First time threesome advice?

[Dchan]

Hi All,

I’m planning on having my first MMM threesome in a few days. Never done it but has been a fantasy for a while so I’m pretty excited to say the least.

Any advice from members welcomed!

Thank you x

[Thomas_Belgium]

Do you know what the other guys are into?

[Dchan]

15 minutes ago, Thomas_Belgium said:

Do you know what the other guys are into?

Ah yes. One is more top vers, the other bottom vers (like me).

[56harrisond]

Have you been with the other two participants individually? I've had a couple threesomes and only with guys I've been with first. I think it helps with a comfort level, so you know what someone likes and how they do it.

[Dchan]

45 minutes ago, 56harrisond said:

Have you been with the other two participants individually? I've had a couple threesomes and only with guys I've been with first. I think it helps with a comfort level, so you know what someone likes and how they do it.

Yes I do know one of them. Always a good time together 

[+ Jamie21]

1 hour ago, Dchan said:

Ah yes. One is more top vers, the other bottom vers (like me).

The top vers guy and the bottom vers guy will both turn out to be bottoms. Be prepared for that 😉

[JourneysEnd]

If they're a couple, be prepared for them to be more into each other than into you.

[jeezifonly]

The fantasy that exists in your mind is an awfully high benchmark for the reality to live up to.
Chemistry: combining three elements may not yield same result as when combining two. 

Good luck!🍀 

Edited April 21, 2023 by jeezifonly

[56harrisond]

38 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

The top vers guy and the bottom vers guy will both turn out to be bottoms. Be prepared for that 😉

Definitely this 👆

[56harrisond]

Someone will naturally take charge and lead and in my experience it's normally the top, but not always.

Don't over hype it in your head (which may be difficult). It's just sex after all with an added component.

[Dchan]

Thank you - lots of great advice! Managing my own expectations seems to be the biggest one so far!

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

If they're a couple, remember to pay attention to each of them equally.  You might be so busy being the bottom for the vers top, that the other versatile bottom feels left out.  Be sure to suck his dick and play with his ass while the top is working on you.  Making sure you're having fun with both of them at the same time is the hardest, yet also best, part of a threesome.

[+ Jamie21]

Lots of people giving advice here, risks you having all sorts of expectations. I’d say don’t overthink it or have unrealistic expectations about how it ‘should’ feel. There’s no right or wrong group sex experience. Sometimes it’s great, sometimes it isn’t. If I think about why that is, it’s usually because of my expectations about the event beforehand. 

[Dchan]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Lots of people giving advice here, risks you having all sorts of expectations. I’d say don’t overthink it or have unrealistic expectations about how it ‘should’ feel. There’s no right or wrong group sex experience. Sometimes it’s great, sometimes it isn’t. If I think about why that is, it’s usually because of my expectations about the event beforehand. 

Thank you Jamie !

[Stormy]

I had threesomes when I was younger.  They rarely worked out for me.  Seems to always be an odd man out 

[+ Pensant]

I’ve only done three. The first was with an at that time regular. Super cute Latino UCLA student and his hung, but submissive, bf. We tied the bf up and topped him. The whole night was fabulous, really. They decided to stay the night since they lived in WEHO and I was by Laguna Beach. Great brunch the next day.

The second was with two blonds at the Ritz Carlton Marina del Rey. Dylan, from NYC, and Dakota, an OC boy. Another shockingly hot time. Dakota left his chrome cock ring on overnight and woke up with a throbbing 8” boner. I obviously had to satisfy him so he could get it off. All three of us were in the king bed when the nice man delivered our breakfasts while we were drinking Veuve.

The third time was at my place with a provider that I’d gotten quite close to and one who’d recently come by for a session. The newer boy pounded my blond and I did feel a bit left out until he gave me the best blow job in my life and drank every last drop.

So, yeah, my experiences have been nonpareil, although it’s been a long time.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

I have had a few, one with two providers in Melbourne who advertise as working well together - and that they did .  Both Tops - I had a delightful couple of hours with them.  Its best not to overthink it but to discuss what you want before and during 

[Luv2play]

12 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

Definitely this 👆

Less.likely since he's been with one already

[Luv2play]

I've had a number over the years. Used to get it for free in my youth, now I pay to set it up. I always choose the two to ensure compatibility with me. But in one case I did hire a couple from LA who turned out to be great at satisfying me altho not to be repeated as one of them was Jay Dymel who unfortunately died several months later. His partner in life as well was Ryan Stone another porn actor. Ryan was a top and Jay top vers. And they both topped me and Jay bottomed for Ryan. Great memory but tinged with sadness. 

 

Edited April 21, 2023 by Luv2play

[+ Jamie21]

A good option is to try group sex at a sex party. If I’m at a party the groups tend to break off into 3’s for some reason. I mean there will be lots of guys in a room but if you watch it tends to be mostly multiple groups of 3 playing together. People move between the groups. When you’ve had enough in one group you move to another. 

I think this is because 4’s tend to split into a two, any number more than 4 tends to focus on one recipient (say a guy getting gang banged). So 3 seems to work best for everyone to feel fully involved. At a party you can try lots of different guys in groups of 3 to see what you like best! That’s why I prefer parties for group sex rather than setting a 3some up. 
 

 

[+ Just Chuck]

It's important to ensure that everyone gets a turn being the center of attention for the other two people.  It's easy for the two people with the most chemistry to gravitate towards each other and leave someone feeling left out and undesired.  You can make a game of that with a playtime rule, like: every time the song changes on the music playing, we switch up who's the centerpiece.

Deciding to sleep together as a threesome is a whole different set of logistic challenges.  Whoever sleeps in the middle better like to be very warm when they sleep.

[Dchan]

11 hours ago, Pensant said:

I’ve only done three. The first was with an at that time regular. Super cute Latino UCLA student and his hung, but submissive, bf. We tied the bf up and topped him. The whole night was fabulous, really. They decided to stay the night since they lived in WEHO and I was by Laguna Beach. Great brunch the next day.

The second was with two blonds at the Ritz Carlton Marina del Rey. Dylan, from NYC, and Dakota, an OC boy. Another shockingly hot time. Dakota left his chrome cock ring on overnight and woke up with a throbbing 8” boner. I obviously had to satisfy him so he could get it off. All three of us were in the king bed when the nice man delivered our breakfasts while we were drinking Veuve.

The third time was at my place with a provider that I’d gotten quite close to and one who’d recently come by for a session. The newer boy pounded my blond and I did feel a bit left out until he gave me the best blow job in my life and drank every last drop.

So, yeah, my experiences have been nonpareil, although it’s been a long time.

Wow! Great experiences all around!

[Dchan]

7 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

It's important to ensure that everyone gets a turn being the center of attention for the other two people.  It's easy for the two people with the most chemistry to gravitate towards each other and leave someone feeling left out and undesired.  You can make a game of that with a playtime rule, like: every time the song changes on the music playing, we switch up who's the centerpiece.

Deciding to sleep together as a threesome is a whole different set of logistic challenges.  Whoever sleeps in the middle better like to be very warm when they sleep.

Luckily no sleeping over (this time!). I like my space so sleeping over unlikely as a 3! 

[Dchan]

9 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

A good option is to try group sex at a sex party. If I’m at a party the groups tend to break off into 3’s for some reason. I mean there will be lots of guys in a room but if you watch it tends to be mostly multiple groups of 3 playing together. People move between the groups. When you’ve had enough in one group you move to another. 

I think this is because 4’s tend to split into a two, any number more than 4 tends to focus on one recipient (say a guy getting gang banged). So 3 seems to work best for everyone to feel fully involved. At a party you can try lots of different guys in groups of 3 to see what you like best! That’s why I prefer parties for group sex rather than setting a 3some up. 
 

 

Thanks Jamie! Never been to a sex party and feels quite out of my comfort zone. Maybe I’ll try after this weekend 😉 

[Dchan]

10 hours ago, Luv2play said:

I've had a number over the years. Used to get it for free in my youth, now I pay to set it up. I always choose the two to ensure compatibility with me. But in one case I did hire a couple from LA who turned out to be great at satisfying me altho not to be repeated as one of them was Jay Dymel who unfortunately died several months later. His partner in life as well was Ryan Stone another porn actor. Ryan was a top and Jay top vers. And they both topped me and Jay bottomed for Ryan. Great memory but tinged with sadness. 

 

Oh that is sad but I’m glad you had fun at the time.