2 Hour Session Structure?

[Your Man in Arlington]

Newbie client questions: I've had a handful of meetings over the past few months, and I always book for 2 hours so that we're not rushed.

But, only one time was actually 2 hours, which included quite a bit conversation based on shared interests, while most meetings clock in at around 90 minutes. I felt like they have been complete experiences: conversation, affection/cuddling, making out, play time, post-play shower together, etc... My donation is always for the full time booked (often with some extra), which I'm totally fine with: for me, I'm not a clock watcher on the inverse side.

However, I'm wondering if I'm missing out on something? Or, is this more common than I understand? Or, maybe masseurs have it right by offering bookings in 30 minute increments?

Would be very appreciative of people's thoughts or feedback.

Edited October 25, 2023 by Your Man in Arlington
Wording clarification

[Simon Suraci]

Your experience is common. Escort service is by the hour (or portion thereof). Masseurs charge by half hour because it’s intense, skilled, focused physical work versus a conversation and cuddle lasting 15 mins longer or shorter. That’s not to say I think an escort appointment going over by 5 mins merits charging a full extra hour, but we work to the client’s satisfaction. I take cues from the client. When he’s satisfied and ready to leave, all good. If he wants the full time, it’s also perfectly good. When things start to drift much beyond the scheduled time, I gently signal that it’s either time to wrap up, or offer to extend the session if I have availability to extend.

[+ keroscenefire]

I think you should be a bit more direct if you want more time. IMO, a 2-hour session often includes another round of fooling around. Obviously, guys only have so much in the tank so sometimes you have to adjust a bit, but you can say something like, "I loved what you did with your mouth earlier, can you do that again?" Or "You down for another round?" 

Of course, if you're good after just messing around once than my advice to you would be to do just a one-hour session. I actually think that's more than enough time for most guys.

[Jamie21]

I’ve done sessions ranging from an hour to five hours. Always agreed the time duration in advance. I ask what the client wants from the session, which always includes some form of massage. Beyond that it’s really up to them to ask or they leave it to me to choreograph the session. I include things like chat, watch some porn together, make out etc, shower, undress at start, eating (food 😉 ), cuddling, if it’s in a sauna then cruising around and picking up guys for fun, or just me accompanying the client. Sometimes it includes doing some training (work out) too. All sorts of things can happen. If the client is satisfied and wants to stop earlier than planned then the fee is as originally agreed. Otherwise I’ll always make sure that the whole session is completed. 

[Your Man in Arlington]

6 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

I think you should be a bit more direct if you want more time. IMO, a 2-hour session often includes another round of fooling around. Obviously, guys only have so much in the tank so sometimes you have to adjust a bit, but you can say something like, "I loved what you did with your mouth earlier, can you do that again?" Or "You down for another round?" 

Of course, if you're good after just messing around once than my advice to you would be to do just a one-hour session. I actually think that's more than enough time for most guys.

Thanks for the insight!

I've only gone one round at a time so far (not sure I have enough gas in the tank for 2 in 2 hours, though who knows 🤷🏼‍♂️), but my experience of one round is that it is definitely over an hour.

In the future, I'll experiment with both 1 hour meetings and 2 hours with a second round of playtime.

[Your Man in Arlington]

8 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I include things like chat, watch some porn together, make out etc, shower, undress at start, eating (food 😉 ), cuddling, if it’s in a sauna then cruising around and picking up guys for fun, or just me accompanying the client. Sometimes it includes doing some training (work out) too.

Thanks for the ideas! I've thought a little about including other activities, one thing that would be appealing for me is starting a session with a 15 or 20 minute jog. 💦💦💦

[Simon Suraci]

41 minutes ago, Your Man in Arlington said:

Thanks for the ideas! I've thought a little about including other activities, one thing that would be appealing for me is starting a session with a 15 or 20 minute jog. 💦💦💦

The only thing limiting you is your own creativity! I like to encourage clients to imagine what they would want for longer sessions. Massage, working out together, playing video games, shopping, meals, Jamie’s bathhouse idea…the possibilities are endless. Then of course there’s always the simple cuddle and conversation approach, which is always nice.

Clients vary in their sexual and non-sexual needs and desires. What works for one client in an hour may work better for you in two. You might enjoy quick (and perhaps multiple) rounds, or going for a long stretch at a time with a lot of buildup, and perhaps some breaks, or alternating back and forth between activities. Some clients really like extended edging, for example, which takes a considerable amount of session time.

Sometimes things change in a session. You thought you wanted one thing, but emotionally and physically you feel like doing something else in the moment, so you pivot, and that’s ok. A good pro Iwill roll with it. The most important thing is that you’re getting the experience you want and that you’re satisfied, no matter how long or short the session. The key is to know yourself well enough to budget enough time, which gives you the emotional space to fully enjoy the experience. These things cost a lot of money. You want to savor it.

There is no one-size-fits all. You’re in total control of the session and responsible for communicating your needs to your provider. Doing so maximizes the value of your hiring time.

[Jamie21]

3 hours ago, Your Man in Arlington said:

Thanks for the ideas! I've thought a little about including other activities, one thing that would be appealing for me is starting a session with a 15 or 20 minute jog. 💦💦💦

That’s an interesting one!! Not done that before. I’ve started with a workout with client at the hotel gym. Get sweaty then go back to the room and….get sweaty 😂. A jog is a nice idea. 

[Your Man in Arlington]

3 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

There is no one-size-fits all. You’re in total control of the session and responsible for communicating your needs to your provider. Doing so maximizes the value of your hiring time.

Thank you for the ideas and encouragement, I really appreciate it!

In the future, at the start of 2 hour sessions, I will be more active in slowing down and with more time before and after and see if that's something that I want - or, maybe, 90 mins is perfect for me and I should just think of 2 hours as 90 minute session.

3 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

Sometimes things change in a session. You thought you wanted one thing, but emotionally and physically you feel like doing something else in the moment, so you pivot, and that’s ok. A good pro Iwill roll with it.

This is so true. I went into my second time meeting up with a guy as a total top for almost 20 years (was verse until my early 30's) and unexpectedly left vers again. Was a fantastic experience and recovered lost joy in my life. This is one reason I haven't been so worried about filling time, I like to go with the flow and see where our energy leads than follow a template or script. Takes me back to the days hooking up with guys from going out, or cruising the streets or trails back before the Internet and smart phones.

[+ sf westcoaster]

The norm for most of my two hour sessions is about thirty minutes of get-to-know each other conversation, then an hour play time and for whatever time remains I I ask if they would like to have a beverage, which somewhat surprising I find a good number accept.

[Your Man in Arlington]

8 minutes ago, sf westcoaster said:

The norm for most of my two hour sessions is about thirty minutes of get-to-know each other conversation

I could probably guide things toward a longer get-to-know each other conversations, as they've mostly been much less than 30 mins. Would give me more of a chance to relay my likes/dislikes and learn about his before jumping in and make play time more enjoyable.

Thanks!

[Simon Suraci]

21 minutes ago, Your Man in Arlington said:

unexpectedly left vers again. Was a fantastic experience

Lol this happens with my clients all the time. Total tops come to me with an agenda and find something missing in their life they never knew they wanted so badly or could enjoy so much.

All this comes from embracing a spirit of exploration, openness, and feeling out the chemistry. With the right time (no rushing) you get a chance to nurture the right atmosphere.

Sometimes it happens over multiple sessions. One of the benefits of repeat/ongoing hires is building on the trust, understanding, and chemistry you’ve already established.

[ICTJOCK]

Well first,  as a provider,  I appreciate your approach.  I would concur with some of what has been said above.    If an hour isn't sufficient for you  (and most are not),  then 2 hours might be the real answer based on what you listed.   Communication,  discussion and a little extra time for the provider.   He should appreciate your extra effort.   I would.    

[+ DrownedBoy]

As a client,  I'd try not to structure 2 hr meetings too much.

For example,  I used to be afraid of blowing my load too early, whereas if I relax and let myself go, I can get 2 orgasms in.

[Your Man in Arlington]

13 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

For example,  I used to be afraid of blowing my load too early, whereas if I relax and let myself go, I can get 2 orgasms in.

This is my concern, but there's only one way to find out now!

[ncc1701d]

I often ask for one hr, with option to extend to 2 if chemistry is great, and ask if provider is ok with that set up ....have yet to get a no answer as one hr is confirmed. For me one hr is very rushed.  As for activities, it is totally individual ; for me i take time in foreplay and making out, no need to rush to finish line, and lots of pillow talk and cudlling after including a shared hot shower, which may or may not lead to round 2.....some have given me a nice short massage as well.....so talk to the guy and enjoy!

[Your Man in Arlington]

I have ended up with naturally spending around 90 to 100 minutes with most guys, including some massage before and some conversation after.

I'm OK with that. One of my Dad's saying before he passed away was something along the lines of "Some of the best glasses of beer I've had are the ones I left half-full."

I started this thread out of curiosity as to whether there was something I was missing out on, but now think it's better to view a meeting as value for the right amount of time than the full amount of time. For me, so far, that happens to be more than an hour but less than two.

[+ The Big Guy]

4 hours ago, ncc1701d said:

I often ask for one hr, with option to extend to 2 if chemistry is great, and ask if provider is ok with that set up ....have yet to get a no answer as one hr is confirmed. For me one hr is very rushed.  As for activities, it is totally individual ; for me i take time in foreplay and making out, no need to rush to finish line, and lots of pillow talk and cudlling after including a shared hot shower, which may or may not lead to round 2.....some have given me a nice short massage as well.....so talk to the guy and enjoy!

Out of curiosity how often do you end up extending?   I like your approach!

[Jamie21]

On 10/25/2023 at 11:21 PM, DrownedBoy said:

As a client,  I'd try not to structure 2 hr meetings too much.

For example,  I used to be afraid of blowing my load too early, whereas if I relax and let myself go, I can get 2 orgasms in.

This is a good tactic. With some massage clients who book a 2 hour session I offer them the chance to blow their load right at the start. If he’s really excited and is prone to cunning before he wants to then we just call it and I suck him off before he gets in the table. That way he can relax into the massage and really enjoy that without the tension ‘down there’. Then I build him up again over the 2 hours to a second climax. It’s a nice structure to a 2 hour massage. 

[ncc1701d]

7 hours ago, The Big Guy said:

Out of curiosity how often do you end up extending?   I like your approach!

I'd some 70/30, 70% extend and 30% not. I can usually tell within first 10 min where it is going (especially after the first kiss). I don't force the issue either, so if provider says no, then i just confirm for a one hr and get on with it. Never hurts to ask, and just be prepared to deal with an answer you may not want.

[pubic_assistance]

On 10/25/2023 at 10:48 AM, Your Man in Arlington said:

I'm wondering if I'm missing out on something?

I've noticed over the years that a masseur offering a two hour erotic session will respect the two hour schedule while an escort will typically assume the session is over once everyone's dumped their load.

To prevent this habit from cutting into your two hours, you need to be very specific about your desires for what happens after your orgasm. Whether it's bringing them to orgasm to cuddling to having a glass of wine...you need to give guidance, since some guys go for half an hour, drop a load, zip up and leave.

[Your Man in Arlington]

Just now, pubic_assistance said:

I've noticed over the years that a masseur offering a two hour erotic session will respect the two hour schedule while an escort will typically assume the session is over once everyone's dumped their load.

To prevent this habit from cutting into your two hours, you need to be very specific about your desires for what happens after your orgasm. Whether it's bringing them to orgasm to cuddling to having a glass of wine...you need to give guidance, since some guys go for half an hour, drop a load, zip up and leave.

Definitely some or most assume this.

For me, playtime consistently runs full hour or close to it. And, fortunately, I've had no problem so far letting them know I'd like to shower together and hang out chatting and possibly cuddling until I signal I'm ready to wrap things up.

[ncc1701d]

same here...have yet to have a 2hr session end early...some will for sure get you out by exactly 120 min, most are quite ok and easy about the time by then.

[+ Pensant]

Two hours has always been my norm. With a newbie, it’s usually a glass of wine in the dimly lit living room. They often tell me about their lives, which I enjoy. People love talking about themselves and I enjoy listening. That usually leads to kissing and then we head upstairs for fun. Sometimes they linger past two hours and I have to gently suggest that I have a busy day the next day. Although I couldn’t tell you how many guys I’ve seen over the years, rarely did any try to leave early. It must be my lovely personality!

[Your Man in Arlington]

3 hours ago, Pensant said:

With a newbie, it’s usually a glass of wine in the dimly lit living room.

I love wine and have an extensive collection, but I don't mix alcohol and playtime. I can't even have any food for the day before playtime. I old. 😜