Asking for full time next session

[Wolfer]

There's a provider I've met a few times. First time was absolutely mindblowing and no clock watching at all. 

Second time he was somewhat rushed and felt like he wanted me to leave and the session was short. 

Thinking it an exception I did meet up for a third time. The sex was again amazing and he was friendly but after the sex was done we still had about 40 minutes (of the 70 minute session) but he suddenly really started making it clear he wanted me to leave. 

Since all other factors, other than cutting the session short, are good (great even) I wanted to text him this:

"I've been a bit disappointed with our last two sessions because it felt like, after sex, you wanted me to leave as quickly as possible. This meant that both sessions were very short. If we meet again in the future, I would really appreciate it if we could enjoy the full 70 minutes I am paying for. Once those 70 minutes are up, I will leave faster than lightning, hahaha."

I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback. 

Edited June 22, 2021 by Wolfer

[CuriousByNature]

I don't know why I'm weighing in given my complete and utter lack of experience, but you are paying for his time and you are getting short-changed.  70 minutes is 70 minutes, even if half the time is spent staring at each other awkwardly.  If you had paid for 70 minutes with a lawyer and the lawyer tried to usher you out after 30 minutes, it would be completely unprofessional.  If you felt that the lawyer had done all that was needed in 30 minutes and YOU decided to cut the meeting short, that's another story.  But what you describe seems to be the opposite, and I would seriously reconsider meeting with that individual again.  It doesn't sound like he respects you.

[+ azdr0710]

remember when assertiveness training was all the rage back in the 70s!??!......one of the pointers was to sandwich a negative with two positives before and after.....therefore, I'd add something like "holy cow, the sex is incredible!!" to the very beginning, then, as you've written, express your disappointment and end with the "fast as lightning" note.....

[MassageAdam]

It's one of my frustrations with escorts in Spain.  When I confront them on it, they say "you pay up to 60 min., if we finish we sex before that time, then we finish before and the session is over."  So now I have to be clear with when making an appointment it is for the full hour and not just up to one hour.  When making your next appointment with your guy, just say you expect the entire 70 min or you will pass on your appointment.  

[Wolfer]

24 minutes ago, MassageAdam said:

It's one of my frustrations with escorts in Spain.  When I confront them on it, they say "you pay up to 60 min., if we finish we sex before that time, then we finish before and the session is over."  So now I have to be clear with when making an appointment it is for the full hour and not just up to one hour.  When making your next appointment with your guy, just say you expect the entire 70 min or you will pass on your appointment.  

Oh wow, I've never heard that line of reasoning before. 

I let him know about the length of the sessions and he completely denies it. Says that he has the impression he always gives me more than 70 minutes... The timer on my phone disagrees. 

[alexslaveboy]

I don't hire for penetration sex as I am pretty vanilla with nude muscle worship and wrestling with lots of body contact 

Usually I end up shooting within 20 minutes maybe earlier if the session is really hot and the muscle guy is really muscular aggressive and cocky I'll end up shooting hands free!!!

That being said I do make it very clear that I paid for an hour he will stay the complete hour whether we just chat, shower, watch TV etc.   Maybe even go a second round after a few minutes break!

If you are paying for 70 minutes do not feel uncomfortable or badly about telling him that you expect 70 minutes of his time 

[Wolfer]

1 hour ago, alexslaveboy said:

f you are paying for 70 minutes do not feel uncomfortable or badly about telling him that you expect 70 minutes of his time 

I let him know today and he flat out denied he ever cut a session short and said he has given me more than 70 minutes every single we've met... I must be misreading the timer on my phone 🤔

I'm really disappointed because I've had lots of fun with him before 😕

Edited June 22, 2021 by Wolfer

[cany10011]

I sometimes come quickly and find myself 20 minutes short. It does not matter to me... the escort came and did his job. He can leave if he chooses. However, if I enjoy his company beyond the sex, I would not have sent that text. Sometimes, texting is not the ideal format for discussing these things. 

Instead, I would have waited to book with him again and say something like, "I  had so much fun  that I can't control myself with you and climax too soon... perhaps we can play a bit longer or massage afterwards  so I can enjoy our full time together"....This way, it lets the guy know you enjoy his time and not putting him on a defensive. Otherwise, it  does not make for good future encounters as he knows he is being monitored by the minute. 

Edited June 22, 2021 by cany10011

[Jostar]

36 minutes ago, Wolfer said:

I let him know today and he flat out denied he ever cut a session short and said he has given me more than 70 minutes every single we've met... I must be misreading the timer on my phone 🤔

I'm really disappointed because I've had lots of fun with him before 😕

Sorry to say this but you need to move on and find another guy that respect your time and stay the full time. 

[crazyivan]

1 hour ago, Wolfer said:

I let him know today and he flat out denied he ever cut a session short and said he has given me more than 70 minutes every single we've met... I must be misreading the timer on my phone 🤔

I'm really disappointed because I've had lots of fun with him before 😕

It is probably time for you to cut ties with him. If he can deny this, he can also deny other things.

[+ Lucky]

@WolferHow do you arrive at a 70 minute time frame? Why not an hour? Just me being curious...

[Luv2play]

3 minutes ago, Lucky said:

@WolferHow do you arrive at a 70 minute time frame? Why not an hour? Just me being curious...

I'm also curious.🙄

[Wolfer]

5 hours ago, Lucky said:

@WolferHow do you arrive at a 70 minute time frame? Why not an hour? Just me being curious...

 

5 hours ago, Luv2play said:

I'm also curious.🙄

That's just the package he offers as standard. Not really sure how he came up with it. He's fairly new to the business.

[MscleLovr]

1 hour ago, Wolfer said:

He's fairly new to the business.

Maybe he figured the standard session for a client would be an hour, and he politely allowed an extra 10 minutes for the man to dress and leave?

[+ Axiom2001]

On 6/21/2021 at 8:52 PM, Wolfer said:

There's a provider I've met a few times. First time was absolutely mindblowing and no clock watching at all. 

Second time he was somewhat rushed and felt like he wanted me to leave and the session was short. 

Thinking it an exception I did meet up for a third time. The sex was again amazing and he was friendly but after the sex was done we still had about 40 minutes (of the 70 minute session) but he suddenly really started making it clear he wanted me to leave. 

Since all other factors, other than cutting the session short, are good (great even) I wanted to text him this:

"I've been a bit disappointed with our last two sessions because it felt like, after sex, you wanted me to leave as quickly as possible. This meant that both sessions were very short. If we meet again in the future, I would really appreciate it if we could enjoy the full 70 minutes I am paying for. Once those 70 minutes are up, I will leave faster than lightning, hahaha."

I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback. 

Since he's done this twice, I would move on in spite of the first time being "out of the park."  There are "more fish in the sea" with whom you can connect and have fun.  And since he's a "newbie" to escorting-- perhaps hire a more experienced man next time.

It's unfortunate that he didn't provide full service to you on the latter occasions that you two have met.  I can see why you'd be disappointment, but again, and I'll reiterate-- his denial would be the reason for my forgetting him for future play sessions.  Since he failed to uphold the time frame twice, what precludes his not doing it again if you were to meet?

[marylander1940]

On 6/21/2021 at 11:52 PM, Wolfer said:

There's a provider I've met a few times. First time was absolutely mindblowing and no clock watching at all. 

Second time he was somewhat rushed and felt like he wanted me to leave and the session was short. 

Thinking it an exception I did meet up for a third time. The sex was again amazing and he was friendly but after the sex was done we still had about 40 minutes (of the 70 minute session) but he suddenly really started making it clear he wanted me to leave. 

Since all other factors, other than cutting the session short, are good (great even) I wanted to text him this:

"I've been a bit disappointed with our last two sessions because it felt like, after sex, you wanted me to leave as quickly as possible. This meant that both sessions were very short. If we meet again in the future, I would really appreciate it if we could enjoy the full 70 minutes I am paying for. Once those 70 minutes are up, I will leave faster than lightning, hahaha."

I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback. 

It's always implied that sex doesn't last all 60 (or 70 min in your case) and there's room to talk and cuddle after. 

I guess he thinks right after sex he's done or maybe the 2nd time you met him he was trying to squeeze someon who contacted him last minute. 

[dbar123]

Indirectly he is letting you know that he doesn't want to spend time with you....he just wants your money. Especially heinous for a repeat customer

Find someone who really grooves on you- the experience will be even better.

You've already let him know how you feel so you already have one foot out the door. Take the other one out and move on.

[wsc]

Isn't it odd  -or not; I'm bring ironic-  that ads that mention it at all state, "rates are for time only." Not the Big Lie we hear so much about these days, but, it seems, a lie just the same.

Once is an occurrence, twice a coincidence, three times and+ a pattern. Live and learn, and be clear about expectations up front. If needed later, reinforce with consequence by offering to pay for metered service, and for that only. Be forewarned, it will likely not be pretty.

[jeezifonly]

When having a pre-meet convo about who might be doing what to whom, asking if his quoted rates are for time or results shouldn’t be a deal breaker, and if answers are unacceptable politely move on. 

[David1024]

I had a similar experience with a well reviewed guy when I was visiting his town.  First time was amazing, great foreplay, oral, and fucking, then some cuddle time and we showered together. I asked if he was available the next morning and I went back for round 2, which was equally as good and I submitted a positive review to RM. The next time I saw him, all was good but seemed a little rushed. The next time, He re-scheduled me to a later time, which was fine with me, but was leaving his place 35 minutes after I arrived. I won’t be returning. 

[Wolfer]

2 hours ago, David1024 said:

I had a similar experience with a well reviewed guy when I was visiting his town.  First time was amazing, great foreplay, oral, and fucking, then some cuddle time and we showered together. I asked if he was available the next morning and I went back for round 2, which was equally as good and I submitted a positive review to RM. The next time I saw him, all was good but seemed a little rushed. The next time, He re-scheduled me to a later time, which was fine with me, but was leaving his place 35 minutes after I arrived. I won’t be returning. 

Did you bring it up to him? If you did, how did he respond? 

[+ glutes]

With time shavers / cheaters, I leave remarks here to let others know. And I don't return for another session.