MANAGING THE ESCORT SCHEDULE

[ICTJOCK]

So I started out with the idea that my work as an escort would fit neatly into an evening or weekend.    Definitely a "side gig"  kind of thing.   It worked to a point to begin, but as my business grew,  I realized the need to be available when the client requests the service,  not vice versa.      I've been able to manage the process,  but I'd had more challenges with vacations,   even the few weekends where I am out of town  or have other obligations.     I get booking requests on holidays and other days that I'd not expect.     I totally get the importance of going the extra mile,  but to a point.

 

Ideas on how you manage your schedule?    I generally let clients know in advance if a weekend/  time off/  is coming up and I am not available during a certain period.  Thoughts?

[+ haring222]

Back when I was escorting (in the lates 90s, at the dawn of the internet age and start of rentboy.com), I had a thing called the two strike rule.  I would see a client, they would generally enjoy it...if they would want to see me again I could not be available one time, but if I were not available on the second time he reached out the fellows interest would ease off and I would likely never get another phone call.  It did not matter if I had been rocking that guys world for a year...I say no twice in a row they move on to another guy.  This became more and more of an issue as my schedule filled up with clients and with college.

This really bothered me, and I was trying all sorts of ways to keep track of schedules and make sure I was available or spring enticing tales of what collegiate activities made me unavailable....but I also started to realize that I was basically having relationships with some of these guys, and that was much more mentally exhausting (and honestly less sexually exciting) than getting new fellows.  I had one guy who was super nice and paid well, but was a heavy smoker and wanted the same ridiculous scenario of me being a cop and pulling him over for speeding, forcing him to bend over for me.  I was 6'2" and 180 lbs in a Northwestern sweatshirt, so why any of that made sense was beyond me.  Each time it would end with him telling me he forgot his wallet in the car and asking me to walk out with him, so he could show me whatever car he was driving on loan from the dealership he worked out and I had to oooh and aww over it.  He was the first one that I had to turn down twoice and did not ever call again, which was a financial sadness but a glorious mental relief.  

In today's world, now that I am the one shelling out the cash, I totally see the other side.  A few touring escorts have gone the extra mile and allow you to use Calendly to book an appointment, which is handy but it also makes you think 'oh, he has seven slots available, is he going to see six guys before me if I pick the 10PM time?' which is kind of gross.

[blck37]

7 minutes ago, haring222 said:

A few touring escorts have gone the extra mile and allow you to use Calendly to book an appointment, which is handy but it also makes you think 'oh, he has seven slots available, is he going to see six guys before me if I pick the 10PM time?' which is kind of gross.

Not sure why is it kind of gross? Surely any client fully understand provider is a SW.......

[Bargara Leatherboy]

This is the constant dilemma with hiring.

I am limited to my hiring opportunities - so I try to schedule them in advance, some providers are excellent in doing this, others say call on the day, then they are not available - and I have to scratch around for someone else or do without.

I get the no shows that might come with forward bookings - but that can easily be managed.

 

I have never made a time and not shown 

 

 

[+ StLouisOct]

As your question pertains to hiring practices rather than to specific individual escorts, you might get a more active discussion by moving this to the “Questions About Hiring” section.

[Whippoorwill]

ICTJOCK, I have a life, and I assume my boys have a life. I typically send my appointment request out on Sunday and give the provider a choice of numerous days and times during the week. It seems to me this is both realistic and respectful. He knows when I am available, and picks a slot when he is available. On rare occasions, I have had to reschedule when something else comes up during the week. Likewise on rare occasions, they may reschedule is something else comes up for them (a better offer, a longer appointment, a trip, I don't care). I know, there are times a guy needs it "right now", or thinks the provider's life revolves around him. You may forego a few of those clients by insisting you deserve a life of your own. But that's your choice. It may be financially (and emotionally) better to have a steady repeat respectful clientele than to jump on every possible opportunity. I don't know. That is your choice. 

[Simon Suraci]

It’s tough. I don’t like turning down work. I’m getting better about boundaries in my schedule. I have to be rested enough to provide good service, and I need to have a personal life to make any of the work worthwhile.

It’s much easier for me to turn down a client now because I know that if I have no boundaries we are both worse off. I make enough during the vast majority of the time that I AM available. I’m open all day, every day of the week, and I flex my schedule frequently to accommodate good clients.

It’s ok to take time off here and there when I need it. It’s ok to have boundaries. I’m better off and the clients I do take are better off because of it. Having too much business is a great problem to have, but not at the expense of my life outside my work. If anything, I work too much, and I’m trying to change that.

Sometimes a client is already booked and I can’t take a second client at the same time as the first. Tough luck. And no, I don’t cancel when I have a “better offer”. My policy is first booked, first priority.

If a client is worth his salt, he will contact me again, maybe even with some notice the next time and that’s the client I want. The client who has zero flexibility, only inquires last minute, and demands I be on call for him is the client I feel no sorrow for missing. I’d rather have the better, more considerate client. The more considerate client and I have a more reciprocal relationship based on mutual respect.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

You either make the decision to have a work/life balance or you don't.

For years, I lived and breathed escorting.  I worked 28 of 30 days a month, most of that flying from one client to another.

It worked through my 20s and 30s.  I bounced back quick, never got tired, kept a smile on my face.

Now I'm 40.  I listened to my body and pulled back.  I take more time for me.  I vacation from my vacation.  I pick my battles.

Money is great, but at some point you have to prioritize your well-being. 

[Jamie21]

This is the biggest challenge of the work. I too hate turning down business, and so many clients tend to ask ‘on the day’ as if I’m just hanging around all day waiting for the phone to ring. Then they’re disappointed I’m not available!  

The trouble is that although at any one time I’ll have 3 of 4 clients booked for the week or weeks ahead most of the time the bookings are short notice. Like this week on Sunday I had 1 booked for the week ahead. A quiet week. So I made plans for other things. Now on Friday evening I’ve had 5 clients this week and my alternative plans went by the wayside. It’s tough to carve out time to do things like gym, read a book or catch up on my accounts! On the other hand I like the flexibility. I like the fact that I might be with a client at 10am on a Monday morning whilst most others are in an office. You take the rough with the smooth. 
 

[jeezifonly]

The reality of the Independent Contractor: Always wanting to avoid “no”

Unlike building contractors, who juggle several projects at once by having subs rotate through them.

”Justin will be there to make a drink, followed by Kimo to shower with you, and man, does he give good scrub. He’ll clean up in the bathroom and lay out fresh towels for after, while you curl up on the sofa for making out with Randall. Troy will take over for the BJ, and I’ll be there for mutual rimming and fucking. I’ll slip out after I slip out LOL and then 24cmKing will deliver the headboard pounding and a nice cuddle. You’ll have a thorough clean up with TransMnstrD, and I will personally kiss you good night and tuck you in with your wooly penguin.

Can that work 4U?”

😲😳😵‍💫🤣

Edited August 18, 2023 by jeezifonly