What’s the difference between escorting and a boyfriend experience?

[Spiritualadvisor]

What’s the difference between escorting and a boyfriend experience?
 

What are the main differences?

 

Thank you. 

[+ DynamicUno]

Escorting is the act of getting paid for companionship for a period of time, wherein sex might occur (for the purposes of plausible deniability in places where exchange of money for sex is officially frowned upon).

A boyfriend experience is a type of escorting session where the time spent is intended to be more relaxed and intimate, more like a date or comfortable evening at home, as opposed to a more sex forward session.

[pubic_assistance]

42 minutes ago, DynamicUno said:

Escorting is the act of getting paid for companionship for a period of time, wherein sex might occur (for the purposes of plausible deniability in places where exchange of money for sex is officially frowned upon).

A boyfriend experience is a type of escorting session where the time spent is intended to be more relaxed and intimate, more like a date or comfortable evening at home, as opposed to a more sex forward session.

Very discreet. Well done 👍

[+ StLouisOct]

See an earlier thread for good input. https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/126928-what-is-the-definition-of-“boyfriend-experience”/

[Jamie21]

All sorts of different things might be included in BF experience. I once went shopping with a guy, that was his definition of BF experience, he just wanted to buy some clothes and have me advise him on what looked good (Although I don’t profess to be a fashion expert!). In the end he bought me more stuff than he did for himself. Afterwards we went back to his hotel and used the pool and gym. Then back to his room where he ordered room service. We ate and chilled out together for a while, I gave him a massage on the bed (happy end style lol) and that was it. He really enjoyed the whole day, it was much more than a sexual experience. 

[pubic_assistance]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

He really enjoyed the whole day, it was much more than a sexual experience. 

You just described exactly what I had in my head when they say "boyfriend experience".

I think people who are lonely often need more than just a quick roll-in-the-hay.

 

[+ ThroatCummer]

14 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

You just described exactly what I had in my head when they say "boyfriend experience".

I think people who are lonely often need more than just a quick roll-in-the-hay.

 

It's not just loneliness.  Are they lonely more often than not? Perhaps. Can't argue that. But I think another large swath of the people who want a BFE aren't "lonely" by any definition of the word. I know I certainly am not. Sometimes our closest friends live in geographically different places all over the country and aren't always readily available to just grab dinner or sit on the couch on a whim. It takes time and effort to plan and see them.

On the flip side, some of us are single for a very valid reasons and 100% by choice. We aren't lonely, we just don't have time for a relationship because we are too buy is other aspects of our lives.

Finally, many of us have elements of our professional and personal life that we prefer to simply outsource to people who aren't friends or family for other reasons.  There can be financial incentives on the client side [as in my case] for not having close local relationships where people know my business. An escort who provides a real, quality BFE is priceless in these scenarios.

Just sayin'

Edited December 18, 2022 by ThroatCummer

[Jamie21]

I think the reasons people hire sex workers are as varied as the types of people who hire. It could be loneliness, it could be a desire for excitement, or the thrill of doing something illicit, or to get experience or to give up control (especially prevalent in people who have a lot of responsibilities in their lives) or just that someone has lots of commitments and hasn’t the time to cultivate a relationship, so they get some ‘me time’ with a sex worker.

The important thing is not to judge someone for their motives because unfortunately society places all sorts of negative connotations to using sex workers which are just not valid or fair. I think sex work, whether it’s BF experience, a massage or a full on sex session is an essential outlet that can help people manage their lives. We all need a little fantasy and escapism sometimes. 
 

 

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, ThroatCummer said:

I think another large swath of the people who want a BFE aren't "lonely" by any definition of the word. I know I certainly am not.

Then perhaps the word "alone" better describes these people such as youself.

Even if someone is "alone" by choice, they clearly aren't 100% satisfied with that situation if they are paying people for company.

I travel for business regularly. I don't like being alone. So I will often book a massage just to break up the loneliness I feel from being alone in a hotel room for multiple evenings.

If you like being alone, then yes loneliness may not come as often...but it does.

Edited December 18, 2022 by pubic_assistance

[+ ThroatCummer]

6 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I think …..

 

+ 1000 on that post. Well written and totally spot on. 12 months ago if someone had asked me my opinion of sex workers I would have had a horrible response. My whole thoughts about it were all bad. That completely changed and here we are now. 

[Jamie21]

13 minutes ago, ThroatCummer said:

+ 1000 on that post. Well written and totally spot on. 12 months ago if someone had asked me my opinion of sex workers I would have had a horrible response. My whole thoughts about it were all bad. That completely changed and here we are now. 

And that is why I love my job. Thank you. 

[italianboyph]

Sometimes clients just want sex, vs more intimate, sensual, kissing, cuddling, with sex but in more of a boyfriend way. 

[Jamie21]

Everyone is different. I saw 2 clients recently on same day. First one wanted a more robust experience; firm massage, liked being smacked on his ass, balls slapped, rough throat fuck, virtually my whole fist up his hole, second guy wanted it sensual, soft massage, kissing, cuddling, toe sucking etc. 

The interesting thing was neither of them explicitly asked for this beforehand. After years of doing it you get to work out who likes what, plus you try a few things and see what reaction you get and build from there. BF experience is similar, people are reluctant to explicitly ask for what they want, so you just need a few clues and then the rest you can improvise and work it out. People like an element of surprise….but not too much surprise. 

[Midtownguy99]

On 12/17/2022 at 1:26 PM, Jamie21 said:

All sorts of different things might be included in BF experience. I once went shopping with a guy, that was his definition of BF experience, he just wanted to buy some clothes and have me advise him on what looked good (Although I don’t profess to be a fashion expert!). In the end he bought me more stuff than he did for himself. Afterwards we went back to his hotel and used the pool and gym. Then back to his room where he ordered room service. We ate and chilled out together for a while, I gave him a massage on the bed (happy end style lol) and that was it. He really enjoyed the whole day, it was much more than a sexual experience. 

That sounds like a very typical date for me. Was I the client? 😂

[Jamie21]

4 hours ago, Midtownguy99 said:

That sounds like a very typical date for me. Was I the client? 😂

Next time you visit London…

[misterhumphries]

I believe the BFE or escorting is whatever a client says it is, or what he expects. There are no hard and fast definitions for each type of experience. I tend to lean more towards the BFE because sex is easy to come by. But when I want a definite type of body, I make it clear what I'd like. sex is usually not part of the scenario; intimacy (albeit brief) is.