EastCoastBtm

XXL? 7.5c.... Mmmmm.....

I do think its interesting that we are talking appropriate terms to call each other and the sanctity of the word 'love' in context to what amounts to transaction based sex.  Society has placed taboos on words like 'love' and that it should only be used in very rare cases.  I think that is shortchanging the vast types of 'love' that exist out there.

I have told some providers and hook-ups that I 'love them' (including the first time we have sex) in the context that - DAMN - these guys make me absolutely LOVE gay sex and remind me how much I love men.  They are the rare reminders of why I love soooo many things about men - their bodies, their minds, their sexuality.  Why not tell someone you 'love them' with appropriate context?  I explain why I 'love' them and they LOVE it.

If talking about forms of love in any relationship - providers, hook-ups, friends, friends with benefits, lovers, boyfriends, husbands, whatevers - enhances the experience (especially for the guy paying for it), I say use whatever terms you want and tell them you love them!  ENJOY YOURSELF!

They can call Pope John Paul or whatever the hell they like if it makes them pound me that much harder!

In all seriousness though.... I usually have a conversation with providers on how we refer to each other - in and out of where we fuck.  I like tops who use 'terms of ownership' without being totally BDSM.  I don't mind 'babe' if the vibe is right.  And I have a top, younger than me, that calls me boy and it drives me WILD!

I saw someone else use 'BFE' as 'Body Fluid Exchange' and I was like... say whaaaaaaaaaaaaat? 

Is it Boyfriend Experience or am I just a complete dunce?

I'm just having AMAZING luck lately with awesome, talented, kind providers lately....its only two, but I definitely don't think I will be looking for anyone else for awhile........ With Gingerish It was other worldly for me.  

DM for details.

Bump - He apparently is back in NYC for the winter, or at least for the moment.

Any recent experiences here?

Ensure mutual expectations on safe sex, drug use, behavior in public places, sexual dos and don'ts, and travel costs are conversations that happen BEFORE any meeting.

Well... I think I just wasted $250. 

Every guy wants 'mentorship' and then asks for me to pay their bills...... quite frankly... fuck me or fuck that.  Wish I could put something subliminal in either stating something about them being a top.....

I know this isn't rent.men, but I'd like to think it's a dating site where people of unequal financial status can meet.... I feel stupid and naive.  I'd be more open to paying for 'friendship' and spending real life face time with someone if there were more local guys, but Philly area has very few on Seeking.

We have talked on the phone.  He's a great guy.

DM with questions.

https://rent.men/TxMuscleStud

I just joined 'Seeking' this morning and I'm a little underwhelmed, but willing to give it a try.

I'm curious and skeptical on many levels and surprised how many guys have looking for 'Men/Women' with profiles talking about sugar mommas.  Are they just opportunists?  

My first message as a paying member from a guy (who also happens to have "Looking for: Men/Women" today was - "I'm always interested in anything that gives me a financial gain ."

I also recognize a few pics from RM providers and boy some of their SA profiles are Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde compared to their RM profiles.

I plan on being VERY guarded for now and not share much personal information.  I do have my sights set on one guy, older who appears to be looking for some 'high end' companionship with a physical component.

Any advice for the newbie?  Things like.... What to write in the profile?  How to balance desire for sex with the companionship components.

Are you located in Philly area?  Import from NYC..... I always have better luck.

Great feedback/discussion... thank you!

I usually try to make my time with 'regulars' very special.  It's typically an overnight and we stay in and get stoned, hang and fuck.  I stock up on their favorite snacks, drinks, wine, and alcohol.  I try to figure out what movies, shows, or video games we will watch/play.  I buy them some gifts to give them when they arrive, usually underwear, a nice hoodie, something so that when they wear it, they hopefully associate it with an enjoyable with me.  Candles burning, fresh, fun stuff in the shower, massage oil heated and ready.....damn... why am I single!  

Some guys have lost their 'regular' status with me because they showed ZERO appreciation for the extra effort.  It's also VERY important that we have an understanding/agreement about foreplay and sex.  I have found myself 'waiting' for sex or foreplay and I get annoyed.  My good regulars know... if we're cuddling on the couch... I want access to their body and like if they reciprocate. 

Communication is KEY to be a 'regular'.

1 hour ago, azdr0710 said:

No RM login for just over a month. Onlyfans scenes with seateabe are enough to pay the bills??

He has replied via text.  Very nice.  Nothing scheduled yet.

Seeing him on Friday!!!

Good day all-

Its getting cold in the Northeast and I'm preparing to hibernate for the winter.  I live in a far suburbs of Philly and the provider quality, speaking as a dedicated size queen, in Philly is, shall we say rather, 'small'.  I have zero luck on Grindr and, for now, have largely given up on dating.

I have been having a helluva good time importing skinnyhungmj in from NYC and its looking to become a 'regular' thing.  I also have my sites set on one or two others guys with the hope that one of them becomes another 'regular'.  I have a regular weekend guy that will likely stay in rotation.

I'm just curious how my fellow forum members approach the concept of 'regulars'.  Is there any benefit to either party in doing so?  Do you get a discount?  Is there anything special about the relationship?  Anything you do to keep it interesting?

How often do you try 'new' providers?  And if so, what is the motivation?  

Thanks.

ECB

Just now, azdr0710 said:

a private meeting or is he part of a male revue-type show at the casino?......

Private.... trying to find somewhere so that I don't have to deal with traffic the next morning.... that place is pretty cheap, big rooms.... assume a little more lenient if I'm moaning from pleasure (or pain)!

Contemplating seeing him tomorrow night at the Live! Casino in MD....

On 10/18/2021 at 1:40 PM, Luv2play said:

I read all the reviews of Blackstallionxxx and most are positive since 2017. About 4 are negative, mostly about rushing things. A recent one was disturbing in that he apparently had a buddy escort with him even though the client specifically requested a 1 on 1.

He clearly has the goods in the dick department.

Contemplating seeing him tomorrow night at the Live! Casino in MD..... 

5 hours ago, LIguy said:

i had joined his OnlyFans and he was very responsive when I asked him if he did custom videos. He charged me 100 to video himself stripping from a suit n tie and getting off.  Asked for payment upfront which I did but he kept promising to film next week then next week,etc.  After 6 weeks I asked for money back and he quickly complied.

Are all of his vids with MalikXXL?

https://rent.men/MalikXXL

That is one thick piece of meat.

OnlyFans is kinda boring.  Basically him and one guy.

Profile gone.

OK....is it me.... or is the top trying to get to the 'second hole'!?!?  I mean... that is some amazing cartoon vision.... depicting the 'second hole' in anime porn!

https://thisvid.com/videos/the-condom-came-off-early-in-this-toonboy-fuck/

The amount of pages on this single provider fascinates me.