard questions are if they are available at a certain date and time, rates and if they can outcall to a certain location.  I don't think it's asking too much to get more than a one word answer to these questions. 

I now just immediately stop engaging if this happens as it's a waste of my time.  There are plenty of guys who are polite and willing to work with you. 

[Jamie21]

Laconic 

[JamesB]

In my overall experience, this hasn't been the case. Typically, I tend to ask multiple questions in a single message. If I receive one word responses or answers to only one question, I generally interpret it as disinterest and proceed to the next provider.

[jmichaeliii]

33 minutes ago, JamesB said:

In my overall experience, this hasn't been the case. Typically, I tend to ask multiple questions in a single message. If I receive one word responses or answers to only one question, I generally interpret it as disinterest and proceed to the next provider.

Yep, agreed.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Ideally, in communication, you should get what you give...  But that's not always the case.

If an email to me is one word, or very simplistic in a way that feels like it's disrespectful or flip, I just delete it.

I'd suggest you do the same with a guy who doesn't take literally three minutes of his time to type out a suitable reply to your message.

[+ José Soplanucas]

One word replies mean lack of interest and therefore you should move on, whether it is a hiring conversation or a Grindr for free hookup. 

[soloyo215]

7 hours ago, amused1 said:

I've beeen hiring for many years and recently noticed a trend of 1 word or minimal responses to inquiries. 

Any tips on how to encourage providers to be a bit more informative in their responses? 

I have a long history of hiring and have left a number of reviews on RM that I like to think show my legitimate interest in meeting up rather than a time waster. 

 

I gave no more than two tries in one conversation. If I keep getting one-word responses, I just move on. Sometimes I don't even end the conversation, just simply move on. To me that's a reflection of what I could expect in a live session, so I don't bother. Not once have I gotten any follow up or anything after I stop.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Once texted a provider who kept answering detailed requests with "hi."

After the second response, I responded with one word as well. "Nevermind. "

Edited February 23 by DrownedBoy
Grammar

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Funny thing is: when I send inquiries a detail response asking them to tell me a bit about themselves: many don’t even respond back. But then few months/years later they try the same thing again 🤦🏾‍♂️ 

Edited February 24 by Jarrod_Uncut

[jmichaeliii]

7 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Funny thing is: when I send inquiries a detail response asking them to tell me a bit about themselves: many don’t even respond back. But then few months/years later they try the same thing again 🤦🏾‍♂️ 

I'd love these questions.  I have hired in Philly, Las Vegas, LA and NYC and no provider has ever asked me what I'm into.  I admit I'm a bit shy bringing it up first, so my first encounters have always been mysteries.  Don't get me wrong I have been lucky to have hired a majority great guys and have had a lot of fun,  but have never been asked this stuff.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

18 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

I'd love these questions.  I have hired in Philly, Las Vegas, LA and NYC and no provider has ever asked me what I'm into.  I admit I'm a bit shy bringing it up first, so my first encounters have always been mysteries.  Don't get me wrong I have been lucky to have hired a majority great guys and have had a lot of fun,  but have never been asked this stuff.

Well, in another universe…this exact same thing has been discussed recently:

 

I think gay culture has made many male escorts treat this like a “side gig” that isn’t to be taken seriously. Many even self profess not taking it seriously either. Some are also on drugs, no matter how professional their ads come off. Weekend warriors, or they are partnered to a man or women.  
 

I also notice this from the client side, like the guy in the above post I made. He’s wanting attention without actually giving me anything to work with. GI creative professional tells me 0 about the client and what he’s looking for. Absolutely nothing. Doesn’t even address me by name. He might as well sent that to 1,000,000 different guys.

And sure enough, he never booked a session this time around. I actually stopped at a rest stop while driving to text him…because I needed to quickly decide whether to take the highway going north to where he was, or west to go home because I needed to figure out before I got to the crossroad.

All he does is tell me he doesn’t want to send a deposit, nor isn’t available at the time I would arrive to town. But that he would “try” to break free tomorrow. After saying he was free all day Saturday…assuming I had no plans of my own.

I told him: (he’s in Grey texting me in blue)

A thumbs up, really? It’s stuff like that which is why I don’t want my phone number displayed. Even “registered users” are just as much timewasters as any others. They just blatantly not read my ad otherwise they wouldn’t say the exact same shit that I have plainly in my profile 🤦🏾‍♂️ 

That’s why in my RM auto responder now, I’m making sure they agree to TWO (2) things before they see my number. Like I literally have to block myself out behind a message in order for them to comprehend. I prefer to work in a professional manner. That’s why I’ve taken the word “Consultant” and applied it to what I am. Escort has lost its professional meaning and has been replaced by “RentMan, Masseur”.

I told RentMen I’m sick of the BS clients on the site. We need to be getting paid for these exchanges whether they book us or not. I want minimum $20 every time a client on the site contacts me. PERIOD. If I wanted to have my time wasted for free I’d just stick with Grindr. No reason to pay $79 a month to deal with this nonsense. 

Edited February 25 by Jarrod_Uncut