My milestone anniversary

[+ Charlie]

Ten years ago today I hired for the last time. I hadn't planned it that way, so I didn't recognize it as a milestone until much later.

I had been hiring for over three decades, sometimes as often as a dozen times per year in the early years, but my hires had become much less frequent, since I no longer lived in a major escort hub and I was doing less traveling than when I was younger. It was not a "bad experience" in the typical sense. He was a mature, reputable professional, and the meeting took place in his room at a nice hotel in LA. However, after about twenty minutes, what started out as a hot sex scene transitioned unexpectedly into me holding and comforting an emotionally distraught man who could not maintain the pretense that he was enjoying what he was doing, and eventually I put him to bed and left. He called me the next day to apologize, and offered me a free appointment to make up for it, but I gently declined the offer. I didn't realize that meant I had passed the milestone.

My attitude toward sex was always that it was a kind of sport. (The spiritually or romantically inclined probably would not agree with me on that.) Hiring an escort was kind of like hiring a pro to play one-on-one. But for that to be satisfying, the pro had to at least pretend that it was serious competition. I was finding it harder and harder to pretend to myself that I was still a player, and at some place in my psyche that experience had finally flipped a switch that was ready to turn. I'm still attracted to many of the pros on sites like Rent.men, but I no longer feel a need to actually have sex with them.

Of course, I am still interested in escorts and clients, and wish them well, but I am cheering in the stands, rather than rushing onto the court to join them in the scrum.

[samhexum]

7 hours ago, Charlie said:

My milestone anniversary

Do I say Mazel Tov or give my condolences?

[Luv2play]

I totally understand your situation. For myself, that day may come but I am doing my best to put it off for as long as possible.

I still enjoy the wild sex stuff but am sticking to guys in their 30's mostly but am selective in whom I meet. I do a lot of chatting before setting up a date to try to ensure a good fit for the two of us.

I am very upfront about myself, warts and all, so I don't try to mislead them about what to expect from me. And I hope for the same from them and am generally satisfied with their truthfulness.

[jeezifonly]

@Charlie You put eloquently what is probably an experience that can be related to, and lends validation to many who pursue massage over escort providers. Maybe another 5, max for me 😌

[+ Pensant]

Except for my dwindling group of regulars, I find myself more often not following up on some of the hotties in my Rentmen reserve. I intend to try out perhaps half a dozen newbies before the end of the year, but that will be in conjunction with non-hobby travels. I’m looking at Tampa and Atlanta.

[+ sync]

I've definitely slowed:

• Age, my libido is not what it once was
• Many of the providers today look a little too young for my comfort
• Most of the providers who pique my interest bear tattooing, an aversion to which I just can't seem to defeat
• Many (not all) current price points for both escort and massage give me pause
• Travel to/from appointments mean a two-hour train ride each way
• Necessary Covid precautions

 

[samhexum]

1 hour ago, sync said:

• Many of the providers today look a little too young for my comfort

Don't worry about it; you probably look a little old for their comfort. 😝😇😁😎

1 hour ago, sync said:

Many (not all) current price points for both escort and massage give me pause

Since I assume you don't hire women, it must be men-a-pause.   😝😇😁😎 

Edited November 19, 2021 by samhexum
Just for the hell of it.

[dbar123]

23 hours ago, Charlie said:

Ten years ago today I hired for the last time. I hadn't planned it that way, so I didn't recognize it as a milestone until much later................

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Congratulations on reaching a new reality. I celebrate your ability to move on.

Now that I'm well over 60 I find that I need better conversation, not better sex. When I hire, it tends to be older guys.

[marylander1940]

I am 81, in shape and sexually active! 

Thank you doctors for Viagra and testosterone! Thank you mom and dad for great genes! And I am glad I made the right choices when it comes to food most of my life!

[+ FreshFluff]

On 11/18/2021 at 9:24 AM, Charlie said:

However, after about twenty minutes, what started out as a hot sex scene transitioned unexpectedly into me holding and comforting an emotionally distraught man who could not maintain the pretense that he was enjoying what he was doing, and eventually I put him to bed and left. He called me the next day to apologize, and offered me a free appointment to make up for it, but I gently declined the offer. I didn't realize that meant I had passed the milestone.

 

Ugh. This is a him problem, as the kids  say.

[+ WilliamM]

I would have hired a Ryan Phillippe lookalike as my last hire, after that disappointment