Lost interest in hiring?

[Despardo]

I am less physically motivated with advancing age. Looking these days for someone who can entertain me.

[rustyrex]

I know I’ve become a lot more selective of who I hire, this ain’t a cheap hobby. When you mix location, price, reviews, and experience it can be a bit daunting. But I still prefer hiring than hunting for a hook up on an app. That’s way more trouble to me, because let’s face it, hook ups can be more complicated than a hire. Plus I use hiring as an excuse to travel. I have absolutely no reason to travel to some of the places I’ve been. Sex is a good thing, even if it’s bad sex...but I’ve started wanting more from the experience. Some hires that are really good sense this and will put a personal touch to the experience. That’s when I know they are what I’m looking for. Its like finding a needle in a haystack, but worth the challenge.

[Islesguy]

I know I’ve become a lot more selective of who I hire, this ain’t a cheap hobby. When you mix location, price, reviews, and experience it can be a bit daunting. But I still prefer hiring than hunting for a hook up on an app. That’s way more trouble to me, because let’s face it, hook ups can be more complicated than a hire. Plus I use hiring as an excuse to travel. I have absolutely no reason to travel to some of the places I’ve been. Sex is a good thing, even if it’s bad sex...but I’ve started wanting more from the experience. Some hires that are really good sense this and will put a personal touch to the experience. That’s when I know they are what I’m looking for. Its like finding a needle in a haystack, but worth the challenge.

This is exactly how I feel about hiring. If I can find a guy who meet me on a mental and emotional level, at least for me, it makes the experience so much better. It also makes it significantly more likely I will rehire and for a longer session. Physical ability is great but it always leaves me feeling empty if there's nothing behind it.

[dcman]

After going thru about 8K in the past year I am starting to conclude, that money, would be better spent on a great vacation, not constantly jumping thru hoops to try to find a decent stud who looks like the pics, acts like the text and has enough common sense to turn off his cell phone when the door closes and leave it off until the door opens for one of us to leave. I would be happy to give that 8K to the right regular.

[Guest Calix_K]

Thanks for your post. Can you explain what you mean by platonic touch? Is this like the cuddling services I’ve seen pop up over the past two years, or are you describing something else?

 

Hit me up if you're interested, I could go on and on about it. Essentially it is something that many guys miscategorize as "sexual touch" when in fact it is not sexual. And for many guys, surprisingly, its what's been missing from traditional escort/client encounters.

Since coming on to this forum and placing an online ad, I'm surprised that things havent been more progressive in terms of providers exploring this often overlooked component of human touch.

[+ Just Sayin]

Hit me up if you're interested, I could go on and on about it. Essentially it is something that many guys miscategorize as "sexual touch" when in fact it is not sexual. And for many guys, surprisingly, its what's been missing from traditional escort/client encounters.

Since coming on to this forum and placing an online ad, I'm surprised that things havent been more progressive in terms of providers exploring this often overlooked component of human touch.

 

this is fascinating, [uSER=21009]@Calix_K[/uSER]; I've never given this much thought, but it is this human connection that maybe many of us are seeking; I'm interested in learning more

[Rudynate]

I have never been one to hire a lot - a few times a year. Recently, I just find it distasteful. I still look at ads a lot and it wouldn't surprise me if I went back to it. As a matter of fact, there is one guy here in SF who almost will certainly hire sometime, but I'm not in any hurry. I'm also sort off of free sex too. I started doing stuff like making dates and standing people up because I just didn't feel like going. I realized I couldn't keep treating people that way and that until my attitude improved, I'd better just not make dates.

[MscleLovr]

That’s commendably honest of you @Rudynate

[Poincare]

Do tell. Mark and I overlap in DC this week. He was amazing, the real deal why? Tried to PM you to no avail, but would love hear more. PM me if you feel inclined...thx

Regarding Mark Parker 6’3” gorgeous man with beauitful swimmers build.....very handsome.....super charming and friendly...he took control and led me down an hour of pure delight.....topped magnificently

[LaffingBear]

Add me to the list of guys hiring less. My reasons:

 

1) I've become very skeptical of anything promoted online.... and, sadly, my skepticism is increasingly proven to be justified

 

2) I've hit an age and confluence of a)decreased libido, and b) my brain's ability to override stupid or impulsive decisions generated by my crotch

 

All in all... I find myself thinking "I'd rather read a good book"

[+ Pensant]

After going thru about 8K in the past year I am starting to conclude, that money, would be better spent on a great vacation, not constantly jumping thru hoops to try to find a decent stud who looks like the pics, acts like the text and has enough common sense to turn off his cell phone when the door closes and leave it off until the door opens for one of us to leave. I would be happy to give that 8K to the right regular.

However, when you have a small group of regulars who can even anticipate your desires at the exact moment, it becomes much more worthwhile. I’d never be able to meet such young hotties through an app.

[Rod Hagen]

Oh well at 79 I guess age has caught up with me..

I can't imagine you are any less engaging and passionate as when we met maybe 15 years ago.

[adventurous old guy]

Regarding Mark Parker 6’3” gorgeous man with beauitful swimmers build.....very handsome.....super charming and friendly...he took control and led me down an hour of pure delight.....topped magnificently

Just a quick follow up on Mark. I contacted him this week when we overlapped in DC. Very polite, but quoted me $500/hr or $950 for 2. It was my birthday so I was prepared to splurge, and responded that $500 was not out of the question for me, but not for a first meeting with someone I'd never been with before. Countered offering $400 with a promise to be generous if I had a great experience. He read that but didn't respond. It was early in the day. I assumed he was probably waiting to see if he got a better offer. Gave him two hours before pulling my counter and going with someone else, specifically this guy: https://rentmen.eu/AlexanderLatin. Very different look than Mark, but beautiful, super nice, flexible and fun. Just reviewed.

 

Got a nice final note from Mark later in the day saying "no worries." So want to underscore he was friendly and communicative throughout the back and forth. And as a consultant myself I certainly don't begrudge him sticking to his price. Goal of this post is just to update intel about his pricing.

Edited November 22, 2019 by adventurous old guy

[MscleLovr]

Good post @adventurous old guy FWIW I feel you have made a wise decision.

 

MP may be great but $500 an hour is a very demanding price. It doesn’t allow for anything less than a superlative session, and we’ve all known guys where the chemistry was missing.

 

As an aside, I was amused by the “$950 for 2” hours. That’s not a discount; it’s a rounding error. Anyone who had a magnificent time for 2 hours is going to add the implied tip of $50.

[adventurous old guy]

Good post @adventurous old guy FWIW I feel you have made a wise decision.

 

MP may be great but $500 an hour is a very demanding price. It doesn’t allow for anything less than a superlative session, and we’ve all known guys where the chemistry was missing.

 

As an aside, I was amused by the “$950 for 2” hours. That’s not a discount; it’s a rounding error. Anyone who had a magnificent time for 2 hours is going to add the implied tip of $50.

Right on! My thinking exactly. Chemistry IS a thing, it matters, and sometimes it's just not there. Laughed out loud at your take on a "rounding error."

[Epigonos]

As I've stated many times before I've been involved in this hiring game for over seventeen years. After that many years I simply cannot imagine what an escort can do for me in an hour that would be worth $500. Additionally a discount of $50 for the second hour I personally find insulting. Maybe he will find takers in the New York marked but I seriously doubt that fee will wash in other markets even including mine in L.A.

[Rod Hagen]

Whenever my indignation begins to kick in at what some male escort's rate is, I remind myself how much higher many female escorts rates are than even the most ambitious male escorts, and I calm down.

[Tangogent]

Gone are the days where one didn't have to think about the rates! I truly wonder whether some boys have any takers at £1K/night and the like.

 

I tell myself that there's a health benefit in being caressed and kissed, at least. Keeps my blood moving in ways different from my weekly athletic massage.

 

When I try someone new and it's 'meh', it can put me off my meat for a while.

 

My libido is less, the prices are higher and, yes, too many beards and tattoos. Sometimes I find the attitude of a professional escort off-putting; I like them to be really customer-oriented.

 

DoubleList is no CL; that's for sure!

[+ DrownedBoy]

My libido was never much to begin with (I remember friends joking about that when I was in my early 20s), but it's getting worse. It seems like half the time, I can't even come during a session.

 

And I get bored too. I have 2 regulars, but after time, it gets less exciting.

 

I was looking for a new regular, but everyone in this area wants 300 + Uber fee. 20 miles from downtown doesn't seem long, but it is if you're driving in Chicago. And more escorts don't like travelling.

 

And to repeat what an earlier poster said, facial hair is the "thing" now, and it's a major turnoff for me.

[muscmtl]

As they ask for more and more I hire less and less. If only i could get decreased libido to go with my decreasing wallet

[MscleLovr]

As they ask for more and more I hire less and less. If only i could get decreased libido to go with my decreasing wallet

 

Excuse me @muscmtl but the size and thickness should be increasing! If as you say you “hire less and less”, I’d expect a fat bulge to result.

 

I'm referring to your wallet of course. I can’t explain the decreased libido.

[needbodywork]

I've lost interest too for many of the same reasons echoed here.

I was never crazy about RB/M4RN then RM but at least there was a solid selection in the past. Now there are few I find attractive and fewer I'd pay for time.

Craigslist - especially when they had adult encounters - was where all the fun was. A number of open, minded attractive (far more than the typical on RM) advertising. The fact that someone could post a last minute ad with no trace rather than sign up on a RM with a credit card and account brought in a lot more variety. Straight guys, curious guys, guys who just need a few bucks to pay a bill. Great times and adventure - often at a bargain.

[littlenut]

Was just revisiting this old thread I’d started. In February of this year, I started looking at profiles, then coronavirus came along and doused any spark that might have been flickering. Oh well, truth be told, I was probably trying to force something to happen earlier this year, and let’s face it: it’s rare that something good would come from that.

 

Now when I start to look at profiles, I lose interest in a couple of minutes. So I guess I’ve retired from the game (last hire was in August, 10 months ago). And the fact that it doesn’t bother me tells me it’s the right decision. Who knows, maybe one day I’ll un-retire like Gronkowski, but for now I’m done. I feel better spending time and money towards other endeavors.

 

To all who remain in “the game”, good luck and stay safe. And in the immortal words of Colleen Haskell, “Be nice, play fair.”

[+ Pensant]

Obviously, my encounters are way down, but I have too high a sex drive to forgo this hobby for good.

[MscleLovr]

I have too high a sex drive to forgo this hobby for good.

 

Me too @Pensant and regular sex is important to keep the internal machinery in good working order.