KensingtonHomo

Yes. Conforming to a heteronormative relationship when you hit a certain age is the definition of conservative. You also have tons of right wing opinions about “crime”, the economy, and all kinds of other stuff. Artists- especially financially successfully ones - can also be conservative. I have no issue with bisexual men commenting on their experiences but that’s not the experience of most gay men. And you’re not interacting with gay men of a variety of ages and backgrounds like most of us are. So you’re not really in a position to speak for the community.

"Relationships" include sexual relationships, not just people who've fallen in love. While some physical attributes that correlate with fertility IN WOMEN are often tied to heterosexual desire, that's completely irrelevant to why two men want to have sex. And what those attributes are, hip to waist to bust ratio, are also historically contingent and socially influenced. See Botticelli's paintings where overweight women were considered the most beautiful. But like most conservative people, you want to naturalize your own biases. But more than anything, since you are not a gay man, I think you should stop speaking for us. You may be part of a group that hires men, but you're part of the LGBTQ community, so keep your opinions to yourself.

Finding people who are overweight, older, or anything beyond a smooth bubble butt twunk sexually desirable, while unimaginable to you, is actually like 85% of all relationships. 50% of all Americans are overweight, including queer people. and they’re all having sex all the time. And that’s not a fetish.

Must you be fatphobic? By your admission, you only have sex with extremely fit, much younger men. Perhaps you have a biased sample on which you observe sociological phenomena? I know plenty of fit guys who are chasers, butch guys who love femmes, 20-somethings who love guys 20-30 years older than them, and everything in between. If those guys exist outside the escort scene, some are working as providers. I've gotten a lot of compliments from providers over the years. And I can smell bullshit a mile away, so I know who's gassing me up. That said, if a provider besmirched his other clients in front of me, I would not hire him again.

You're a millenial and the last pop sensation you remember was Justin Beiber? And you think he's talented? Do you also not listen to the radio? Use the internet? 😉 It's just weird because Taylor Swift (whom I don't particularly care for) is one of the most famous women in the world and she started her career a few years before Beiber.

I realize this is drifting off-topic, but I feel like you'd have to have spent the past 15 years on an isolated Island without electricity not to know who Taylor Swift is.

Like other marginalized communities, many gay men have chosen to reclaim F*G as a term of empowerment. It may not be for you, but it's pretty common among people under 40.

Yes, but I do think it's the same person. On instagram, he's connected to another Russian masseur that I've seen. This is probably his side hustle.

This is so misogynistic; comparing someone who is fem to a crackhead. JFC

You can just hand him a wet wipe. Lipstick comes off pretty easily.

What a lovely point of view. I find men, in general, view people's physicality purely by whether or not it gets their dick hard. Honestly, it's childish and objectifying. I'm a Gen Xer and I admit I don't always resonate with what "the kids" are into. But I can look at someone like Timothee Chalamet, whom I feel zero sexual desire for, and know that he's aesthetically quite beautiful. I could say the same about tons of people of every gender who do not turn me on. I wonder how many of you here with these exacting standards are or have been in decades-long relationships. I suspect not many, as people age and our bodies change, and sometimes our tastes in clothing or how we wear our hair (or if we have hair) change. So, something as simple as nail polish being a deal breaker makes me think these guys don't have the (pardon the pun) versatility to be with another human being for 20 or 30 years.

Okay, I went to school a while ago when it cost about 20 percent of what it does now. I worked the entire time, and at no point was I offered a lifestyle funded by the taxpayers, though I did receive grants because we were poor. I don't think anyone is actually living this way on the tax payer's dime. I know affluent and wealthy people who went to college this way, including my husband. I would also note that I was offered a job as an escort and also as a dancer but was too prudish at 19 to pursue them.

I've been sober for 25 years, so a drunk person of any kind would be off putting. But I don't find having sex with overweight people to be a chore.

To say one "got fuckable" is to imply you were not previously fuckable and it was - what? - gross or a chore? I'd show a provider the door if he said this to me. I've recently lost the weight I put on during COVID. While one or two providers have remarked upon it, they did so with far more tact. Like "you look great" or "you lost some weight but not your ass. Hot."

We prefer to find guys who we like and build a relationship (a friendly client/provider one) that we can sustain over time. The challenge there is sometimes guys are traveling, or not available when we are, or they leave the industry. We have two guys we're mostly seeing now. Fingers crossed.

I just had this experience with someone I've seen a few times. I assumed he lived alone, but not only was the roomate home, he was noisy. It ruined the mood for me. I don't think the masseur was being intentionally dishonest. He lives in a very large apartment, so unsurprisingly, it's shared. I would have appreciated a heads-up. I'm not sure if I'll see him again.

Another possibility is that he uses a burner phone or a burner app for the side hustle, and he didn’t check or turned off notifications.

I also find this hard to believe. I'm not as big as @BenjaminNicholas but I'm solid, have a black belt and box regularly. I'm not remotely afraid of any escort we've ever had over. Also, it's MY house, so I know where the weapons are. Who are you hiring? Guys from 1950s mob movies? Most of the guys we hire are highly unlikely to want a physical confrontation. And if I were traveling, I would absolutely call hotel security or bounce him myself.

He's not an escort. He wants a sugar daddy.

I have paid deposits multiple times and never had someone flake on it. Generally, it's only requested the first time and it's a relatively small amount ($25-$50). We made deposits for both of our current regulars and we've had no issue. I do understand the privacy issues but there are ways around them.

Since you've clearly lost the argument and been exposed as an alarmist who probably watches Fox News, you resort to personal attacks. There's no agreeing to disagree. You're incorrect on the facts by a WILD margin. We've had homeless people, some with mental health and substance abuse problems, on our trains my entire life. The fact is that violent crime had a slight uptick last year, some robberies are up - again nothing like the 90s, let alone the 70s or 80s. If this is how you feel about NYC, I suggest you move somewhere less frightening; unless your cheap ass can't afford Darien.

We BOTH LIVE in NYC. I've also lived here my entire life. The subways have slightly more crime than they had pre-pandemic. At that point, they were the safest they'd been since the 1960s. The subways account for two percent of ALL crime in NYC. To wit: "Major crimes are, overall, down 72% from 1993 in Manhattan, according to his analysis of borough-level crime data. The 438 murders recorded citywide last year, moreover, are vastly less than the 2,262 recorded in 1990." FACT FOCUS: NYC crime is not worst ever, despite claims APNEWS.COM Social media users are claiming crime in New York City is the worst it’s been in a generation. But criminal...

It depends. Not more than 24 hours.

Do you get any channels besides Fox News? I was on the subway last night and there was an occasional homeless person, but it was mostly average NYCers. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Perhaps @Marc in Calif is right that it's an NYC/DC/Chicago thing. But A list celebrities take the subway in NYC. Broadway stars take the subway. So the idea that some fit, healthy 28 year old can't take the subway is just silly.