new to this... seeking advice

[MDinNY]

Since you have the money to do this, it sure sounds like a fun hobby to take up. Nice!

It’s not a hobby. It’s me having a first time experience. I don’t want it to be painful or awkward or a bad experience. So just trying to have a little bit of a say on how it goes...

[+ friendofsheila]

 

I need advice - this is something I want to try soon. Should I try to meet someone through a hookup app or hire an escort? Or maybe start with an erotic massage?

 

 

Although you've already started looking at escorts, I'll confirm your decision. Real guys can be flakes and/or uninterested partners, more often than escorts, since they have nothing invested in making certain you have an enjoyable time.

 

I hope you have a good time, wherever this adventure takes you.

[+ purplekow]

Definitely go with a pro. They are in it to have satisfied customers who may become repeat customers. At least the good ones are. Check out Daddy's reviews. Come back and ask for opinions.

I would skip the massage step as you can have an escort start with a massage and they will take you further, not all who massage will take you where you need to go.

[Rudynate]

Hey guys. I’m a 34 year old male. Have a comfortable and seemingly normal life. I had a fiancé but ended that about 6 months ago. I’ve dated since then but nothing serious.

 

Here is why I’m posting... I’ve had a desire to be with a man for some time. I had a married buddy that I met through CL years ago. We would meet up, JO - some touching but that’s it.

 

I’ve never had a dick in my mouth or ass. I want to try that. I travel a lot for work so want to this during a work trip.

 

I need advice - this is something I want to try soon. Should I try to meet someone through a hookup app or hire an escort? Or maybe start with an erotic massage?

 

I’ve chatted with a few guys on Grindr. I’m 34 6’3” 200 lbs. Played baseball in college and have an athletic/muscular build. The reason I mention that is because I’m getting a lot of responses from guys that want me to top them. I suppose I’ll want to do that. But what I really want is a guy that teaches me how to suck, bottom and can make me feel good. A dominant albeit respectful and patient guy. A guy that won’t get upset if I don’t gothrough with it all the first time we meet.

 

I frequent Seattle, Minneapolis, Chicago,Philadelphia, Dallas, and Los Angeles for work. Hope this hasn’t bored you yet. I don’t know how to best move forward with this. Suggestions would be greatly welcomed. And if anyone knows of the right person? Any recommendations would be appreciated.

 

I posted in another section but not sure if it would be more appropriate here.

 

Hey guys. I’m a 34 year old male. Have a comfortable and seemingly normal life. I had a fiancé but ended that about 6 months ago. I’ve dated since then but nothing serious.

 

Here is why I’m posting... I’ve had a desire to be with a man for some time. I had a married buddy that I met through CL years ago. We would meet up, JO - some touching but that’s it.

 

I’ve never had a dick in my mouth or ass. I want to try that. I travel a lot for work so want to this during a work trip.

 

I need advice - this is something I want to try soon. Should I try to meet someone through a hookup app or hire an escort? Or maybe start with an erotic massage?

 

I’ve chatted with a few guys on Grindr. I’m 34 6’3” 200 lbs. Played baseball in college and have an athletic/muscular build. The reason I mention that is because I’m getting a lot of responses from guys that want me to top them. I suppose I’ll want to do that. But what I really want is a guy that teaches me how to suck, bottom and can make me feel good. A dominant albeit respectful and patient guy. A guy that won’t get upset if I don’t gothrough with it all the first time we meet.

 

I frequent Seattle, Minneapolis, Chicago,Philadelphia, Dallas, and Los Angeles for work. Hope this hasn’t bored you yet. I don’t know how to best move forward with this. Suggestions would be greatly welcomed. And if anyone knows of the right person? Any recommendations would be appreciated.

 

I posted in another section but not sure if it would be more appropriate here.

 

 

You won't break or anything if it turns out it's not for you. An escort is the most expedient way to experience male on male intimacy. Lots of them advertise that they are good with newbies. At any time, if you don't like what's happening, you can stop. If you go through with it and you realize it's not for you, you never have to do it again.

[MDinNY]

You won't break or anything if it turns out it's not for you. An escort is the most expedient way to experience male on male intimacy. Lots of them advertise that they are good with newbies. At any time, if you don't like what's happening, you can stop. If you go through with it and you realize it's not for you, you never have to do it again.

Thanks for your input. I sincerely appreciate it

[Guest Lonlyboy]

I wanted to share where I’m at... I got a lot of private messages. Thanks for all the advice. I think I’m starting with a massage first - ideally sensual. I think it will help ease into more.

 

These are the guys I’m looking at in Dallas...

 

Bill

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/30935/

 

Robert

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/15806/

 

Eric

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/223/

 

Troy

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/5923/

 

Adam

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/8275/

 

 

I’m physically attracted to all these guys. I’ll do my own research but if anyone has suggestions would be appreciative of any advice.

 

I also recommend a sensual massage. I think it is a great way to ease into things and to figure out how to back out if you are not feeling it.

In my experience with Escort you can sometimes not click but feel you must go through because of what you are paying.

 

I have heard good things about Bill and Robert but have not personally experience either of them.

 

Good luck man

[+ friendofsheila]

It’s not a hobby. It’s me having a first time experience. I don’t want it to be painful or awkward or a bad experience. So just trying to have a little bit of a say on how it goes...

 

By "hobby" I referred to the larger experience of "having the means to pursue interests that others cannot afford or are not brave enough to pursue." No offense intended.

[gallahadesquire]

Dallas Steele

Benjamin Nicholas

Chad White

Inzane

 

This is my first time so if it doesn’t work out on the Dallas trip, I’m in LA for the next one. Thoughts on the aforementioned?

 

Appreciate the responses. I know this is not the most exciting thread.

Exciting, maybe not, but titillating: definitely

[+ FreshFluff]

It’s not a hobby. It’s me having a first time experience. I don’t want it to be painful or awkward or a bad experience. So just trying to have a little bit of a say on how it goes...

 

Having experiences with pros is sometimes called a "hobby," and some who do it call themselves "hobbyists."

[HotWhiteThirties]

If you feel like you want to try other things besides massage I would recommend hiring an escort who also specializes in massage. It would suck a whole lot worse to work up all the nerve to do this and hire a guy who does massage but won’t take it farther and you realize in the moment that you WOULD like to. Make the choice that provides you a variety of options and good luck!

[MDinNY]

I’ve had 2 experiences with masseurs. First one was great. Didn’t end up doing much as he could only play if his partner could join. Had to pass. Felt a little overwhelming. Met a masseur this morning. Really sexy, older, muscles... check check check. Everything I was looking for. Massage was very good. We started playing at the end. He knew I hadn’t been fucked and was licking and fingering my ass saying he wanted to fuck me. We got on his bed and we started to 69. Not sure I sucked good because he didn’t stay hard. He asked me to fuck him before he fucks me. I obliged. He ended up getting off. I asked him if he could fuck me? He tried to get hard but couldn’t. Asked if he could use toys. I wasn’t feeling it so I declined and left. As I left he asked I pay more since we went over 90 minutes. Lol. I protested and then he said what we agreed upon plus tip was ok. Hope next time is better.

 

 

Addendum: he’s texted me asking to fuck him again.

Edited July 9, 2018 by MDinNY

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I’ve had 2 experiences with masseurs. First one was great. Didn’t end up doing much as he could only play if his partner could join. Had to pass. Felt a little overwhelming. Met a masseur this morning. Really sexy, older, muscles... check check check. Everything I was looking for. Massage was very good. We started playing at the end. He knew I hadn’t been fucked and was licking and fingering my ass saying he wanted to fuck him. We got on his bed and we started to 69. Not sure I sucked good because he didn’t stay hard. He asked me to fuck him before he fucks me. I obliged. He ended up getting off. I asked him if he could fuck me? He tried to get hard but couldn’t. Asked if he could use toys. I wasn’t feeling it so I declined and left. As I left he asked I pay more since we went over 90 minutes. I protested and then he said what we agreed upon plus tip was ok. Hope next time is better.

Thanks for reporting back! Is it the first time you fuck a guy?

Sorry you didn’t get fucked as you originally wanted to experience that.

 

You did well protesting, it’s the masseur’s job to keep track of time, not yours. If the sessions approaches the end, he has to ask you if you want to extend for a fee, or close the session, he can’t ask for more when it is too late.

 

Hope you get a pro next time, someone who can reliably stay hard.

[MDinNY]

Sorta. I’ve done it years ago. But we both were new at it and got it in but we stopped. He didn’t like it. I actually liked it. A lot. Wouldn’t mind doing that again:).

[+ azdr0710]

not quite clear if today's masseur is considered a bust or not??.....are you thinking of meeting him again and telling him you'd like to warm up with a massage again, but with the understanding you'll move right into bottoming right after?.....does he know that is a big goal of yours?....anything you can do to help him perform??!!

[MDinNY]

It was an experience so I’ll take it as that. Not something I want to repeat with him though. He knew I wanted to get fucked. But says he really wanted me to fuck him. I should’ve charged him lol. Not what I was hoping for although it was fun.

[rvwnsd]

It was an experience so I’ll take it as that. Not something I want to repeat with him though. He knew I wanted to get fucked. But says he really wanted me to fuck him. I should’ve charged him lol. Not what I was hoping for although it was fun.

My first thought was the massage/playdate ran more than 90 minutes, so an additional fee might be warranted unless the session ran something like 100 or 105 minutes, in which case that would be a completely unreasonable request. However, he asked you to fuck him (which you did) despite you stating that you wanted to do something different. Frankly, he behaved like a hookup. Sounds like the additional time should be on his dime.

 

Regarding how to get what you want next time, I'd suggest you first find a couple of guys whom you find physically attractive and whose ads you find appealing. Then, ask for feedback here. Make your selection based on the feedback you receive.

 

Someone mentioned @Rod Hagen in LA. I'd also recommend him. Although I am by no means new to hiring I had a great time with him. He happens to be both a trained massage therapist and an escort. He also listens to what his clients ask for. Had I not moved away from Souther California we would be getting together on a regular basis.

[MDinNY]

My first thought was the massage/playdate ran more than 90 minutes, so an additional fee might be warranted unless the session ran something like 100 or 105 minutes, in which case that would be a completely unreasonable request. However, he asked you to fuck him (which you did) despite you stating that you wanted to do something different. Frankly, he behaved like a hookup. Sounds like the additional time should be on his dime.

 

Regarding how to get what you want next time, I'd suggest you first find a couple of guys whom you find physically attractive and whose ads you find appealing. Then, ask for feedback here. Make your selection based on the feedback you receive.

 

Someone mentioned @Rod Hagen in LA. I'd also recommend him. Although I am by no means new to hiring I had a great time with him. He happens to be both a trained massage therapist and an escort. He also listens to what his clients ask for. Had I not moved away from Souther California we would be getting together on a regular basis.

 

It did go longer. Close to three hours. I guess I understood why he would ask but seemed crazy as he was the one that initiated the last part. Thanks for your suggestion. I’ve heard about Rod Hagen. Just hesitant to schedule with someone that I haven’t seen their face...

[rvwnsd]

It did go longer. Close to three hours. I guess I understood why he would ask but seemed crazy as he was the one that initiated the last part. Thanks for your suggestion. I’ve heard about Rod Hagen. Just hesitant to schedule with someone that I haven’t seen their face...

Ask him for a face pic. Worst that happens is he says no,

 

I've hired both Colin and Rob. Both were a lot of fun, but given you are relatively new to this I'd suggest Rob over Colin. Rob really listens to his clients and is a great guy. Colin is also very nice, but I think Rob would be a better fit for you.

[MDinNY]

Whoa... I really want to meet Colin. Rob seems great also. This may be a dumb question - aren’t they a little too big for a first timer?

[rvwnsd]

Whoa... I really want to meet Colin. Rob seems great also. This may be a dumb question - aren’t they a little too big for a first timer?

You would be surprised what a great top can do!

[MDinNY]

Those cocks are my Everest...

[MDinNY]

Well... took over a year but this guys finally enjoying being a bottom:)

 

thanks to everyone who was supportive and sent recommendations!

[CheckCar]

Well... took over a year but this guys finally enjoying being a bottom:)

 

thanks to everyone who was supportive and sent recommendations!

 

(1) Congratulations!

(2) Do any of the providers you’ve met stand out as particularly good at working with beginners?

[MDinNY]

(1) Congratulations!

(2) Do any of the providers you’ve met stand out as particularly good at working with beginners?

 

I met a few guys who were amazing. After getting comfortable, it was nice to allow myself to take on a more submissive role knowing the guy I was with would take control but respect my limits without me having to protest or go through something unenjoyable. PM if you have a city in mind and if I have any recs, happy to share. I did meet my fair share:).

[Becket]

Hire a well known escort. Tell him all the stuff you told us about it being your first time, your fears, your desires, etc. Tell him you want a guide. Most likely the provider will be flattered to have been the one chosen to introduce you to all this. And you can then feel free to go at your own pace. Happy Hunting.