Kindness can never be overrated - who is the kindest?

[CuriousByNature]

Hi everyone,

There seems to be an understandable focus on which providers are the handsomest, sexiest, have the biggest endowment, are the best kissers, etc., but I am wondering who you would list as having the kindest character?   I don't mean just politeness and professionalism, but true kindness - a warm and giving heart and a genuine interest in those around them.  Maybe even self-effacing and unaware of how incredible they may happen to be?   

Perhaps it is too difficult to accurately gauge true kindness given the transactional nature of provider/client interactions, but if there are providers who stand out for you as being particularly kind, which ones are they?  I have never met with anyone, but I know that nothing is more attractive to me than someone who puts others first and and does not consider themselves better than anyone else - regardless of how hot they may be.

 

[+ bashful]

Those with whom I've felt genuine kindness (in order of hires):

Erik (Budapest), 

Alec Andrews,

Lucas Young,

Max (masseur, fka Maximus),

Tristan Baldwin,

Victor Powers.

 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Beware of asking this question.

I had a regular that I considered one of the "kindest" people I knew. Then he started on drugs.

Remember - it's all an act. Both providers and client are just acting.

[jeezifonly]

Edited January 18, 2023 by jeezifonly

[+ robear]

Allen Silver

[+ Summerson]

NateSF

YourHunk (Nate from Long Beach)

[jbsjbs99]

7 hours ago, bashful said:

Those with whom I've felt genuine kindness (in order of hires):

Erik (Budapest), 

Alec Andrews,

Lucas Young,

Max (masseur, fka Maximus),

Tristan Baldwin,

Victor Powers.

 

 

I second the vote for Tristan Baldwin as being kind.

[ChasingGirth]

Such a great thread. I have been lucky and most guys were very kind, between few jerks 😂

[ChasingGirth]

10 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Beware of asking this question.

I had a regular that I considered one of the "kindest" people I knew. Then he started on drugs.

Remember - it's all an act. Both providers and client are just acting.

Sad to hear, him being addicted or on drugs doesn’t take back the time he was kind to you.

I think we are not stupid here, guys are nice because we pay them. But not all are nice and kind. And you can feel when a guy is giving you more than his time. Are they kind because they want to get hired again? Maybe but who cares because what matter is the time we spend with them and if they are kind, we’re having a good time. 

 

[InterestingGuy]

My votes for kindest go to:

Tristan Baldwin

Victor Powers

Mike Gaite

Rhet Butler 

[+ Summerson]

Oh yes, Mike Gaite would definitely be on my list too! 

[Guest]

Verslildevil

[CuriousByNature]

28 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

It’s escorting and not a charity 

Nobody said anything about charity.  I'm not sure how you read that into the posts.

[mike carey]

59 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

It’s escorting and not a charity 

That's beside the point. Valuing an escort's kindness is reasonable and could be a criterion for choosing one. Whether it's an innate trait or something they have mastered to further their business, and you can never be sure which it is, there are some, several of whom have been named here, who from my experience are more likely than not to be genuinely kind.

[+ Cash4Trash]

Mick, now retired, here in NY was exceedingly kind to me. Helped me explore my troubled past and brought things to the surface I had repressed for years. My life is much happier today than it would have been otherwise. Literally was the first person I have ever trusted. Oh, and I did call him for help furnishing my new apartment but that's a different thread...😀

Edited January 20, 2023 by Cash4Trash

[CuriousByNature]

1 hour ago, arnemgreeves said:

Charity is a form of kindness, isn't it? or a manifestation of such. I suggest you put your verboseness as you boast to the actual test. 

tbh, this question is a bit baseless and off. An escort is doing his job - to give sexual services for money. He doesn't need to be overly kind. Kindness is just basic civility and respect and attention, and that's it. I'm not sure why it matters if they are overly kind or not. An escort is just a loose acquaintance, and not a friend or family member. 

 

"I suggest you put your verboseness as you boast to the actual test."  

I don't really understand what you are saying here.

 

"Kindness is just basic civility and respect and attention, and that's it."

I would say that this more accurately describes 'politeness', and I have found there is a significant difference between being polite and being kind - though the two are not mutually exclusive.

 

"An escort is just a loose acquaintance, and not a friend or family member."

To me, kindness is something we should try to show everyone we encounter, whether or not that person is a friend or family member.  And it is nice when that same kindness is also returned - though it is never guaranteed even from friends and family members - lol.

 

Our conversation here seems to reinforce the fact that everyone has their own priorities when it comes to relationships - even those relationships that may be more transactional in nature.  It's always good to hear others' points of view, in my opinion.

 

 

[+ Trebor]

In a world where you can be anything, 

BE KIND🙂

[+ keroscenefire]

Mike Gaite, Gianni Legno, Sir Dion X, Sherman Maus, Kevin Slater, Jean Ali, Lucas Frenchy and Matt Anthony are the few that come to mind.  They are all warm and welcoming and make you feel comfortable and special. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

In my experience, these are among the kindest guys. I would also say that this feels correlated to whether or not the providers seem to enjoy their work. E.g. they really like people, they really enjoy sex, and they tend to have a lot of varied interests. For me, those include: 

Jonah Wheeler

Dominus

Mike Gaite

NY Wolfman

MrSensual on RentMasseur

[FreeRhythm]

I would say that the three I would rank at the top of my experiences, with respect to kindness:

Sean Xavier

Dominus

Marklbrt

 

I've definitely had some sexy hires who were perfectly pleasant, but these are three that really showed kindness (especially Sean Xavier). We all know that escorts are being paid for their services, just like any other person in a service, hospitality, restaurant, etc. industry.  Still, just like with waiters or hotel clerks, you know when someone is being as polite as is absolutely required vs. bringing actual kindness to their work.  Kindness (even professional) makes a difference.

[LostUpstate]

I don’t hire a lot, but I’ve had my share. I think the nicest one I hired was Guy Mitchells, very personable among his other attributes. Sadly retired and I think he moved out of New York, I think he started a new life in Florida. 

[TorontoDrew]

My favorite, Trev, the much much discussed Canadian body builder is a teddy bear. He's so sweet and kind.

 

I also agree on Mike Gaite.  I only met him once but he's a great guy. 

[+ glennnnn]

..

Your Hunk (Nate in Long Beach)

His attention and generosity of spirit (kindness) were instrumental to my happily coming out at 70+ without losing my family. He kindly took an interest in me that included personal counseling, tough honesty and just heart felt philosophical discussions. The sex is good. But soon is over. In the way he treats me he is K I N D.

Edited January 21, 2023 by glennnnn

[Deadlift1]

Don't forget links gentleman when u can

[CuriousByNature]

4 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

I'm not even being rude, nor is it my intention. I don't get the gist of the thread, in terms of kindness. An escort would welcome a client and treat them well due to wanting money. Maybe it's just me - but I don't get the context of kindness here. A restaruant waiter will be "kind" be being pleasant since the owner of the place wants customers and revenue. Maybe that's a cold way of looking at it, but maybe I'm wrong in interpreting this question. 

 

I understand where you're coming from. It might seem like an odd question for me to pose, but to me, kindness is more than pleasantness and politeness.  It goes deeper, and perhaps it is a difficult thing to gauge for a lot of people unless you have met with someone multiple times.