Loss of libido

[KeepItReal]

1 hour ago, sydneyboy said:

Could I ask what I hope is not too dumb a question. Does Viagra work better if you lose weight? If your say 115kgs and you get down to say 90 is the drug more potent because there is less of you? 

My doctor told me that the efficacy is not affected by weight, so far as is known. (I am short and skinny, so asked about a lower dose).  Blood pressure is probably a more important factor.  Do speak with a medical professional before you make a decision.

[BaronArtz]

2 hours ago, sydneyboy said:

Regrettably far too many disfigured by hideous tattoos. I find them a total passion killer.

I don't mind tattoos in general, but you are right - some of the Colombian cam models take it too far.  Tattoos covering the entire neck makes them look reptilian.  You got to wonder what that will look when they reach a mature age and the neck lines start to sag ...

[dbar123]

2 hours ago, sydneyboy said:

Could I ask what I hope is not too dumb a question. Does Viagra work better if you lose weight? If your say 115kgs and you get down to say 90 is the drug more potent because there is less of you? 

If you lose significant weight you might not need the Viagra. You might not need other meds either.

Think of how much better you will feel dropping that weight. It’s like finally putting down a 25kg bag of sand.

After I lost 40lb of weight I would occasionally go to my local Petco to pick up a 40lb bag of dog food just to see what that feels like. It’s scary to do that and it’s no wonder why I used to feel so tired when I was heavier

[TorontoDrew]

I lost 100 pounds and got off anti-depressants.  I exercise a lot and eat well.  Only problem is that's my libido is on overdrive right now.   Probably trying to catch up for lost time.  Hopefully it will wane a bit soon.

I'd like to find a Happy median.

[+ purplekow]

Just to be clear. Libido is sexual desire and Viagra and those typer of drugs have little if any effect on libido.  Erectile dysfunction rather than libido is the loss of the ability to obtain an erection and those same medications are sometimes helpful if you have blood flow issues which are remediable. 

Loss of libido has many causes.  Depression is certainly a prime mover in this regard.  Sadly, antidepressants and other medications are a frequent cause of not only loss of libido but also a decrease in function.  Antihypertensives also have the ability to decreased function and desire.  Beta blockers such as propranolol, metoprolol, and cardiac beta blockers which are used for heart failure and coronary artery disease or for atrial fibrillation, such as carvedilol are frequent culprits.  If you should develop either loss of libido or ED after starting a new medication or even after a prolonged time on a medication known to cause it, contact you doctor and see if another medication can be used.  Sometimes a medication in the same class will cause less of a problem.  

Carrying excess weight has the ability to increase levels of male estrogen and decrease the level of testosterone, so losing weight is a great way to slightly increase testosterone and of course the improvement in your appearance can also get the juices flowing a bit more gingerly.  

So.   Diet and weight loss   Exercise.    Review of medications.  Appropriate medications to help with diseases which may be underlying the decrease in sexual desire and function.  Are good places to start.   And while stimulation such as porn can help in the short run, sometimes that may actually dull your response and lead to your needing more or more intense kinds of stimulation.  So be judicious in your porn use as an alternative.  

Best advice I have for this, talk to a doctor.  Find one who is willing to speak frankly about such issues rather than throw medication such as Viagra at you when that is not the issue.  Do not hesitate to be frank with your doctor.  Lots of men have told me after finally broaching the subject, that they had been in for several visits, or had seen several doctors, before bringing up the subject of bringing it up.  

Aging will definitely play a role, but I recall very well a patient of my who at 86 years of age, Brought up the subject and with some minor adjustments and in his medications, he was able to resume satisfying sexual function several times a week..  This did have a down side for me as his physician however, as he was so pleased with his new found ability and prowess that he would often start a visit with something along the lines of  "Doc, I want to thank you again.  I was able to have sex four times this week and I came all over my wife's tits like I did when I was 25".  I was happy for him but could not get that image out of my head for the rest of the day.   

Shortly thereafter during his wife's visit, I was requested to try and dial back the effectiveness of my treatment for him.  I proposed that instead we work on trying to have her have a better experience.  But that is a different topic and led to an equally unnerving mind's eye picture.  

Edited August 20, 2022 by purplekow

[Rudynate]

On 8/11/2022 at 5:43 AM, BaronArtz said:

I don't mind tattoos in general, but you are right - some of the Colombian cam models take it too far.  Tattoos covering the entire neck makes them look reptilian.  You got to wonder what that will look when they reach a mature age and the neck lines start to sag ...

What people who don't have tats can't seem to fathom is that the guys with tats don't care about that.  Tats fade, the images get distorted as  the underlying skin ages and they don't care - they still love their tats.  There are people who got tattooed on impulse and there are women who got tattooed to please their boyfriends who were tattoo artists and these sorts of people are prone to regretting what they have done.  But people who went into it with a clear mind and got images that they really like, typically don't have any regrets.   When I take my shirt off, the typical reaction is "NICE ink," but when I take my shirt off, the farthest thing from my mind is what anybody thinks of my tats.

[Redwine56]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

Just to be clear. Libidoi is sexual desire and Viagra and those typer of drugs have little if any effect on libido.  Erectile dysfunction rather than libido is the loss of the ability to obtain an erection and those same medications are sometimes helpful if you have blood flow issues which are remediable. 

Loss of libido has many causes.  Depression is certainly a prime mover in this regard.  Sadly, antidepressants and other medications are a frequent cause of not only loss of libido but also a decrease in function.  Antihypertensives also have the ability to decreased function and desire.  Beta blockers such as propranolol, metoprolol, and cardiac beta blockers which are used for heart failure and coronary artery disease or for atrial fibrillation, such as carvedilol are frequent culprits.  If you should develop either loss of libido or ED after starting a new medication or even after a prolonged time on a medication known to cause it, contact you doctor and see if another medication can be used.  Sometimes a medication in the same class will cause less of a problem.  

Carrying excess weight has the ability to increase levels of male estrogen and decrease the level of testosterone, so losing weight is a great way to slightly increase testosterone and of course the improvement in your appearance can also get the juices flowing a bit more gingerly.  

So.   Diet and weight loss   Exercise.    Review of medications.  Appropriate medications to help with diseases which may be underlying the decrease in sexual desire and function.  Are good places to start.   And while stimulation such as porn can help in the short run, sometimes that may actually dull your response and lead to your needing more or more intense kinds of stimulation.  So be judicious in your porn use as an alternative.  

Best advice I have for this, talk to a doctor.  Find one who is willing to speak frankly about such issues rather than throw medication such as Viagra at you when that is not the issue.  Do not hesitate to be frank with your doctor.  Lots of men have told me after finally broaching the subject, that they had been in for several visits, or had seen several doctors, before bringing up the subject of bringing it up.  

Aging will definitely play a role, but I recall very well a patient of my who at 86 years of age, Brought up the subject and with some minor adjustments and in his medications, he was able to resume satisfying sexual function several times a week..  This did have a down side for me as his physician however, as he was so pleased with his new found ability and prowess that he would often start a visit with something along the lines of  "Doc, I want to thank you again.  I was able to have sex four times this week and I came all over my wife's tits like I did when I was 25".  I was happy for him but could not get that image out of my head for the rest of the day.   

Shortly thereafter during his wife's visit, I was requested to try and dial back the effectiveness of my treatment for him.  I proposed that instead we work on trying to have her have a better experience.  But that is a different topic and led to an equally unnerving mind's eye picture.  

Wow!  That's a very amazing story.  For a man 86 years old to be able to have sex 4 times per week is incredible.  Even more remarkable is that he still shoots such a load!  I hear that most guys dry up by that age and even though they may have an orgasm, there is little to no seminal fluid.  Is the wife much younger than him?  If she is his age, no wonder she wants you to shut him down.  I hear there are a few rare studs roaming around the senior living facilities who can still get it on.  Kuddos to them!

[Rudynate]

1 minute ago, Redwine56 said:

Wow!  That's a very amazing story.  For a man 86 years old to be able to have sex 4 times per week is incredible.  Even more remarkable is that he still shoots such a load!  I hear that most guys dry up by that age and even though they may have an orgasm, there is little to no seminal fluid.  Is the wife much younger than him?  If she is his age, no wonder she wants you to shut him down.  I hear there are a few rare studs roaming around the senior living facilities who can still get it on.  Kuddos to them!

My mother died when she was 89.  She spent the last few years of her life in a skilled nursing facility, where she acquired a boyfriend who was even older than she was. They were both so dotty that they couldn't remember each other's names.  They eventually started having sex.  His family, my family and the nursing home staff were all scandalized and everyone was wringing their hands about what was to be done.  Wisely, it was decided that nothing needed to be done.  From all appearances the sex was consensual, and they were happy with each other, so they were allowed their privacy.  He died, she died and the sun still kept coming up.

[Pittlookalike]

On 7/21/2022 at 1:01 PM, sync said:

My libido has definitely waned. 

I attribute it to several factors:

• my age
• the provider environment, from my perspective, has become much more intense with upselling and misrepresentations along with last-minute cancellations or no-shows, and skyrocketing price points
• the pandemic and other transmissibles
• my resistance to tattoos and piercings, which seem to be everywhere 
• travel time to/from appointments

In my case the old "if you don't use it, you lose it" seems to apply.

I'm quite content with my memories and fantasies for the present.

The funds I'm saving also helps.  🙂

Well said

[+ StLouisOct]

On 7/27/2022 at 3:55 PM, dbar123 said:

Weightlifting for an hour at the gym still makes me incredibly horny. Highly recommended if you want a recharge. Bonus horny points if you use a young hot trainer

No question good exercise makes a big difference. I’ve had many a day where I’ve thought my libido was down, but felt  sexually energized after getting some exercise. And that’s not limited to weightlifting or something super strenuous.

[Whippoorwill]

I really have found that the "use it or lose it" is true. My pattern is an orgasm a week...with one of my hot young boys, or my right hand...keeps me horny. If I go longer than that, it's a bit "out of sight out of mind." A far cry from the orgies or cluster fucks of my youth, but still delightfully pleasurable.