EastCoastBtm

Duh.

The amount of pages on this single provider fascinates me.

I just think he's a cutie....
https://www.instagram.com/dan_the_cobbler/
He's also a body builder for those who like that...
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO03MD0T_Vv1cTf3rCWgT3Q

Happy Thanksgiving all...
Holidays have become almost unbearable in the last few years.  I'm approaching 50 and, other than my family, I feel utterly alone - no boyfriend, no friends.  Holidays always bring out the worse feelings of loneliness and melancholy. I find myself ruminating on it to the point of tears.
I have found it's worse than usual this year and think I need to do something about it.
Does anyone have any gay male therapists either online or in person (that you could ask if they would be willing to offer online) that you could recommend?  I really need to talk about gay sex, dating, body image, and other issues I feel like are best understood by someone from the 'community'.
Feel free to DM if easier to talk about this in private or post resources in public.  I live in the Philly suburbs if that matters.  
Thank you.
 

It would appear that Scott is an 'Angel'!?
 

I just think he's a cutie....
https://www.instagram.com/dan_the_cobbler/
He's also a body builder for those who like that...
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO03MD0T_Vv1cTf3rCWgT3Q

I just think he's a cutie....
https://www.instagram.com/dan_the_cobbler/
He's also a body builder for those who like that...
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO03MD0T_Vv1cTf3rCWgT3Q

Anyone have connections in the porn industry?  Or some aspiring stars from Only Fans, etc.?
I think there is a substantial void of younger tops/older bottoms pair ups in porn.
I have seen some twink top stuff... I want TWUNKS.... athletic guys in there 20s/early 30s pounding the hell out of attractive guys over the age of 45.
I feel like this is an under-served market.  If you can prove me wrong, please do.
Please feel free to post videos or pictures!

OK....is it me.... or is the top trying to get to the 'second hole'!?!?  I mean... that is some amazing cartoon vision.... depicting the 'second hole' in anime porn!
https://thisvid.com/videos/the-condom-came-off-early-in-this-toonboy-fuck/

I do think its interesting that we are talking appropriate terms to call each other and the sanctity of the word 'love' in context to what amounts to transaction based sex.  Society has placed taboos on words like 'love' and that it should only be used in very rare cases.  I think that is shortchanging the vast types of 'love' that exist out there.
I have told some providers and hook-ups that I 'love them' (including the first time we have sex) in the context that - DAMN - these guys make me absolutely LOVE gay sex and remind me how much I love men.  They are the rare reminders of why I love soooo many things about men - their bodies, their minds, their sexuality.  Why not tell someone you 'love them' with appropriate context?  I explain why I 'love' them and they LOVE it.
If talking about forms of love in any relationship - providers, hook-ups, friends, friends with benefits, lovers, boyfriends, husbands, whatevers - enhances the experience (especially for the guy paying for it), I say use whatever terms you want and tell them you love them!  ENJOY YOURSELF!

Cancelled my membership.... I don't think I have the financial minimum requirements for Seeking.

Well... I think I just wasted $250. 
Every guy wants 'mentorship' and then asks for me to pay their bills...... quite frankly... fuck me or fuck that.  Wish I could put something subliminal in either stating something about them being a top.....
I know this isn't rent.men, but I'd like to think it's a dating site where people of unequal financial status can meet.... I feel stupid and naive.  I'd be more open to paying for 'friendship' and spending real life face time with someone if there were more local guys, but Philly area has very few on Seeking.

Cancelled my membership.... I don't think I have the financial minimum requirements for Seeking.

Is it ironic that I think that guy messaged me.....

Is it ironic that I think that guy messaged me.....

I do think its interesting that we are talking appropriate terms to call each other and the sanctity of the word 'love' in context to what amounts to transaction based sex.  Society has placed taboos on words like 'love' and that it should only be used in very rare cases.  I think that is shortchanging the vast types of 'love' that exist out there.
I have told some providers and hook-ups that I 'love them' (including the first time we have sex) in the context that - DAMN - these guys make me absolutely LOVE gay sex and remind me how much I love men.  They are the rare reminders of why I love soooo many things about men - their bodies, their minds, their sexuality.  Why not tell someone you 'love them' with appropriate context?  I explain why I 'love' them and they LOVE it.
If talking about forms of love in any relationship - providers, hook-ups, friends, friends with benefits, lovers, boyfriends, husbands, whatevers - enhances the experience (especially for the guy paying for it), I say use whatever terms you want and tell them you love them!  ENJOY YOURSELF!

They can call Pope John Paul or whatever the hell they like if it makes them pound me that much harder!
In all seriousness though.... I usually have a conversation with providers on how we refer to each other - in and out of where we fuck.  I like tops who use 'terms of ownership' without being totally BDSM.  I don't mind 'babe' if the vibe is right.  And I have a top, younger than me, that calls me boy and it drives me WILD!

I do think its interesting that we are talking appropriate terms to call each other and the sanctity of the word 'love' in context to what amounts to transaction based sex.  Society has placed taboos on words like 'love' and that it should only be used in very rare cases.  I think that is shortchanging the vast types of 'love' that exist out there.
I have told some providers and hook-ups that I 'love them' (including the first time we have sex) in the context that - DAMN - these guys make me absolutely LOVE gay sex and remind me how much I love men.  They are the rare reminders of why I love soooo many things about men - their bodies, their minds, their sexuality.  Why not tell someone you 'love them' with appropriate context?  I explain why I 'love' them and they LOVE it.
If talking about forms of love in any relationship - providers, hook-ups, friends, friends with benefits, lovers, boyfriends, husbands, whatevers - enhances the experience (especially for the guy paying for it), I say use whatever terms you want and tell them you love them!  ENJOY YOURSELF!

Anyone have connections in the porn industry?  Or some aspiring stars from Only Fans, etc.?
I think there is a substantial void of younger tops/older bottoms pair ups in porn.
I have seen some twink top stuff... I want TWUNKS.... athletic guys in there 20s/early 30s pounding the hell out of attractive guys over the age of 45.
I feel like this is an under-served market.  If you can prove me wrong, please do.
Please feel free to post videos or pictures!

Ensure mutual expectations on safe sex, drug use, behavior in public places, sexual dos and don'ts, and travel costs are conversations that happen BEFORE any meeting.

Well... I think I just wasted $250. 
Every guy wants 'mentorship' and then asks for me to pay their bills...... quite frankly... fuck me or fuck that.  Wish I could put something subliminal in either stating something about them being a top.....
I know this isn't rent.men, but I'd like to think it's a dating site where people of unequal financial status can meet.... I feel stupid and naive.  I'd be more open to paying for 'friendship' and spending real life face time with someone if there were more local guys, but Philly area has very few on Seeking.

The other meanings that were tested and rejected:
 
Brace For Excitement 
Bring Favorite Enema
Bounce, Flounce and Elan
Bold Fenty Eyelashes
Bondage, Fisting & E-stim
BigFoot Energy
Baby-Fresh Epidermis 
Brainy, Funny Egalitarian 
Boinking (the) Fat and Elderly
😝
 
 
 

Great feedback/discussion... thank you!
I usually try to make my time with 'regulars' very special.  It's typically an overnight and we stay in and get stoned, hang and fuck.  I stock up on their favorite snacks, drinks, wine, and alcohol.  I try to figure out what movies, shows, or video games we will watch/play.  I buy them some gifts to give them when they arrive, usually underwear, a nice hoodie, something so that when they wear it, they hopefully associate it with an enjoyable with me.  Candles burning, fresh, fun stuff in the shower, massage oil heated and ready.....damn... why am I single!  
Some guys have lost their 'regular' status with me because they showed ZERO appreciation for the extra effort.  It's also VERY important that we have an understanding/agreement about foreplay and sex.  I have found myself 'waiting' for sex or foreplay and I get annoyed.  My good regulars know... if we're cuddling on the couch... I want access to their body and like if they reciprocate. 
Communication is KEY to be a 'regular'.

Ensure mutual expectations on safe sex, drug use, behavior in public places, sexual dos and don'ts, and travel costs are conversations that happen BEFORE any meeting.

I'm just having AMAZING luck lately with awesome, talented, kind providers lately....its only two, but I definitely don't think I will be looking for anyone else for awhile........ With Gingerish It was other worldly for me.  
DM for details.