What happened to your school bully?

[+ 7829V]

Where is he know? Have you met him again? What did he do?

[+ MysticMenace]

I am fortunate enough to not have encountered bullies in high school. Although if I were to have experienced it, I probably would not proactively seek out or figure out how they are doing.

[Guest]

High school: He drowned in a swimming accident 40 years ago. (There were witnesses and I was no where near )

 

College: he went on to law school and became a second rate ambulance chaser because no one in the law firms could work with him. He avoids me because I’ve so far surpassed him personally and professionally and because I still call BS on his false bravado (and I do it with authority)

[KrisParr]

Very interesting question! The only bully I encountered in high school went on to college and ended up running a successful small-town insurance agency. Ran into him at 20-year reunion. You would have thought we had been best friends. He couldn’t have been nicer. Really weird encounter; people change, apparently.

[Rod Hagen]

He's now a cop in my small home town. Hated that motherfucker. Of course now as an adult I've learned from gossip that he and his siblings were HORRIBLY abused. I've talked to him briefly at a couple funerals. Seems to be adjusted and doing well and from what I hear he is a very fair police officer.

[+ Charlie]

He went to a local commuter school and became some kind of salesman. He still lives in a neighboring town to the suburb we grew up in. At our 50th high school reunion, I expected when we shook hands, he would try to crush mine, so I beat him to it; he looked shocked. A friend who was standing near us giggled, and told me afterwards, "Everyone knows Barry hasn't changed."

[MRB43]

The bullies that I had to deal with went into law enforcement - one as a prison guard and the other as head of security at a local university. Interesting choice of careers.

As I have now come to believe, hurt people hurt.

[JayCeeKy]

"Darrell" was the local tough kid who took on all challengers and usually knocked out his opponent in about one minute. He loved to pick fights. If you heard that Darrell was looking for you, a kid would be tempted to enter the Witness Protection Program.

 

Don't think people can change? Darrell went on the become a successful designer of Greeting Cards.

[spider]

No clue. I wiped the dust off my shoes and have had zero contact with anyone from Elementary or High school in decades.

[EastbayMike]

I saw him 15 years later in the arcade of the local dirty book store charging guys $20 for the opportunity to blow him. He still looked/acted like an asshole.

[JayCeeKy]

He still looked/acted like an asshole.

He should have offered anal, too.

[Merboy]

I hope he's losing his hair as we speak... no, that isn't very nice.

[+ Lucky]

I don't recall any bullies. The two guys I had fist fights with both became good friends of mine.

[samhexum]

He went on to star in several movies and a Netflix show called Cobra Kai with his secret-lover Daniel-San.

[Guy Fawkes]

You should have dickered him down!

I saw him 15 years later in the arcade of the local dirty book store charging guys $20 for the opportunity to blow him. He still looked/acted like an asshole.

[+ WilliamM]

No bullies after freshman year in highschool

 

Thankfully

[thickornotatall]

Although I've moved south to Florida I have mostly the same friends since elementary school...I speak to a few of them every week...They come to visit and usually stay a week or so...No problems...

[Guest]

She’s now one of my biggest clients. She’s still a condescending cunt, but her checks clear.

[+ Kman]

The "bully" in my class I don't think ever weighed more than 70 pounds so he could only pick on one other kid in the class...anyway he ended up going to jail multiple times and I believe he is still in jail for drug trafficking.

[Constantine]

There was one guy from middle school. His facebook has been inactive for almost a decade and he doesn't have a linkedin. Looks like he faded into obscurity as such people do.

[bookmaven]

The asshole that made 9th and 10th grade a living hell for me flunked out of community college in his first year. He later developed a major addiction problem (not sure if it was drugs or alcohol). He ended up homeless and finally froze to death while squatting in a storage area his mother had rented. I have lost all contact with anyone I went to school with, except my favorite teacher, who later revealed herself as a lesbian. I still visit her and her wife several times a year. Living well is truly the best revenge...oh, and karma is a boomerang.

[Poincare]

Ooohhh ....such an interesting question.

 

I was really only bullied badly in 8th grade. Just invisible in high school. My 8th grade bully was a beautiful jock who excelled effortlessly at every sport. He not only made sure I was always picked last, despite being decent at sports, he turned the few friends I did have against me. He would routinely embarrass me at school assemblies and the worst was at our 8th grade graduation, when he got people to chant that i am a loser because I made a gaffe during rehearsal on leading my row up to the podium.

 

anyway, he went off to a fancy private school for high school, and I had to go to our mediocre at best public high school.

 

he went off to Colgate and me to Harvard. Well, he died in the Lockerbie plane crash back in 1989. So he died at 21 years old. And I have made it to 52 years old, make 7 figures a year and have a great life with my husband. Up until about 5 years ago, I was happy about his death and though he got what he deserved. Now I feel bad for him and his family.....maybe I can’t blame someone for being an asshole in 8th grade

[CuriousByNature]

I hope he's losing his hair as we speak... no, that isn't very nice.

OMG... just when I thought you were such a nice guy for admiring my PM's butt, you go and insult those of who are follicly challenged! I'm as bald as a pool ball... LOL ? (laughter mixed with real tears) hahaha.

[CuriousByNature]

Didn't really have any bullies... they were around, and I was the nerdy, geeky, socially inept kid - but for some reason I was never targeted. ?‍♂️ Those who were bullies in my schools seemed to be very misunderstood individuals - often pretty bright, but often clearly broken in some way. This is not to excuse them in any way whatsoever - and I often stood up to them when I saw them bully others - but my experience has been that bullies aren't usually born that way.

[HotWhiteThirties]

The bullies that I had to deal with went into law enforcement - one as a prison guard and the other as head of security at a local university. Interesting choice of careers.

As I have now come to believe, hurt people hurt.

 

I’ve developed the belief that often people, and in some cases occupations, are “two sides of the same coin.” Related to that, though he wasn’t a “bully” perse, is my brother’s best friend. He had such bravado as a kid and a thrill and thirst for an adrenaline rush, that we both said he would ultimately be either a cop or a criminal. He entered the military and ultimately became a cop, but the point is that cops and criminals are often cut from similar cloths, but for better or worse, choose opposing pathways.

Edited January 22, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties