Milo Janus Posted May 24, 2023 Share Posted May 24, 2023 Hi all, Is it normal or acceptable when a provider reaches out to a prospective client? For some reason, it rubs me the wrong way, especially when he's in another city altogether. It feels almost desperation on their part. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but the client should contact a provider first. Thoughts? Musings? Curious to hear what any of you think about this practice. + Axiom2001 and HoseMaster 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caramelsub Posted May 24, 2023 Share Posted May 24, 2023 (edited) I’ve had providers that I had met, reach out to me letting me know they are in town or planning on visiting my city. It kind of rubs me the wrong way as well. I don’t mind it, but I check the rentmen website everyday, so I already know who is available in my local city. And just because they are in town doesn’t mean I would want to hire them again, or even have the money to meet up at the time they are here. Edited May 24, 2023 by caramelsub Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChasingGirth Posted May 24, 2023 Share Posted May 24, 2023 A lot of them contact me when they see I looked at their profiles. And funny enough the guys that do have been in statistics the best encounters I’ve had. They are motivated and I usually meet them pretty quickly. It’s kind of refreshing compared to those you message and don’t hear back for days. BaronArtz, marylander1940, TorontoDrew and 3 others 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted May 24, 2023 Share Posted May 24, 2023 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeBiDude Posted May 24, 2023 Share Posted May 24, 2023 @Milo Janus good advice here from @azdr0710 regarding how to hide yourself on RentMen: harlow 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Pensant Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 I’m always in private mode, so that doesn’t happen to me. + ButchAtl and MikeBiDude 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused1 Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 For me it depends on the provider and circumstance. I have a couple regulars who give me a shout before they post travel plans. I appreciate this as it gives me the opportunity to book them while they are available. Some guys reach out when I've looked at their profiles. I usually explain that I'm traveling to their area soon and was checking out various providers. Where it goes from there depends upon their response, if any. Out of the blue messages usually don't get much of a response from me. That said, I once received a message from a guy who had checked out the reviews of local providers and hit up reviewers based on who he felt would be open to his looks and style. I met up with him figuring if he was smart enough to do that level of research he was worth checking out. He was a good match. NYXboy 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robberbaron4u Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 17 hours ago, Milo Janus said: Hi all, Is it normal or acceptable when a provider reaches out to a prospective client? For some reason, it rubs me the wrong way, especially when he's in another city altogether. It feels almost desperation on their part. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but the client should contact a provider first. Thoughts? Musings? Curious to hear what any of you think about this practice. "Escorting" is a business. The escort market is heavily saturated with providers; consequently, it behooves the provider to "work the lines" to promote his services if he is to be competitive in the marketplace. TorontoDrew, + KensingtonHomo and + jeezopete 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maninsoma Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 If I was motivated to see someone and he reached out to me after viewing his ad, that wouldn't impact my decision to hire him in a negative way. It might make me book an appointment sooner, but it wouldn't turn me off. If the contact is sketchy, however, that would be a turn off. I remember years ago some guy basically begging me to hire him because he was about to be homeless, had some legal problems due to drugs, etc. Like that would motivate me to spend private time with someone! If it's a regular who just visits my area, of course I want them to contact me when they are planning a trip. If it's someone I hired once and they keep pestering me with texts, that's very annoying. If I haven't responded by hiring you again after your first or second marketing attempt, it isn't going to happen. One way to avoid someone messaging you after you simply viewed his ad is to browse while logged out of Rentmen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DynamicUno Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 In my opinion, the idea of "usual or acceptable" depends on the context. Generally speaking, as long as the contact maintains reasonable discreation and isn't "pushy" then there is no issue. Occasionally a provider will reach out to me by RM chat when they see I've viewed their ad. RM's design allows clients who are logged in to a profile to show that they'v viewed a provider or block it at their option. If I am looking at guys in another city and they contact me after looking at them, I let them know I'm browsing and if and when I'm going to visit their town. Never had any issue with that. If you don't want those kind of contacts, set your profile to not show your viewed traces. I also don't mind it if I get a text from a travelling guy who I've seen before who is letting me know they're going to be in my area, so long as they don't get pushy when contacting me. Text me once and keep it PG, I'll respond when I am free to do so. I don't think I've ever had anyone who has been a problem that way, however. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TorontoDrew Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 I dont mind at all. To me its just good business. + jeezopete 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jostar Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 I don't mind it either. My regular sometimes they send me messages both on site and on phone asking if I want to see them when they are coming to my city. Help me out with the chance I get to see. But sometimes there guys that just send one message like "hey" or "hi" and i reply "what up" and nothing happens. They don't reply back. What the point of sending one word if they don't reply back. Waste of time TorontoDrew 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyanDean Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 I thought it rubbed me the wrong way too -- until one gent happened to do so in a way that intrigued me... A quick back and forth assuaged my resistance -- I was wary not only because of the unsolicited contact but also because his profile didn't include a face-pic (which is usually a must for me) -- but I proceeded to book a meetup anyway. As it happens, he turned out to be one of my all-time favorite hires and is the only gent I've booked more than 3x. So you never know... + azdr0710 and TorontoDrew 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philly50 Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 It's fine with me when a provider contacts me after I've viewed his profile. If I'm interested, it has often led to a productive exchange, and if I'm not interested, I politely tell him. Or if it just looks like an auto-response, I just ignore. No problem at all. TorontoDrew and JourneysEnd 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NyGold Posted May 25, 2023 Share Posted May 25, 2023 I see more providers reaching out to me proactively (which tells me times are tough rather than I was memorable or they are getting more professional). And if the takeaway from discussions on here is that providers are so busy, and unlike anyone else their time is so valuable, the world ends if you engage with them and don’t intend to hire that minute etc etc, am I supposed to even respond? I follow my grandma’s rules and reply politely to any message received - which is typically “thanks, not right now, hope you are well’. TorontoDrew and + KensingtonHomo 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 29, 2023 Share Posted May 29, 2023 On 5/24/2023 at 6:05 PM, ChasingGirth said: A lot of them contact me when they see I looked at their profiles. And funny enough the guys that do have been in statistics the best encounters I’ve had. They are motivated and I usually meet them pretty quickly. It’s kind of refreshing compared to those you message and don’t hear back for days. If I looked at their profile and didn't contact them, I would think it's obvious that I wasn't interested. BUT this comment sounds like some clients like to browse and don't reach out even when they ARE interested. Perhaps an awareness of shy clients is why some do reach out on their own. mike carey and MikeBiDude 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Axiom2001 Posted May 29, 2023 Share Posted May 29, 2023 On 5/24/2023 at 12:21 PM, Milo Janus said: Hi all, Is it normal or acceptable when a provider reaches out to a prospective client? For some reason, it rubs me the wrong way, especially when he's in another city altogether. It feels almost desperation on their part. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but the client should contact a provider first. Thoughts? Musings? Curious to hear what any of you think about this practice. For me I prefer to contact the provider vs his contacting me first. I've had a few to inquire about me via Rentmen, but I've always ignored them, for that is NOT the norm. It's client contacting the provider during all of the years that I've sought sensuous and sexual play for a fee. That's been the norm worldwide. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChasingGirth Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 On 5/29/2023 at 1:03 PM, pubic_assistance said: If I looked at their profile and didn't contact them, I would think it's obvious that I wasn't interested. BUT this comment sounds like some clients like to browse and don't reach out even when they ARE interested. Perhaps an awareness of shy clients is why some do reach out on their own. I can look at profiles and not reach out for weeks, it really depends. I don’t always engage immediately. It really depends on what I’m looking for when I’m browsing. In my case it’s not because I’m shy, but some clients might be hesitant or shy definitely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 5 hours ago, ChasingGirth said: ’t always engage immediately. It real 5 hours ago, ChasingGirth said: I don’t always engage immediately. It really depends on what I’m looking for when I’m browsing For me..if Im browsing and I find someone interesting I would, at minimum, inquire about their rates. If I pass them by, it's because I'm not interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boink Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 I don't mind when someone contacts me after I've looked at their profile. Although that ONLY happens with people I'm not interested in. pubic_assistance, ChasingGirth and LostUpstate 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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