Is bottoming really not for me afterall?

[jeezifonly]

Outside of politics, no two assholes are alike.

Some women can vaginally take dicks of great size with deep thrusting. Others will (painfully) damage their cervix if they even try that. 

The nerves that transmit pleasure and pain in the anal canal are in clusters that can vary from body to body, moment by moment. 

Hunger (physical, mental, emotional) varies as well.

So, maybe your alignment of individual factors ultimately don’t result in pleasure, and it’s not for you. 
Until sometime when it may be. 
 

[MeatHead]

I tried bottoming finally but his dick was average (decent length but not thick at all). I did feel pleasure. It hurt the whole night after we were done though. We didn't even last 7 minutes. I wonder if bigger dicks will feel the same. There are so many well-endowed hot guys that want to top for me. 

[MeatHead]

What should I do next? Take a bigger one or take more average-size ones? He was kinda thin but his dick felt great and nothing like the dildos. We didn't even use a lot of lube. I wasn't even prepared and neither very horny. My man cum right away though. And yes, he was an escort and had a lot of work that day according to what he told me. I supposedly have a very tight hole. 

Edited May 17, 2024 by socurious

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

44 minutes ago, socurious said:

What should I do next? Take a bigger one or take more average-size ones?

Try fisting. 👊 After learning to take a first as a bottom, a simple penis won't hurt 🤕

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

46 minutes ago, socurious said:

I wasn't even prepared and neither very horny.

Ah... This right here.  If you're not horny, then it's not going to feel good.  You need to want that tongue/finger/penis/fist inside you with all of your being.  Then your sphincter will open up and swallow whatever it is!  Enjoy!

[MeatHead]

11 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Try fisting. 👊 After learning to take a first as a bottom, a simple penis won't hurt 🤕

I don't want to ruin my hole. Also, I doubt I will be able to take a first. It will hurt. 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

lol - thought that sounded familiar 

On 2/26/2024 at 5:15 AM, SouthOfTheBorder said:

if someone thinks bottoming isn’t for them, then they just haven’t found a good top yet: a complete & total game-changer.  Lots of guys think they can top - very few actual good ones. 

 

On 5/12/2024 at 10:33 PM, Atyla said:

If someone thinks bottoming isn’t for them, then they just haven’t found a good top yet: a complete & total game-changer.  Lots of guys think they can top - very few actual good ones. 

 

[edinbrooklyn]

To me, there’s nothing more pleasurable in the world. Deep throating is a close second. But the connection is too intense to verbalize. But you’ve got to start slow. And the top needs to think about the bottom at all times. I’ve been with maybe 3 guys who were just too well endowed. But that’s been rare. And my research has been broad and deep, spanning decades.

[Trick]

My starter dildo looked like a taper candle, but I have made a lot of progress through the years. I’ve been able to take well endowed providers without any difficulties.  I’ve even weaned myself from poppers.

[Your Man in Arlington]

18 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Ah... This right here.  If you're not horny, then it's not going to feel good.  You need to want that tongue/finger/penis/fist inside you with all of your being.  Then your sphincter will open up and swallow whatever it is!  Enjoy!

All of my best experiences as a bottom were after an "I need that in me" moment. Not because it was large or impressive, there's just something about certain cocks that call out to be taken in.

[jeezifonly]

23 hours ago, socurious said:

I tried bottoming finally but his dick was average (decent length but not thick at all). I did feel pleasure. It hurt the whole night after we were done though. We didn't even last 7 minutes. I wonder if bigger dicks will feel the same. There are so many well-endowed hot guys that want to top for me. 

The insertion of something too slender can wind up feeling “pokey” once you get going, and less pleasurable than something a little thicker that engages all the rings. Find somebody to use your toy with you and see what you discover by handing over control with an object that is a better fit for your anatomy. 

[MeatHead]

15 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

The insertion of something too slender can wind up feeling “pokey” once you get going, and less pleasurable than something a little thicker that engages all the rings. Find somebody to use your toy with you and see what you discover by handing over control with an object that is a better fit for your anatomy. 

Are you saying I should get a bigger dick to play with?

[edinbrooklyn]

8 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

The insertion of something too slender can wind up feeling “pokey” once you get going, and less pleasurable than something a little thicker that engages all the rings. Find somebody to use your toy with you and see what you discover by handing over control with an object that is a better fit for your anatomy. 

Totally agree. Least pleasurable brief bf top had a smallish dick that was rock hard. Like steel. I hated taking it. Felt like going through a crude medical procedure.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

10 hours ago, socurious said:

Are you saying I should get a bigger dick to play with?

 

20 hours ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

If someone thinks bottoming isn’t for them, then they just haven’t found a good top yet: a complete & total game-changer.  Lots of guys think they can top - very few actual good ones. 

 

Find a more EXPERIENCED dick to play with.  The problem is with the person controlling your toy, not the toy itself.  Find a Daddy who knows what he is doing from years of opening up tight new bottoms to make love to you in a way that you don't even know exists yet.

[MeatHead]

34 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

 

Find a more EXPERIENCED dick to play with.  The problem is with the person controlling your toy, not the toy itself.  Find a Daddy who knows what he is doing from years of opening up tight new bottoms to make love to you in a way that you don't even know exists yet.

He was a daddy (my first experience).

When you say toy you mean my pussy? 

[Your Man in Arlington]

11 hours ago, socurious said:

Are you saying I should get a bigger dick to play with?

I'm 6" - 6 1/4" long and about 4 1/4" around. From what I've read I'm  slimmer than average, and not short, but not also not long.

I've had nothing but rave reviews as a top, and very recently had a provider request that I get him off while I was buried inside him. Afterwards he said I had the perfect size dick for topping, hit everything in the right place. Of course, everyone has their unique anatomy and preferences, and as a provider it may be more important for him not to get too much at a time.

As others mentioned, it's more important to find someone who really enjoys topping, in that they enjoy the process of going slow and feeling a bottom open up around them. I love it so much that I still sometimes find it hard not to cum during insertion and will have to go through multiple cooling off periods. 😅

Edited May 18, 2024 by Your Man in Arlington
Grammer and accuracy

[Your Man in Arlington]

On 3/9/2024 at 8:55 PM, socurious said:

And it hurts even more trying to do doggy style!!

Maybe not with a toy, but I think spooning can be a great position for a beginner (or experienced) bottom. If the top lets you "drive," you have great control of position, depth and pace; and, most dick shapes will provide an excellent prostate massage all along the way in and out.

Edited May 18, 2024 by Your Man in Arlington

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

2 hours ago, socurious said:

When you say toy you mean my pussy? 

 🤮

Sorry, I have no experience with 😺.  I am a proud Platinum Star ⭐ Gay.  Any tips or tricks based on my experience have pertained only to the arse.

Edited May 18, 2024 by Vegas_Millennial
I could not even type the word p***y without 🤮

[Your Man in Arlington]

8 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

 🤮

Sorry, I have no experience with 😺.  I am a proud Platinum Star ⭐ Gay.  Any tips or tricks based on my experience have pertained only to the arse.

I think we can substitute "bussy" or even "mussy"? Yes? No? Maybe?

[MeatHead]

Should I take a bigger dick next or an average one?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I still remember the first time I took a penis up the ass.  I wasn't very "good".  I just laid face down on the bathhouse mattress and let the guy do what he wanted with me (in retrospect, maybe that's the best bottom some tops are looking for!).  But as inexperienced as I was (not even a toy before this), I knew right then and there it was something I liked.  I couldn't wait to tell everyone I knew about this sensational feeling; yet, I didn't because I was very much in the closet.