Escort wants to move in with me... Any feedback, advice?

[+ WilliamM]

6 hours ago, Unicorn said:

😜

Always the study guide to make your point. A bit insulting, but apparently you don't see that.

[+ 7829V]

Update:

My friend (ex)escort, did not move in with me.

He got the new job, he travels 5 days, and is back home 2 days a week. He sorted out his family problems and he's still living with them. He's going to AA now, and I'm so happy for him! I'm going to try to help him out with his finances and told him I will help him anyway I can.

BUT... someone else moved in with me temporarily.

I met this guy from grindr, he was moving to a new place, but the place was not ready on time, so he asked me if he could stay with me for a month... I said yes. I've been seeing/fucking this guy for a few months now, we've become good friends, he has stayed a few days at my place before. We hang out, go out, chat, etc. So he's no stranger. And I trust him. He's bi and when he's with guys, he's a bottom 🥰. 'm lucky. He's in his mid 20s. Here is a pic of his body... that I wake up next to everyday. (I asked for his consent to publish this pic, he said OK just no face) 😉

 

 

[+ 7829V]

By they way, thanks for all your input and feedback. Much appreciated. 

[+ MysticMenace]

6 hours ago, 7829V said:

Update:

My friend (ex)escort, did not move in with me.

He got the new job, he travels 5 days, and is back home 2 days a week. He sorted out his family problems and he's still living with them. He's going to AA now, and I'm so happy for him! I'm going to try to help him out with his finances and told him I will help him anyway I can.

BUT... someone else moved in with me temporarily.

I met this guy from grindr, he was moving to a new place, but the place was not ready on time, so he asked me if he could stay with me for a month... I said yes. I've been seeing/fucking this guy for a few months now, we've become good friends, he has stayed a few days at my place before. We hang out, go out, chat, etc. So he's no stranger. And I trust him. He's bi and when he's with guys, he's a bottom 🥰. 'm lucky. He's in his mid 20s. Here is a pic of his body... that I wake up next to everyday. (I asked for his consent to publish this pic, he said OK just no face) 😉

 

 

waiting for pic 2 of 2 with him flipped on the other side with nothing covering his junk 😅

[+ 7829V]

@JoeMendoza i don’t have a front pic… i’d say his ass is his main asset. 😉 

[Fcfs]

Are we reading gay fiction here?

[MscleLovr]

Why so skeptical @Fcfs? I find it quite charming that @7829V has been able to find his soulmate on Grindr.
 

My only concern is whether the young man will refuse to move out now that he is accustomed to @7829V exercising his ‘droit de seigneur’ on a regular basis. 

[marylander1940]

On 9/7/2021 at 7:06 AM, MscleLovr said:

Why so skeptical @Fcfs? I find it quite charming that @7829V has been able to find his soulmate on Grindr.
 

My only concern is whether the young man will refuse to move out now that he is accustomed to @7829V exercising his ‘droit de seigneur’ on a regular basis. 

 

Yes, the line between escort/keptman must be clearly drawn yet sooner or later there's some discussion about those articles all over again. 

 

12 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Because life does not always work that way!  Most such relationships end up badly.  

Without a doubt! 

[Guest]

On 9/8/2021 at 4:36 AM, coriolis888 said:

Because life does not always work that way!  Most such relationships end up badly.  

Why does it always have to be about the ending? About half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. I'm had 3 relationships with former escorts. My first lasted over 13 years. The last was only unpleasant for the last year, as I believe he was with someone else, but he left of his own accord. The second, with my lying' Paraguayan, ended up when I found out he was cheating on me big time (and got treated for syphilis without telling me), but the almost 2 years I spent with him were wonderful. We're still cordial. I greatly enjoyed my time with him. I'm in my 3rd soon-to-be LTR with a former escort (we've been together for 4 months since he moved in), and even if it doesn't end up well, we're having the times of our lives. I'm enjoying almost every moment, and he told me that living with me is like being in Paradise. 

[LookingAround]

4 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

What is good for you may not be good for someone else. 

If we all liked the same things and did the same things, what a dull life this would be.  

Gays generally (not always) have a difficult time maintaining a long-term love relationship.  Many start off in a sexual relationship but the sex often dies and the two remain lifelong friends and some get married for various reasons.    

For a large portion of gays with easy promiscuity in the gay life, temptation is often a deterrent to a long-term relationship. 

You have been fortunate to have a few relationships that lasted a while.  

Often, in the gay world, a relationship that starts off well ends up with the passion and desire going away.  In short, the "love fire" goes out.  

 

 

Such stereotyping, bigotry, and homophobia in this post. I don’t even know where to begin. 

[lonely_john]

On 9/9/2021 at 7:16 AM, LookingAround said:

Such stereotyping, bigotry, and homophobia in this post. I don’t even know where to begin. 

And negativity. One thing is expressing happiness for the new relationship and then giving advice in a polite manner and another one is pointing things out as a mistake and almost wishing/predicting the worst.

[lonely_john]

51 minutes ago, coriolis888 said:

Heal thy self!

Everything worked out in the end.  The guy decided not to move in.  

All is well that ends well.  

Are you aware the new guys is NOT the provider in the OP and the context of their relationship is completely different? You were very quick to release poison without having more information beyond that the OP said about the new guy. Talk about NEGATIVITY.

Edited September 11, 2021 by lonely_john

[Jeffster]

Reading the OP’s first post in this thread is like watching the sailing of the Titanic.

[RadioRob]

A friendly recommendation to keep on topic. If we’re going to resort to petty bickering, the topic is going to be locked. 

[+ 7829V]

UPDATE.

Well... the mid 20s guy that moved in with me for a month left already. We had a great time together, going out, hanging out, weekend day trips, etc. I got used to him being around. And sexually we were a great match. Almost everyday I woke up fucking him, or him giving me a blow job, or just kissing. I love to kiss and he enjoyed it to. We had a lot of sex. It was great. He'll be living very close by, like 5 min away, so we hope to still see each other and he might stay over when he has days off. I'll be back to living by myself and going into my usual routine that I also missed.  So everything turned out great!

As I mentioned before, ex-Escort did not moved in with me at the end, he's going to AA and he is now in good terms with his family, his new job is going well, making 2x more money than in the past. I'm glad that I was a safety net for him, in case he couldn't make things work with his family. He felt safe with me having a place to go to. And still I told him, I'll be here for him when he needs me.

Thanks again for all your feedback and input! Everything turned out great at the end!

 

Edited October 1, 2021 by 7829V