We have a problem, men.

[+ sync]

Race, age, height, dick size are things that are out of one’s control but weight is something that is. I feel a bit grateful to people who fat shamed me to lose 80 pounds (especially my physician). He did me a huge favor. Not only do I feel infinitely better but it has made me a lot happier as a person. The added bonus of fitting into clothes doesn’t hurt.

 

For those of you who are a little overweight there has never been a better time to take the reins of your own fate and lose the extra pounds.

Happiness is a vector process....I wasn’t unhappy when I was heavier but being lighter definitely improved my mental state of being.

 

To say that weight loss has a hereditary component is true but it should not be considered as a cop out to weight loss. It just means you need to be more persistent and methodical to overcome it if you want to achieve that goal, and you need to be willing to change your behaviors to make it work

Of course, every individual has to speak for himself. Losing weight caused my cholesterol, blood pressure, heart rate and blood sugar to go down-significantly.

You postings are inspirational for me. I recently got on board for weight reduction. My physician warned me several times that my skeleton would not be able to support my weight into old age. I have currently reached the 30lbs. lost mark and the difference in my everyday activities is beyond my expectations. Everything is different (easier) breathing, reaching, bending, just getting up from a chair. No more pain in my ankles, knees, or back. This has required a drastic changing of my meals routine. Not so easy after a lifetime of living to eat rather than eating to live. One other point of interest that has caught my attention is the shift in my center of gravity. It is most noticeable in the angle of my leaning when going up/down stairs. It looks like I won't be seeing my physician again until about June (God willing). I hope he will be pleased with my effort.

[+ sync]

Maybe this is going to open a can of worms, but here it goes anyway. People can have preferences without it being racist, sizist, ageist, etc. It comes down to how we treat one another. Maybe I am predominantly attracted to Asians? Maybe I do not find myself attracted to whites? That isn't racism unless I also treat one race differently than another, or think that one is better than the other. You can uphold equality without having to be attracted to everybody. As for shaming, nobody should shame anyone for their appearance. But shaming someone for their words and actions is another matter.

Your posting instantly reminded me of a heated exchange I once had with a drinking buddy. I told him that because I regard a man as "hot" does not mean that I desire him. My "buddy" told me that it is not possible to think a man is hot without wanting to get into his pants. It was downhill from there. I, too, am most attracted to Asians, and when I was seen noticing a non-Asian, I would get hit with "why are you looking at him, he's not Asian." Then I would have to school the person that for me Asian is a preference, not a requirement. Boy, how I miss "The Web" Asian bar that was on East 58th Street in New York City.

[CuriousByNature]

Your posting instantly reminded me of a heated exchange I once had with a drinking buddy. I told him that because I regard a man as "hot" does not mean that I desire him. My "buddy" told me that it is not possible to think a man is hot without wanting to get into his pants. It was downhill from there. I, too, am most attracted to Asians, and when I was seen noticing a non-Asian, I would get hit with "why are you looking at him, he's not Asian." Then I would have to school the person that for me Asian is a preference, not a requirement. Boy, how I miss "The Web" Asian bar that was on East 58th Street in New York City.

The truth for me is that I see beauty in every race, size, height, age, gender.... except myself! But that's a different topic for a different string... lol ?

[+ MysticMenace]

The truth for me is that I see beauty in every race, size, height, age, gender.... except myself! But that's a different topic for a different string... lol ?

 

oh hello there, @CuriousByNature and @sync, looking for an asian sensation, are we? look no further, here I am - come to papa! hahaha

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Just for the record everyone: I only reacted to being criticized by the poster in protest.

 

A person can only take so much, before they pop back. The OP has relentlessly come for me, when I've never come for him...and i don't even know him. That doesn't mean I am fat shaming. It just means I'm tired of his shit, and he lost my politeness and filter.

 

He thinks it's okay to put me down, shame me for sharing my experiences...but the moment I say something that could save his life one day, he throws a compete hissy. So predictable. Reminds me of the kids in grade school. If you want to give hard criticism about my life, take a look at the changes in your own, before trying to interpret mine.

Edited December 10, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut

[maninsoma]

Race, age, height, dick size are things that are out of one’s control but weight is something that is. I feel a bit grateful to people who fat shamed me to lose 80 pounds (especially my physician). He did me a huge favor. Not only do I feel infinitely better but it has made me a lot happier as a person. The added bonus of fitting into clothes doesn’t hurt.

 

For those of you who are a little overweight there has never been a better time to take the reins of your own fate and lose the extra pounds.

 

I don't know that I would say there has "never been a better time" to lose weight. I am still working just as much as before the pandemic, so I have no more free time than I used to. I have only had access to a gym for about a month since late March; I used to use the gym every day for at least an hour. I do still exercise outside when I can, but I am not able to get the same intensity of exercise that I did when I had gym access. So, like many people, I have gained weight this year.

[jjkrkwood]

Cheesecake... Plain w/o that gloppy cherry topping. One of the few deserts that I'm almost allowed to have.

 

 

Ah sir, here's the twist....MINE isnt gloppy....the cherries get mixed into the cheese batter so they flavor it instead of sitting on the top... AND it also has Dark chocolate chips... Maybe i shoulda said "Black Forest" cheesecake ? My Bad !

[dbar123]

I don't know that I would say there has "never been a better time" to lose weight. I am still working just as much as before the pandemic, so I have no more free time than I used to. I have only had access to a gym for about a month since late March; I used to use the gym every day for at least an hour. I do still exercise outside when I can, but I am not able to get the same intensity of exercise that I did when I had gym access. So, like many people, I have gained weight this year.

 

From personal experience there are many ways to justify not changing behaviors to lose weight. It really takes a life altering event for this to happen. COVID is as life altering as it takes. Great time to take hour long walks on the woods and to stop eating high calorie restaurant foods and fast food....and make healthier food at home

[dbar123]

You postings are inspirational for me. I recently got on board for weight reduction. My physician warned me several times that my skeleton would not be able to support my weight into old age. I have currently reached the 30lbs. lost mark and the difference in my everyday activities is beyond my expectations. Everything is different (easier) breathing, reaching, bending, just getting up from a chair. No more pain in my ankles, knees, or back. This has required a drastic changing of my meals routine. Not so easy after a lifetime of living to eat rather than eating to live. One other point of interest that has caught my attention is the shift in my center of gravity. It is most noticeable in the angle of my leaning when going up/down stairs. It looks like I won't be seeing my physician again until about June (God willing). I hope he will be pleased with my effort.

You are inspirational as well. Congratulations

[MikeBiDude]

Ah sir, here's the twist....MINE isnt gloppy....the cherries get mixed into the cheese batter so they flavor it instead of sitting on the top... AND it also has Dark chocolate chips... Maybe i shoulda said "Black Forest" cheesecake ? My Bad !

I like an old fashioned Philadelphia Cream Cheese pie in a Graham cracker crust, no adornments. Made my first one when I was about 11 or 12 and still like them.

[xyz48B]

The problem is that the person that was fat shamed didn't click the "Report" button.

 

Having lost over a hundred pounds over the last ten years and needing to lose another hundred pounds in the next ten years I find it fairly easy to ignore such taunts.

The last time I reached out to you, I didn’t get a response. ??‍♂️ Check your PMs from January 22...

Edited December 11, 2020 by xyz48B

[xyz48B]

Long and short here is...Fat people deal with other people. Deal with it.

 

Remember when sexuality was considered something people could change? Those were the days...

[marylander1940]

Long and short here is...Fat people deal with other people. Deal with it.

 

Remember when sexuality was considered something people could change? Those were the days...

 

Are you comparing being born gay to being born with a predisposition to have a certain kind of body?

[xyz48B]

Are you comparing being born gay to being born with a predisposition to have a certain kind of body?

Many here are choosing to misread this.

 

I’m saying we all have a way of putting our issues with other people on other people. The problem isn’t ours. But of course, how we treat people is. And some matters aren’t acceptable things to point out as flaws, particularly character flaws.

 

Instead of saying, “Hm. Maybe I do unfairly judge people based on their body size,” we have all kinds of excuse-making for why that’s okay. And hell – maybe it is. If there were a survey here, seems that the majority opinion is that fat shaming is a-okay. It’s the fat person’s “fault” they’re fat.

 

Someone who has purple hair...Should we mock them? Body piercings? What about folks who gauge their ears? Tattoos? All things people are judged on they have control over on their bodies. What about someone who chooses to wear glasses instead of getting corrective vision surgery? Or wear contacts. Is saying “four eyes” acceptable?

 

For what it’s worth, Mr. @Guy Fawkes, I lost 110lbs and was more miserable then than I ever was in my life. Is that the goal? Slim and trim and acceptable to society’s standards but miserable?

 

Contrary to popular opinion here, I do believe we can expect people to behave a particular decent way toward people about things related to their physical bodies. Personalities is another thing altogether. But your physical body is another.

[marylander1940]

Many here are choosing to misread this.

 

I’m saying we all have a way of putting our issues with other people on other people. The problem isn’t ours. But of course, how we treat people is. And some matters aren’t acceptable things to point out as flaws, particularly character flaws.

 

Instead of saying, “Hm. Maybe I do unfairly judge people based on their body size,” we have all kinds of excuse-making for why that’s okay. And hell – maybe it is. If there were a survey here, seems that the majority opinion is that fat shaming is a-okay. It’s the fat person’s “fault” they’re fat.

 

Someone who has purple hair...Should we mock them? Body piercings? What about folks who gauge their ears? Tattoos? All things people are judged on they have control over on their bodies. What about someone who chooses to wear glasses instead of getting corrective vision surgery? Or wear contacts. Is saying “four eyes” acceptable?

 

For what it’s worth, Mr. @Guy Fawkes, I lost 110lbs and was more miserable then than I ever was in my life. Is that the goal? Slim and trim and acceptable to society’s standards but miserable?

 

Contrary to popular opinion here, I do believe we can expect people to behave a particular decent way toward people about things related to their physical bodies. Personalities is another thing altogether. But your physical body is another.

 

I misread you but not by choice.

 

Thank you for making your point more clear.

[xyz48B]

Everyone is so goddem woke they can’t see their own flaws...

[Guy Fawkes]

The correct action was to click "Report"

 

The last time I reached out to you, I didn’t get a response. ??‍♂️ Check your PMs from January 22...

[Guy Fawkes]

Didn't receive any PMs on the 1/22. So you waited almost a year to follow up on it?

 

The last time I reached out to you, I didn’t get a response. ??‍♂️ Check your PMs from January 22...

[Danny-Darko]

Your posting instantly reminded me of a heated exchange I once had with a drinking buddy. I told him that because I regard a man as "hot" does not mean that I desire him. My "buddy" told me that it is not possible to think a man is hot without wanting to get into his pants. It was downhill from there. I, too, am most attracted to Asians, and when I was seen noticing a non-Asian, I would get hit with "why are you looking at him, he's not Asian." Then I would have to school the person that for me Asian is a preference, not a requirement. Boy, how I miss "The Web" Asian bar that was on East 58th Street in New York City.

 

Have you been to San Francisco yet? You'd love the eye-candy in the whole SF Bay Area! ?

[+ sync]

Have you been to San Francisco yet? You'd love the eye-candy in the whole SF Bay Area! ?

I have made it to San Francisco a few times, but not recently. The times that I did visit I thoroughly enjoyed the Asian eye-candy and even got to sample. One of the beauties was sporting a rose tattooed on his left buttock. I really don't like tattoos, but his was/is small and kind of cute, and once things got going it was out of my sight. ?

[Monarchy79]

@xyz48B

 

I’m calling bullshit

.

You can’t pick and choose when to be “sensitive”, and then pander to people for support, with a weak claim of “sizism”, when you initiated the insults.....

 

Let’s just be transparent:

 

You consistently troll @Jarrod_Uncut’s posts, with sarcasm, consistent snarky insults and jabs at him for his posts on his experiences as an escort.

 

The man snaps back at you, and instead of accepting that you initiated the “shade”fest, and he got the best of you.... You decide to manipulate the integrity of the good hearted nature of most participants of this forum, by trying to vilify the man, out of vengeance.... and using your insecurities as a fat dude, to do it.

 

I’ll give you credit, you’re quite clever. But you should also be ashamed of yourself.

 

This isn’t an issue of body shaming, or discrimination.

 

This is an issue of an the following old adage:

 

“Don’t dish it out, if you can take it!!!”

 

Class Dismissed....

Edited December 11, 2020 by Monarchy79

[Monarchy79]

Maybe this is going to open a can of worms, but here it goes anyway. People can have preferences without it being racist, sizist, ageist, etc. It comes down to how we treat one another. Maybe I am predominantly attracted to Asians? Maybe I do not find myself attracted to whites? That isn't racism unless I also treat one race differently than another, or think that one is better than the other. You can uphold equality without having to be attracted to everybody. As for shaming, nobody should shame anyone for their appearance. But shaming someone for their words and actions is another matter.

 

You may not think that “preferences”, are discriminatory, but the deep rooted sources of those preferences are. No one is born with “preferences”, they are a learned set of ideas influenced from many environmental variables.

 

Ask anyone who has racial “preferences”, introspective questions behind the reasoning of their preference, and almost every time, there are layers of generalizations, stereotypes, assumptions and prejudices.

[Monarchy79]

Everyone is so goddem woke they can’t see their own flaws...

 

Agreed.

Here’s your mirror...... ?

[LatinoSoldier42]

I’m a bit younger than the standard group here. I was taught never make a negative comment on something physical that someone can’t change in 20 minutes (eg-hair, makeup, something in teeth, shower). That goes for both clients and escorts. They might be the cream in your coffee, but they are someone else’s.

 

Being attracted to someone or not should have no affect on how you treat someone outside the bedroom. Someone else’s weight doesn’t matter to you unless they’re asking for a piggie back ride

[Monarchy79]

The assumption that folks should want to change their weight is fallacious and sizist.

 

Newsflash: not all fat people are unhealthy.

 

Not all fat people are unhealthy.... YET....

The idea that you can be fat and healthy, is the delusion of the “body positivity”, movement that’s dangerous.

 

When you’re young and fat, everything is okay, and you’re living your best life.. feeling great. All that time, you’re putting your body in overdrive.... wearing out the cartilage on your joints, damaging your organs, stretching your skin, killing your capillaries, hardening the walls of your arteries, and further pressing circulation....

 

Then you’re 40s come.... you start moving slower, breathing isn’t as easy anymore, and then symptoms of long-term neglect and wear & tear kick in... then comes the diabetes, the high blood pressure, hypertension, heart disease, and other health ailments that’s just hit you like a ton of bricks. And life becomes an ongoing intake of various medications (which has further side effects); a cycle of pain and regret.

 

It’s no different for smokers, alcoholics, and drug users.

 

Everything seems “healthy”, and harmless, when you’re young.

 

Don’t fall into the trap of denial & delusion.

Make an effort to lose weight. Not for vanity, but for a quality life, in the long term.