"Chemistry"

[littlenut]

When I inquired if a certain escort was versatile, he responded "If the chemistry is there". (I am a Top only.)

 

He looks great, is well reviewed, and points for being honest up front, I guess. And there's always oral. But I'm trying to decide whether to pass.

 

Just curious how others would handle if in my situation.

[jawjateck]

If that's what you want, it doesn't sound like you will get it.

[Wolfer]

I would pass.

[+ JEC]

I would inquire further what makes chemistry for him, when chemistry happens it’s magic

[+ nycman]

It all depends on how much I like the guy and if I thought

I’d be happy even if we didn’t get to fuck. I’d also factor

in how much “chemistry” I thought we might have....

all though that one is hard to gauge until the door opens.

 

Of course, when the “chemistry” is there...you know it

on the first kiss...and those times have been amazing.

 

I give the escort huge props for being honest and I tend to

roll the dice in these situations...and I’ve been glad I did

95% of the times.....YMMV.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I have at least 24 other guys on my to do list, and I will never get through all of them, so I would immediately move on.

[rvwnsd]

Like @nycman I give him props for being up-front. "Chemistry" could mean "if my digestive system isn't haywire from a meal I ate," "if I can accommodate your dick," "if I'm able to clean out sufficiently," "if the guy who hired me two days before knew what he was doing and didn't rip me apart," or "if you know what you are doing and don't try to rip me apart."

[hypothetically]

Like @nycman I give him props for being up-front. "Chemistry" could mean "if my digestive system isn't haywire from a meal I ate," "if I can accommodate your dick," "if I'm able to clean out sufficiently," "if the guy who hired me two days before knew what he was doing and didn't rip me apart," or "if you know what you are doing and don't try to rip me apart."

 

...or “you’re not attractive and you’re not penetrating me” if we’re keeping it realistic.

 

@littlenut I’d move on. There are providers from sea-to-shining-sea who will bottom for you. While it’s your money, why spend money on a “maybe.”

[tennisjock]

I have heard this before and depends on what I want . Some of these guys won’t bottom on the first encounter but if they don’t on the second i am outta there

[biggerbilly]

When I inquired if a certain escort was versatile, he responded "If the chemistry is there". (I am a Top only.)

 

He looks great, is well reviewed, and points for being honest up front, I guess. And there's always oral. But I'm trying to decide whether to pass.

 

Just curious how others would handle if in my situation.

 

Did this guy advertise as versatile? Because Top/verse guys are bad enough, if verse guys are now on a case by case basis, the really is no point in Tops hiring.

[+ goosh69]

I have heard similar about kissing. 50% of the time if offer more money for GUARANTEED chemistry, I get what I want. Otherwise, move on.

[marylander1940]

I would inquire further what makes chemistry for him, when chemistry happens it’s magic

 

I guess he might have chemistry with someone he meets on Grindr, not someone who hires him from Rentmen.

[marylander1940]

Some on here have bragged about convincing tops to bottom for them for an extra $50 or $100... Is up to the escort's choice but somehow that reminds of someone who consider folks as objects.

 

I don't know where the OP lives but believe, plenty of choices out there.

[Edward]

If they advertise as versatile chemistry is a cop out. They probably not versatile. Or just there to service a select few. If the word chemistry is mentioned I bail.

[+ purplekow]

It takes two to make chemistry. If you are like me, persuasion and seduction can be very sexy foreplay. So for me, I am willing to take a no for the chance at a big or unexpected yes. Of course, if I get a no, I will still make sure I have a great time even without fucking.

I have had men who advertise as tops who have been more than delighted to bottom. When asked why they do not advertise that they are versatile, the reply I have been given is there are more guys who bottom who will say no to a versatile escort. So, it may be that the escort is saying if the chemistry is right because he does not want to get the reputation of being versatile.

When it comes to fucking, I very rarely. less than 5 times in my life, bottom. On those occasions, the chemistry was right and I went with the flow. On some of those occasions, I have persuaded a"top" to yield with the proviso that I will stay an extra period of time and bottom for him. On those three occasions, in the end, both of us were sated and panting.

You know the expression money talks and nobody walks. Well on these three occasions, that was exactly the case, money talked and when we were done, nobody could walk.

[snogaholic]

Righty ho.

[KeepItReal]

It takes two to make chemistry. If you are like me, persuasion and seduction can be very sexy foreplay. So for me, I am willing to take a no for the chance at a big or unexpected yes. Of course, if I get a no, I will still make sure I have a great time even without fucking.

I have had men who advertise as tops who have been more than delighted to bottom. When asked why they do not advertise that they are versatile, the reply I have been given is there are more guys who bottom who will say no to a versatile escort. So, it may be that the escort is saying if the chemistry is right because he does not want to get the reputation of being versatile.

While I can't claim to have @purplekow 's seduction prowess, I have had a number of tops, bottom for me over the years; to echo his thoughts, I am totally willing to take no for an answer, but things usually work out if we have good communication beforehand. In many cases I could tell they are not "bottoming just for me" - they've been there before and even enjoy it, but they have limits, like everybody else. Some guys are too big for them to accommodate, for example...

[rvwnsd]

It takes two to make chemistry. If you are like me, persuasion and seduction can be very sexy foreplay. So for me, I am willing to take a no for the chance at a big or unexpected yes. Of course, if I get a no, I will still make sure I have a great time even without fucking.

I have had men who advertise as tops who have been more than delighted to bottom. When asked why they do not advertise that they are versatile, the reply I have been given is there are more guys who bottom who will say no to a versatile escort. So, it may be that the escort is saying if the chemistry is right because he does not want to get the reputation of being versatile.

When it comes to fucking, I very rarely. less than 5 times in my life, bottom. On those occasions, the chemistry was right and I went with the flow. On some of those occasions, I have persuaded a"top" to yield with the proviso that I will stay an extra period of time and bottom for him. On those three occasions, in the end, both of us were sated and panting.

You know the expression money talks and nobody walks. Well on these three occasions, that was exactly the case, money talked and when we were done, nobody could walk.

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[+ JEC]

Chemistry is the process of 2 people engaging in the process of making it. When I hear chemistry I hear someone challenging me to engage in creating it, and they are willing to return it. Of course that requires further exploration - but is not possible if you simply “move on”. If you do engage (requires communication), you will know pretty quickly if you are creating chemistry or not. If you don’t engage you’ll never know what you missed. My best encounters have been those where there is serious chemistry

[+ Keith30309]

After lots of hit-and-miss’s I try really hard to make sure I’m compatible with someone before we meet. My profile is very long and detailed, including a couple of “must have”s and I ask everyone to let me know if they are comfortable. If we do meet then I bend over backwards and try very hard to make a meeting go well for both of us.

I don’t meet guys for whom “it depends”. I really don’t want to deal with awkward rejection and an aborted meeting.

[+ purplekow]

After lots of hit-and-miss’s I try really hard to make sure I’m compatible with someone before we meet. My profile is very long and detailed, including a couple of “must have”s and I ask everyone to let me know if they are comfortable. If we do meet then I bend over backwards and try very hard to make a meeting go well for both of us.

I don’t meet guys for whom “it depends”. I really don’t want to deal with awkward rejection and an aborted meeting.

 

I agree that there are deal breakers and then there a bells and whistles. For me, I very likely will have a better time with a man who will not bottom compared to one who will not kiss. So, if I received a "depends" on a question about kissing, I would move on. Fucking, for me, is the cherry on top of dessert, but I do not mind dessert without a cherry, as long as I have cream at the end.