Unlucky with guys and escorts

[MicroSDcard]

Hi,

I've been waiting to get this off my chest, I have never been lucky with guys and even less lucky with hot guys, which is the type I like, pretty young boys then I found this forum where I was hopeful that I can learn to meet hot guys/escorts.

 

- Please, bear with my English, it is not my first language.

 

Anyways, I've been silently reading and following all the postings in how to hire a good companion, but here is the problem..., even when I am generous, those hot/ young guys don't treat me right.

 

I tried several guys, masseurs, professionals, and nothing; no enthusiasm, I don't even get a proper BFE. They don't want to kiss or be intimate, even those who had in their profile " Sensual, Sexual, Engaging, a big cuddle and a Great Kisser."

 

I am not good looking, actually, quite the opposite, so when those guys open the door and see this chubby, short, daddy guy, they make a face, like a disappointment smirk. It cant be only my attitude. How many shy guys, inexperienced or plain rude guys those escorts may encounter? I bet a lot.

 

Well, I decided to post to know if is anyone out there that has the same experiences? Maybe we can share tips or something? I am a single guy, one year shy of my 50 and I want to have a pretty boy treat me nice.

 

I hope this post doesn't get too much hate since people don't like whiners. I will extend if anyone out there wants to hear me.

Edited February 2, 2020 by MicroSDcard

[MicroSDcard]

Hi,

I've been waiting to get this off my chest, I have never been lucky with guys and even less lucky with hot guys, which is the type I like, pretty young boys then I found this forum where I was hopeful that I can learn to meet hot guys/escorts.

 

- Please, bear with my English, it is not my first language.

 

Anyways, I've been silently reading and following all the postings in how to hire a good companion, but here is the problem..., even when I am generous, those hot/ young guys don't treat me right.

 

I tried several guys, masseurs, professionals, and nothing; no enthusiasm, I don't even get a proper BFE. They don't want to kiss or be intimate, even those who had in their profile " Sensual, Sexual, Engaging, a big cuddle and a Great Kisser."

 

I am not good looking, actually, quite the opposite, so when those guys open the door and see this chubby, short, daddy guy, they make a face, like a disappointment smirk. It cant be only my attitude. How many shy guys, inexperienced or plain rude guys those escorts may encounter? I bet a lot.

 

Well, I decided to post to know if is anyone out there that has the same experiences? Maybe we can share tips or something? I am a single guy, one year shy of my 50 and I want to have a pretty boy treat me nice.

 

I hope this post doesn't get too much hate since people don't like whiners. I will extend if anyone out there wants to hear me.

Edited February 2, 2020 by MicroSDcard

[CuriousByNature]

Youre not whining at all. This is one of my own big concerns and part of the reason why I havent taken the plunge yet myself. My own plan is to take the advice of this board very seriously, and stick with those who are highly recommended here first. Hopefully my own confidence will grow from there and I wont be as concerned if someone looks disappointed when the door opens. Just a thought to consider for yourself as well ?

[CuriousByNature]

Youre not whining at all. This is one of my own big concerns and part of the reason why I havent taken the plunge yet myself. My own plan is to take the advice of this board very seriously, and stick with those who are highly recommended here first. Hopefully my own confidence will grow from there and I wont be as concerned if someone looks disappointed when the door opens. Just a thought to consider for yourself as well ?

[KeepItReal]

I can sympathize - not all of us win the genetic lottery. But confidence is sexy - have you considered that your insecurities about your age/appearance etc may be impacting you in ways you have not thought about, it may be evident to the companions you choose?

 

Perhaps it will help if you follow a template. Find a porn vid online that you like; older guy and younger guy. The roles as you would like them and then send that link to the companion ahead of time. Ask to play out that scene. It may help both you and the companion - if he indicates that he is not up for that; well, then you know.

[+ StLouisOct]

I have nothing to add to your concerns, but I did want to point out that your English is very good. I wish I knew a second language as well. ?

[Trick]

 

I am not good looking, actually, quite the opposite, so when those guys open the door and see this chubby, short, daddy guy,

 

 

This is like you describing me so we are on the same “undesirables” boat. But I assure you that there are providers out there who will make you feel like you’re the hottest stud in the entire universe. Don’t sell yourself short.

[MicroSDcard]

This is like you describing me so we are on the same “undesirables” boat. But I assure you that there are providers out there who will make you feel like you’re the hottest stud in the entire universe. Don’t sell yourself short.

Thanks, so you know how it is. And not only I am a nice guy, but i am also a sucker for pretty muscular guys. i used to go to dark rooms or bathhouse but it never fully fills me. I like clean cut guys and those ones never want me or they don't go to those dark places.

I was lucky a couple of times in Boardwalk, I haven't been there lately since the changed it.

[CuriousByNature]

Thanks, so you know how it is. And not only I am a nice guy, but i am also a sucker for pretty muscular guys. i used to go to dark rooms or bathhouse but it never fully fills me. I like clean cut guys and those ones never want me or they don't go to those dark places.

I was lucky a couple of times in Boardwalk, I haven't been there lately since the changed it.

 

Its great that even though you struggle with self-confidence you still put yourself out there... some of us dont have as much courage as you do! You are several steps ahead of me, for sure ?

[+ sniper]

You say you're not goodlooking, but how are you dressing? It might help to step up the wardrobe to something that signifies you have money. And honestly, the right clothes do make you look better. (I say this as someone who dresses terribly...).

 

Also, I hate to say it, but a fair number of the working boys at the NYC bars have racial hangups. If you're not white that could be part of it for some of these guys.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've found that my best escort experiences are with experienced providers - usually guys 30 and over. (I typically get the same experience with guys that you've described with younger guys.) I've found that while some of these guys are not exactly "pretty boys" but the way they make me feel is wonderful and they've definitely become quite hot in my eyes.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

At the end of the day, you don't go to places like these expecting high-end escorts who take this seriously.

 

Of course they just want your money: Look at the turn-and-burn environment you've put yourself in.

 

Make smarter/healthier decisions if you want to spend time with a guy who values you as more than just a passing $25 lapdance.

Edited February 3, 2020 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[LivingnLA]

@MicroSDcard welcome and thank you for posting. I strongly encourage you to spend some of your disposable income on a good therapist. Forgive my bluntness, but you are too close to see yourself clearly. You talk down about your language skills, yet your English is good to very good. I bet you're in a funk and under-rating yourself in many ways. That's very normal for any human who is lonely or feeling underappreciated or unacknowledged. Confidence is very attractive and humans can be attracted to pretty much any and every physical characteristic if the personality is there. Yes, even a "chubby, short, daddy guy."

 

@MicroSDcard, I want you to know something: you are loved and you are worthy of love. This thread and your replies are thoughtful, open, and vulnerable. All of those traits are appealing and reveal a person worthy of attention and care.

 

Whether you go to a therapist or not, I suggest you not waste your money at strip clubs. While there are probably some quality people, most are likely living on the edge and that introduces harshness and pragmatism that I suspect aren't what you need right now.

 

Have you considered one of the professionals from this forum? Someone like [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER], @Eric Hassan, @Kevin Slater, @OliverSaks, or @tristanbaldwin? I have no face to face experience with these men. I am basing my suggestion purely on their thoughtful and engaging activity on this forum over the years. I believe any of them could create an amazing experience with you. Perhaps not all at once though as that much hotness so close together might be too much for one person to handle.

 

Lastly, please consider donating to daddy. This forum and the review site are supported by donations. If he runs out of money, it will all vanish. May you be kind to yourself and have a wonderful week.

[MicroSDcard]

This is like you describing me so we are on the same “undesirables” boat. But I assure you that there are providers out there who will make you feel like you’re the hottest stud in the entire universe. Don’t sell yourself short.

@@Trick

Did you see the lastest responses? Like the LA one?

This is my last posting, they didn't get it. I wish I can delete the thread @Trick stay strong, I know what you meant, I am with you.

[+ FreshFluff]

@@Trick

Did you see the lastest responses? Like the LA one?

This is my last posting, they didn't get it. I wish I can delete the thread @Trick stay strong, I know what you meant, I am with you.

 

l get it. The issue is that you’re attracted to the Bel Ami types, but they’re picky and don’t like to deliver BFEs.

[rvwnsd]

Hi,

I've been waiting to get this off my chest, I have never been lucky with guys and even less lucky with hot guys, which is the type I like, pretty young boys then I found this forum where I was hopeful that I can learn to meet hot guys/escorts.

 

- Please, bear with my English, it is not my first language.

 

Anyways, I've been silently reading and following all the postings in how to hire a good companion, but here is the problem..., even when I am generous, those hot/ young guys don't treat me right.

 

I tried several guys, masseurs, professionals, and nothing; no enthusiasm, I don't even get a proper BFE. They don't want to kiss or be intimate, even those who had in their profile " Sensual, Sexual, Engaging, a big cuddle and a Great Kisser."

 

I am not good looking, actually, quite the opposite, so when those guys open the door and see this chubby, short, daddy guy, they make a face, like a disappointment smirk. It cant be only my attitude. How many shy guys, inexperienced or plain rude guys those escorts may encounter? I bet a lot.

 

Well, I decided to post to know if is anyone out there that has the same experiences? Maybe we can share tips or something? I am a single guy, one year shy of my 50 and I want to have a pretty boy treat me nice.

 

I hope this post doesn't get too much hate since people don't like whiners. I will extend if anyone out there wants to hear me.

This will sound trite, but the problem isn't you - it is the guys you have hired.

 

There are escorts who do not vary their treatment of clients by the way the client looks. I wish I could give yoou a first-hand recommendation, but my tastes are very different than yours.

 

Here is what I would suggest: Find a handful of escorts whom you find attractive and ask about them in The Deli.

[Monarchy79]

Would you consider investing the possible funds you’d spend on escorts, into maintenance and self-improvement instead?

You said you turned 50. With this new decade for you, work on all of the things you think makes you unattractive and improve on them.

[Monarchy79]

There’s something missing in this situation:

First off, do escorts truly expect their clients to be “hot”? if a guy is a hit as the escort, he typically wouldn’t need to hire one (unless it’s merely for convenience, which is quite understandable)

 

Secondly, when people (escorts or not) show no interest (as expected), they usually won’t explain why....

 

Who’s to say that the issue is your looks?

Have you examined all possible reasons why these experiences keep occurring?

 

As an example, I have a good friend who is good looking, and would attract many guys, who would ghost him right after the first in-person meeting. Once I was in-person with him, I realized one of the possible reasons why.... he has horrible dental habits, very infected teeth & gums and terrible breath.

Once he started improving his dental hygiene and taking regular visits to the dentist to rectify years of dental neglect, his love

love started to improve.

 

But not one of those guys told him the reason why they ghosted him.

 

Make sure you’ve examined every possible reason why these experiences have occurred because you just assume its your “looks”

[CuriousByNature]

@@Trick

Did you see the lastest responses? Like the LA one?

This is my last posting, they didn't get it. I wish I can delete the thread @Trick stay strong, I know what you meant, I am with you.

 

I hope this isnt your last post! Youve opened up an important conversation here, and your input is very valuable ?. Not everyone will get where youre coming from because each of us is on our own path, but you have helped enrich things here already. The great thing about the board is we can get opinions from those with much more experience who are willing to offer guidance. It doesnt mean we will necessarily like all the feedback we get, or that we need to take it... but in my estimation, more 95% of the posts I've read since joining seem to come from a good place - though how its communicated varies from person to person. So, again, I hope it isnt your last post... ?

[+ smara]

I too hope that this is not the last post about this somewhat delicate topic from MicroSDcard , as you say: CuriousByNature.

 

One has to remember that discussions forums like these are to exchange the participant's honest views and one always assesses opinions and draw one's own especially since we get views from a multitude of people from various angles. Indeed there maybe ones that you absolutely disagree with too. Just as some escort may have provided the time of life to one person and another person may feel that he got a rather lukewarm reception and we see that in these discussions too.

[Smurof]

Work at improving yourself, and your experiences will improve. Exterior improvements lead to interior ones. Hot guys are liked by nearly everyone on the outside, so it's only natural they prefer the company of hot guys, too. Get hot, and understand it takes time. I got tired of my own excuses and am loving the newer me. There's no time restraint on being healthier. It's a lifetime of ongoing improvement, and worth it.

[+ purplekow]

Work at improving yourself, and your experiences will improve. Exterior improvements lead to interior ones. Hot guys are liked by nearly everyone on the outside, so it's only natural they prefer the company of hot guys, too. Get hot, and understand it takes time. I got tired of my own excuses and am loving the newer me. There's no time restraint on being healthier. It's a lifetime of ongoing improvement, and worth it.

In the meanwhile, if you are still looking to hire, you might inquire here about escorts who tickle your fancy. Victor Powers provides an excellent BFE and he is mature and outgoing and if he is someone you find attractive, consider hiring him on one of his many trips to NYC.

[David1024]

I agre with a lot of the comments posted here. I rarely hire a guy under 30. I prefer someone with a bit more depth and personality than a young pretentious twink. The first time I hired an escort I was nervous and told him so. It turned out that I had found an experienced, professional guy that had been in the business for a while. He gave me a great time. Number 2 was a younger guy, new to escorting, but again gave me a great time. Number 3 was the complete opposite, not into it (or me) at all. Had that been my first experience I would have become very discouraged.

@MicroSDcard, where are you located? That may help you get some good suggestions from this form.

[+ RJD]

Haveyou considered one of the from this forum? Someone like [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER], @Eric Hassan, @Kevin Slater, @OliverSaks, or @tristanbaldwin? I have no face to face experience with these men. I am basing my suggestion purely on their thoughtful and engaging activity on this forum over the years.

 

I do, so I can personally attest to one of them. I spent the better part of this past weekend hosting [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] and the positive comments on here don’t begin to describe what an absolute sweetheart he is. Cute, adorable, thoughtful, attentive, and sensitive. I struck up a conversation with him via private message a couple weeks ago and in that short time, we arranged for his visit. He made me feel so comfortable in my own skin that we did things I haven’t done in years. I can’t speak highly enough about him and think he’d be a great choice for @MicroSDcard. Oh, and he can kiss.